#adhd student planner

[gnc-tits]

my worst quality as a student is that if i think an assignment is not worth my time i just dont do it. like thats not to say if i think its annoying or dumb i dont do it bcoz i still do some of those but if the net gain to my education and me personally isnt substantial i just wont do it! like what is the value here. what does this teach me like actually. like girl shut up

[pancake-tries-college]

Does anyone have advice for what to do when a class’s schedule isn’t set in stone or up to date yet and you want to set up a planner? Do you just write down what is there tentatively or just leave it blank?

[mayahafairy]

Hello everyone!

I hope that you've all had an amazing first week of 2023-it feels odd to say and type that. I've already managed to write the date wrong a few times in my journal this week.

I'm currently away with my family and some family friends but we're going back home in a few hours.

It's been a good week, I managed to get a lot done and still find time to relax and enjoy myself before school starts on Wednesday. I can hardly believe it but yes. Eleventh grade.

I've barely written two sentences this last week though, so I'll definitely be grinding out some words before school starts.

~Miyah 🌻

[luvyeni]

HOT MESS ,, 이제노

pairings ‎⸝⸝⸝ collegecrush!jeno x reader wc. 2.4k

genre. smut

🦢◞  includes ... oral ( fem receiving ), unprotected sex, praise kink , this is kinda angsty.

request. can u write a "campus crush" fic based on jeno's look at the airport please 🙏🩷

「 authors note 𖹭 」 ngl i didn't expect it to be so angsty but reader literally is me and my brain.

❪ masterlist! ❫

your brain was always on go; constantly it was like it never stopped, even when you would sleep it was like your brain wouldn't turn off— it was never ending, and becoming a college student; living on your own made it worse.

running into your class; the professors back was turned around so you snuck in , sitting down. “you're late again.” yoo jimin, your best friend; the complete opposite of you; she was constantly put together, it was like she had everything together. “i stayed up last night to study.” you whispered, huffing out pulling out your ipad, hair all over the place. “how did it go?” you stared at her stoically. “how do you think?” you said. “point taken.” she said.

“maybe you have like adhd or something.” karina walked next to you; watching you go through your messy planner. “because this can't be normal.” she said. “im sure the doctor has something to cure whatever this was.” you shrugged. “with my luck i would probably be too busy and forget to take it.” she laughed. “probably, you're just a hot mess and that's okay, i still love you anyway.” she wrapped her arms around you, calming you. “messy hair and disheveled clothes that i'm pretty sure you had on yesterday and all.”

jeno on the the hand; he seemed to have his life together— he never came to school looking crazy; even after a night out in which he was black out drunk with his group of friends, he'd turn up the next day, showered, shaven and ready to go on with his date. “it almost scary why aren't you hungover.”

haechan groaned, his head down low. “you out drunk me yesterday; jaemin left you in your dorm unable to pick yourself off the floor.” jeno smugly shrugged, his hair black hair was neatly styled, his outfit that he picked that morning neat on his body.. “i feel fine, maybe you should lay off the alcohol.” the boy would've lunged at the boy if he didn't feel like his head was gonna explode. “haechan look you and yn both look like you had a good time last night.”

jeno turned hearing your name, a small smile on his lips, one no one couldn't unless they were looking really close. “fuck off jaemin.” you huffed sitting down. “except yn looks like that all the time.” haechan said, yelling as you began bang on the metal table. “how's that headache? huh you asshole.” jeno held his hand out , stopping you. “you'll hurt yourself.”

he moved his hand away from you; that didn't really help your rapidly beating heart. along with the stress of school and your everyday life; jeno lee was another thing that raced throughout your already cluttered mind; he sometimes was the only thing that could calm your messy mind— not like he noticed or anything.

“she’ll hurt herself— she hurt me!” haechan cried out. “my head.” holding his head in his hands. “jimin hold me.” you all watched karina fight the whining boy off, you laughter making jeno smile slightly, only stopping when jaemin caught him; wiggling his eyebrows at the boy, jaemin was the only one who knew about his crush on the girl.

“you should ask her out.” jaemin said one day out of the blue. “yn, you should ask her out.” jeno was shocked; he thought he did a good job hiding his infatuation with you. “haechan isn't all the way there and renjun could care less, so of course they don't notice, but bro i'm your best friend , and i can tell , and you don't really hide , you literally write the notes down so she can study.” ever since that day, jaemin never let him live it down.

“yn you have a class soon.” jeno turned to you as you looked down at your phone. “oh yeah i better go.” you shot up. “my professor is gonna kill me if im late again.” you collected your things. “jeno don't you have this class too?” renjun asked, he nodded; calmly getting up, saying goodbye to everyone, before walking away; but walking slowly so you'd be able to catch up to him.

you both made it to the class, you found your seat in the back; jeno took a seat in the front like always, occasionally looking back to check on you— he felt bad, watching you stress out all the time, you could never seem to get anything right in your eyes; but in his eyes you were perfect.

“yn.” your professor stopped you as you were leaving out the door. “yes?” you stopped. “your research paper.” she started. “is there something wrong with it?” you sighed, she didn't have to say anything, but you knew. “listen what if i give you an extra day or two, go over it; read my notes and try again.” she said, you nodded. “thank you ma'am.” you turned walking out of the class, where jeno was waiting. “oh jeno you're still here?”

while waiting for you, jeno overheard your conversation with the professor. “yeah, everything okay?” you nodded. “just need to go home and get my head together so i can get this essay right this time.” he walked silently next to you, before he spoke up. “i can help you.” he said. “go over the essay with you.”

“y-you don't have to, it's all word vomit i don't want to put you through that.” he waved you off. “i don't mind it.” you were about to reject him again when he grabbed your arm, stopping you. “let me help you.” your eyes widened at the sudden touch. “sorry.” he said, removing his hand. “it-its okay.” you said, heart racing. “i can come over to your apartment and go over it with you.” he said. “and it won't be a problem?” he shook your head. “you'll never be a problem, okay?” you nodded. “o-okay.”

“come on let's go.”

it had been so long since you had anyone over besides karina and she was used to your madness; but it had been even longer since you had a cute guy over, and you weren't really planning on having one over— otherwise you would have cleaned your room. “it's a little messy.”

“it's okay, it's just clothes.” he smiled watching you frantically pick up the clothes, shoving them in your closet. “sit.” you pointed to your bed. “please, make yourself comfortable.” you said. “um …” you turned to jeno, your face losing all color— he was holding your bra in his hand. “did you forget something?”

you practically lunged at the boy to grab the item, throwing it into your closet. “let's get started.” you said; he smiled watching you go through your bag to pull out your laptop. “here.” you opened it, pulling up the essay. he took the laptop from your hands, your fingertips touching. “let's see, it can't be that bad.”

it was bad; but jeno didn't let you know that— well he tried. “um, okay.” he said, you frowned. “it's bad isn't it?” he sighed, reading through the essay, looking at you; your eyes were desperate. “i can help you fix it.” he said, you sighed. “it's useless.” taking away the laptop. “if only i can get my brain to stop just for a second , my essays won't be so shit.”

you hated this; your brain wouldn't stop, it was overwhelming. “hey.” jeno called your name, you bit at your nails in stress. “hey.” he stopped you, holding your hands down. “calm down , i told you i'll help you wouldn't i?” he said. “i’ve seen worse essays trust me, jaemin will plagiarize if i let him.” he laughed. “i can help you fix this, but you have to calm down first.” your eyes traveled to where your hands met. “you're so cute but you're a hot mess.”

“me-me? cute.” he chuckled; but you were freaking out inside and out, he shook his head, pushing his glasses up his nose bridge. “let's finish this okay?” you nodded. “o-okay.”

after going over the mess of a essay; reading the notes the teacher gave you and jeno talking you through it; you finally put together an essay that was at least readable and would satisfy your professor. “thank you so much jeno, you saved my life.” you smiled. “it was all you, you'll do good if you just turn that pretty little head off and learn to breathe.”

“that's easy for you to say, your life is so put together.” you said. “i can barely get out of bed on time, it's like you said im a hot mess.”

“you don't want to hear my problems.” you said. “the essay is done and you probably have things to do, you can … mph” before you could get the rest out; jenos lips were on yours in feverish kiss, pulling away to give you enough air before his lips were on yours again.

he pulled away again, ready to kiss you again, but you held his chest signaling him to stop immediately. “did i make you uncomfortable?” he said. “no-no.” you said flustered. “just, it happened so fast, and now my head and my heart is racing.” you were rambling on and on and it made jeno want to kiss you again, you were so cute. “then just turn that pretty head off and let me help you.” he looked at you with so much want in his eyes. “okay?”

you nodded, he held the side of your face, pulling you into another kiss; his lips swiping across your bottom lip, sticking his tongue in your mouth , his grip on your waist, lifting your shirt. “lifting your arms for me pretty.” he took your shirt off , throwing it to the floor. “he-hey just because i use my floor as a hamper doesn't mean you do.”

he laughed, “i'll be sure to fold your clothes neatly the next time i fuck you.” he pulled your pants down, leaving you in your mismatched bra and panties. “baby you really are a hot mess aren't you.” he kissed your stomach once he laid you on your back. “i like that.” he reached for your waistband, pulling them down your leg. “keep them open pretty baby.” he kissed the sides of your thighs. “such a pretty little pussy.”

you felt the warmth of his lips as he kissed your cunt. “j-jeno.” it had been a while since you've felt anything like this, and lord was jeno good at what he was doing , licking your folds , his nose brushing up against your clit, for the first time in a very long time; there was only one thing on your mind— it was jeno.

“fuck jeno!” you moaned, gripping his dark locks. “im… im gonna cum.” you whined feeling him removing his lips for your clit , one of his fingers invading your hole. “you gonna cum for me?” you nodded, he groaned , his cock hard; he was ready to fuck you. “y-yes.” you gasped. “pl-please let me cum.”

“shit.” he cursed, adding another finger, curling them inside you. “so tight baby, go ahead and let go for me, make a mess all over my fingers for me.” you gasped out his name , moaning as you came. “good fucking girl.” he fingered you through your orgasm, until you were holding his wrist , grinding against it. “je-jeno.” he no longer looked put together; his hair messy, clothes disheveled— even his brain was running a mile a minute, he finally knew what it was always like in your head. “you look so pretty when you are cumming.”

ridding himself of his clothes; folding your legs in half, giving him a view of your cunt. “pretty little pussy, want me to stuff my fat cock inside?” slotting his cock in between your folds; moving his hips, the tip of his cock catching your clit , both of you moaning. “pl-please fuck me.” you begged. “shh , baby i got you.”

positioning his leaky tip at your entrance, slipping inside. “fuck.” he sighed, your cunt sucking him in. “so tight.” he gasped as he fully bottomed out. “je-jeno you're so big.” you moaned out; his hand coming up to your throat. “yeah, you like my cock stretching your tiny pussy?” he hissed as you tightened around him, your eyes crossed as he plowed into you. “did i fuck you're pretty head empty?” he questioned, a moan following. “had so much fuck so much going on inside it , now it's nothing but my cock.”

he tightened his grip around your throat; speeding up his thrust. “de-deeper jeno, fuck!” the desperation in your voice , you needed to feel him; the deeper he went , the tighter his hand wrapped around your throat— the less you thought about anything, all your troubles floated away. “je-jeno im gonna cum.”

“yeah?” he speed up, cursing as he chased his orgasm. “hold it just a little baby, fuck , wanna cum with you.” his forehead was pressed against his. “i-i can't , jeno im gonna cum.” you gasped , your fingernails digging into his arms. “ugh , fuck!” he cursed , rubbing your clit. “fuck i'm gonna cum , cum for me pretty baby.”

he made direct eye contact with you as you came , cunt gripping him like a vice. “shit!” he pulled out , roughly stroking his cock as he came, his warm seed splashing on your stomach. “fuck fuck fuck.” he squeezed his base , milking himself, groaning. “shit.”

“you want another?” he toyed with your clit. “your little clit is still desperate for my attention.” you moaned , his finger filling you up. “je-jeno.” your glazed over eyes. “your pretty little mind is floating somewhere else isn't it?” he chuckled. “fucked you too dumb?” you gasped , moving your hips, grinding against his hand. “go ahead, cum for me again, pretty.”

you felt like you were floating; mind empty as you came down from second high. “come back to me, pretty girl.” he coached you back down , a smile on his face. “good girl.” he removed his fingers from your cunt. “you did so good for me.”

“something on your mind?” jeno asked as he watched you pick at your nail beds for five minutes. “there's always something on my mind.” you laughed , about to bite your nails , he grabbed your hand, holding your hand down , rubbing your knuckles. “not when you're occupied.” he smirked , you slapped his naked chest. “it's not that.” you said. “it's you.” he tilted his head. “what do you mean?” you shrugged. “you can tell me.” he said, you sighed.

“when you're around you help me not think, you calm me.” you confessed. “so what you're saying you're a hot mess without me?” you pouted. “why are you making fun of me?” you whined , he laughed , wrapping his arms around your body. “thats fine with me.” he kissed your forehead. “you're a hot mess.”

“but you're my hot mess.”

©LUVYENI

[homeworkplanner]

Never Use Slang Language In Front Of Children

Always try to bear in mind that positive feedback can easily inflate the functional skills of children. For children who are suffering from ADHD symptoms, it's quite normal to feel that they can't do anything perfectly. In that case, negative words can hurt their ego, and they may react more aggressively. In ADHD parenting tips say's that all parents need to be more careful about their worries or concern.

[sout999]

adhd talk

the third truly unsung project alongside my film and dissertation was the weird amount of targeted effort i had to put into Completing Anything Big As A Neurodivergent Person Whose Brain Is A Crazy Off The Rails Train Staffed and Patronised Entirely By Multiple Exact Copies Of The Squirrel From Ice Age

which is a description like 99/100 people reading this can relate to, but i think a sentiment i see less often and therefore feel kind of stupid and stubborn and lonesome about is "adhd is innate but is also exasperated by hectic lifestyle/modern instant gratification machines so if i fix my habits around those i can cure myself forever". which is silly and wrong but also i feel abit disconnected from adhd social media culture and cant cope just relating to it (which is all it seems to be sometimes) but learning to harness or tame it to do the things that are really important to me

i felt really cringe tbh having to look up youtube videos of HARVARD STUDENT REVEALS PRO STUDY TRICK and then narrowing it down to specifically adhd-focused study videos and keeping a planner and setting aside specific time to study studying and practising anti-academic meltdown journaling techniques and reading fucking atomic habits but i really didn't want to contribute to my abhorrent academic record following me all through undergrad. in fact i wish i had done this sooner but i was not self aware enough to consider the fact

probably the best change i made was severely cutting down or being mindful of social media time, i don't backread my tl anymore and have more moments of awareness when i find myself dumbly scrolling and realize i dont want to be doing this, and then wondering what i actually Do want to be doing. i keep a book nearby to read, and have also swapped a lot of social media time to sketching-off-pinterest time. reading about the psychology behind social media apps is also super interesting, although i always feel like a paranoid wacko conspiracy theorist talking about it. stuff like how negativity and judgemental behaviour is good for engagement (and therefore ad revenue), and how if all posts on your tl were interesting you wouldn't be as addicted to social media as you are, therefore microblogging employs a slot machine/gacha system where you "roll" for posts by logging on and hope to get a good one. it's a little full on but the more i think of it as a revolting and evil machine the more incentive i have to do something else with my time ^q^

a harder thing to do was, in the late stages of the project, the real crunch time month, avoid everything that could become a huge hyperfixation, and then eventually even minor distractions or fixations. because i know if i got super obsessed with something i'd just be up posting about it or drawing fanart. i had to bar myself from persona 3 remake and elden ring dlc and all these other shiny new releases, and the mobile games i was playing... i look forward to catching up on them now. i took up reading books a lot more because unfortunately thats just not as exciting. in the last month of film work i stopped listening to music on my computer so i wouldnt get drawing or animation ideas to distract me from film work. as of writing this i havent listened to music in like 40 days guys 😱 at the same time i am the kind of person who needs background noise to work, so i have:

watched novum's four hour hereditary video essay three times

watched novum's seven hour midsomar video essay three times

watched that one five hour bojack horseman retrospective twice

listened to audiobooks of the Britney Spears biography, Jennette McCurdy biography, three Playboy Bunny biographies (i was on some sort of lady bopgraphy kick i guess), and a few fiction books

rewatched all of bojack horseman

started on House MD and got a few seasons in before i finished the project, amazingly the perfect show to look away from bc of all the medical stuff, how many lumbar punctures do you need to show like seriously

honorable mention to the learned skill of communication and being honest and picking your battles and killing your darlings which is a larger part of managing mental illness than i cared to admit but one of the hardest ones because it involved confronting things and making big painful drastic changes and then having to tell the faculty about them. sometimes i'd be stuck on a piece of animation work for weeks/months, then go back and change the underlying idea to one i'm actually passionate about, and do the animation work in one day using newly found magical hyperfocus passion power. it's crazy! but being able to be confident about taking those steps rather than keeping on with what you're "supposed" to do went a long way.

i very much look forward to listening to a music and playing some video games properly now and being pulverized like a small victorian child from the sheer amount of fun i'm having. i'd say it was all worth it and a fun experiment in channeling the magical humours of passion and boredom and i hope it will help me with future projects too. i Am super burnt out though x__ x thanks for reading and for all your support up until now!

[growandrecover]

struggling to get through school?

Hi! I feel like it's been forever since I posted something, but I'm back! Lately, I've been struggling with my ed and school, and both are affecting the other. If you're dealing with the same thing, or something similar, you're not alone. Here are some things that may help :) Also- the first one is kind of related to restrictive eds. If you're experiencing a lack of energy not having to do with your food intake, I suggest that you either see a doctor or mental health professional.

Make sure you're eating enough protein. If you're not eating enough food as it is, you may feel like you can't focus as well, or you simply don't have the energy to study, do your work, or go to school, which is understandable. But please listen to me when I say protein is extremely important. According to Harvard, to calculate how much protein you need in a day, multiply your weight (in pounds) by 0.36. Here is the link to the article, which has a calculator you can use .

If you're worried about your grades, talk to your teachers/professors. Not all professors are the same, but if you're honest with them and spell out what's been going on (as much as you're comfortable with, of course), they may be able to help you, give you an extension, or some advice on their class.

Find study techniques that work for you. Not everyone has the same learning style, and not all methods of studying will work for you. I advise that you first find out what your learning style is if you don't already know. Then, you can research what may work for you as that kind of learner. However, if you have something else going on, that may not be enough. For example, I have adhd and have a hard time getting started with my work and staying motivated. Something like getting a planner, which may work for someone else, just doesn't cut it for me. Instead, I like to use asmr pomodoros and rewards for myself when I finish a certain amount of work, like doing something I've been wanting to do or watching a movie.

If you have trouble asking for help, like I do, I know it can be scary to send an email to your teacher, ask a friend, or even raise your hand in class to ask a question. But trust me, my grades started improving as soon as I did this. I know some of you may be thinking that your teacher will judge you, or your classmates will, but teaching is their job. They want students to ask questions, that's what they're there for. Your classmates could actually be wondering the same thing, they just might be too nervous to ask.

Try your best not to procrastinate. I know, I know. But hear me out. Procrastinating causes last minute stress and most likely isn't your best work. I'm not trying to call you out, because I do this too. But as I've gotten older, and been through years of school, I've learned that I hate the looming feeling of having an assignment due the next day and not having started on it yet. Your grades will be affected by not procrastinating, as you'll have had more time to study, do your work, and go over anything you need.

If you need someone to talk to, or have any questions, please don't be scared to send me a message or an ask, I'm here to help <3

(If I think of anything else, I'll make a part 2)

[brainstreamjournal]

ADHD- Study Tips

Being a college student with ADHD comes with its unique set of challenges. I struggled to study effectively until after my diagnosis, and even now, it's not always smooth sailing. However, I've discovered some strategies that have been real game-changers for me. Here are my top 5 strategies that have made a significant impact on my study routine:

Study buddy magic

Working with someone or just sitting in the same room as a fellow student who is also hitting the books can be surprisingly motivating. There's something about the shared focus that helps me stay on track. If finding a study buddy is challenging, opt for a change of scenery by heading to your school or public library. You don't need to engage in conversation; the mere presence of others working can provide the necessary motivation.

The power of good headphones

A few months ago, I invested in a pair of quality noise-canceling headphones, and let me tell you, they've been a game-changer! Plugging into some instrumental music creates a focused bubble, shutting out distractions and helping me concentrate.

Structure your study environment

Establishing a dedicated study space is crucial. Make sure it's quiet, well-organized, and free from distractions. Consistency in your study environment can significantly enhance your focus.

Planner perfection

Yes, the age-old advice of getting a planner holds true, but finding the right one for you is key. After experimenting with various planners, I stumbled upon my current favorite: a simple notebook that I've structured to fit my needs. It's a testament to the fact that personalization is key.

Embrace your unique brain

Acceptance is a powerful tool. In the early days of my academic journey, I tried to fit into the mold of "normal" studying. Accepting that my brain works differently was a turning point. Embrace your quirks, whether it's getting easily distracted, fidgeting, or moving around. Accepting yourself and providing what you need is not a weakness; it's a beautiful strength.

Remember, studying with ADHD is a journey, and finding what works for you is a process of self-discovery. These strategies have made a significant impact on my study routine, and I hope they prove helpful for others navigating similar challenges.

[amrago]

1. A woman works as a penetration tester for a big company. She also sells malware on the side and a secret service informer, so she can buy a passport and leave the dystopian country she lives in. She is actually dating her handler. One day she gets run over by a random and someone that's not her family signed her up to be technologically enchanted and a lot of her body is replaced. Her boyfriend ends up getting killed. She becomes more and more evil as she goes through everything else and deciding if taking the country back to the middle ages is a good enough punishment

Themes: women's rage, becoming the villain, loss.

2. A 15 year old girl with some unknown magic powers and raging ADHD gets enrolled in a "magic university" with a drunk as a headmistress (that's also too young to have her job). She has to live there for 5 years in seclusion with the other students in order to graduate. It has a library where "going in with a rope is highly recommended" and in her school planner everything is already written for the next five years.

Except magic is not what she thinks it is. It requires a computer... And extensive coding classes. She can't leave. But maybe she still can fulfill her dream of being a top football player.

[theprocrastinationwar]

ADVICE FOR FIRST DAY OF NURSING SCHOOL (or any school)

(From an ADHD student)

1. Print out and read your syllabi before class

2. Add any tests, quizzes, hw assignments to your planner, calendar or phone

3. At least skim the required reading before class

4. Print off your PowerPoints or write up an outline so you can annotate in class

Good luck everyone!!! You’ve got this!!

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

So, I'm about to havemy second year of high school. I'm nervous about the thought of going to school. Can you please help me?

Hi there,

I found some sources that might help:

Make a Four Year Plan

Short Term Goals

Long Term Goals

Create a List of Extracurriculars

Get to Know the Campus/school

Get to Know Your Classmates

Buy Your School Supplies

Don’t Forget a Planner

Use a Backpack Built for Heavy Books

Brush Up on School Subjects

The article will be below if you’d like to read it:

I found these tips on ADDitude:

Bring order (and color!) to your notes.

Review early and often.

Multitask — quietly.

Break down complex assignments.

Follow your interests.

Master test-taking.

When in doubt, seek help.

The full article will be below if you’d like to read more.

I hope these sources help. Thank you for the inbox. I hope you have a wonderful day/night. ♥️

[music-for-them-asses]

Any tips for surviving college?

It's taken me a few days, but I think I got all my thoughts together! I'm sorry if this runs kind of long--there's a lot I wish I had known before going to college!

Academically, my biggest tip is to get to know your professors. Go to their office hours if you need help with a paper or test. Hell, I went to talk to some of mine for fun. It shows you care, and they can help you with whatever you need for your paper/test/project.

Rent or pirate your damn textbooks, do not pay those vultures a single dime if you can help it. My library had a lot of my textbooks, so I was able to check them out for free.

It's OK to not finish in four years. Take your time if you can. I barely know anyone who graduated in the standard four year time.

That being said, if you can get out early, get out early! Take classes at a community college during the summers. I tested out of English with AP in high school and took dual credit courses as well.

Get a planner. I lived and died by my planners (undiagnosed ADHD at the time, yay!!!)

STUDY ABROAD IF YOU'RE ABLE!!! My biggest regret is not getting to study abroad.

Socially:

It's no secret that I struggled socially because I had an undiagnosed social phobia. However, I did pick up a few things. Like: If you're staying in the dorm, they will put on lots of events to bring residents together. It's a good way to meet people! Even if you go and stand like a bump on a log, chances are someone will talk to you.

If you're staying in a dorm, get to know your RA. They're your greatest ally against any assholes living in your dorm. If someone's music is too loud, they'll be the bad guy and make them turn it down. Also, they have good insight into college as well!

If you go to any parties, always go with a friend. Don't leave drinks unattended, and don't let others get you a drink that's been opened. Parties are fun but you still should be safe.

Also, my biggest tip in general is to see if your school offers counseling for students. They can't prescribe medication, but that's when I started going to therapy, and I wish I had started sooner.

If you decide college isn't for you and you drop out, just know that I'm super proud of you for trying. I also know a lot of people who did not finish their degrees, but they're still doing something with themselves and their lives.

I hope this helps! College was fun, but it wasn't my high point of my life. Don't let anyone tell you it is, because that's a long way down to go afterwards.

[lucysweatslove]

After spending THREE YEARS and thousands on trying to get an ADHD diagnosis / attempting to treat the primary inattentive symptoms behaviorally, I finally got the neuropsych report and and I….

Still do not have a fucking diagnosis.

Basically the report was all “markedly atypical CAARS, meets 8/9 DSM-V criteria for ADHD primarily inattentive subtype, but the WAIS we administered was invalid so we can only give a provisional diagnosis and suggest additional testing from [organization I was trying to avoid].”

I’m so fucking frustrated. The rest of the recommendations were all things I’ve been doing- chunking for memory, CBT, using phone alarms and planners. I have no idea if the “provisional” diagnosis is enough for my psych np to say yes let’s treat it with something actually effective. And I TOLD them before they even did the fucking wais that I had done it before and it wasn’t valid. Jdkspfpajciaodkxpap.

Me in intake paperwork: “I’ve done a battery of all kinds of psychological testing in bits and pieces as a Guinea pig for my mom’s students as she teaches assessment courses, including IQ tests- WPPSI, WISC, and WAIS.”

Neuropsych: “okay cool my psychometrist is gonna do the wais.”

Me, to the psychometrist: “full disclosure, I’ve done these tests before.

Psychometrist: “okay, I still have to repeat the instructions”

Neuropsych to me a month later: “Did you do the WAIS before?”

Me: “… yes like I said, I’ve done bits and pieces of the WAIS here and there.”

Neuropsych: “well we can’t give a real diagnosis because the WAIS is invalid.”

THIS COST THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS AND EVEN WITH AMAZING INSURANCE I PAID $360. FOR NOTHING.

This has been a not great week and adding this onto it, idk what I feel exactly other than just frustration and hopelessness.

[uncloseted]

Do you have any advice for being a better student in college? This is my first semester at a new school and I feel bad because I didn't do good. I didn't fail but I didn't get the grades I wanted and I feel like I wasted all my time and I'll never get those opportunities back, and it makes me depressed. I want to do better next semester

I think that really depends on why you were struggling in your first semester. What do you feel like you were wasting your time on that wasn't your classes? Is there a way to find a happy medium between the things you were distracted by and the work that you want to get done? Is it that the classes you were taking weren't interesting to you or that they're subjects that you're not naturally good at? Are there subjects that might be easier or more interesting for you? Are you struggling with a learning disability or mental health issue that's making it difficult for you to do well in your classes, and, if so, are there accommodations that your school could provide to even the playing field for you? Were you just struggling to adjust to a new environment and a new way of learning? There are a million reasons why your first semester might have gone badly, and until you know why it was hard, it will be difficult to figure out how to fix it.

All that said, there are some things that I think are generally good ideas to make college easier:

At the beginning of each semester, look at the syllabus for the class. Notice which areas of the class are the most important (homework, exams, participation), and make sure you're putting your effort into whichever area is the bulk of your grade. Sometimes it's worth knowing which areas of a class you can skimp on and still get a good grade.

Look at the syllabus for the class and put any key assignments into your phone's schedule or a physical planner. Figure out when you're going to start each assignment and put those in your schedule or planner as well. I know every professor tells you to do this and nobody ever does, but doing a little bit of work on an assignment every day really is way easier than doing the entire thing in one go the night before. (I say this, but this could never be me. My ADHD brain has never started anything in advance ever in my life).

Go to class. I know it's really easy to skip classes because you feel like doing something else (and that's fine once in a while), but a lot of the time, just showing up will help you understand enough of the material that you're not lost when you start studying or working on an assignment.

Similarly, skim the readings. You don't have to read them all- there's usually just not enough time for that- but getting a general idea of what the point is makes a big difference when those readings are discussed in class and on your overall grasp of the topics. I think there are also some websites/apps that will summarize the reading for you and pull out the big ideas if you're short on time. Simple English Wikipedia and the r/explainlikeimfive subreddit are also great resources for easy to understand explanations of simple topics.

See if your school has on-campus tutors. The tutors are usually free, and it's way easier to learn in a one-on-one environment than it is to learn in a big lecture hall. Plus, the tutors will help to make sure your work is getting done on time.

Similarly, go to office hours. Pretty much nobody ever goes, and so they're a really good time to talk to your professor one-on-one and get them to clarify anything you're struggling with. Plus, in my experience, professors bump up the grades of students who they like and who are engaged in their class.

In terms of how to actually study, this article from UNC Chapel Hill is a really good resource, and I would highly recommend checking it out.

On a larger scale, I think it's important to remember that for the most part, your college grades don't really matter. If you want to apply to graduate school or a very competitive job, your GPA might be relevant, but in general, the adage that "Cs get degrees" is true. A lot of the time, getting a job has more to do with internships and networking than it does with your grades or which school you went to. That's not to say that you shouldn't study hard or that grades aren't important, but just to say that not doing well in college isn't going to ruin the rest of your life, even if you never get the grades that you want. It's okay to cut yourself a little slack if you need it. Figuring out how to learn, how to manage tasks, and how to be an adult is a part of college that's as important as the actual grades you get.

[fanboo]

Party Planners

Karl Jacobs

(I just checked my poll, he got the least amount of votes, therefore I’m writing him. Because ultimately I am the God of this operation and you can’t stop me!! Muahahahahaha)

Parent AU

There was nothing you hated more than the elementary school pickup line. The school itself was fine, but god that fucking line. It was worth it, though, because every day you saw your son’s teacher, Mr. Jacobs. And obviously your son, but you had a huge crush on his teacher. It was protocol for parents to get out and grab their kids (safety reasons) so you and him would chat every time you got Tommy.

Today was no different, so once you finally got a parking spot, you walked over to grab your son. “Hi Tommy!” You called as you got closer. He looked up, eyes puffy from crying, and ran to you. You dropped down to catch him. “Oh no, baby, what’s wrong?” You asked, picking him up. His teacher stepped forward. “Tubbo told him they’d be moving soon,” Mr. Jacobs said. He reached out to pay the child’s shoulder. “Schlatt has a job opportunity that he told me will help him take better care of Tubbo. I forgot about that,” you said softly.

Karl looked sad. You could tell he would miss his student. So would you, as you and Schlatt were great friends, not to mention your children. “We should throw them a going away party,” you said, hoping to get Tommy’s attention. He looked up. “You love parties, don’t you?” You asked your son. He nodded, making Karl laugh. “That’s a great plan. I’ll talk to Tubbo’s father about it. You’ve got my number, I believe, so I’ll text you if he’s okay with it.” You nodded. “Well, I better go. Ready Tommy?” He nodded again, and waved at his teacher. “Bye Tommy! Bye, Y/N. Pleasure to talk to you again! Have a great day.”

As you were buckling Tommy’s seatbelt, he watched you. “Do you like mister Jacobs?” He asked. The question had you taken aback. “Excuse me?” You stuttered. Tommy shrugged. “I think he likes you. You should kiss him.” You laughed. “That’s not quite how that works, kiddo. C’mon, let’s go home.”

Hours later, after you had Tommy tucked into bed, you got the text from Karl saying you had the okay from Schlatt. The three of you would be the only ones in on it (besides Tommy, who promised not to tell) to make sure Tubbo didn’t find out.

When the party finally came, you went in with Tommy. The room was decorated by yourself and Karl the night before. As you’d decorated, the two of you talked about life. How Karl loved kids but had none of his own, how Tommy’s other parent had left you a month after he was born, how he tried his best despite his ADHD. It was nice.

“Y/N! Everyone, say hi to Y/N,” Karl greeted as you entered. “Hi guys! I’m Tommy’s parent.” Everyone rushed to greet you, so Karl helped calm them down. As he explained to them why the room was decorated, you watched him. He looked so at home surrounded by the kids. This was definitely his dream job. “Me, Y/N, and Schlatt decided to give Tubbo a going away party.” Schlatt was near the snack table, gently instructing Tubbo on how to tie his shoe. Upon hearing his name, he rose and waved. “Hey ya little gremlins.”

The party went great, all the students were playing, chatting or snacking to their hearts content. It lasted all day, so when the final bell rang, you stayed behind to help clean up. You were arranging Tommy’s ride home with Schlatt when Tubbo tugged on your hand. “Hey bud. What’s up?” You asked, picking him up. “Thank you,” he said quietly, hugging your neck. You kissed his forehead. “Hey. You’re like a second son to me. Anytime. Tommy’s gonna spend the night tonight, your dad said it was okay. Here, Schlatt.” You handed him his child and let Tommy know the plan. Obviously he was ecstatic. “Bye guys! Be good for Schlatt, Tommy.” He nodded, then they were gone.

Once it was just you and Karl, he put on some music and the two of you started to clean. It took a few hours; you were famished by the time you were done. Karl must’ve heard your stomach growl, because he smiled at you. “Hungry?” He laughed. You blushed and nodded. “We should go get dinner. I’ll pay,” he offered. “Mister Jacobs, are you asking me on a date? Scandalous,” you teased. The two of you laughed. “Maybe I am. And please, call me Karl.”

“Okay Karl. Sure. And thank you.” He smiled at you. “Anytime, Y/N.”