#antisocial behaviour

[graveslvr]

im like a small animal who was never socialized properly and now tries to maul its cagemates at every given opportunity

[jackie-and-gecko]

Slightly more serious post than usual:

Please keep your local library staff dear to your hearts because boy howdy, they put up with so much strange shit every day. Inner city libraries are particularly crazy, violence is not uncommon, and abuse is ridiculously regular.

I had lots of antisocial behaviour at my library today (UK based), mostly by white teenage boys, I also got assaulted (minor assault but still). We’re a pretty big main city library, we can’t afford security, and we’re often short staffed.

Only ONE library member stood up for us. Out of about 60 people on the top floor where the problems were, an aging, white, academic man was the only person to assist in calling out the behaviour taking place. Nobody in the shopping centre outside said anything when the trouble moved out the doors. Nobody going in or out of the library said anything as my colleague, myself, and the one shopping centre security guard got numerous, horrible curse words and homophobic slurs thrown at us. Nobody said anything when one of the nasty little boys laid hands on me. And nobody checked on me afterwards, except for that one library member and the other staff/security guy.

Guys, you live in a community, I really can’t stress this enough. Your library is YOURS. It’s your privilege, it’s your right to information, and it’s YOUR responsibility to help take care of it. That includes the staff and your fellow library goers. I’m sure most folk would leap to the defence of a librarian or retail worker who was being harassed, but today I got absolutely zip from a huge number of potential allies.

Public libraries are moving stories, grand stage plays, with different players and parts every single day. They succeed or fail depending on how well the fluid players work with the permanent actors (library staff), but more importantly how well they work with each other. We are all responsible for safety and kindness in our communities. Sure, I choose to be paid minimum wage and go to my job. I choose to work in an environment with volatile, vulnerable people every day. I choose, despite having many qualifications that would net me higher paying private jobs, to be a public servant. But I don’t deserve or choose to be treated like garbage, and I really expect better from my fellow humans.

Nobody will see this but I need to vent and there’s a library tag so 🙃

[damiddalle]

Am I insane or do other people think that Bonnie and Clyde, is the perfect love story?

[feenathe54thbam]

Me every time

[carhatred]

Unsurprisingly, most Americans frown upon antisocial behavior. Stealing people’s stuff, bending food safety rules, or smoking in large crowds tend to generate a lot of stern reactions.

But get behind the wheel of a car, and all that disapproval tends to melt away.

That’s because a lot of us suffer from a malady called “car brain” — though Ian Walker, a professor of environmental psychology at Swansea University in Wales, prefers to call it “motonormativity.” This is the term coined by Walker and his team to describe the “cultural inability to think objectively and dispassionately” about how we use cars.

[distinguishedtyrantangel]

The feminine urge to experience the love in books but also never go out

[adj4mp]

Antisocial Behaviour

The first meeting of the week was on antisocial behaviour.

Often there's a disconnect between people being malicious with their actions and just living their lives in a way that has unintentional impacts on other people.

I understand that both can have a significant impact on the ways we live and enjoy our own spaces and managing cases can be tricky.

Social landlords have some responsibility for handling cases of ASB that involve their tenants.

This is an issue that has a huge impact on lots of people. I cannot delve into the specifics of the meeting due to confidentiality agreements I've signed but I'm confident the changes to processes discussed today will be seen sometime next year.

[chriswhodrawsstuff]

What is the cost of your fun?

I am going to be a prisoner in my own home for the next two day. There is no nicer was of putting it. Every May bank holiday this town descends into absolute chaos with a Whicker Man-esque pagan festival and (and this is my utter nemesis ) tens of thousands of motorbikers who circle the town and bomb up and down the seafront for days on end. If I walked down the road and punched everyone that…

[dylankerraddictiontherapy]

Antisocial Aspects of Ex-pats in Thailand, 2023 re-visited

Having spent an extensive period living amongst expat communities in Thailand, I’ve observed a fascinating yet intricate social dynamic. Over time, I’ve come to notice that these communities often exhibit a higher prevalence of antisocial behavior, Machiavellianism, and even psychopathic traits compared to their home countries. This observation is particularly pronounced in expat forums and…

[petnews2day]

Community Action Team tackling rural crime across the Borders

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Community Action Team tackling rural crime across the Borders

Published: Monday, 3rd April 2023 Key issues including rural acquisitive crime, drugs, antisocial behaviour and speeding continue to be the main focus of attention from the Scottish Borders Community Action Team (CAT). Further cross-border action involving multiple police forces is taking place this month to prevent and detect rural crime, particularly thefts of equipment. There […]

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[invye]

So my friend has me watching One Piece again which means I am back on my Mihawk brainrot--

Therefore let me introduce you to the list of hobbies I headcannon Mihawk to practice when he's sailing from A to B or taking a bit of time off in his goth castle:

cooking

reading

gardening

embroidery

wood carving

soap making

Extensive and rambly collection of thoughts on all of these under the cut:

Cooking

Reading

My man lives alone, of course he can cook. And he enjoys it. He is the type who technically can eat anything and everything no matter the taste as long as it gives him the nutrition he needs, but ever since he started cooking more regularly he's caught himself getting more picky about the quality and taste of his food. This becomes a problem when his unbidden guests (read: Perona dragging Zoro along) decide to help with the cooking duties... Mihawk has to go through a unexpectedly difficult phase of adapting to liking food that he hasn't made himself exactly fitting to his own taste again.

(Also Zoro on vegetable cutting duty leaves a Mess™. Mihawk makes him scrub the entire kitchen back to his standards after the first time, and while Zoro at first only marginally improves on the not making a mess part, he significantly improves on the cleaning the mess part. [Mihawk's standards for a clean kitchen are exactly as high as Sanji's, a fact which serves Zoro well after his return.])

Gardening

Mihawk enjoys his books. Nothing like a nice evening of quiet reading with a good glass of wine. He reads while travelling too, because lets be honest, there is only so much wistful staring at the horizon he can do and only so many naps he can take while he sails Hitsugibune from one end of the world to the other. At this point he has worked his way halfway through the library of his castle. Which does not stop him from buying new books. He's surprised that it still isn't a commonly known fact about him, with how often he has caused near heart attacks in poor bookshop owners when they are faced with the World's Greatest Swordsman having appeared in their shop to buy a book?? But he supposes it's one of these "no one will ever believe you" kind of situations.

Mihawk also has a lady two islands over from Kuraigana who supplies him with romance novels. She wisely knows not to comment, but he will never forget her wild grin the first time she saw him reaching for a queer novel. The woman seems to pride herself in always having a new queer story available whenever he stops by, and Mihawk has stubbornly decided to pokerface his way through their interactions forever and ever.

The library has significantly grown since Mihawk moved in. It's sorted by genre now. He'll never let Shanks in there so he doesn't have to admit just how much and what kind of romance he's reading.

Embroidery

Roses. Mihawk has an aesthetic and he commits to it 100%. He keeps the most immaculate rose garden Shanks has ever seen, and Shanks has seen plenty of pretty places. At least half the different species of rose bushes are actually gifts from Shanks after he's seen the beginnings of the garden the first time he visited (read: dropped by unannounced) Kuraigana after it became known Mihawk had claimed the island. So now, years later, Mihawk has probably the most extensive collection of rose species in all colours, shapes and sizes in all the seas.

To Zoro's chagrin, the garden is set up like a maze. It's not a big maze. Even the rose bushes Mihawk has allowed to grow tall during his absences barely even reach higher than Mihawk's shoulders. No reasonable person could ever get lost in it. It quickly becomes apparent that Zoro is not a reasonable person.

'Hidden' within the rose 'maze' there are some dedicated patches of ground making up a kitchen garden. Mihawk got tired of doing supply runs every couple weeks, so he grows his own vegetables and herbs (healing purposes included) and even started to grow the spices he prefers.

(To his own annoyance that garden is not able to support feeding three mouths instead of just one, so the supply runs are back to their old frequency until he makes Zoro and Perona spend a week helping him extend the garden. By year two Kuraigana is mostly self-sufficient again. [By year three Mihawk doesn't know what to do with his extra produce anymore so he decides to actually host Shanks' crew for once instead of just Shanks on his lonesome. They are surprisingly respectful of his space, he might even get the utterly insane idea to do this again.])

Wood carving

You have seen his clothes. Everyone has seen his clothes. You know the chances of finding a good, waterproof coat that not just fits perfectly but also exactly reflects your style? They're abysmal. And even if you found the perfect piece of clothing for you, it needs to be properly washed and maintained if you want it to last longer than a storm or two. Also, professional hand embroidery costs a ton of money. So yes, Mihawk made all the little embroidered details himself. At this point he doubts anyone even remembers how his coat looked back when he bought it and before he had time to put a needle to it. Well, anyone who isn't Shanks. Because Mihawk distinctly remembers Shanks staring when he first showed up to a duel with his brand new coat and then staring again after Mihawk was done with it.

Embroidery is more of a winter hobby, when the garden doesn't need him, and he feels the urge to keep his hands moving. For a while he considered teaching Zoro to give him more of a feeling for fine control, but he quickly discarded the idea in favour of helping Perona with her clothes making adventures.

Mihawk never thought or intended for wood carving to become an actual hobby at all. It started out with him finding himself having sailed into a middle of a rather big reef in an attempt to evade social interaction with Vice Admiral Garp after he spotted his ship on the horizon in the early days of Mihawk's Warlord-ship. The reef had plenty rock and coral formations just closely hiding beneath the water surface, interseeded with sand banks that shifted with the tides, which any ship that lays even slightly deeper in the water than Hitsugibune would not be able to navigate. Mihawk relied on his Haki and superior eye-sight to spot all the obstacles and even with all that it was difficult to sail Hitsugibune safely. Then the winds turned on him rather suddenly when he crossed a climate barrier, bringing along heavy cloud cover and fog, and Mihawk decided he needed to make note of the rock formations somehow to not run into them after all as visibility pretty much approached zero. Being not at all talented in map drawing, Mihawk used Kogatana to carve the map into a random scrap of plank instead. It served him well (he sucessfully avoided Garp and there was not a single new scratch on Hitsugibune) and it kind of just became a thing he did. He now has a small collection of carved maps of mostly reefs and other dangerous waters he uses for hiding and evading purposes. And if he carves the occasional bird or other animal when he's bored out at sea, no one needs to know.

Soap making

It's another hobby Mihawk stumbled upon mostly by coincidence. One day during a supply run he got annoyed by how expensive soap is. The next day he had everything he needed to make it for much less money. A week later he had a year's worth supply of soap sorted out. Shanks asks how Mihawk manages to always smell of roses, even when he has been gone from Kuraigana for weeks. Mihawk says nothing while Shanks' crew mercilessly teases their captain for always getting up and close into Hawkeyes' personal space to even know that. They are smart enough to know not to comment on Mihawk allowing Shanks this close in the first place.

[crookedkingdomruinedme]

Porchay: I've decided to assign Kim a new brother

Porsche, confused: okay?

Kinn, offended: w h a t

Porchay, slamming down Kinnporsche marriage certificates for Porsche: It's you Hia, sign the fuck up

[eclaire-went-bam]

cluster b tumblr how do i bring up to a therapist or anyone really looking into personality disorders

i've been working with people for the past 11 years and nothing has been working and nobody knows what's wrong with me or how to treat/support me. not to mention i have such a problem with continuing to mask in therapy and such to the point where it's liiike highkey comical ??

i've bought it up to my therapist before but she really quickly shut it down, saying she doesn't like labels like that, but i'm getting a new therapist soon and i want this to be a priority just upfront. i'm really sick of the cycles i find myself in

[vodkaslyme]

She wouldn't cheat on me because I'm built different

[naty-the-weirdy]

Me when I don’t know how to act affectionate :

[carhatred]

Le drame d’Amqui a secoué le Québec ces derniers jours, et avec raison. La gratuité apparente du geste et le délit de fuite subséquent viennent nous ébranler dans notre sentiment de sécurité. Il est encore tôt pour disséquer les intentions du conducteur, malgré les informations qui commencent à sortir. Plutôt, il faudrait replacer ce phénomène dans un cadre plus large.

À la fin février, un autre délit de fuite mortel a suscité l’émoi. Un jeune planchiste de 22 ans a succombé à ses blessures après avoir été heurté à l’angle des rues Sainte-Catherine et de Lorimier à Montréal. Le conducteur a pris la fuite et, aux dernières nouvelles, il n’a pas été arrêté par les forces policières.

Ces deux événements survenus en moins de trois semaines illustrent une tendance lourde : l’augmentation des délits de fuite sur nos routes. Entre 2021 et 2022, ce nombre a bondi de 13 %.

Ce chiffre n’en est qu’un parmi de nombreux qui témoignent de différentes tendances inquiétantes pour la sécurité sur les routes : croissance du parc automobile plus rapide que celle de la population, popularité écrasante des VUS et camions légers (dont la force d’impact, la taille et la visibilité représentent des dangers accrus pour les piéton·nes et cyclistes), etc.

Mais un autre chiffre devrait retenir notre attention : celui sur le nombre de décès liés aux collisions avec des voitures. En 2022, 291 personnes ont perdu la vie à cause de la voiture au Québec seulement, contre une moyenne annuelle de 253 pour les cinq années précédentes – une augmentation de 15 %.

Pour mettre ce chiffre en perspective, considérons le fait que 297 personnes sont mortes sous les projectiles d’armes à feu en 2021. Dans l’ensemble du Canada.

Autrement dit, dans une année, la voiture cause, grosso modo, autant de morts au Québec que les armes à feu dans le Canada entier.

Or, personne n’oserait affirmer que l’on ne peut rien faire pour réduire, voire éliminer, les morts par armes à feu. C’est d’ailleurs pour cela qu’il existe un cadre légal très strict entourant leur usage – un cadre que d’aucuns appellent à renforcer.

Mais en est-il de même pour la voiture? Les délits en lien avec celle-ci sont-ils traités, juridiquement et socialement, avec le même sérieux que ceux en lien avec les fusils? On peut en douter.

Dans une année, la voiture cause autant de morts au Québec que les armes à feu dans le Canada entier.

Car, non, les morts dues à la voiture n’ont rien d’une fatalité. Tant de choses peuvent être faites, de manière directe ou indirecte, pour s’attaquer à ce problème.

Dans le cas d’Amqui, par exemple, on a évoqué des enjeux de santé mentale qui pourraient être à l’origine du crime. Or, si la Loi canadienne sur les armes à feu prévoit qu’une personne souffrant de certains types de maladie mentale ne peut détenir de permis de possession et d’acquisition d’une arme, rien d’équivalent n’existe pour les voitures.

Le ministre des Transports François Bonnardel a évoqué la possibilité d’agir sur ce plan, mais il a aussitôt refermé la porte. Il y a sans doute des raisons de faire preuve de prudence avec une telle avenue, sans non plus la rejeter. Mais n’y a-t-il pas surtout dans ce recul le signe d’une culture de la voiture qui nuit à notre sécurité collective?

La voiture antisociale

Il m’est arrivé à quelques reprises de conduire un pick-up. J’ai le souvenir très vif d’être au volant d’un F-250 et de sentir le moteur ronronner au moindre effleurement de la pédale d’accélérateur.

Mais surtout, j’étais préoccupé par la sensation qui m’habitait : perché dans ma cabine, je ne sentais presque pas les imperfections (pourtant nombreuses) de la route et je n’avais qu’une vision très limitée de mon environnement immédiat. J’étais effrayé à l’idée de ne pas apercevoir un enfant dans mon angle mort et de lui rouler dessus.

Heureusement, une telle chose n’est pas arrivée, mais cette expérience – moi qui ai appris à conduire dans une petite Nissan Stanza 1988, très basse et à la suspension plutôt sèche – m’a éveillé à l’égard des angles morts bien trop humains que l’on peut avoir au volant.

Il est temps de prendre toute la mesure du danger que représentent les voitures sur nos routes.

En l’absence de toute intention criminelle, il est donc possible de développer une mentalité d’habitacle : la personne au volant est coupée – sensoriellement, intellectuellement, psychologiquement – du monde extérieur.

Ne trouverait-on pas là l’origine de différents comportements antisociaux adoptés par un grand nombre d’automobilistes? Accélérer aux feux jaunes, brûler les feux rouges, empiéter sur les traverses piétonnes, faire des manoeuvres dangereuses sans tenir compte des autres usager·ères : tous ces comportements témoignent d’une aliénation, partielle du moins, par rapport à la réalité du partage des voies publiques.

Il est temps de prendre toute la mesure du danger que représentent les voitures sur nos routes. Reconnaître que, tout comme les armes à feu, elles peuvent mener à la mort d’êtres humains – que cela soit volontaire ou non.

C’est une responsabilité des personnes qui prennent le volant – le respect du Code de la route est un strict minimum –, mais c’est également une responsabilité du gouvernement québécois, pour la mise en place d’un cadre légal (et punitif) conséquent, et des administrations municipales pour un aménagement de l’espace qui mène à réduire les comportements délinquants et les risques d’accident.

Une responsabilité collective.