#anyway fuck radfem mentality

[pens-personal]

Thinking about how I used twitter for like 3 weeks and it almost immediately turned me into a queer exclusionist

On top of that I was simultaneously falling down a rabbit hole of early-2010s tumblr feminism and these two factors combined meant I was heavily repressing my feelings on gender and my bisexuality because I didn't want anything to do with men

And then I finally got back onto tumblr and found different social circles and realized oh wait I'm actually a bi trans man like I always thought I was. Dammit.

[hellshire-harlot]

Man. Really fucken wish I could go into the Androphobia tag without seeing a bunch of fucking transphobes and radfems

[redditreceipts]

I've been a very staunch supporter of trans ppl for years. I have learned to swallow my discomfort around some of the things said in those circles. When they said it was transphobic for lesbians to not like dick, I bit my tongue. I told myself, "this is just the loud minority" and to be fair I do think that is the minority but still ... as a lesbian I wasn't even able to talk about people who argued that because "it never happens. No one says that. That sounds like a transphobic lie." And I hate the constant assertions that gender is real, innate, and that everyone feels it. I can't describe my own experiences with growing up as a woman without someone telling me that maybe I'm nonbinary ... no thanks I tried that for a while. I respect everyone's gender, or I want to, but apparently doing that also requires me to put that oppressive structure onto myself and act like it's liberating.

The final snapping point for me was a trans woman telling me that I'm privileged for being a cis woman because I've never experienced dysphoria ... except I have. I grew up with intense thoughts about my body and hating my vagina and breasts. It was never that bad but I would often imagine mutilating. I'm in a better place now but I still feel some discomfort over my body sometimes. And when I expressed this to her, she asked me if I was really cis or was still questioning ...

They act like misogyny doesn't exist or something. I just ... I disagree with a lot of radical feminists beliefs or at least I think I do. But for years I have felt like radfems were the only ones even talking about misogyny anymore so idk

Anyway what I wanted to say is that I really like your posts and perspectives and thanks for this blog. I want to learn more and question more and your blog has become a helpful resource to help me start thinking critically about some things

Hey :) thanks for writing to me and sorry for the late answer. 

And yeah, you are totally right. I have also spent such a long time justifying gender ideology because I really wanted it to be right. I’ve excused so much weird behaviour with weird mental gymnastics because I didn’t want to accept that I had been wrong for such a long time. 

The entire “that never happens” thing - and then you show them an occasion where it happened, and they say “well, it doesn’t happen that much”. And yeah, people have suggested me being non-binary as well. I mean, by strict gender definitions I am non-binary because I don’t identify as a woman lmao. Just as the “you’re uncomfortable in your body?? what about fucking cutting it up??!!!!” thing. 

And for disagreeing with feminist beliefs, the thing is that being a feminist is not a package deal. You are not being some sort of heretic if you disagree with certain things, and I know that I am most probably wrong on a lot of stuff myself. If I wasn’t, I would be the first person who is always right in human history. And yes, even in feminist spaces, there is sometimes some sort of imperative to follow every single belief or you are not a “real feminist”. But being a feminist is not an identity, it is an action. It is an action towards yourself, in the workplace, in interaction with other women and men, in your consumption, in your voting, in how you support women in your personal life and how you do political action. So yeah, I would say that it is less important whether you follow every rule of the radical feminist catechism and more important to support women in your life (which includes yourself). At least, that’s my opinion. 

So if you want to learn more, you can look into literally anything Julie Bindel says on Youtube, I really like her perspective. And cool that you’re here! 

[bumblee-stumblee]

Just saw your link from Reddit. But don't you want to eradicate all trans people? Don't you want them to all kill themselves rather than live fulfilling lives? So, surely, their comparison to groups of people who have been persecuted is correct. Because you do want to kill them.

I'm sorry, what makes you think i want to kill and eradicate all trans people? I don't want anyone to commit suicide.

Radfems don't want to kill trans people.

I want to be able to have my female only spaces such as bathrooms, sports, shelters and lockers and spas and so on and so on. Rights and spaces that women fought so hard to get are being eroded. In some places just discussing women's rights and oppression is seen as transphobic.

Watching the MTF subreddit and seeing men talk about how since starting estrogen they feel themselves getting dumber, getting horny at the sight of a cute male, feel themselves getting more submissive now that they are taking estrogen because obviously this is what women are; dumb horny submissive creatures obviously.

This is what these men think women are.

It makes me resentful to read these things and very little people within that subreddit try to contradict what is being said. And why would they? I was a TRA, i know how they talk. The misogyny is rampant within the community.

Women speaking up against gender affirming care such as puberty blocker, HRT, and SRS for children isn't killing them. Kids cannot consent. They should be getting extensive talk therapy to figure out if it's truly gender disphoria or if it's a different problem being masked by this social contagion. Kids with mental illnesses that need to be addressed with actual therapy rather than hormones and surgeries.

Trans people in the US haven't faced the same oppression and systemic racism as people of color.

They haven't been persecuted like people of color & it's a fucking mockery to compare them to the racism, murder and dehumanization and even more of a mockery to call it a trans genocide. There isn't a genocide happening but gosh there's a quite a few in the community that would love for there to be so they could claim victimhood.

Anyway, no radfems don't want transpeople dead. We do want you to stop suggesting GNC kids and GNC women and men might be trans actually. We'd also love it if the trans community could call out the predators and stop telling kids how to get diy estrogen and testosterone. Stop telling them that going through puberty will kill them and stop coaching them on what to say to obtain hormones oh and maybe stop suggesting that they could be suicidal and reinforcing suicidal ideation if they can't immediately get hrt or blockers. It kills kids.

Create your own spaces and stop trying to take ours, stop reinforcing harmful stereotypes, disclose to your sexual partners your agab otherwise that's called rape(obviously in a safe way). Stop assaulting women trying to speak, stop sending women death and rape threats and stop trying to use people of color as well as the atrocities that have been done to them as some sort of comparison talking point.

it's disrespectful as fuck.

[vouam]

just found this guy’s answer to a question on quora (“is misandry a problem in the US?” or something of that nature) and was wondering what your reaction to it would be. there are some points i wouldn’t be sure how to refute, though it’s certainly not enough to change my radfem beliefs lol. i’ll copy and paste it since i can’t send ss in anon

Q:“is misandry prevalent in today’s society?”

A:“I would say so.

Woman: doesn't want a child so she secretly aborts it.

Man: doesn't want a child and is forced to pay child support for 18 years while being ridiculed as a dead beat dad

Woman: my body, my choice

Man: has his genitals forcibly mutilated for no good reason at birth

Woman: free drinks at the club on ladies night

Man: there is no men's night. Drink prices increase to cover all the free drinks ladies get

Woman: oh please keep yourself safe

Man: forced to sign up for selective services (a.k.a. draft) at 18.

Woman: complains about low paying job

Men: 67% of work place injuries happen to men, 93% of work place fatalities happen to men. No one bats an eye

Woman: mostly automatically given custody of children no matter what

Men: you can see your children on the weekend only and pay for child support

Man: simply accused of abusing a woman and goes straight to jail.

Woman: beats the man senseless and if the man defends himself goes to jail. If he doesn't defend himself he still might go to jail or if he is lucky police will tell him to quit making a big deal about it. Has 1 place in the country to go to for sheltering battered men despite the fact that women are the perpetrators of domestic violence some 40% of the time. Woman, have countless battered women shelters to go to.

Man: gets raped by woman at gun point being forced to give oral sex and held captive for days. Society has a good laugh

Woman: gets raped and her perpetrator is rightfully punished. No one is laughing about it. Woman gets psychological help and all kinds of assistance from society. Also if she makes false accusations of rape, ruining a man's life, no one says a thing about it and she is free to go on accusing.

Men: penalties for the same crime as women are much longer sentences.

Men: comprise 60 some % of homeless population

Men: comprise of a majority of suicides

I could go on but it's only going to anger the feminazis more and more”

reading crap like this makes me so mad tbh, like i understand moids don’t have easy lives just because they’re moids but GOOD FUCKING GRIEF it’s like they just can’t fucking get enough of acting like society wasn’t built by men for men. 🙏🙏 sorry it just gets me upset. anyway love ur blog!!

Oooof this is a really great ask so thank you for sending this in! I guess I’ll approach this by answering each one individually (although I might repeat myself)

Men pay child support while women can just have an abotion

This is a very strange argument. Because firstly not every country has fully legal abortions. 47 countries only allow it for health reasons, 43 to save the mother’s life and 22 it is fully illegal. A lot of men like this seem to forget that there are other countries on this planet. I’d personally rather be the gender that has to pay child support for an unwanted baby. Even in the case of legal abortions, abortions are not easy to go through. It is mentally very difficult and can be an invasive procedure. Women are shamed for having abortions in every country, even the most ‘accepting’ places.

Circumcision

I am very against circumcision and this was probably his most valid point(?) But his point excludes the fact that FGM is practiced in many countries and cultures. And while male circumcision is usually done for religious reasons claiming its ‘hygienic’ and has little to no bad side effects while FGM can kill women and girls, and is done for far more malicious reasons that I can’t even begin to describe.

Men’s drinks night

Does he know the implications of what ‘buying a woman a drink’ means?? Yeah, I’d much rather be a man in this situation 😭

Drafted at 18

I am against anyone being drafted, and I’m against any military work period. But men made this rule because they deem men to be brave and strong - a stereotype designed to benefit them.

Work place injuries and fatalities

Most injuries and fatalities happen with manual labour, construction/factory work etc. Same stereotype as listed in the point before this.

Custody over children

Again, this happens due to a stereotype that benefits men. Women are ‘better parents/nurturing’ while men are not and should go out there and work and achieve their goals while women stay at home. Literally designed to benefit men. Also, a lot of men view the custody struggle as a privilege because they cannot be bothered to be fathers.

Going to prison because of a simple accusation and less abuse shelters for men

This is the craziest point because men do not go to prison over some random accusation pulled out from thin air. In order to accuse someone of abuse, you need extensive indisputable evidence. Even then, the police will not take it seriously or the defence will win the case for whatever reason. These are the hardest crimes to prove in a court and the statistics show this. Less abuse shelters for men because they are far FAR less likely to be a victim. Yes, its’s sad but this literally proves misogyny is a thing rather than misandry - because I know damn well which sex I’d rather be in this instance.

People laugh at male rape victims and women are given full support/legal justice

I addressed this in the previous point. Women are ridiculed and not believed/not given justice at an extremely higher rate than men.

Longer male prison sentences

Same stereotype that I’ve said before about being stronger/braver vs weak/nurturing. The stereotype was made to benefit them. Also this ignores that a lot of the time there are other aspects to a crime that result in a higher sentence given. For example 1st degree murder done for financial motive vs sexual motive.

Larger male homeless population and male suicide rate

I guess this is more of a question of why men are more likely to be homeless or commit suicide. Make suicide rate studies suggest it’s harder for men to admit mental health struggles/reach out for help. Again, it’s sad but the strong brave stereotype was designed to benefit them, like I’ve said before. Permanent homelessness is largely due to addiction, mental health, childhood poverty, financial crisis, loss of relationships to family/partner. These can all happen to women, except a lot of the female homeless population are trafficked, resort to prostitution, enter abusive relationships to escape the streets. In a lot of countries, people seem to think its 99% men that are homeless, but its usually not. You just typically only see male homeless people sitting/sleeping on the street in public spaces - that’s a more terrifying place for a woman to be compared to a man.

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I guess this guy’s main problems is that he:

- Thinks USA/Europe/western countries are the only places that exist

- Can’t see that bad things that happen to men are actually a result of stereotypes designed to benefit the male population

- Makes up statistics in his head that aren’t true

- Has a crazy victim complex

- Can’t see that the women’s position in his scenario is actually worse

I hope this helps with any future debates and refutes! And I hope I explained myself well enough 😭

[jujuberii]

Ships can’t be proship because the “pro” in the word isn’t short for “problematic”

It’s a fandom stance that signifies whether or not you think it’s fine to call mostly queer people pedos over their fictional interests

oh and I would care and write about Yuri/wlw if it wasn’t infested with feminazis who even call cis women lesbian fetishists and repeat radfem rhetoric

this is nawt being silly with it bro !!!

ok /srs now lmao

1. even if the term proship doesn't originally mean "problematic ship", that's how the term is used today. and either way, it wouldn't change the fact that what people call proships are /problematic ships/.!

2. where the fuck did u pull that from? i am v clearly queer, i am not calling any person a pedo, nor am i doing it bc they are queer. u just assume that bc im against proships, im calling u a pedo? Im. Fucking not? stop generalizing, get a grip

3. no matter what the fanbase is, u should create no matter what. even if ur claim was remotely true, that shouldn't stop u from engaging in an entire /category/ of ship??? wdym by "even cis women". are u its more common for trans/gnc women to fetishize lesbianism? also, what yuri content are u engaging in where its " mostly radfem rhetoric "??? i think u just need to engage in some actually good wlw content my guy.

anyways, get ur ass off tumblr cuz its giving u fucking mental illness! Hope this helps!

- a literal lesbian

[tirfpikachu]

happy sigh... seeing my womanhood as just being a body type, being a female human the way that there's female dogs and female rats etc, has been unbelievably healing and slowly disintegrated my dysphoria. i'm just an animal who happened to be born afab. it says absolutely *NOTHING* about me, literally nothing, it's 100% neutral. anyone trying to link any personality trait or gender role or dumb stereotype to my sex/agab is sexist as fuck and i can laugh it off now. i cannot change it and that's actually okay w me now bc i don't associate it w bad things anymore. body neutrality reallyyy helped me. finding other afab people who aligned with their sex and saw it as a neutral biological fact literally saved my mental health

learning about afab/amab dynamics not just in general society but also trans circles that i frequented heavily also explained and validated everything i've gone through. i started feeling sympathy for myself instead of contempt. i held my own boobs and apologized to them for seeing them as only for babies or as ugly in masculine clothing (bc i was visibly masc and afab) or as objects that were meant for male consumption and for assuming i had no agency in that whatsoever. but now i know i can fight back. i know i can join radical feminism and fight to normalize bodies like mine and calling out creepy bullshit, making men feel self-conscious of their deviant thoughts and behaviors, nipping this shit in the bud in discussions abt raising boys, learning why men and transfems react certain ways, about afab vs amab socialization and how it affects everyone long-term... there's just suddenly so much i can do about my situation!!! so much knowledge to learn!! it's soooo empowering

i finally can take an active part in feminism instead of weak pop feminism that tiptoes around afab-specific oppression by fear of being a transphobe. i have trans friends, trans ppl deserve freedom and basic human rights, but i also believe in afab rights, and afab boundaries. i want to research more, to discuss things more, and just figure out how to make all of that coexist peacefully instead of constant fights between marginalized groups. anyway. radfeminism has been incredibly helpful in my healing journey and studying it has been sooo fulfilling already. i deeply appreciate my time here, and while i don't agree with everything all the time, and handle transness differently than terfs, i also love researching different radfem opinions and beliefs. it helps me finally figure out my own! i feel like i'm actually thinking for myself now instead of just going with whatever the majority says! in here i can have actual respectful debates instead of only knee-jerk harassment from activists

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[radsplain]

hello radsplain. sorry if this ask might be better suited for a radfem receipts blog, i think there's some on here like that, but im new to radfem stuff and didn't know where to go. (and i needed somewhere that allowed anon asks. ty <3).

anyways. i went down a rabbithole of "wtf even are some of the porn blogs on here?" and i found a blog that i thought might be a perfect example of how male entitlement, rape culture, pornography, and TIMs are interconnected. it's at lstprv2. just read the pinned post and youll quickly see what i mean.

no this isnt some weird scam or something, i just found the blog in question SO batshit that i needed to share it. like its actually beyond parody. i think it straight up would make people terfs thats how bad it is (tw for like crazy misogyny if u take a look).

Oh fucking hell. I swear, if women knew that a good chunk of the men they’re defending with their lives as their “trans sisters in arms” were into this kind of stuff (and that it plays a definitive hand in their desire to “transition” so they can embody their fetish full-time) they’d be absolutely beside themselves.

The fact that this scrote has a forced feminization/detransition kink ONLY for “trans men” and specifically likes the idea of “dykebreaking” is sickening to me. But truly none of it is surprising. I mean, there’s just SO much more to that post I could unpack but I’m afraid I’d lose too many braincells trying to scrub the mental images out of my mind afterwards.

[spacelazarwolf]

I replied to a radfem transfemme that its terfy to exclude dyke guys and they A) Called me 'EVIL' and 'ORDERED' me to apologize and B) SUIBAITED my mentally ill, very suicidal on main self. Do you ever just want to just,,, sigh? when that sort of thing happens?

the most gigantic sigh. there's way too many trans ppl who just straight up deepthroat te/rf boots and it's fucking embarrassing. anyway i'm sorry that shit happened to you, that's horrendous. also ngl i'm kind of cackling at her ordering you to apologize lmfaoooooooo.

[gothicroses]

another reason why i left the radfem community was the way female abusers were treated as victims a lot of the time and sometimes even more than the actual victims of the abuse

as someone who's first girlfriend was horribly abusive

here's some things she put me through. massive trigger warning

hide my phone if i was on it too much (anywhere more than an hour a day)

drove to the middle nowhere leaving me with just my phone with very low battery. thankfully my dad was able to find me

would blame me if she cheated because i wasn't giving her enough love and attention

got mad when i had to go to work or class

told me she was gonna kill myself if i left (she knew my brother killed himself and knew i carried the guilt with me)

my personal favorite fingered me when i was very upset with her even though i kept begging no despite her knowing im a rape and sa survivor

last but certainly not least said i wanted to fuck my dad because we have a very close relationship

now if she were a man i would be getting flooded with sympathy by terfs and radfems but since she's a woman she's a mentally ill victim who didn't mean to hurt me uwu

anyways fuck yall

[souryogurt64]

it’s funny that palahniuk is a little woman hating considering he knows so much about feminism. he brings up ariel levy (feminist author) in one of his books and has a very dark short story called speaking bitterness about radfems sexually assaulting a woman they believe to be trans. just the way it’s written it’s brutal and he def knows a lot about women’s issues it’s just not always written in the best way

Yeah in the Peteryan essay I wanted to quote from a lot of their biggest influences because they're pretty misogynistic. And there's this quote in Choke about how women secretly want to be oppressed by men and their entire identity depends on it. And the book is satirical and I didn't want to include it in bad faith if it was like making fun of this idea, so I was like looking into his viewpoints or whatever

And two of his newest books are like, one is apparently about how women get enslaved by men and then the men can't dress themselves or cook and the other one is about like a feminist that secretly loves romance novels and she gets raped in public in the opening scene and then this like billionaire kidnaps her for sex to sell his sex toys that like make women want to be tortured to death or something and it's like satirizing 50 Shades and Twilight and like dark romance novels or whatever. Anyway all the reviews were saying it was just terrible

I didn't read these so maybe it's like bad for me to point fingers at it but the second one had horrible reviews and then I looked up like what he's said and he was like justifying it by saying that like third wave feminism was bad and had gone too far and is just about women wanting to have their tits out and bringing up the schizophrenic woman who shot Andy Warhol as like an example of feminism going too far. And like first of all that woman had very, very serious mental issues so pick a better example and secondly that happened in 1968 which was over 20 years before third wave feminism and thirdly we have just lost Roe so clearly feminism has less teeth than it did 50 years ago. Grow up

And like I get there's harmful things about these books and there's definitely valid criticisms to be made but like first of all Twilight is like a very Mormon book and large portions of the US are deeply religious or were at least raised deeply religious. And I think a lot of people who are not raised with that kind of belief system just cannot compute it which is fair but part of why those books gripped the nation is because a large portion of women are raised with the belief system that dating and enjoying sex is the worst thing you can do and that it should hurt and be bad and decreases your value as a person to the point where it is very difficult for many women to come or enjoy penetration

And part of why books like Twilight got so popular and like gripped the nation is because there's elements of the story that reduce that sense of guilt by decreasing the girl's ability to like be chaste and leave and never talk to the guy again like they're "supposed to", and every romance novel across hundreds of years from like before Jane Eyre to Sold to One Direction fanfiction is like a widespread phenomenon that contains a lot of the exact same beats because of this

And like you can definitely still satirize those things or criticize them or argue that mass production and exposure to that content is harmful, and personally I think 50 Shades is written very weird and not hot and parts of Twilight like with Rosacoeleene or whatever the fuck her name is are extremely strange.

But Survivor feels so raw in it's depiction of that exact concept regarding being unable to enjoy sex due to religious trauma and how the narrator is obsessed with sex but struggles to be able to have sex because of the cult he was raised in it's just so weird to me that this book is such a hard pivot on that and doesn't seem to think about it or try to understand what it's satirizing at all and the big takeaway is supposed to be that like "regular women with jobs that identify as third wave feminists that want careers and read romance novels aren't REAL feminists and secretly want to be raped" like get a grip dude

I understand that there's another level with like religion and gay sex which is alluded to being what the straight romance is actually about in Survivor but I guess maybe he didn't bother to think about the romance books he was satirizing or like empathize with the idea that women can feel similar things

And also it just pisses me off because it never goes both ways, like with the exception of Pretty Tied Up by Guns N Roses almost every single classic rock song about bondage is about a dominatrix but nobody EVER would seriously make the claim that like ACDC or Van Halen or whatever are closet misandrists because that's just fucking ludicrous but even left-leaning people are so quick to act like being into mild spanking and choking with someone you trust is like the end all gotcha of feminist politics. Like probably at least a slight majority of people fantasize about that sort of thing because they want to be the center of attention and object of desire and don't want to do any work lol

ANYWAY TO CONCLUDE I feel like when Choke came out you could argue the women want to be oppressed line was satirizing masculinity and misogyny like he does in Fight Club but the later books he wrote just like..... make it seem like that line was actually written in bad faith lol

[cios-correct-opinions]

so you’ve never spoken to a radfem in your life

im only answering this as a way to make this info publicly available btw any other asks within this vein will be deleted. just so yall know ahead of time

anyway

i actually have spoken to an unfortunate number of radfems in my lifetime, sadly. on varying levels of the indoctrination scale. all of these experiences have been largely negative based solely on the fact alone that their "goal" was to "save" me or w/e and "show me the error of my transgender ways". as if that's ever in good faith when used in any other argument w any other minority esp within the queer community ever lmfao. so understandably, they were quite distressing, especially when i was a kid.

here's the thing.

even if i weren't trans. even if i weren't nonbinary or a trans man, or in some alternate universe where i am AMAB, a trans woman/transfem. i'm still black. i know bioessentialist bullshit, where it comes from, and where it leads, intimately.

there is a reason why, even if individual radfems themselves deny this and/or aren't willing to engage in this behavior, largely, groups/organizations/whatever tf terms they're using to mask the fact that they're a violent hate group radfems use which are founded by and/or primarily made up of radfems self-identified or otherwise, are often seen or discovered to be in cahoots w white supremacist/n-zi/fascist/other racial "superiority" based regime fundamentalist/traditionalist groups. there is a reason. and it is not hard to see.

radfems are almost word for word in some cases simply re-packaging n-zi/white supremacist/KKK/race essentialist/facist/etc groups' ideology/"science"/teachings/misc. assorted bullshit under the sparkly guise of "feminism" and "female liberation" or "lesbian separatism" etc etc

it surprises me exactly not at all that radfems either dont care or arent aware or arent willing to address this issue. i expected that from those sad losers who are intent on blaming everyone but themselves for their problems, who insist that they aren't at all in any way responsible for feeding into the systemic oppression that is the patriarchy in reality, who insist that everyone BUT themselves examine their behavior/beliefs/etc.

who believe that the patriarchy would magically disappear if all those "Evil Male Penis-Havers" (heavy sarcasm) were simply systemically slaughtered(*) because it is easier for humans, historically as a species, to pick one group of people to call the Other, the "Them", and blame their problems on Them, and "if we just got rid of Them (code for: queers, black ppl, jewish ppl, native american ppl/indigenous ppl worldwide/disabled ppl/mentally ill ppl, etc etc the list goes on and on and fucking on), all of our problems would go away too!"

i expected this from them. cool. fine. they're easy to block bc they make it obvious who they are from their incredibly visually unappealing and often straight up inaccessible, but nonetheless telling, blogs.

i'm just disappointed in the supposedly anti-radfem crowd, esp my fellow trans and nonbinary folk n other queers, who blindly follow the radfem ideology, and then when it is pointed out to them, regardless of how kindly it is done or how nicely or privately etc, unfortunately often react defensively instead of being willing to listen. that's what upsets me and makes me sad more than anything.

like yeah radfems also upset me and make me sad at times, esp when i get unwillingly exposed to their bullshit bc it makes my head hurt with how stupid it all is. but im far more upset n hurt when ppl who should be by all means on my side, are more willing to side w the ppl they claim to hate rather than listen to me when i talk abt yknow. my life experiences.

(*)(i mean. that alone, no matter how you package it, is genocidal. the fact that they want AMAB/people they label as AMAB whether theyre "technically correct" or not, folks to be subjugated in ways which ultimately lead to their eventual "eradication" so as to "liberate" the poor suffering AFABs who can't fight back any other way (again heavy sarcasm), is, no matter what the reason, genocidal. they want a genocide)

any terfs and/or radfems of any kind who interact w this post will simply be blocked on sight. im not about to waste my precious time and energy debating w yall. just do me a favor n stay away from trans folk irl and online, yall hating us does not mean abuse towards us is justified esp when the ppl ur harassing are strangers to u. like cmon man. if someone specific in ur life is causing u grief maybe talk to them abt it personally, dont do that shit where u bother random trans folk or harass them for some strange reason for "daring" to exist while trans (heavy sarcasm, we r clearly not in the wrong here but yknow, these ppl are apparently already unable to understand this so -shrug emoji-)

[jellyfishfem]

Fellow radfems, rad-leaning fems, I’d like your opinion on something. TW r*pe by deception?

I don’t know if anyone will reply to this but I just don’t know what to do anymore and hopefully someone can help me.

This has been haunting me for almost two years now. I was in a relationship with a man. He was like the rest of them, except he considered himself to be somewhat woke and fair towards women. He wasn’t, which is why I started hating leftist men too, by the way. They pretend to be on our side but as soon as you don’t agree with them, they let their misogyny come out and they tell you horrible, horrible things. Anyways, my ex did all sorts of fucked up things, won’t go into detail. The way he spoke to me when things ended…

He ended up telling me that he never loved me and only used me. I don’t know if that’s true. He also told me, he’s been wanting to break up for a year now. That I know is true. The signs were there and I did call him out from time to time, that it seems like he doesn’t love me. Then he’d tell me that I’m wrong and I’m a bad person because him saying he loves me isn’t enough for me. He told me that my expectations from him (going on dates, cuddling, doing romantic stuff…) were not normal and that other couples aren’t like this. Then I’d feel really bad. During this time, we still had sex. To be honest the sex was so so bad, only focused on his pleasure so I don’t know how I didn’t see that he’s only using me. To be fair to myself, I was mentally in a bad place. I had a psychotic episode every other day and my selfworth was so low. It was so easy to manipulate me and I was also deeply in love with him and really wanted us to work out. When we broke up, I did tell him that I think he used me. He didn’t love me anymore and he still wanted to have sex with me. It wasn’t just that he didn’t love me anymore, he disliked me and thought of me as an object. He got really angry. If I knew that he was only using my body, I’d have said no. A thousand times no. I feel so violated. Thinking of the act makes me throw up. Recently, I told a friend of mine about this. He said that this could actually be rape by deception. I’ve been thinking about it too but I was too scared to say it out loud. I didn’t want to be the overdramatic falsely accuser. I really don’t want to be that woman. There is a lot of stigma aroubd women who come forward about stuff like this. And I don’t want to hurt those women. What is your opinion? Was it rape?

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[diabetesnscoliosis]

Uhhh haven't made any posts referencing online discourse directly but since I went on a long tangent, I might as well make my own post

It's disappointing to see (again) that an ideology i was introduced to by reading the experiences of lesbian and detrans women has just left them behind and has been overrun by upper class het women. They're now the representatives of the movement, and its all the worse for it.

Like many other more eloquent women have said, radfeminism has become "GC" choice feminism. Completely not what I've signed up for. Honestly gender critical isn't even what it should be called anyway; anyone that's visibly gnc gets lumped in with "groomers" and harassed. Even ignoring that a lot of transsexuals are ssa... so woo hoo. Way to own the trans. That's become the whole focus of radfeminism instead of women and the female class as a whole. Criticism of transition isn't even about health, mental health, or how heteropatricarchy impacts people's perception and livelihoods anymore.

Most influential GCs are too friendly with the right wing. I personally believe this has helped cause the shift that's been happening for a few years (I've been here since 2018ish) Again I have already made posts on some of these figures, but there's been no mass opposition to the infiltration (again, osa radblr is too "own the transes" than actually focusing on women)

As an osa woman myself (bi with heavy osa preference) I find all the whinging about osa relationships quite boring. If you feel attacked about being with a man, go outside. You will find people that won't say anything (because under our current system, that's the status quo) Again I think the focus away from women's issues has caused this sort of brain rot; there's camaraderie with fighting transition, but not with radfeminists in other parts of the world??(like SK, China, Iran) It would be odd, but because the people supposedly apart of this ideology have shifted at enough mass, this is what we have.

TLDR for anyone that actually cares about women, you need to be able to listen. Listen to people you don't agree with (believe it or not, there's gendies out there that take misogyny seriously) find out why you agree with something, or not. Ask how you're positioned to feel. If this seems condescending, i don't give a fuck so many of you are falling great victim to confirmation bias and that's why we're getting "radfems" who are saying lesbians can like dick.