#I don’t hate mspec lesbians & gays I don’t even hate the name I just don’t like it & disagree with the name

[lightboundhellhound]

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carrd link (made for bluesky)

sup, the names Oz, and welcome to jackass :P

IF YOU LIKE PAYING ARTISTS I HAVE A LINK FOR THAT

dni:

anyone under the age of 15. 14 year olds and under please respect my boundaries

racists, sexists, antisemites, islamophobes, queerphobes, exclusionists (i loveee mspec lesbians/gays and all kinds of men and all the neopronouns and gender hoarders 🥰 etc etc)

zionists/anti palestine/pro israel

proshippers/anti antis, HP apologists, dream apologists

terfs/radfems/people who say they hate all men (man haters don’t pass the vibe check)

anti endogenic systems (just accept the fact that the human brain is capable of things you don’t understand and move on)

pro life/anti abortion

maps/pedos & zoos + their supporters (including those who think these are queer identities. no the fuck they are not)

and this may sound dumb as hell and it’s honestly not even a big deal which is why it’s separate from my dni, but if you’re a kansas city chiefs fanblog you can interact but i might block you just cos i fuckin HATE the chiefs that much akdjfkf (especially patrick mahomes and travis kelce 😡😡😡)

and if you’re a taylor swift fan i will either block or silently judge from afar. depends on how i feel about you by the time i learn of your swiftie nature. i follow a swiftie and honestly he’s on thin ice akdjfkkfkf

interests, OC info, kintypes, and other blogs under cut!

interests:

NFL (Skol Vikings!) (other fav teams are Tennessee Titans, San Francisco 49ers, and Baltimore Ravens)

my own OCs

horror movies like scream, saw, train to busan, nope, etc

video games like super mario brothers, portal, stardew valley, animal crossing, hollow knight (unfinished, rip), hades, pokemon shield, etc

shows like doctor who, cbs ghosts, bobs burgers, once upon a time (kinda), buffy the vampire slayer (but i need to rewatch), etc

music like mcr, the dixie chicks, blackpink, kesha, megan thee stallion, childish gambino, kendrick lamar, fall out boy, chappell roan, green day, siouxsie and the banshees, the exploited, etc

OC Carrd | OC Discord

other blogs:

follows from: @lightboundsystem-main

cbs ghosts blog: @malewifejay

furry blog: @yipperkitty

“secret” fander blog: @t4t-apexeclipse

beanie baby blog: @pocketbuddies

oc twitter updates blog: @elegangtwt

alterhuman identities carrd :3

thank you for reading!

[astralsys]

Intro post?

I made this account for fun maybe? fun as in I just wanted to fuck around and vent a little into the void under an account that's not much connected to my other ones idrk. dont have much of an online presence really wanted to see how this will play / work out. even tho I already have an account on here that I use personally to gush about things cause I can't help it probs not gonna use this that much.... probably cause I'll forget this exists, anyways comma!

collective info about me:

💫 ✨ | Astral System | ✨💫

Either call me Astral or K!

They / Them ( NO plural prns / &!!! /srs I hate it fuck off people who use that )

Trans Non-binary Aroace Bodily Adult

Masc / Neutral, System, Alter, Human / Person

Proff Dx’ed w/ D.I.D. ( adult dx'es ) in recovery since 2018, dx’ed also w/ MDD, ASD & ADHD ( childhood dx'es ) [ not recovered ]

( I'm only saying this cause one of my parts may leak that info out by accident, dont know better dont have a consensus with privacy atm, and I would rather just say it now instead of worrying about it being outed later idrc if you think I'm faking or not I've been dx’ed for over 6 years now idc what rando’s on the internet think about me tbh )

❌ ❌ Other Info Never Disclosed ❌ ❌

DNI: Minors, NSFW shit, Queerphobes, Racists, Ableist, Pedo’s / Zoo’s, Proship / Anti’s discourse

Mspec “Lesbians” / “Gays”, Male “Lesbians” Queer ID’s based off people, Rad Inclusive, Transmed, BaB ( + all other queer exclus )

Any "System’s" ( No Matter What "Type", I dont want to see you fuckers fuck off with your “plural community” all of you are fucking bullshit ), “Endogenic System’s”, / “Mixed Origins System” / Tulpa, Pro “Endogenic” / Pro Non Traumagenic “Systems” Whatever Fucking “System Origin” You Fuckers Keep Coming Up w/

“Medically Recognized System” / “Dx”, Self Dx’ers, Pro Self Dx, “M.U.D.” / “M.U.I.”, ( Medically Unrecognized Disorders / Illnesses )

Anything on Pluralpedia! Any Discourse!

I dont wanna see it or you I will block you on sight. I dont care, i am not your friend I don’t want to be your friend leave me alone and out of this shit.

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specific info about me:

K or Astral ( not giving you my full name )

They / Them, Fey / Fem, Ae / Aer ( + other neo’s )

Trans Non-binary Otherkin / Alterhuman Agender Aroace

Host of Few ( also not giving you their names who fucking does that? ) I'm an adult ( id w/ body age not getting closer than that )

interests / dislikes / triggers private fuck off idc I'm not trying to make friends here

I hyperfixate on a lot of things due to both having asd and adhd and it effects my life way too much it’s annoying af I actually fucking hate it… having both is a fucking mess istfg, also chronic depression that’s so cool who doesnt love that? been dealing with that one for years and it sucks it really sucks I dont wanna keep feeling this awful my entire life, but its not gonna stop for me i think atp.

having D.I.D. isnt something I am ever gonna get into specifically, cause why the fuck would I? why do people have the need to tell others about their extensive personal med hx "oh you have to know all about my / our "system" and everyone apart of it! and every single disorder I / we self dx'es myself / ourselves with too!" ( just had to put the plural pronouns cause that's how these people talk ik I've had personal experience with these kinda people ). do these people not understand anything about internet safety omfg do you not listen to yourself at all? you’re not going to know anything regarding my med hx that I havent already given you cause to be honest I dont trust any one of you with me and my fragmented self and you don't really need to know. my alter’s are not something I talk to anyone about online or irl really. my trauma also isnt something I am ever gonna talk about honestly me even typing all of this out is insane to me what is wrong with me….

credit: banner @/Suyasuyabi427 pfp @/muku_69.0

[www-r04dw4rr10r-net]

What's an exclus? /gen

It’s short for exclusionist or exclusionary. Most commonly it’s people who exclude bi, pan, ace, aro, xeno, etc. people from the lgbt & queer community. I assume it’s one of the reasons why mogai exists

[justanisabelakinnie]

Hi!

My name is Aisha Bella, and welcome to my sideblog! As you can tell, this is a place to talk about how awesome Isabela is, and to just overall appreciate her, I love Isabela so much and she is my favorite character in Encanto! So I decided to make a blog about her because she deserves more appreciation. My main blog is @thisismisogynoir, but you can PM this blog as well! I also run @princessefemmelesbian. 

This is a place to have fun, hate will not be tolerated. 

Header was made by @hourglass-dreams. 

DNI if: 

--You hate Isabela(obviously). 

--You are a proshipper/support Madrigalcest. 

--You are prejudiced and promote misogynoir, racism, sexism, ableism, homophobia, lesbophobia, anti-Semitism, transphobia, etc. 

--You are a TERF, a radfem, or a SWERF. All people are welcome here and that includes trans women! 

--You sexualize any of the minors in this fandom(or any fandom, or anywhere, for that matter!). 

--You villainize any of the female Madrigals. 

--You believe in “narcissistic abuse” or otherwise demonize cluster-b personality disorders. 

--You support mspec lesbians/gays(lesbians do not like men, gay men do not like women, I thought that was fucking obvious atp but noooo...). 

--You think “transandrophobia” is a real fucking thing. It isn’t. 

UPDATE AS OF 4/9/2022: If you have a fic that you think I should read(whether you wrote it or not), then feel free to recommend it to me! Please tell me what the fic is about and what I am to look out for before reading in case it gets dark(I can handle dark.). But please DO NOT recommend me fics that are: 

--Camilo or Bruno-centric 

--Portray Alma as the villain 

--Promote incest, pedophilia, and rape 

--NSFW/Dead Dove 

--Isabela x Male Reader/OC/crossover character 

--Demonize ANY of the characters(meaning no villain AU) 

--Papa Bruno 

--Contain graphic suicide scenes 

--Mirabel dies(or that kill off any of the characters) 

--Ship Julieta/Agustin, Pepa/Felix, or Dolores/Mariano with literally anybody except their canon pairs. 

--Isabela/Mariano(this is an egregious case that deserves a special calling out, I hope I don’t have to explain why) 

--M/M 

--Stoner AU 

If you recommend me these, I literally will just delete your ask/submission and not even give them the time of day. And if you lie to me/mislead me, I will block you. 

Enjoy! 

[posi-pan]

I’ve considered submitting this non-anonymously but there’s gonna be people who will attack me, so I’ll say this anonymously anyway (sorry about that.)

Okay, SO… there are some people who claimed that “labels aren’t for comfort,” and one example they provided other than pan being “harmful” is that a gay man wouldn’t call himself lesbian.

Like, okay here’s the thing: lesbians can call themselves gay. Gay men may not call themselves lesbian (at least I haven’t heard of any), but when it comes to pansexuals, they can also identify as bi, but not all bisexuals identify as pan. There are still bisexuals attracted to only two genders, or multiple genders, and can also identify as polysexual at the same time.

Those labels are based on personal experiences, and while the written definitions can guide them, at the end of the day, mspec (and aspec) identities CAN be based on preference and comfort. There are bisexuals who are attracted to all genders or regardless of gender, and with no preferences, just as there are pansexuals who lean towards certain gender(s) more than others. These sexualities are on a spectrum, with other sexualities. There’s bound to be some people who identify with more than one of them, because while they all have their unique aspects, there are overlaps. But even WITH those differences, people may still identify with more than one of them.

Then there’s the part where exclusionists say that “just because labels CAN be about comfort, doesn’t mean they SHOULD.” That’s when I realized they aren’t worth talking to, because they’re just spouting negativity. They try SO HARD to find segments of a book that says anything remotely exclusionist, and then when I gave the full context they sent d**th threats. Like?????

It’s just so weird to me. The GRSM community is supposed to be about accepting genders and orientations that aren’t the “norm” (non-ace heterosexual-cis, all in one.) It’s supposed to be about the romantic or sexual relationships between consenting adults (or people their own age), or lack thereof due to not feeling attraction to anyone. TERFs are bad enough, acephobes are bad enough, we don’t need panphobes or mspec phobics.

Anyways, that was long. Hope you enjoyed reading xD

i really hate the "labels aren't personal or about feelings or for comfort" argument. hate it with every fiber of my being. especially because it's never being said about all labels, it's always only directed at certain labels. i've seen panphobes claim choosing labels based on feelings is a "modern idea" which is hilariously ahistorical nonsense.

(also, if we don't choose labels based on feelings, what do choose them based on? whatever definition we technically fit? because if so, then how do we choose between multiple labels that we technically fit the definition for? seems like a lot of words to say "we only need l, g, b, and t" tbh.)

and like...basically arguing that a gay man wouldn't call himself anything else..........some men who others would call gay, call themselves queer, for example. there is not a single label that is inherent to an experience, because there has always been multiple labels that people can use (and also choose to not use any) that you cannot predict or prescribe them.

putting a name to our queerness *is* personal and can be about the comfort a label that we feel truly encompasses how we feel brings us. people who argue shit like this are just showing that they know fuck all about queerness lmao

[menalez]

[literally have boyfriends]

stuff like this physically hurts me. There’s absolutely no reason to do this. ppl can call me a boot licker or a self hating bi but I just don't like lesbophobia. Lesbians have always let us into their spaces and supported us, I'm talking about the majority lesbian community and organizations not the one lesbian that was mean to you in high school. so when stuff like this happens it's just feels like we're backstabbing them. we’re a big group and when we never call out the lesbophobia from our own it makes us seem like we: don’t care, we support it, or we don’t listen to lesbians. I just don’t get why some of us act like letting this happen won’t ever affect us. It’s also just wrong to do this or never do anything about it. We can blame it on not having a community but that doesn’t stop you from saying homophobia is wrong. Bisexuals during the gay rights movement were even more opressed than most of us today but they still spoke out against it. You can blame it on fake bis and yeah they are homophobic but the bi community isn’t just fake bis.

I relate more with lesbians because I’m like 90% woman attracted. Even though I relate to them more I'd never call myself a lesbian because that isn’t right. Lesbians don't like men that’s it there’s no debate.

Lesbians spaces are the only places were u can escape men, and express ur attraction to women, bi spaces always turn into porny sites or center around men ahem shybi. I don’t know why but even though we’re a bigger demographic we can never create our own spaces and keep them together. A lot of bi women rely on the lesbian community. so if lesbians do decide they’re fed up with us and kick us out bi women are we’re left with bi men who are still men and are sexists and misogynistic, they also tend to be annoying edge lords. Straight people don’t care about us and even at worst hate us. The trans community is well you know. There are the mogais or queers and no thank you. OSA leaning bi women for the most part don’t care about LGB topics because it doesn’t really affect them. So now we have the smaller and much more marginalized SSA leaning bis that are on their own.

It just seems like we’re dead set on ruining our relationship with the only other group of women that understands us. I see all the mspec lesbians, polilez and how so many bi women talk about how lesbians are opressors even though it’s impossible for them to oppress us. If you ever try to call out a lesbophobic bi other bis will jump on you call you a “pick me” and blame lesbians for them being lesbophobic and I just don’t get why some of us are like this. Bi women can cope all you want but we all see lesbians getting tired of this. Being bi is already isolating but if this keeps going on it’s going to get worse.

Sorry for the rambling I just needed to vent to someone.

i agree on not understanding why many bi people don't see how this also can negatively impact bi people. i mean for one, isnt that an example of bi erasure!? i hear the term used a lot by bi ppl when it comes to like fictional lesbian characters who had any kind of past with a man, or women like sappho who some argue is bi because she wrote that shes dating a man with a name thats basically "ActualMan BigDick" or sth, among other arguments... but when it comes to actual bi people, who are saying theyre literally into the opposite sex but have a strong preference for the same sex, its just... radio silence? when frankly thats one of the biggest and most prevalent examples of bi erasure i can think of!

idk anything about shybi so i cant comment on it, but thats unfortunate if bi spaces do often turn into that. i hope that changes one day because i can't imagine such spaces feel welcoming to many bi women.

i do hope one day this lesbophobia will be a thing of the past and that we can truly group together and be allies to each other.. but honestly at this point im quite hopeless on any of it. i cant imagine reaching a solid common ground :/

[rjalker]

[ID: A pride flag with horizontal stripes of: cyan, blue, white, purple, and cyan. End ID.]

If you missed it the first time around this was a pride flag in a dream I had about Fallout: New Vegas.

And you know what I’m pretty sure it’s a “”new”” version of the trans pride flag that people in the Mojave wasteland created independantly, and it specifically means trans in a “fuck you I hope you get eaten by a deathclaw” way to transmisics. It’s a symbol of solidarity and defiance, spitting in the face of anyone who tries to to control how people identify, whether they be cis or other trans people. (Yes, truscum and people who hate neopronouns, this is in fact about you. You’re just as bigoted as cis people. You being trans does not negate your bigotry towards other trans people.)

I assume they also used a different word than “trans”, but I don’t know what it was. 

If anyone’s unfamiliar with the Fallout series, Fallout: New Vegas is set in the post apocalyptic future of 2281.

Yes it’s a massive coincidance that the original trans flag even exists at all considering the timeline of the Fallout series, but IDC. The original pink, blue, and white trans pride flag was lost to the dust of history in the region for over two hundred years, found only in the memory of a few of the oldest ghouls, and seemed like it would stay that way...

Until an archaologist/historian named Wild Future unearthed a book about it, and started telling everyone who would listen, using shay skills with paint and fabric to create flags, patches, paintings, and other forms of art with it so shay could share it with the other trans people shay knew to raise awareness about their shared history. It’s proof that “trans” (or whatever they call themselves in 2281) have always existed, despite claims from assholes that it’s a new fad or a phase. 

Here’s the post about Wild :) And here’s a post with other fallout themed flags I’ve made

I guess it needs an official name, since, “go get eaten by a deathclaw” is a mouthful....

Anyways, if you’re trans and not a piece of shit exclusionist, not a truscum/transmed, not anti-MOGAI, not anti-xenogenders, not anti-neopronouns, not any other kind of bigot, and not on my DNI? Feel free to use for icons, headers, redbubble and ect designs, as long as you link back either to this post, the one about Wild, or the one with the other flags, so that other people can find the original.

also if it needs to be said, yes, when I say trans it inherently includes nonbinary people. Nonbinary people are just as trans as binary people. I’m pretty damn certain that people say we aren’t because there’s no set direction for us to transition in, so we aren’t seen as “really trans” because people equate being trans with transitioning 100%, and that’s absolute bullshit.

You don’t need to transition to be trans. You don’t need to be out to be trans. You do not have to do anything to be trans except not identify 100% with the gender you were assigned at birth. That’s it. If you aren’t 100% cis? You are trans, no matter what bigots have to say about it. Congrats. 

and yes I am gonna paint pins with this flag >:)

Feel free to suggest names!

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DNI:

Anti-MOGAI, anti-Queer, anti-Xenogenders, anti-Neopronouns, aphobes, panphobes, exclusionists incluidng mspec-lesbian/gay exclusionists, people who are “”neutral”” on “”ace discourse””, TERFs, transmeds, transphobes, anti-BLM, anti-endogenic systems, Trump supporters, porn blogs, MAPS/pro-shippers/anti-antis, zoophiles, people who let anyone reblog from them, and people who don’t care who they reblog from, bigots in general, people I have blocked, do not interact. You will be blocked.

[anarchobasil]

Alright, this is my first post on this website after I cowardly deleted my account. My name is Basil, I am 17 years old at the writing of this post, my birthday is on November 21st, and I live in the beautiful country of Romania. This post will largely contain my BYF and my DNI, because your boundaries are as important as mine. With that out of the system, let’s go!

BYF:

I will tend to reblog more than post anything, however that doesn’t mean I won’t make posts on this account. It simply means I will reblog whatever thing I find appealing or interesting.

I sometimes tend to use CAPS LOCK, especially when I’m excited. Please be mindful of that and always remind me if I haven’t properly tagged it.

I will occasionally talk about very triggering subjects, so please remind me to tag them accordingly if I haven’t done so already.

I am the host of a system of 5, so please be mindful of how you refer to us. If you want to refer to us collectively, just use they/them. If not, ask who is fronting at the moment and their pronouns.

My DMs and anonymous asks should always be open. Just vent or talk out your mind. Just don’t come here to fight, please.

Last thing: I am cool as fuck /lh.

DNI:

Any kinds of exclusionary people (exclus, radexclus, and anyone who is adjacent to exclusionary rhetoric). That obviously includes anti-mspec gays/lesbians, anti-lesboys, or anti-anyone whose identity is in complete good faith. (I am personally more of a critinclus, although I don’t think the term even needs to exist. Radinclus was never for shit like “transage”, but it seems like they wanna co-opt the word. 🫤)

Proshippers (anyone who doesn’t believe fiction doesn’t affect reality/romanticises, fantisises, glorifies CSEM/incest/non-con, defends problematic artists/people/art. N.B. I won’t be engaging in any harassment so don’t get me with the “proships is when you don’t harass others over pixels 🙀” BS.)

SWERFs, TERFs, radfems, political lesbians, queer assimilationists, people who believe “queer” is a slur.

Centrists, right-wingers of any type (monarchists, neolibs, fascists, alt-right etc.)

“Radqueers.” (Y’all support paraphilias being considered “queer” and those bad faith “trans” identities like “trans-race” or “trans-disabled.” Those aren’t real.)

Are only here to argue or to have discourse with me. Go find someone else, I don’t fucking want to argue with you.

Authoritarians of any kind, including Marxist-Leninists or Stalinists. Marxists, Trotskyists and others will be tolerated on a case-by-case basis, especially if you agree with some of my talking points.

Anyone I dislike and hate and despise and have weird vibes, really.

I AM A NON-BINARY NEUTROIS LEANING-FEMME LESBIAN MOTHERFUCKER FUCK YEAH I LOVE BEING A LESBIAN I LOVE BEING ENBY I LOVE BEING ME!!!! go lesbians!!!! (except those who think it’s a “political choice”)

antishippers ily ❤️❤️❤️ you’re loved and appreciated, and so is everyone else. even if i may not agree with you, i’ll love you like a human being should. i just don’t want you near me. ❤️

[mueritos]

agh tbh it’s a little disheartening to see u against mspec gays :[ i’m aspec, nonbinary, and a ply gay man, and the points u were makin don’t really say much? like, u used the recycled argument of “oh [microlabel] will make our oppressors hate us more so don’t use it,” if i read that right??

and bi lesbians aren’t a new thing, and they aren’t a singular phenomenon; pan lesbians, omni gay men, abro lesbians, etc though small in numbers we do exist. and as someone who uses the SAM in relation to being aspec, all the points u made against non-aspecs using it actually support them using it imo? (although not all mspec gays use the SAM at all), sexuality can be just as nuanced, complicated, fluid, and personal as gender. i get it doesn’t make much sense to you just lookin at it, but the same could be said of men who are also women, or people who are agender and pangender.

and ofc, just because some people using a label could be uninformed or “wrong” about themselves, doesn’t mean the label itself should be dismissed as a whole. you end up casting doubt on anyone who self-identifies in that way, which leads straight to identity policing. again, a lot of these arguments are the exact same ones used in anti-trans, anti-nonbinary, and anti-apsec circles. (and sorry if this is worded rudely, or just incomprehensible, writing isn’t always easy for me.)

hey! honestly thanks for this message, it has helped me sort thru my thoughts a bit. I will say that I never said that I think certain microlabels or identities will make our oppressors hate us, in fact thats the exact sort of rhetoric I work against. I also do want to say that I do understand and support folks like you mentioned, like those who are agender (I ID'd as agender for a time!), pangender, he/him lesbians, and she/her gays!

I suppose most of my hesitance for non-aspecs to use SAM to describe their experiences comes from what I have heard from fellow aspecs and even non-aspecs, and what I've heard mostly is that non-aspecs using the SAM model could perpetuate a lot of transphobia and homophobia, whether that is internalized or projected. I've listened to folks' experiences being non-aspec using the SAM as a way to justify comp-het (folks dealing with internalized homophobia), and also experiences of uncomfortable trans people being pursued by individuals who were non-aspec using SAM as a way to also display their attraction (examples I've heard were pan lesbians, a transman being pursued by one may feel particularly uncomfy because he may wonder if she views him as a woman). These are the examples of why I've just been hesitant for non-aspecs to use the SAM, and even then I do recognize that lots of. peoples' attractions and genders are complex, but I also feel they are all connected, and I'm just not completely convinced that one cannot influence the other. I am aromantic, but I am also gay and trans, and my attraction and perception of gender would not be the same if all 3 of these identities were not acknowledged. My attraction to men is heavily influenced by my aromanticism, and thus also influences my gender.

The thing is not that I don't understand it, I really do! The SAM is a great way to describe a complex relationship with attraction and sexuality and gender, I just worry that the need to label every single aspect of discomfort/comfort in terms of sexuality and attraction can lead to MORE confusion...I love that we have terms and labels to name what we are feeling as queer people but...I also worry it may just complicate people's journey with their gender/sexuality/attraction. There's a great video essay that explains what I mean better and uses mogai as an example. This is not me saying folks shouldn't use it, because to be honest, at this point I don't care. It's not affecting me so its like whatever. But I won't deny these are the thoughts I have when in context to non-aspecs using SAM.

This discussion in general is just also. A chronically online discussion and I doubt in IRL queer spaces it would be a problem because when you're IRL and queer no one gives a fuck what you do. So I use that to put this all into perspective and can just say now that I don't care what non-aspecs do, but again, I won't deny my hesitance as someone who is aspec and uses the Split-Attraction-Model, and who recognizes that it is something that mostly exclusively is used and created by aspecs. But yea, thanks for the ask! helped my brain work thru stuff <3

[choose-your-own-pronouns]

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Do not interact if you are any of the following:

If you have me blocked on my main blog, @rjalker, or if I have you blocked.

Anti-MOGAI

anti-Queer

anti-Xenogenders

anti-Neopronouns

anti-endogenic systems

aphobic

panphobic

exclusionists

anti-Mspec lesbian/gay (you’re literally just an exclusionist)

TERFs

transmeds

transphobes

if you think nonbinary genders aren’t real

If you think fiction doesn’t impact reality

anti-BLM

Trump supporters

porn blogs

MAPs, Pedophiles, pro-shippers, anti-antis,

zoophiles,

Thinspo blogs

DDLG blogs or supporters

someone who block evades, aka, continuing to send messages through side blogs after someone has blocked you

if you suicide bait people

If you call people the r slur

people who let anyone reblog from them

people who don’t care who they reblog from

-About me:

Call me Rjalker. Pronouns are she/her/hers. Main blog is @rjalker.

-What this blog is for

I’ll post written blurbs or even short stories, with the names and pronouns in brackets, so that you can copy and paste it into a word editing document, and find and replace the names and pronouns with the ones of your choice.

At some point I plan to write an entire book in this style, so that every reader can decide the name, gender, and pronouns of the protagonist themselves.

Templates will use he/him pronouns because I don’t know crap about grammar but both she/her and they/them pronouns are weird when it comes to replacing things accurately because “him” and “his” are two separate words but “her” and her” are the same thing unless you’re saying “hers” but that’s only sometimes.

Why does grammar have to be so confusing??? that’s exactly why I’m doing this!!! ugh.

-Why am I doing this?

Because most of the pronoun testing sites I’ve seen either don’t work, or are confusing and just. not very helpful because they feel stilted and not natural. Also I don’t know crap about grammar and all these websites are just. so confusing.

-Will you take requests for pronouns or names to test?

not right now, maybe at some point. This blog is mainly so you can test the pronouns yourself.

-Can I submit short stories or blurbs that people can use to test names or pronouns?

As long as you follow the formatting of my posts, and as long as it is safe for work and not bigoted or hateful in anyway. They should be rated E for Everyone. Nothing excessively violent or gross. Templates should use he/him pronouns so that they can be replaced without requiring further editing, unfortunately.

Can I submit prompts for you to make templates for?

Yes! As long as they follow the other rules! I won’t guarantee I’ll write for them, but you can send them in! 

I highly encourage other people to create posts like this, and tag them with “Choose your own pronouns”! The more the merrier! 

[bye-bi-birdie]

Every attempt by gatekeepers to veto names for "the community" just shows they don't actually want a community unless either they get to dictate who's allowed or it only contains people exactly like them.

"You can't say queer community because not everyone identifies as queer/people are uncomfortable with that term"

Well let's just assume for a minute that the person wasn't specifically referring to the community of people who do identify as queer but was talking about the whole nebulous "community" encompassing everyone who isn't straight or cis (and ignoring for now that gatekeepers would exclude large numbers of people who fit under that category as well) then what happens when we decide that is an unacceptable term? You've already shrunk the group you're calling your community down by a fair amount of people by excluding those who don't really fit into any group except queer.

Well an unfortunate number of people would be ok with that, let's move onto a pretty big one.

"You can't say gay community if you're not talking only about gay men and lesbians/you can't call yourself gay if you're not a gay man or lesbian"

This one still pops up surprisingly frequently imo. It's a favourite of terfs, although obviously scrapping queer is too, because it assumes that terms or groups can be watered down if they aren't kept to a strict set of rules and definitions. So we can't have "gay community" for non straight or cis people as a whole because that's not ok to use for bisexuals, pansexuals, asexuals, aromantics etc. Of course there's also the issue of whether "gay" would be a term that non cis people felt included in even if there wasn't pushback to using it. Many people who don't like queer are fans of using gay instead, terfs hate both if you're referring to a group not just including those they count as gay but it's not only terfs against it as an umbrella term. Still very divisive though not as inflammatory a word as queer.

"It's just LGBT/it's LGBT+/it's LGBTPN/etc. etc."

Many people who aren't ok with queer or gay insist it's "just LGBT" often with the hurried addition that pan and nonbinary people "go under" the B or the T respectively if they're not quite to the point (or at least not openly) of excluding those identities as well. "The LGBT community" is ideal for most gatekeepers but obviously a problem for everyone else. The + is sometimes tacked on as an afterthought to placate anyone who didn't get a letter and "LGBTPN" was a short lived attempt to show pan and nonbinary people that aspec exclusionists weren't going to turn on them and it was rather hastily discarded when it became apparent that was untrue. "LGB" is obviously only favoured among trans exclusionists and some of them blatantly prefer "LG" which really is the ultimate destination of all the gatekeeping over who's allowed in the community no matter what bi or trans or any other gatekeepers say who insist it's not the goal to be rid of all the mspec people or nonbinary people or whoever, just the "bad" ones (although normally they'd say "fake" not bad) because when you're trying to appease gatekeepers there's really no end to it.

MOGAI and (and QUILTBAG although it's seen less often) are generally at best not taken seriously, usually assumed to be full of "trenders" and at worst accused of attracting predators. "SGA" or "SGA and trans" tend to denote gatekeepers, different types depending on which they use, and have the unfortunate connotation of conversion therapy.

In the end there's never going to be a term everyone agrees on because "everyone" includes different people depending on who you ask. Denying people the ability to use a term that best describes the community they're a part of because it's "too broad" is only ever going to show that you think you can decide who gets to be in a group that there's not even any consensus about and it's going to show that your relation to that group is framed through the lense of gatekeeping.

People don't have to use queer if they're uncomfortable with it of course but it's always going to be the term I prefer because it's the most all encompassing and not focused on squishing people down into the restrictions other terms come with. If I see people talking about the queer community I know they're most likely not trying to shove anyone out so at the end of the day whether or not there's a cohesive community of any kind I'm gonna stick with the queer community.

[fuckedupevil-slumberparty]

Alright so I made this blog because I have a spicy personality disorder and it has convinced me that if I don't force myself to use a customer servicesona at all times that I am #toxic and #burning in hell so this is just where I don't have to worry about that.

This isn't a discourse blog please do not interact with me with the intention of discoursing

Basic Info

Not to be a kinnie on main but I'm too tired to pick a name rn so you call me Glimmer. Or Slumber works too actually. Honestly kin assign me names.you think fit my.vibes. cause confusion...get.wild.with it I do.not mind.

Any pronouns except for he/him which I don't vibe with. You can use she/her if you're a fellow nonbinary but I'm not a girl btw <3

Like my bio says I'm plural, if you don't know what that means it means there's multiple people in my (our) body. I'm the only one likely to use this blog I also will not tolerate any discourse about this. If you're singlet you can ask about it but don't clown or I will make all the tags on your clothes indestructible and scratchy.

While my body is an adult I am not internally. All this means is I'm not that mature and that I'm stressed from having to act the body's age at all times (But this does not mean that I am actually underaged at all, I am functionally and legally an adult and will act like one but a very immature very tired one that just wants to stop being the one piloting this flesh suit so I can vibe). For this and trauma reasons please do not talk about adult stuff (nsfw mainly but stuff that wouldn't be appropriate for teenagers) to me without my permission.

Sometimes I age regress I doubt I will post about it often but just know that it is the mental illness kind and not the gross fucked up kind

I have so so many (self) dxes but most importantly autism (so I misunderstand things easily) Dyslexia (so I misread/misinterpret things a lot) and ADHD + BPD (I have bad RSD and panic when I think I've fucked up somehow) I don't use my mental deal as an excuse for anything but keep that in mind if I ever mess something up or am messy.

DNI

The usual stuff I'm too tired to list everything that's on most DNIs but if you're right wing/conservative, a TERF, a transmed, etc. then DNI.

If you think only people with DID can be plural/multiple, think that you have to have trauma to, think that fictives aren't real/valid, or fakeclaim systems. (I have either DID or OSDD1 and am traumagenic so don't even try it lmao) if you don't know what this means then you're good dw I won't be explaining it because said group looks up that discourse and sends death threats and ableist bs to bootlick psychiatry.

If you're pro-kink for like...anything popular tbh I have no idea if there is a single kink community not rooted in abuse and/or oppression so I'm just saying all of them. Go away nasties.

Anyone who's ok with shipping gross shit like pedophilia incest abuse etc bc it's fiction

Anyone into shit like Yandere, traumacore, stuff that fetishizes mental illness or trauma. (Tl:dr on traumacore it paints trauma as an aesthetic and the community promotes emotional and sometimes physical self harm and I'm still recovering from that community)

Think any mental disorder is scary, bad, or inherently toxic. Take your "survivor of narcissistic abuse" ass and jump into a trashcan so you can ride it to the circus <3

If you're an ace exclusionist or mogai exclusionist or mspec lesbian/gay exclusionist etc.

You're a fan of Th0mas S@nders or the sides

You're a fan of hom3stuck or H@$bin H0t3l or danganronpa

Hetalia AOT/SNK or promare fans

Also fans of Steven Universe and She Ra are fine but if you like the diamonds or Hordaks redemption arcs/think they can be redeemed DNI bc that is major cringe actually.

Other important info

I tag the q word because it's an actual trigger to some people and wanting an identity tagged is not dehumanizing y'all just have trigger warnings stigmatized so much you think that triggers can only be bad things. I'm fine with people using the word as an identity but please don't use it for me (or anyone who hasn't said they're ok with it)

I'm anti cringe culture but by that I mean that bullying kids for drawing fursonas and being nombinary is shitty and not that nothing and no one should be criticized. I call media cringe or behaviors cringe sometimes but only if there's something actually wrong or bigoted about it.

I call myself an idiot/stupid a lot. This is not self depreciation and is the reclamation of ableist language. I take pride in being someone who is not academically put together and who falls very short of any intellectual standards. At the same time miss me with that IQ shit bc that's based in white supremacy.

I have trauma surrounding debate and debate culture that I don't want to explain but basically do not attempt to debate me. I will not do it and it stresses me out. Discuss things yes but debate no.

If you recognize my typing style and me and we're mutuals/friends on other blogs and I haven't told you about this one it doesn't mean I was hiding it from you and if I criticize something you enjoy that I've never criticized to you it's not a vague to you it's likely because my mental ill brain decided if I have opinions everyone will hate me so I made a blog for it.

Even in "bastard mode" on this blog I'm not like. Rude or mean. So if you ever wanna chat sometimes feel free to!

I'm falling asleep now bc I did this at 1am for some reason but ill add anything else if it's relevant later ig.

[grunge-ayaka]

📼 We're in a dissociative system (but any system types are welcome to follow) and there's two fictives on the blog

📼 the one most often on the blog is a fictive of Ayaka's middle (Ayaka had DID in our timelines so there's more than one of them) but a fictive of host Ayaka might pop in sometimes

📼 Our body is an adult and white so functionally we are as well and will hold ourselves accountable.

📼 we can't be fucked to choose names for ourselves so we'll use the emojis 💝 & 💎 to differentiate ourselves you can use our url also.

📼 we're here to vibe and have a good time so no discourse we are simply saying no 💖 (unless it's something important like letting us know that someone's breaking our DNI or we're interacting with someone bad etc.)

Do not fucking touch this blog or it's posts if you fit the following categories:

❎ kink blog or supporter of cgl(re), bdsm, or any other harmful fetish

❎ (NO)MAP, PEAR any adult who is attracted to minors

❎ anti-anti/proshipper

❎ terf/swerf

❎ transmed/truscum

❎ exclusionist (including ace exclusionist, bi or pan exclusionist, mspec (bi/pan/etc.) gays and lesbians, mogai/neo-pronouns, etc.)

❎ system medicalist (you don't need DID to be multiple and you don't need trauma to have DID. If you take issues with these statements or with non-traumagenic systems existing then leave!)

❎ fan of yandere or OK with yandere even ironically even if you have a mental illness you think reclaims it.

❎ Make or enjoy genderbends

Do not interact if you ship the following things

🚫 Saeru/clearing eyes/kuroha with literally anybody.

🚫 any obvious pedophilic shit I'm not typing it out if you're shipping the mkd with the parents and old adults in the series you know who you are delete your accounts lmao

🚫 any of the Tateyama children together (any combination of Ayano, Seto, Kano, Kido, or Mary. Including setomary it's still incest!)

🚫 kanoshin, konokano, kidoshin, literally any quartet member with the younger members. It's still disgusting even if you think you can count the age gap as an excuse.

🚫 Hibiya and Hiyori with anyone including each other they're literally 12 stop it lmao.

🚫 ship Mary with anyone in canon (I don't trust y'all just leave her alone! Let her vibe!)

🚫 whatever that crossover shit was with Ayano and that other anime character who's like..old as shit. Idfk what that was but I hate you all so much for making us see it lmao.

Will give an update if we edit this post at all later. ✌

[hazel2468]

You know what would be great? Awesome? Swell?

If I could go one fucking day this Pride month without being reminded that y’all in the community fucking hate mspec people. If we could go, idk, let’s be generous and say three hours without a monosexual person coming in to derail a post about mspec people and make it about them. Or to “correct” us about our experiences. 

Like, y’all are SO insistent that mspec people are just secretly gay all the time, but the second we start talking about an experience that we share with gays and lesbians, no, you have to make sure that you tell us how wrong we are, because mspec people don’t experience hatred unless it’s “misplaced homophobia”. 

And side note- if you respond to an mspec person talking about bullshit they get with “oh that’s just misdirected homophobia” you can go fuck yourself. Or if you do what I saw earlier and you go “well it’s just sexism/white supremacy”. Motherfucker we KNOW all of this shit is based in white supremacy, but we have different names for different shit. It’s why, even though hatred of gay people and hatred of Jews are both based in white supremacist hierarchy, we call those things homophobia and antisemitism- because they fucking manifest in different ways. 

It blows my mind how far some of y’all are willing to go to talk your way around the fact that mspec folks deal with so much shit from within the community. You’ll talk rings all fucking day to make it about you and to avoid addressing the fact that a horrifying number of you treat us like absolute shit. Considering that when I came out about six years ago shitting on bi and pan people was the “in” thing, maybe I shouldn’t be shocked- I guess I just thought the new “in” thing was re-purposing the same exact arguments to harass ace and aro people this year. And yes, the are the same arguments, and yes they are all still bullshit.

Like I expect to get shit from straight/cis/allo people. I expect to get shit from TERFs and exclusionists. But right now? I’m fucking seeing it on my other social media. From people I KNOW. And from people here who otherwise seem generally not shitty- oh wait except there’s a post about how bi women need to reckon with our “straight privilege” and keep our heads down at Pride events. Or a post about how someone is annoyed that they saw a “straight” couple at pride and, when someone in the notes points out that hey, some people are mspec, y’all will just flat out be like “well Pride isn’t FOR those people”. Or a post justifying why it is totally fine and not shitty at all for a lesbian to not want to date a bisexual woman, come on, she’s probably had a DICK in her!

I guess I’ll have to wait ‘till 2020 to see if y’all can grow the fuck up and stop being shit. Already taking bets on what group you’re going to be trying to kick out of Pride this time next year.