#NO NO HEAR ME OUT

[lotus-pear]

what is childe doing in bungou gay dogs😟

[looks-at-you]

I am:

🚫 Single

🚫 Taken

✅️ thinking about the parallel of the tma season 1 finale to then ending of the podcast

[are-we-really-doing-this]

Okay you know how wrestlers always set up the table that they’re gonna get put through? You know how Jesus carried his own cross? Well-

[superbattrash]

It’s been nearly a month and a half since I buzzed my hair off and dyed it green (I have re-dyed it since then) so obviously I’m gonna have to re-buzz it and dye it bright pink today

[gameboyhamazing]

wait. WAIT.

does lea have a keyblade bc of subject x?

[russell-63]

It's different, it's sexy

[20thcenturyfoxx]

You're a little pistol and I'm FUCKING pistol whipped -

[bamsara]

This is a real broadcast they are doing. Calling men 'babygirl' has stumped them

[gogoakechi]

[azherwind-art]

"Tell your favorite creators that you like their work, people usually enjoy things silently, but hate tends to be loud"

This is a phrase I just heard from Dnd shorts that captures perfectly why I often try to make the effort of commenting on posts and telling people that I enjoy their work and why Even to small creators, I advice everyone to make the extra effort to tell them, I can guarantee it makes all the difference in the world, it's not cringy or obnoxious, it'll just brighten someone's day

[radioroxx]

this is kerdly 2 me. btw

[last-pages]

theyre all teenagers of the late 2000s though because think. percy listened to green day. thalia was punk. piper probably layered long tank tops. nico played roleplay card games. they WERE 2000S KIDS AND TEENS

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

[nousanti]

Laios Touden

[astearisms]

fionna and cake drawings before and after watching the episodes so far. it’s nostalgic and somehow cathartic and poignant and relatable and—it just started

[wildflowercryptid]

black cat bitches, we've finally won.