#Idk... 🤔

[quiet-admirer]

It won't allow replies in the post so I'm sending an anon to support and back the post you made. But basically what I wanted to say was, if you are thin ( you as in the people reading this if you so choose to post it ) then dismantling fatphobia is pretty simple. When your friends say something fat phobic you simply just have to go " oh that's actually not cool. I'm going to leave now. " And then go do something else for a while. It's literally that simple when it comes to friendships. When it comes to other people you simply say " oh that's not cool. I'm going to go now. " And that's pretty much it. You are stigmatizing fatphobia by being like hey this is so uncool that The vibes are now checked and do not pass therefore I am leaving. Eventually people are going to see that they make you uncomfortable and they're either going to choose to surround themselves with other hateful bigots ( which means you didn't need to be friends with them anyway , their true colors would then be showing ) or they're going to realize that what they are doing is harmful and they're going to stop. Because it's their friend and they care about you. Battling fat phobia is setting up boundaries and upholding those boundaries which is okay to do and it's perfectly healthy to do. You are allowed to say that things are uncool or that you do not like them and that you would like to leave the situation.

This goes for pretty much everything mean. If someone is being mean you simply just say that you don't like that, it's lame and stupid, and that you're going to leave now.

If you don't want to give them a huge lecture or sit there and educate them that's fine you simply just set up your boundaries and uphold them. Just because you have anxiety or because you don't have the energy to explain these things doesn't mean that you can't still simply state that they're uncool and you don't want anything to do with bigotry.

Actually, simply stating " hey this is uncool. I am leaving now. " And then leaving is way easier than putting up with fat phobia anyway so like I don't really see any excuse not to set these boundaries and uphold them. You'd be fighting fat phobia in doing so as well and that's a plus.

There's probably a lot of typos here because I'm like dyslexic but whatever, this is all I wanted to add. Fat people are hot as fuck and being fat is cool as fuck I'm fat too and I always speak out against fat phobia as I do any other bigotry even if it doesn't directly affect me. It's called being a decent fucking human being and not allowing hateful talk around you. It's actually extremely easy once you learn how to say hey this is uncool, bye.

Peace out stay fat y'all

Sorry, this turned into an essay but, yeah that's definitely one way to approach it. I would probably use it more with repeat offenders or people I already generally dislike lol because I was whitewomanpilled growing up prefer to question, contradict, or educate first, but it's also good to prefill a variety of ways to respond in your head so you have options to choose from on the fly depending on the situation (or maybe you're not autistic and don't need to scripts ahead of time like I do lmao).

You can also just say stuff like 'that's not funny'/'what's funny about that' in response to a joke, simply say 'that's not true according to the past few decades of scientific research' to spreading medical misinformation, 'what's wrong with X?', 'where did you hear X?', things like that - not getting into a whole one-sided lecture but still connecting with the person.

I think there's just a firehose of misinformation out there reinforced every single day through constant ads, uninformed medical providers, and casual small talk - all with very little challenge, so I think simple, small attempts at education on a collective level can be really valuable in the long run. Remind yourself that you are not going to change anyone's mind in one interaction, but you've planted a single seed anyway. The more people around that are planting single seeds the more you start to think, 'huh, everyone's saying this thing, maybe I should look into it more?'

It's so easy to hop in and contradict fatphobia or diet culture in my experience, and even if you're uncomfortable with confrontation, you can still contradict in a casual or light-hearted way! Just last week I had an exchange that went "he found out he has high cholesterol so maybe we should be eating xyz" "ooh, actually, fun fact: I read a study that showed that changing dietary cholesterol doesn't affect blood cholesterol." I think the other person said something like "well, it can't hurt" but whatever, another seed was planted :)

Also people, ESPECIALLY thin people, need to start being like:

Those "based/waow" memes about getting fat, fat people, etc drive me crazy because just say your 'based' out loud! Just say fucking say it!! And when it comes to things about just like, dating fat people or finding them attractive I don't understand the hesitation to just be open about it. I've been in a relationship with a large fat person for almost my entire adult life and there have been 0 comments or social repercussions or anything. When I've said I prefer bigger people either no one gives a shit or they agree with me...

Same with "my friend were making fun of feedist/fat fetishes so I had to laugh along" no you didn't. You can suck it up and say, "hey, whatever floats your boat," "different strokes I guess," "Idk, I'm not gonna make fun of people's fetishes," "who cares though," "yeah I love weird fetishes, isn't it kind of interesting/cool?"

Another big one is non-fat people declining to be weighed at doctor's appointments unless it's medically necessary, which normalizes decentering weight in medical care more and makes fat people not the only ones resisting that aspect of medical fatphobia.

And a final little one: you can slip into your small talk is pointing out inaccessibility:

"Wow, these salon chairs are kind of narrow, how do bigger people get their hair cut here?"

"What's the weight limit on this tattoo table? I want to recommend a friend but I'm not sure if it could support them."

"I wanted to buy this shirt, but they only go up to size 2X 🙁 Do you think you'll have expanded/inclusive sizes next time?"

"It must suck to get around the tables in here if you're not thin, they're so close together!"

Put fat people's comfort and ability to access spaces into others' minds regularly enough, and they'll start thinking of it too, or maybe even actually make changes to accommodate more sizes! [ETA:] Also make your own space more accessible and verbalize to others how you are doing that if it doesn't put a specific fat person on the spot who doesn't want to be. Like: "my old chairs were so flimsy, only a super skinny person could sit on them comfortably, so I bought these more sturdy ones."

It's great if people are activists or doing visible, larger scale, or more aggressive actions to combat fatphobia, but the little things are extremely valuable as well, and really mandatory imo for non-fat feedists to start pushing back out loud, whether gently or confrontationally. I don't care if you're anxious or uncomfortable with it, like, suck it up and take one for the team. Fat people are anxious and uncomfortable too. You don't have anything to lose as a thin person saying these things and more social capital to get away with saying them. So do it.

[retquits]

winter leah!! wife wfie wfie fwife wi

[growingdark]

okay sorry…chill…

[saint-oleander]

Obssessed with the use of the silhouette of Okarun's glasses and mask to make him look deranged

Truly a Creature

[sofiaruelle]

🌸The SDV gurlies in their Flower Dance outfits🌸

I wanted to keep it coquette/cotteage-core but i played around too much 😅😅. I still tried to keep it all cohesive to the theme of the event but with some my headcanons on their outfit choices lmao (like Abigail’s fit is mostly borrowed from someone or Haley fersure made Emily make her something new from scratch, etc.)

theres some other outfits under readmore that didnt make it to the final.

[zuzu-draws]

Stardew Valley Bachelor Portrait Sukuna, anyone?? (I made some quick pixelated gifs while musing lolol)

I wonder how many folks would romance him in-game 🤔 Make your attendance here, folks ✋

[en-chi-la-da]

im trying to do something? 🤔

[alltimefail]

Charles: "Hey Edwin, did I leave the spyglass at that witch's house?" *gets huffy when Edwin isn't listening* *affecionately mocks Edwin to get a rise out of him* *Doesn't work, Edwin doesn't respond* *Visibly flounders a bit* "Sooooo you've been spending a lot of time with Monty!! You!!! And Monty!!! Spending a lot of time!!! Together!!! Don't forget we're trying to leave Port Townsend!!"

Edwin: *puts book down* *gives Charles the undivided attention and reassurance he so clearly is craving* *apologizes*

Charles, without even the slightest hesitation: 😍

... so yeah basically he's whipped, your honor. I rest my case

[mamamoble]

This is my first time doing this but please bear 🐻 with me

DCXDP #1 SPIRIT HALLOWEEN

But danny and Bruce got that on and off relationship for decades that people on the internet knows that two at least got some history (i just really like an outside pov of this ship like himbo Brucie wayne and the heir of vladco WHAT).

Imagine teenage bruce and newly orphaned danny being in a relationship how would that look like on social media,

But then they break up, time flys by bruce got his love interest, the batkids etc

BUT DANNY STAYS SINGLE ALL THOSE DECADES

Like everytime those two are at the same event, like galas or something.

And those two are on the same room people CAN see the tension, like they can see the twos secretly looking at eachother when they thought no one was looking

And everyone and their grandma is absolutely going feral for every small interaction those two get.

Cuz like that was their divorce parents that never got married.

And rooting for them to get back somehow

THEN

A love interest go and like court danny

ifykyk

Then the medias lossing their head like NOOOOOOO

(idk this just came to me when i was in the shower and listening to bruno mars lol)

[gnabnahc]

@dramatical asked: favorite twice member?

minatozaki sana 💜

[firstprinced]

[papicup]

How i met your dad lore 🗿

Most canon event for lilia nation ever🗣

Have a nice day everyone !❤️

Surprise with this one might i say SOUND ON!

Note : i didn't wanna put bald yuu 😭 y'all can imagine anyone tho ;3

[bayetea]

crazy how some people are flabbergasted by valzhang. they're like "huh?? people ship the two guys who were bickering and bantering and getting on each other's nerves where one guy has fire powers and the other is afraid of fire??? and then they make up and the fire guy builds something that will always keep the other guy's life safe???" like YES. WAKE UP

[axoqiii]

akira 😢

[babacontainsmultitudes]

Not a Francis hater, not a Francis apologist, but a secret third thing (watching him be a fucked up little freak and enjoying the show 🍿)

[heartnosekid]

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