#MY Abusive mother

[thekenobee]

My mother LITERALLY said she has no money for my expenses this month as she was unboxing her new pair of New Balance shoes

[wildbasil]

things haven't been great but i think they will be. eventually 🌻🌼🩷

[witchyykitten]

everyone talks about cutting off a toxic parent

but no one ever talks about the pain of wanting a parent but knowing yours cannot love you the way they should

[northstarscowboyhat]

Justice Family Cuddles ˗ˏˋ ��� ˎˊ˗

[super-nova5045]

sylvia plath, todd anderson and virginia woolf (aka ACTUAL tortured poets) watching taylor “im breaking up with my boyfriend for his intense depression and blaming it on him, im dating a racist who enjoys watching woc being brutalized and harasses young woc artists, i sent my fans out on a hate train to attack a young woc actress for a line she had to say as part of her job to show how mentally ill her character was, im dating a maga supporter, i refuse to say anything about a current genocide despite being the most influential person in the world right now, i am a billionaire, i fly 13 minute flights and have the highest carbon emission of any celebrity, i am a known white feminist who only speaks about issues when it affects me and has constantly let my fans get away with extreme racism and even encouraged it by associating myself with known racists” swift call herself a tortured poet (her writing sounds like a bunch of thesaurus words slapped over gabba hanna and rupi kaur-esque poetry that was created purely as a trinket for an edgy pinterest board)

[pynkhues]

There's something to the picture that all this season and the release of the first three seasons' scripts have painted of Logan and Caroline's divorce not as one of maternal abandonment, but one of maternal dislocation and suffocating abuse that's ruining me right now.

The way Caroline tried to take her children and flee in the dead of the night to Morocco, the way Logan took meetings with every worth-its-salt law firm in the city to cut off Caroline's access to them, wielding the legal system like an axe to an umbilical cord, the way Caroline's one recourse was to try and keep their position in the company, to keep them with something even if she gave it away later as they rejected her in adulthood. The way she stayed for their adolescence in New York even as Logan froze her out, the way she had to bargain for Christmas even in their adulthood, the way she sat in the pews with the rest of the women Logan loved and hurt and discarded while her children cried, with no tools or ability to comfort them, the way she sat as her son wrote her out of her own motherhood as he gave their father sole credit in creating them, stood opposite her daughter as she told her she wouldn't see it, i'm just gonna do it the family way like it was on Caroline and not their father, that she never got to see them.

Something about the way it feels like Logan trained them how to bark at her scent, to make sure she stayed away from the door.

[waambles]

We love Gale memes, we don’t stand real Gale slander.

[rozugold]

You’re not very fun to hang around…

[thekenobee]

Yesterday my mother hugged me(which is as rare as being hit by a tram in countryside) and said that she loved me.

I really wish I could say the same to her.

[traumatizedjaguar]

Two things you needed to hear today:

“You can’t be a good child to a bad parent.”

“You weren’t a bad child, you were reacting to your environment.”

[witchyykitten]

[lostmf]

[sweepingboy]

sweeping general

[lets-go-hurt-someone]

Been thinking about Cazador lately. We know from the Lady Incognita lore that the Szarr family seems to have some kind of weird coming-of-age ritual where they’re turned to vampires whether they want to be or not. We know Vellioth was an even crueller master than Cazador became. Were they related too?

Was Cazador’s creepy obsession with insisting the spawn were siblings his fucked up way of coping with his own screwed up family dynamic? Was he forcing them to play act his fantasy of a family who loved and cherished him the way his real family never had, couldn’t have?

He almost certainly considered himself a kinder master than Vellioth was. I think in some twisted, narcissistic way he thought he did love his spawn — the same way sometimes an abused, damaged parent may try to love their child but with no healthy model to draw from, they end up growing into their abuser instead.

It’s hard to have a ton of sympathy for Cazador. But I do see the shadow of someone I could have sympathy for inside of him. Evil is made, not born, after all.

[shalom-iamcominghome]

The funny difference between protestantism (what I grew up with) and judaism is how both conceive of work

For many protestant-influenced scenarios, you must work - the sabbath day? That's just another weekend to spend as you please (work. chores, which is work, too). There's no real excuse to stop working, working is inherently G-dly and Good.

Judaism? Don't you even think about working on the hours of shabbos. (Certain) Holidays? Same deal. Actually, working is explicitly impermissible, g-d literally said so.

Anyway, I just think those small differences in how work and what constitutes work contributes to attitudes about working. I don't think protestantism or judaism are inherently like those examples, just that in my experience, the protestant attitude towards work is that it is what makes you worthy, good, and holy and non-work (laziness, sloth) is A Sin.

[croutoncretin]

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