#and it's frustrating

[cosmicredcadet]

I'm an "AroAce Stereotype" I'm Romance averse/Repulsed> I'm Sex repulsed I'm non-partnering I hate the idea of marriage in all forms I don't want a QPR at all I'm loveless I'm someone who gets uncomfortable at sexual talk and sex jokes I'm someone who often has innuendos or sexual concept fly over my head. I'm someone who can't tell when someone is flirting with me I'm someone who can't pick up on romantic or sexual tension I'm someone who finds "shipping" to be annoying I'm someone who says "They just seem like friends to me" I'm someone who believed that attraction could be turned on or off I'm someone who can't make sense of romance at all and cant figure out what makes it different from every other relationship. I'm someone who thinks romance is stupid and sex is gross and I don't understand the big deal everyone makes about it I'm someone who never was upset to find out I was AroAce but rather relieved as I have a genuine fear of being stuck in a romantic relationship that i do not want. In all cases I am not an AroAce who can be considered "normal" by the standards of allo society.

I'm not just a stereotype for you to shit on. I'm not the reason aphobes are aphobic I'm not a problem that you need to erase and refute to be accepted by allos. I'm not an experience that you and ignore as "not really how aspec people are" just because You are not part of it. Stop leaving us behind. Stop throwing us under the bus. We deserve support too. We deserve to not be demonized and shunned because we're an "stereotype". We are not the problem. We are not a problem to be fixed. start fighting aphobes on their logic instead of trying to make up for our existence.

[youngroyals-stuff]

[harryinramshackle]

There is SOMETHING that I have that is definetly undiagnosed I just do not know what yet

[rainbow-arrow]

me: oh no, i've got my anxiety under control, it's v manageable at this point,

me writing tags on posts i make for the miraculous ladybug tag: this is a joke!!! i understand the nuance of her actions and how it's actually much more complicated, her reaction is so valid and i personally wouldn't know what to do, i swear this isn't salt i'm just making a silly little haha!!! please!!! not every joke is salt i promise i do enjoy the show and--

[xiincun]

i think i'm going to revamp jing yuan onto another blog and start fresh with him.... idk i want to write him but his muse is so fickle i feel bad when i don't have the energy to make him work with me

[eleminim]

You know, just pass...

[lookthetart]

I need subliminals to listen to before going to sleep that say stuff like "I don't give a shit about my bf. I give 0 fucks. What he does doesn't concern me anymore. I only focus on myself"

[theroundbartable]

Sometimes I question whether or not I'm ace, and then my friends tries to explain a series to me and refers to this character as "the one with the sexy eyes" and my brain short cirquits, because wtf is that supposed to mean?

Like... It's eyes. What?

Her: but they are brighter than that of the other guy.

Me: ...

Her: you'll know when you see it.

Me: *watches two seasons of the series* how tf did she even see the eye colors? *Zooms in* ...

Me: i don't know what I expected.

[pianoisnotfortheweakofheart]

Hey, do you ever think about that one song you spent years learning, and could once play with your eyes closed, and now you can't even remember how it starts?

[normal-with-adhd-is-a-joke]

the knowledge that having a routine of regularly visiting places is the only way to naturally make friends vs the terror of being a wheelchair user who is a visibly queer woman and knowing that having a routine makes you more vulnerable to being attacked.

[elbiotipo]

I think one big reason why we don't consider the stars as important as before (not even pop-astrology anymore cares about the stars or the sky on itself, just the signs deprived of context) is because of light pollution.

For most of human history the sky looked between 1-3, 4 at most. And then all of a sudden with electrification it was gone (I'm lucky if I get 6 in my small city). The first time I saw the Milky Way fully as a kid was a spiritual experience, I was almost scared on how BRIGHT it was, it felt like someone was looking back at me. You don't get that at all with modern light pollution.

When most people talk about stargazing nowadays they think about watching about a couple of bright dots. The stars are really, really not like that. The unpolluted night sky is a festival of fireworks. There is nothing like it.

[a-random-fandom-friend]

Because of Re: Carmilla, I thought you all would enjoy my edition of Carmilla :

The holes go all the way through, the sides of the book are red, and on some pages the text is colored red just under the holes !

I was so happy when I found it in a little french bookshop specialized in queer texts ❤️

[kiwi]

as a former escape room host i highly recommend doing an escape room as a first date. its a great way to learn how ppl react under pressure and how well they collaborate with you right off the bat. also more than once ive seen people enter an escape room as a couple and exit broken up LOL its a fantastic litmus test

[butchfalin]

the funniest meltdown ive ever had was in college when i got so overstimulated that i could Not speak, including over text. one of my friends was trying to talk me through it but i was solely using emojis because they were easier than trying to come up with words so he started using primarily emojis as well just to make things feel balanced. this was not the Most effective strategy... until. he tried to ask me "you okay?" but the way he chose to do that was by sending "👉🏼👌🏼❓" and i was so shocked by suddenly being asked if i was dtf that i was like WHAT???? WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY TO ME?????????? and thus was verbal again

[hinamie]

newest issue of first years fashion just dropped