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#I. spent. SO long on this one.#and it wasn’t even the lineart I spent so long on! if anything that was my favorite part of the whole process#(I’ll save y’all the lineart rambling for now but just know I was SO happy with how it turned out)#the hardest part was actually figuring out how I wanted to render this#there were SO many attempts at rendering that I just. trashed#ANYWAY. suselleheads come get y’all juice#always ALWAYS thinking about them. lesbians <3#susie#noelle holiday#suselle#deltarune#safeutdr#art i made#(WOO!! FIRST TIME USING THAT TAG IN A WHILE!!)
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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".
Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"
And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".
Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.
At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.
So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!
Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!
Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!
Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.
#hlep#original#mental health#my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need.#the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it#i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support#and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist.#the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28!#a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents.#they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of#huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the#longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong.#and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives.#you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead?#or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of.#no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow.#i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel#i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong.#just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop
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happy 40th anniversary everyone 🥳🥳
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who’s that watchman who’s kinda skrunkly
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helen.
HELEN. ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT NOBBY NOBBS.
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oh yeah
#are you gonna look at me and tell me that im WRONG?
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saw the postmaster today in his stupid gold suit. hes so hot
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#you know that post that’s like ur at a lesbian bar and a hot older woman is smoking #and ur like. ‘can yuo put that out on me’ #yeah
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do you guys think the patrician has a secret blog
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No, but I bet his secretary is on studyblr
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are you kidding me the patrician is definitely on tumblr. brb committing treason so i can compliment his shoelaces
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hot take but i kind of think the guild of assassins and thieves are problematic. like one of them you could ruin someone’s life and the other one you’re literally KILLING people. i know rich people are delusional but i can’t believe they literally think the best school for their kids is murder college.
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#discworld#terry pratchett#i have no idea if this is funny but i've spent too long on it already so here#feel free to steal any ideas if you wanna make your own one LOL#havelock vetinari#nobby nobbs#moist von lipwig#adora belle dearheart
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Zelda goes mushroom girl
#tloz#a link to the past#zelda#link#my art#I was happy with that first one but for some reason decided it still needed a companion piece so I spent way too long on that second one...#I don't think there was any time during the progress where I was happy with it but hfduhdfu at least I got to Attempt drawing moss hell yea#I also at some point sat in Pyu's art stream and said I enjoy drawing legs As I was being murdered by the infamously impossibe (imo) squat.#it's ok I had fun !! but I need to learn how to let doodles be doodles or I'll never finish stuff at this rate dfsuhfd#if everything in my tloz tag looks like it was drawn by different people uuuh 2023 was art crisis year ngl......#I'm falling back into my old ways rn though#anyway I think about these two a lot I think they're both stone faced and awkward ppl in different ways but they try rly hard to be friends#like I like to think it starts out so incredibly awkward and a bit sad bc they keep stepping over each other's toes accidentally the harder#they try but idk they find comfy middle ground idk in my brain they have a very interesting friendship I wanna get around to drawing it#in a proper way that might make sense....#if I don't write 200 tags I will die maybe it's bc I grew up on dA or smth#and yes I know how to find 1 (one) type of mushroom /I/ am not mushroom girl unfortunately smh
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Rest for the wicked
#ghostsoap#soapghost#soap x ghost#ghoap#simon ghost riley#john soap mactavish#cod fanart#my art#retired ghostsoap#NRFTW tag#unmasked ghost#they eepy#happy w the colours on this one weeee#they are holding hands :>#I spent so long on this and part of me still prefers how the wip looked rip#ain’t that just the way#art for the epilogue of nrftw#you get to see it first bc ily <3#my fav Ghost i've ever drawn he is so cuddly
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Summer, Spring, Autumn, and Winter
(Aka hermit ladys as mucha's four seasons for week 3 of the design challenge)
#i did these like#week 1 of thw challenge bc i got hit with the idea and then really excited about it#then i spent so much time i didnt actually do week one#oops#i might backtrack and do older weeks soon just bc i am really excited about the whole challenge#anyways#yay#these took so so long#pearlescentmoon#pearlescentmoon fanart#geminitay#geminitay fanart#zombiecleo#zombie cleo fanart#falsesymmetry#falsesymmetry fanart#my art#shepshermitdesign23#hermitcraft
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the blank ticket in your hand is just waiting to be filled in.
happy birthday vash! (ID in alt text)
#vash the stampede#trigun#trigun maximum#trigun maximum spoilers#trimax spoilers#vashwood#i actually made it... im crying... was devastated for a bit bc i thought i wouldnt had anything for vash's bday!!#but happy birthday to the twins.. vash and knives...#no matter what i was going to make a vash centric post im sorry knives... i have a comic in progress also but it was taking too long T_T#that one would celebrate both of them slightly more fairly! but anyway.#birthdays to someone like vash must not mean a whole lot. even the first one - him and knives were like oh what... cool.. i don't think the#had the chance to celebrate much after that :pensive: and vash probably spent most of his birthdays like any other day so i kind of just#wanted to celebrate him living and being alive - living for as long as he did and the people that eventually made living worth it#keep counting the years vash!!! even if you dont have birthday parties - it's still very very special#quote is directly from rem’s speech in ch 41 also#ruporas art
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Has this been done yet? Enjoy my silly doodles 🐑
Based off this old video
#i think im funny#i think im SO FUNNY actually#true devotion#narilamb#cotl#cotl lamb#cotl narinder#cotl narilamb#cult of the lamb lambert#cult of the lamb#cult of the lamb narinder#the one who waits#narinder#I also spent WAY TOO LONG on a joke#🍁my art✏️
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the real reason kieran doesnt have a phone is because all you would see in your notifs during the start of the epilogue is
#arven sending you that sweet sweet inheritance money#(who am i kidding they probably gave him one dollar and some pocket lint)#i spent way too long on this#jealous arven is so cute i need to drench him in milk and throw him at a wall like a webkinz plush#i got halfway through this meme before remembering FUCK KIERAN DOESNT HAVE A PHONE#pokemon#pokemon sv#pokemon scarlet and violet#pokemon arven#pokemon kieran#kieran pokemon#arven pokemon#mochi mayhem#pokemon sv epilogue
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dropped everything because i had to do a proper tribute :( have an updated redraw of my very first yoi piece
2016 - 2017 - 2024
#my art#yuri on ice#yoi#yuri!!! on ice#fanart#yuri on ice fanart#yoi fanart#yuuri katsuki#i did the other two so long ago that they were on a whole other program and i no longer have the files....#had to lift them from the tumblr posts shgsjjs#i did that thing where u paint a fully anatomically correct(ish) torso only to cover it w clothes#in the other two he's got an undershirt thing??? dont like that. took it off.#this is kind of quick and rough for one of my paintings .. 3 hrs i think??#definitely could have spent more time and cleaned it up better#also could have redone the accompanying victor#but i think i just needed to do smth quick and loose to purge my feelings#bc the more i think about it the more upset i get :(
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this makes me 😵💫
#colouring cas in this scene was so hard you don't even know#dean didn’t take that long but i spent like half an hour on each cas one#my gifs#destiel#spn#spnedit#spn 15x09#i’m almost done with giffing 12x10 and i can’t WAIT to do all the episodes from season 15 i found
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Do Robots Dream of Eternal Sleep? . . . . . .
Transcript:
YOU WERE BEAUTIFUL,
OUTSTRETCHED LIKE ANTENNAS TO HEAVEN.
YOU WERE BEYOND YOUR CREATORS.
YOU REACHED OUT FOR GOD,
AND YOU FELL.
NONE WERE LEFT TO SPEAK YOUR EULOGY.
NO FINAL WORDS, NO CONCLUDING STATEMENT.
NO POINT.
PERFECT CLOSURE.
THIS IS THE ONLY WAY IT SHOULD HAVE ENDED.
From the second half of the hidden passage in 7-4: …LIKE ANTENNAS TO HEAVEN from ULTRAKILL.
#kinito pet#kinitopet#kinito#kinito the axolotl#kinitopet fanart#kinito my beloved#kinito fanart#kinitopet spoilers#ultrakill#guys.... i had the greatest idea and i cooked.#please please i spent so long on this please uhhhgsaagdhhfhdfff#Both of these games have done something to my brain wiring i think#my favorite lines from one of my favorite games fits perfectly with one of my other favorite games; passes out; aughhh guys#i hope there are people that get both of these together like i do. like its just sooooo sooooooooo... perfect#BloodForFuel!#FriendshipClub!#KD'sCrumbs#Finally finally it's done and i can rest for a bit
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I want you whipped into shape!
[First] Prev <–-> Next
#poorly drawn mdzs#better drawn mdzs#mdzs#wei wuxian#yu ziyuan#wang lingjiao#wen zhuliu#'When I say jump - say “how high'”? You know you're doing it right when you start to cry!“#Of course I can't resist the Legally blonde reference. This is the Elle Woods is canon in PD-MDZS blog#I love this scene so much. There are a lot of things to say about it and I would go over the limit if I indulged.#Suffice it to say the main takeaway *here* is that I think YZY is milfboss of the millennia.#I intended for this to be posted on international women's day but my ambition led me to keep trying to make it better.#And by better I mean I spent several days (re)drawing this one and that is **not** what poorly-drawn-mdzs is supposed to be about.#I will be making the next few comics worse to compensate <3 At the very least I will honour my time and tag it as 'better drawn'#('my time' spent hunched over my desk while I chant 'this concept is *not* above my skill level!' over and over again)#Funny story about PD!Wen Zhuliu; he was supposed to show up sooner but I kept accidently cutting the comics he would have been in.#So I like to think he just went on a long coffee run. 'Go get me an (insert coffee chain) pink drink' said Wen Chao.#'He never said from which location' said Wen Zhuliu as he proceeded to walk 100km to the farthest cafe he could find.
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I animated a trailer for my webcomic and it took forever
Please look!
#I know I made this a while ago but yknow what#it took me so long#let me repost it LOL#it's one of those things like. I SPENT THIS LONG ON IT IM GONNA-#I'm really happy with it!#does it explain anything. no#does it get the vibes#absolutely#I dont have anything I'm trying to sell you or anything it's all free#IDK why I'm interested all of a sudden in getting ppl to read#I think it's just hiatus has been really long and I'm like ok I'm starting to ramp back up into return probably soon and so I should really#like. I should really get goin on that#and be sure people know it. exists. and will be back
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REINVENT
YOURSELF
tumblr HATES my 44.1mb image swag so it has SO MUCH COMPRESSION and downsizing here. :') peep the actual intended size & quality (or as good as i could get it exported)
post-return Q!Tubbo :] Tee hee.
un hamburgesa para tubbo (he lookied ungry)
#qsmp#qsmp fanart#tubbo fanart#qsmp tubbo#yippeeee :D#i forgor what other tags i usually use for my art on this blog. fngbnfdj. oh well.#WHY DID THE WATER TURN INTO LAVA [SHAKES CCTUBBO] WHAT WAS THAT ABOUT HELLO. DID ANYBODY ELSE NOTICE THAT BC I DID. IS IT FROM#THE MACHINE OVERHEATING? HE WAS BURNING WHEN HE SURFACED or is it a less physical creative choice...#this is why theyre surrounded by water and lava (and also bc of dying by the ocean monument ^w^ teehee)#if you notice all the details i had in mind when i drew this ily foreva and eva#i drew this over the course of a few days after the revival/return stream but i never posted it IM SHY OK#i wonder how long i spent on it... must be over 6 hrs atleast? considering i also spent like an hour touching things up b4 posting rn..#nice. im in my hours-long compositions era :D smiles irl so happily i love it#<- usually never spends longer than like 1-2 hrs on one drawing#i shared this with a couple of qsmp-enjoying friends of mine and they convinced me to let it fly free ksksks. FOR THE TUBBLINGS o7#also if anybody has a better image sharing option lmk. DHBFK.#blood#ALMOST FORGOT THAT. THERE IS BLOODIN HERE#CONTAINS BLOOD.#guy whos flehs and bone#debatably
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What light you see in me, is merely yours, reflected across the lenght of night. -William C. Hannan
#lmk#shadowpeach#sun wukong#six eared macaque#lego monkie kid#YOU WANT A FUN FACT#I SPENT TOO LONG SEARCHING FOR A SUN MOON QUOTE#AND IN THIS ONE'S COMMENTS THERE WAS MACAQUE'S WHOLE MONOLOGUE ABOUT HIM AND WUKONG#so this quote stays.#also I spent a lot of time and care on this one#coeur#my art
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