#assertive communication

[femmefatalevibe]

Any idea to know what to do and say in terms of conflict?

Depersonalize others' comments & actions

Perceive the person's intentions – are they seeking war or peace?

If their intentions are sound, enter the conversation with the mindset of two individuals vs. a problem – decouple their humanity, emotions, wants, and needs from external factors & situations

Seek to understand, not win through your conversation

Approach the conversation from a solutions-oriented POV

Remember that compromise means both parties walk away happy or at least content with the outcome – self-sacrifice has no place in conflict resolution or negotiation

Hope this helps xx

[isabellehemlock]

I rarely make definitive statements, I think it's important to be humble, open to the journey of growth, empathetic towards holding space for multiple view points and even if not agreed upon, expanding our own minds through learning and conversation - but I'd like to say this at least once when it comes to inter personal relationships:

Sometimes it's not what you say that can become an issue, but how you're saying it.

I'm not talking about abuse, or toxic behavior, or hate - I'm referring to the every day relationships here - but if you're trying to have conversations with someone and the majority of it is a lot of "you" statements, including but not limited to "you always" or "you never" even if there's a kernel of truth in your statement, though your feelings are valid - so are theirs.

Try to remember how it feels in your own body to have someone telling you you're the issue for several minutes - it doesn't feel good. It doesn't matter how emotionally mature someone is, no one wants to sit in a corner feeling small - so if you're true goal is to encourage open dialogue, engage in active listening, exchange compromises and boundaries, please please please look up some script ideas and see what speaks to you and try to engage in a questioning mindset vs "I'm right and you're wrong."

There are ways to get your point across that respects the inherent dignity of both of you ❤️

Below the cut, some examples I've found over the years online - happy to edit with credit if someone knows the sources for any that don't include usernames:

[missmitchieg]

5 Tips to Make Assertive Communication Easier and More Effective

[shann-on]

How to Confidently Ask Questions

How to Confidently Ask Questions

Happy Thursday, my dear friends! 🙂 Today, I wanted to share with you a lesson that I had learned last night while out with a friend picking up some dinner. I have noticed with myself that I most times sometimes struggle with asking questions, which is either because I’m afraid that I will be judged for the questions that I ask or I’m concerned about the other person and what they feel…

[nimelmentalhealthllc]

Anger is a natural emotion, but it is also important to learn how to channel it constructively. Anger management is a vital skill for maintaining your mental well-being and healthy relationships.

[rossonion]

[thoughtfuljournal]

Assertiveness is being firm, and not taking shit from other people. It's important that our children learn assertiveness so others can't talk them down.

Some people might misjudge assertiveness with aggressiveness, especially those who are not used to people having different opinions from them. But these two are very different from each other. We can express our thoughts and opinions without being aggressive.

By teaching them assertiveness, we are also instillling important traits to them like bravery, courage, and self-respect.

[jaideepkhanduja]

Empowering Strategies: The Ultimate Response to Counter Any Insult Effectively

In a world where words can wound as deeply as physical blows, mastering the art of responding to insults effectively becomes an invaluable skill. The ultimate response lies not in stooping to the same level of negativity but in rising above it with grace, confidence, and resilience. This article delves into various strategies and approaches that empower individuals to counter insults effectively,…

[ossie50]

"I am the only one who does it right!"

In trumpian terms, the terms of authoritarian dictators, this can be re-stated as “only I can fix it���. In the context of teams, organisations, the equivalent is displayed by the manager who refuses to allow his or her people any freedom to carry on their tasks with any sense of feeling valued and respected. The symptoms include regular and insufferable ‘telling’, and an insistence that only he…

[hsmagazine254]

The Awakened Path Part 4 - Positive Reflection Of The Week

Part 4: The Dark Side Of People Pleasing & Be Still THE DARK SIDE OF PEOPLE PLEASING Do you know a people pleaser? Are you one? Master manipulators are another name for people-pleasers. And at some point in our lives, we have all been guilty of this trait. People pleasers are often motivated by a fear of rejection or a desire for approval, and they may struggle to set boundaries or prioritize…

[dfmapa]

Cursing Without Crossing the Line

Photo by Jakayla Toney on Unsplash Although swearing can be a potent way to communicate annoyance or rage, it can also come across as childish or unprofessional. There are a few techniques you can employ if you want to curse someone without seeming like you’re cursing them. Consider the situation’s context first. It’s probably advisable to refrain from swearing completely while you’re in a…

[erikajanekeenan]

Appeasing to Survive- A Journey of Unlearning

Appeasing to Survive- A Journey of Unlearning

What has been going on these past few weeks. I have been feeling a little lost, I think I am starting to come to. I let myself stray from my routine and really just not follow through with the goals I had set for myself. I was continuously making excuses or coming up with reasons why I shouldn’t when I think I should have been looking at some of the reasons why I should. I am responsible for…

[missmitchieg]

Why People Pleasing Doesn't Make People Happy (and What to Do Instead)

[khaire-traveler]

Let me make this very clear:

When it comes to Hellenic Polytheism, there is no human religious authority, especially not one that stands before or speaks for the gods.

It does not matter what someone tells you. It does not matter if they claim to be a priestess/priest of X deity or a messenger for Y deity. It does not matter what their supposed past life was like. It does not matter if they claim to be the literal fucking Oracle of Apollo.

No one has the right to tell you how to worship the gods. No one has the right to assert their authority over your religion.

And most of all, remember that people can and do lie.

[ghost-bxrd]

I love love love Owl Song, will Cass and the rest of the Batkids appear? And if so, when and how? Bc I want to see Cass and Dick nonverbally bonding ✨

Well, as of now Owl Song is still on track to end with Ethiopia so, probably not >.<

Although I think Dick would be very unnerved by Cass at first. He’s not used to humans being so quiet and communicating with body language alone, so he (rightfully) clocks her as a potential threat at first. Cass obviously recognizes this and would deliberately put herself into situations where she’s vulnerable and Dick would have a very easy time to injure her (similarly to how puppies expose their bellies to other dogs in a “I’m not a threat please accept me as pack” kind of way).

Eventually Dick would relax a little and watch closely if she’s just as docile around his other (squishy) family members. Once he’d ascertain that she’s no threat to any of them he’d tentatively allow her closer to the nest, and after a few days invite her inside for obligatory cuddle sessions by giving her a first coo (opposed to the wary hoots and chitters of before).

Cass fits herself so carefully inside the nest Dick gets impatient and just pulls her into the pile of limbs with a huff.

Dick feels a bit bad about not inviting her earlier because she’s radiating such unbridled joy-soft-love-content-gratefulness he doesn’t know how he could ever assume she’d hurt them. She’s as much a protector as he is.

[safe-haven-safe-place]