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#and my partner for being patient
ffive-by-fivee · 2 years
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I miss London and I miss Paris and I miss LA and I miss Denver and I miss my new friends and I miss my grandpa and I miss my girl and I miss my best friend and I miss my other best friend and I miss being on a plane and I miss my band and I miss not having arthritis and I miss my old coworkers and I miss wn and I miss that feeling in my chest when I experience something beautiful for the first time and I miss
#SO many good and exciting things and beautiful trips coming up but going down memory lane rn#sometimes planning so many things at once can be overwhelming so I have to take a step back#like I am literally planning my dream trip rn and as exciting as it is#planning 14 days is taxing and I just want to be there already#also been itching for a major life change that allots me more flexibility and I might actually pull the trigger in the next like……18 months#idk we'll see#like I didn’t think I’d live this long so I’ve just been winging it#but I think I know what I want my life to look like now#or more so the feeling I know I want to feel#and I know the steps to get there#so now it’s just a matter of making it happen#shoutout to my therapist for teaching me that grief doesn’t shrink but that instead we grow around it#and my friends for holding my hand#and my partner for being patient#the world is massive and there’s so much to discover and to live for#and there’s love everywhere#and sometimes you have to admit to yourself that the way you love means that you will never let things go entirely#but carry them with you into the beautiful new phases of your life#and appreciate them for what they were but not allow them a seat at your present table#we can’t change what is#only what will be#this was my long winded way of saying that loss sucks but there’s a whole world out there#go see it#let it change you#and maybe things will come full circle in the end#I hope you’re well
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ropebuny · 29 days
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I just want someone who will not leave when things get difficult
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deoidesign · 4 months
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something that makes me sad is when people tell me the healthy communication in my writing is "unrealistic."
like guys this is how me and my partner talk with eachother... I'm writing from personal experience...
#like it's sad both on the front of 'dehumanizing my real life'#but also on the front of 'you deserve to have healthy communication in your life'#like if you think this is unrealistic it means more than likely you havent experienced someone being patient and understanding with you#and that makes me very very sad#I'm sorry#also it's just rude to tell me my writing is unrealistic LOL like hey#real people talk all kinds of ways. shut up#I've been told it's also in part cause they always understand their own feelings when theyre talking#but I'm like...#theyre like mid 30-early 40 and theyre immortal and theyre going through a lot of shit#I feel like theyve thought about it a lot#also the comic takes place over the course of a year so far#we're seeing the big moments and the fun mysteries#so#its about grown men who love eachother#sorry that they think about what they want to say before they say it#also as if adam isnt constantly wrong and steve isnt constantly pushing shit down#he's only JUST RECENTLY starting to share his emotions as they come up#instead of pretending theyre not there and letting things boil over#I think people just THINK theyre communicating way too clearly because their partner#who loves them#is listening and responding with kindness#like..#idk I have a lot of thoughts about this#would LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE for this to spark a discussion#and especially for it to cause people to reread a little more critically#and perhaps even introspect on their own ideas of communication standards#I've been with my partner for 10 years. this is how we talk to eachother
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daily-hanamura · 10 months
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captain-lovelace · 9 days
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Protect the innocent. Lead the guilty to the wolf.
Aren’t you hungry still?
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luedelouartandwriting · 3 months
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i've been burnt out and unable to draw for basically the last two years, but i wanna try and pull myself out of it. so here is a teeny kabumisu for pride month.
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lungfuls · 17 days
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Maybe I'm projecting and being hopeful but I mentioned to M that I don't even get to shit by myself in peace lmao and I feel like something clicked for him. Bc I was like hey, at least you get private bathroom breaks at work (noncombative). And since then he's been a lot more acquiescent when I ask if I can nap and stuff
#he's never rly said no he just used to be like 'well whaf if i want to nap' like in the early parenting days#which evolved into 'yeah i guess'-type responses#lately he's more like 'yeah!' like his tone is less. whatever it was before#same with any requests i make in general like if he'll put e down for bed and stuff#idk my weird episode epiphany thing i went through last week has me feeling much less patient and self-questioning#it's just a fact that constantly asking myself if i'm being considerate enough of others has done nothing for me#like it hasn't even improved my relationships.. i don't really have any lol#like i'm done biting my tongue bc idk if i've properly considered their perspective.. i end up blowing up at minor things as a result anyway#like it makes me a worse partner fr#i also really feel like i've been putting daggers thru my own spirit by doing this for so long#like i need to stop troubleshooting my existence like 'what if i conform this way' 'what if i conform that way'#here's what if: you will be profoundly unhappy and no one who you love will truly know you#this is such a tangent off what i started talking about but basically i'm done reflexively wondering#every time i feel wronged disrespected etc. if actually i'm the one in the wrong. it really is reflexive#the way m's mom responded to me setting a boundary was a wake up call like apparently she just read into what i was saying too much#so hypothetically it wasn't the boundary she was angry about but how she thought i set it#but like i don't have any time for you if my extremely sincere and straightforward communication isn't good enough for you#like i'm not going to be understanding of your inability to take me at face value we didn't both fuck up. You did#and that's how i'm going to act. like You fucked up. yk
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nerdacious · 8 months
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*rings dinner bell*
Come and get your Chapter 15!
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skiploom · 3 months
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deletreatualma · 18 days
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I've been seeing a lot of A.taylor.jhnsn on my dash. It's got me wanting to add Erebus back.
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theparadoxart · 7 months
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Being patient with her is my love language <3
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noxexistant · 1 year
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now you’re onto something with Tommy Boy stammering 🤌🤌
[i bow to the wildly applauding crowd of two people]
tommy’s stammering is a vicious cycle - he talks less and gets more anxious because of it, which makes it worse, which makes him want to talk even less. he gets incredibly frustrated with himself, and very embarrassed, and then he has these explosive outbursts because he hates his stupid useless tongue and hates himself and hates talking and hates people looking at him like that—
this all leaves him with this reputation of being a loose cannon and erratic and violent, and also not being very bright - none of which is true. really, he’s shy and gentle and empathetic and understanding. he loves to hear other people’s points of view and always puts himself in other people’s shoes when he’s considering any situation. he’ll hear anyone out about anything, especially if other newsies get into an argument or fight, he’ll want to hear every side and really understand the whole situation - and then he’ll try to fix it. he likes people, he wants people to be friends, he just wants everyone to understand each other. he hates how angry he gets when things aren’t working.
his stammer can mean he has a lot of trouble selling papes too, especially on bad days, and other newsies sometimes accuse him of putting it on for sympathy. they’ll tell him to talk proper, and some have hit him in the face like that’ll either make him stop faking or maybe knock something loose and fix him. people he’s trying to sell to will lose patience while he’s trying to force himself through announcing the headline, and he stammers worse when he’s trying to sell a fake one because he gets even more nervous. it’s a big factor in why he scabs during the strike - because he wholeheartedly feels like he’s unwanted and useless among the newsies, and he doesn’t make enough money off his own back to turn down the extra money for scabbing.
when jack does his impassioned speech to each of the scabs to encourage them to step down, tommy tries to ignore him. he doesn’t want to respond, he knows he’ll embarrass himself, but jack is looking at him, holding him by the shoulder, waiting for him, looking at him with that sort of expectant look tommy’s used to when he’s not speaking. and he does stammer as he responds - speaking in front of most of the newsies for the first time, including jack - but jack doesn’t look impatient as tommy fumbles through his sentence, questioning if jack and the rest really want him as part of the strike. he waits for tommy to finish - really waits for him to finish, until tommy’s said every word, even though it takes him a while and more attempts than he can count and jack definitively could’ve interrupted him and just guessed like most people do - and he earnestly tells tommy that he’s one of them. that they want him there. that they’ll look after him better than wiesel and the delanceys ever would.
so tommy throws down his papes. and he starts talking when the other newsies talk to him, even talking when they don’t and he’s just got something he wants to say.
he decides he truly is one of them the day albert tries to interrupt him while he’s stuttering and tommy tells him to shut up and finishes his sentence.
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deoidesign · 5 months
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I love Time and Time Again!! It was genuinely interesting to see two characters talk things out. Of course they kept secrets, but they knew when to reveal them and that made me want to stick around and read it. Thankyou for making such a wonderful comic!!
Thank you so much!!!
This really means a lot to me <3
I think there's generally a tendency to believe that relationships can't be nice in a romance or the story will be boring.
I understand where this idea comes from, stories should have conflict! And, real world relationships have conflict, as well. They always will! It makes sense that most stories centered around relationships would, inevitably, at some point, have disagreements, fights, anger...
I get why others enjoy it, its messy it's fun it's drama! but for me personally it just stresses me out since I've done so much work to NOT be like that!
As a writer, when presented with two people who are reasonably at odds with eachother, where neither of them is in the wrong per se, but someone still ends up hurt... it's a fun challenge to write them working through it in a believable way. it's a fun challenge, too, to put them into situations that feel equal and human.
I just think it's a necessary thing for who I am as a person to write relationships the way I do, and so I'm just very very very glad that other people resonate with it as well!
It means a lot. Thank you.
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viaetor · 10 months
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(๑╥﹏╥)੭ ♡
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sezja · 11 months
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My dentist's receptionist fucking loves me
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cynicalmusings · 6 months
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‘the most crucial skill that a good drinksmith needs is listening… drinksmithing is all about having conversations with your guests’
tea house owner!reader energy for real
#my mind shot straight there when siobhan said this in the hsr event#hey guys#what if i just steal the concept of the event and write a continuation?#the reader does spy on people and accept bribes for jobs blah blah blah#but they also offer free therapy over tea!#(but only if they like the person if course) (everyone else is getting eavesdropped on)#…i started writing this as a joke but hey it could be fun#if i ever write a continuation of that fic i might do something like that#high cloud quintet members coming for therapy after baiheng dies#reader helping couples talk through problems in their relationship calmly#i’m a sucker for characters who are very elusive and sneaky and cold but when it comes to it have a heart of gold#‘yes i will expose your enemy’s business blah blah but hang on let me help this lost child find their parents first’#‘oh you’re not being patient? you think your rivalry is more important than this child? actually you can keep the money and leave thank you#[turning to child] ‘now tell me where you last saw your parents’#and with their connections from the various dealings they’ve had around the xianzhou they’d be really good at dealing with these situations#and with regards to the jing yuan aspect of things i firmly believe he needs somebody with kindness and warmth in them to fall for them#reader can’t all be bribery and dodgy deals#imagining him coming to the shop one day to get some information they’ve gathered or whatever#and they’re like ‘shush not now i’m hearing this girl vent about her shit partner’#or doing something nice#and he falls even harder#sorry i have gone on an absolute tangent here#i don’t know what demon possessed me#maybe i will write a part two who knows#that reader would certainly be a fun one to flesh out#r’s random thoughts
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