#but to me feminism is activism

[watermelinoe]

i know i use radfem as a shorthand for the gyns on here who Believe those Beliefs but i think radical feminism is something one does, not an identity, and i think part of our collective problem is that we're all still submerged in the deep fryer that is identity politics

[ffcrazy15]

There's this way of doing female-ness in Christianity that I call "pastel flower journal Christianity." I've got nothing against pastel flower journals per se, but for some reason people believe it's the end all and be all of female spirituality, and I think it's a real disservice towards young Christian women.

One of these days I'd like to start a prayer-and-reading group or something for young women, but there would be no floral themes or over-focus on how "God thinks you're beautiful even if the world doesn't" (a true statement, but it's wayyyyy too often the focus in women's spiritual reading). Instead we would be reading:

Seneca's Letters from a Stoic

Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning

Sheed's A Map of Life

Portions of Pieper's book on leisure

Kreeft's Three Philosophies of Life

Guardini's The Lord (or something similar)

Therese's Story of a Soul

and some select portions of the Nicomachean Ethics.

(Also they're all getting the porn talk. I don't know why we give the porn talk to young men but not young women. There's this idea that women don't use porn and they only need the talk about "guarding their heart." Bullshit. There's porn on the YA shelves of Barnes and Nobles and before that there were bodice rippers. Young women need the porn talk too.)

Every young woman needs to be getting a basic grounding in virtue ethics, logic, natural law, scholastic philosophy and Biblical hermeneutics if they're going to get by in today's spiritual landscape. Enough faffery and emotionalism in young women's spiritual education! Give them real food to chew on, not pasty sentimentalism!

[radfemverity]

“Not all men” you cry, as all the rest who aren’t the legislators, soldiers and politicians sit back and watch. Whether it be in Taliban-ruled Afghanistan where women have quite literally lost their right to speak in public, India with a sexual and domestic violence epidemic almost unheard of, Iran where women are murdered by police for removing their veil, the United States where women’s reproductive rights have been lost, South Korea with their spycam epidemic, France where a woman’s husband invited round dozens of men who lived locally to rape her as she lay unconscious, Iraq seeking to decriminalise marrying young girls, or how literally anywhere in the world you can access footage of women being sexually abused on page 1 of the biggest porn sites and google images with the simple click of a mouse.

“Not all men are violent oppressors” the rest sit back and watch. Immediately after telling us that they are our natural protectors, best equipped to defend us against hostile forces, men sit back and watch, or even cheer, as those oppressors roll into town.

[bog-bitch]

Heartbreaking: The Feminist Post You Were About To Reblog Was Made By a TERF

[thewoodbine]

I cannot express the depth of my disgust that people on the left are saying Israeli women are lying about being r*ped by Hamas.

How hard is it to believe that women could be caught in the middle of this? What happened to me too? War and violence have ALWAYS had a history of sexual assault occuring by both sides in nearly every conflict you can find. Women have always found themselves suddenly the victims of these power struggles, made examples of.

With all the proof they have too? Some of them filmed and posted online? What happened to listening to women? It doesn't really matter your feelings on who is right or who is wrong, these women HAVE been r*ped and it is disgusting you'd not only not believe them but go out of your way to call their experience into question. This isn't a what-about, this isn't a who-has-it-worse. I would never claim Palestinian women have not endured the same hardships, I know they have.

My point is no women anywhere of any nation should have to endure that trauma and have people go out of their way to call it fake.

Israeli and Palestinian women deserve better. You owe them, if nothing else at all, the ability to heal in peace without interrogation. Where is your humanity?

[hussyknee]

Narmada and her sister Sharika are the daughters of prominent Tamil feminist and human rights activist Rajini Thiranagama, who was murdered when they were children. Every time they speak of her I move away from grief that her life was so brutally cut short, to joy that she spent those years living a life more full of light and love than many can fit into a hundred. Nothing can compare to the legacy of being remembered this way by your children.

[maxknightley]

I do think part of why the whole "tma/tme" thing annoys me, and why I often find discussions of transphobia and transmisogyny frustrating in general, is that these conversations tend to apply a purely class-based lens to things like transphobia and homophobia.

but I think this is kind of putting a square peg in a round hole. that's not to say that no one benefits from the existence of transphobia, homophobia, etc., but rather to say that I think it's overly simplistic to suggest that they're primarily extractive relationships in the same way that sexism or racism revolve around offloading labor onto and/or extracting value from the oppressed class.

a large amount of the "purpose" served by homophobia and transphobia is that they are disciplinary tools. they exist to punish actions and ways of being that might undermine sexist and "traditionalist" power structures, imo.

none of which is to say that those class relations aren't a factor in homophobia, transphobia, transmisogyny, what-have-you; just that I think it's easy to overstate the extent to which they exist in and of themselves rather than as additional weapons of the patriarchy, and that this sometimes leads to conclusions which I find questionable.

[sunshine-in-a-bottle]

Briefly got very mad grumbly again about the feminization of Dream and how it was so cool and fun and gender until it started being inherently because of his abuse. Because of course being violated is Feminine. Of course abuse is Woman-Coded. Dream has to be Womanly Female Girly to be a victim, small and delicate and pretty. He can't be taller than most characters or masculine or a man when he's being abused. Sam has to be Masculine and Muscular and Taller and Traditionally Male Coded to be an abuser, and of course when he's abusing Dream he has to feminize him. So often Quackity will ignore Dream's transness and Make Him A Girl, or ignore Dream's cismanness and call him a girl. And I get the dehumanization aspect of taking away someones identity and the prevalence of dehumanization in cDream's canon narrative, but I'm not super comfy with the idea of associating subservience with Femininity. Dream is such a girly girl, didn't you know? Such a wife, so subby and subservient.

And I love Dream wearing dresses and being feminine and getting to engage in feminine things!!! But I don't want it to be about his abuse. I don't want feminine behavior Forced Upon Him as a result of being a victim. And I don't want his masculinity entirely removed. He deserves to be tall and muscular and have facial hair while also having ribbons in his hair and a princess dress.

And it's ok to make him a twink of course! I'm not saying that Dream Needs To Absolutely Only Abide By One Body Type And You Must Give Him A Full Beard. It's just really telling to see him only get to be feminine when he's depicted as a twink. A sad abused twink with long Rapunzel hair and no body hair or this really overt sweetness. It reminds me of exile, where they often make Tommy Shorter Softer Cuter Babier to try to emphasize his Victimhood, while Dream becomes Taller Creepier More Masc. As if this is the only way a dynamic can be. A soft, femme victim, and a hard, masc abuser.

(also very minor bristle that is partially squick is how trans man Dream is always the "Mom" of his kids. He's always the more Femme coded parent, the "woman" in the relationship, which feels really fucked up sometimes when combined with his transness. Being feminized and using feminine terms is dysphoric for him until suddenly Its Ok Now Because He's A Parent. His pregnancy doesn't need to inherently feminize him. He can give birth and still be Dad. There can be "Dad" and "Papa" and "Daddy" and "Father" or even just "Parent," but he's always Mom, and the other parent never is.)

[radicalit]

'Classic radblr authors' and not just 'radfem authors' because not all of them are/were radfems, but they are feminist authors popular here :) If you've read feminist literature before reading any of the authors mentioned, pick the first radfem reading. If not, pick the first 'general' / second wave feminist reading!

[saturnniidae]

everytime Taylor Swift releases a new album and I'm forced to hear about her, she gets a little higher on my top 10 most despised (living) white women list.

[eirxair]

i dont think anything could really piss me off more than when i see women dressing up in sexy/slutty school girl or nun costumes like bro

[withcrafts]

This person wrote this under a post made by a 16 year old radfem who felt she was ugly and a whole host of other issues and this chucklefuck decides to hop in there saying some absolute weirdo bullshit. There were radfems in there reassuring her that looks aren't important so I mentioned that and now I'm a groomer? What's more predatory, telling someone they're someone's favorite type of victim and that they should avoid them and go to their side, or me and the other women telling this girl she's valued based on things other than her looks? You really cannot make this shit up.

[chaiaurchaandni]

"We emerged from under the rubble! We are the children you did this to! We are not scared of you!" - young Palestinian children who survived israeli bombing campaigns

[hadesoftheladies]

"No one has a right to sit down and feel hopeless. There is too much work to do."

-Dorothy Day

[sky-is-the-limit]

Fuck anyone who has ever made you feel like you can't enjoy a piece of media, music, video game, sport because of your gender. Fuck them.

[mrgaretcarter]

Honestly I think it would do us all well to go back to kinda cringy feminism again for a little bit idk cause I think maybe for some people the discourse somehow circled back around to supporting sexism just rebranded or whatever so its more aesthetic