#cw ableism mention

[npdemu]

reblog to blow up an ableist

[akindplace]

The disabled need for "quality of life". The ableist person that says "you can just do it, don't be lazy", with no accommodations. The social pressure to act like an abled bodied person to feel less useless. All of them happening at the same time, while feeling like an outsider trying to push through to make it through the end of the day with some semblance of health, without being bitter, still remaining positive because it's either to be hopeful or to waste away. Disabled people fight much more than just an illness, and sometimes, the ableism is even worse than the pain itself: you just need support and your pain is invalidated instead. Give yourself credit for what you do to guarantee your survival. It is unfair that others don't recognize your efforts, but don't be as invalidating to yourself as they are to you.

Don't be mean to your own body after all that it goes through. Don't belittle yourself. Know that you deserve more, and try not to let their ableism become internalize ableism. Don't put so much pressure on yourself, like you have to compensate all the time for the fact that you are sick, because you don't want to be a burden, because you will never be one. You are a human being, never a heavy load on someone's back. A human with rights, needs, wants. Those things deserve to be met so you can have a fulfilling life, with access to food, shelter, healthcare, while being treated with the same kindness others receive. You deserve your own compassion. Don't believe in those who tell you that you don't, and please don't give into the societal pressure to the cost of your own health. You deserve to live a life you enjoy, despite everything that has happened to you. None of the bad things you went through should make you any less valuable, any less human.

[underestimated-heroine]

"Can't stress ENOUGH to ADHD/autistic people that autism/ADHD supremacy is just another form of EUGENICS" would you shut the fuck up lmao.

That's not what like anyone with ADHD and/or was doing or saying when they made "but can you learn to do [x complicated thing] in a week"-type posts or assertions or whatever. What kind of bass-ackwards paranoid reading...I mean, you know damn well people were either 1) making a (JOKING) point about how those who aren't nd speak about people who are, 2) finding the positive side of their disability in a fun way (considering these are people who have spent their whole lives being compared to those who aren't nd), or (most likely of all) 3) both.

Also look up the definitions of "systemic oppression" and the "eugenics movement". No, people who made funny-positive posts about "aUtISm SuPreMAcY" aren't just as eugenicist and eugenicists, you shitwit.

[angelboybreakdowns]

little bit of advice for allistics (& nts in general): flicking grease on someones face will not get rid of their grease related sensory issues, it will just send them into a meltdown. shocking, i know (/s).

[transmorolians]

i’m gonna start lying about being an endogenic system so anti-endos don’t touch me with a ten-foot-pole yeesh. 

the world is against systems as a whole and that includes everyone who is a system. 

yes, even if they’re a system in “the wrong way”. 

 as long people are still making movies about systems being serial killers there is no point in caring if someone is a system in “the wrong way”!!! 

the majority of singlets don’t care!!!!! they still hate us!!!!!!!! stop kicking other systems down because you’ll be next, even if you’re a system in “the right way”!!!!!!!!!

[chaosclover1999]

honestly kinda fucked up how u guys think a guy has 2 b beefy and strong 2 b a himbo and if he's not beefy he doesn't exist 2 u, like its only 4 himbos also, i havent seen any1 say that u need 2 b a specific body type 2 b a thembo or herbo but as soon as it's some1 who uses he/him he only matters 2 b conventionally attractive 2 straight women like wtf, it's honestly just weirdly sexist and ableist,,,, like the whole point of himbos and the overall reclamation of being a kind dumbass in general is 2 make it so its not like how the old idea of it was when the word bimbo was used as an insult which is like the idea that "oh well she's dumb but at least she makes up 4 it by being conventionally attractive 2 straight men" it's literally just the same thing but u guys r acting like its ok 4 some reason bc instead of it being abt ppl who use she/her pronouns its abt ppl who use he/him pronouns but its not ok and especially w/ how some ppl talk abt it it just kinda furthers this idea that some ppl hav that men r all either women's oppressors or eye candy 4 straight women, also the way some of u straight women talk abt wanting a himbo boyfriend and y u want a himbo boyfriend,,,, i rly hope u never hav a boyfriend who has an intellectual disability bc it sounds like u just want 2 control men who have intellectual disabilities and it's rly weird and ableist and exploitative,,,, like ur literally talking abt wanting a guy w/ an intellectual disability who's also a beefcake that u can control and manipulate into doing whatever u want him 2 and it's honestly legit fucking scary, men should b able 2 hav intellectual disabilities or just b dumb w/out feeling like they owe straight women or any1 conventional attractiveness and w/out having 2 worry that some1 is gonna take advantage of them not being smart, dumbass men should get 2 call themselves himbos if they want w/out having an identity crisis abt it, w/out being sexualised and objectified and w/out having 2 worry that doing so is gonna put them at risk

--sincerely, a dumbass transfag who has a dissociative disorder, psychosis and is unsure if the fact that those things effect my ability to think counts as an intellectual disability or if that would be me using that term wrong, also if you're upset about me, a trans gay guy, calling myself a transfag then my blog probably isn't for you

[jocks-play-with-their-balls]

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[martian-garden]

me wanting to learn more about the underlying neurological mechanisms of neurodevelopmental disorders

VS

my discomfort with researchers focused on finding "avenues for treatments" in a way that I'm sure doesn't actually take into account the wants or needs of individuals with those disorders (which may include treating symptoms and that's valid if that's what someone wants) or the social fallout of finding 'treatments' that then get forced onto people who don't want them

FIGHT

[talkingattumble]

Hi guys! Here’s some advice from a cane user on how to spot a fake cane user/disability faker!

YOU CANT

You can not spot a “fake disabled” cane user. You can not know if someone’s “really disabled”, much less by just looking at them. Here are some common misconceptions.

“Cane users always need their canes. If they walk without it or put it away when it’s inconvenient, they’re faking”: WRONG! Many cane users are what we call “ambulatory” cane users. This means they don’t always need their canes to walk. I’m an ambulatory cane user, and I experience really horrible leg pain on the daily. However, I don’t always use my cane, and when I don’t need to walk or stand a lot in a certain place I don’t use it. And when I do use it, I may lift it off the ground or carry it in places that are sandy, gravelly, or otherwise hinder my cane.

“Cane users walk abnormally without their canes, someone who walks normally without their cane is faking”: WRONG! Many ambulatory cane users can walk in a way that seems “normal”. This doesn’t mean they’re not in pain, or not “really disabled”. This just means that their condition doesn’t cause a noticeable difference in walking, and likely manifests in a different way.

“Cane users always need their cane, someone who doesn’t use their cane at home is faking”: WRONG! Cane users may not use their canes at home, because at home they may be able to do things like sit down wherever and whenever, regain more spoons, and use other mobility aids. Additionally, some ambulatory cane users only need or use their canes when they are doing something physically taxing, like going on a hike or standing in a long line.

“My cane user friend told me this person looks like they’re faking, so it must be true”: WRONG! Being a cane user doesn’t immediately make you an expert on all different conditions and experiences. Your friend does not know the random cane user walking down the street, they are going off looks and stereotypes. Disabled people are not immune to being ableist.

“They enjoy their cane too much/they’re too happy/they decorate their cane, so they can’t actually be in enough pain to need a cane” WRONG! We’re people like everyone else, and we experience positive emotions too, even if we go through a lot of pain. To me, customizing my cane is like getting a tattoo or putting streaks in my hair, it’s a way of self expression. And we deserve to be able to talk openly about our full experience, which include the parts we’re neutral or happy about.

“They’re one of those cringey teenagers who name themselves arson and like dsmp, so they’re probably faking” WRONG! Do I even have to explain why saying someone isn’t disabled because of their name and interests is messed up and also stupid? Or did you already know that and just wanted to make fun of a disabled teenager?

“They’re too young to be using a cane, so they must be faking” WRONG! there are lots of disabilities or injuries that can cause young people to need a mobility aid. For example, I use a cane for my fibromyalgia.

“They only use it in private places, and never in places where people recognize them, so they must be faking” WRONG! In a world where anyone can just randomly take out their phone, take a picture of a cane user, and post them online to be made fun of, it can be stressful to use a cane in public areas. Also, they may not want people to ask questions, or they may feel embarrassed about it.

“I saw them switch hands, so they must be faking” WRONG! There are different reasons a cane used might do this, but I’m going to use my experience as an example. My fibromyalgia is not consistent. Sometimes one leg hurts more then the other. But as I said, fibromyalgia is inconsistent, and sometimes my other leg will start to hurt more or need more support, which is when I switch hands. And when both my legs hurt equally, I may switch my hand if it’s getting too sore.

“They told me they feel like they’re faking when they use their cane, doesn’t that mean they don’t really need it?” WRONG! Imposter syndrome is strong in a lot of disabled people, especially when for a lot of our lives we were told by doctors that we were fine and just being dramatic. Anxiety is also comorbid with a lot of physically disabilities, which only strengthens this. To add to this, something that I’ve felt and seen other disabled people talk about it, when their disability aid lessens the pain, they start thinking “well I’m not in that much pain so I don’t really need it” even though the reason they’re not in that much pain is because of the aid. I know it seems dumb, but imposter syndrome can be that strong and affects disabled people a lot.

“They don’t have a diagnosis, so they must be faking” WRONG! First of all, diagnoses are expensive. On their own they’re often already expensive, but counting the tons of tests you have to take to confirm the diagnosis? Absolutely ludicrous. Some may also choose not to get a diagnosis, so that they don’t have to deal with the prejudice and setbacks of being diagnosed. Also, some people use a cane for injuries, and for stress or fatigue related pains.

These are only a few of the things I commonly hear from fakeclaimers, and I wanted to just put out a reminder that fakeclaiming hurts the disabled community much, much more than it does ableists. Next time you see someone with a cane switch hands, or someone with a wheelchair stand up, or someone with crutches put them down, before you immediately call them out to a friend, take a picture, or write a post: does your fakeclaim rely on stereotypes? Are your reasons things that apply to ambulatory aid users?

If so, just stop. Be mindful. Please.

[lehhoh7822]

re the pridemonth post

but also my dash is gpnna be a shithow eventually

like i remember prior years there have been fights and posts that are angry to try to raise awareness and posts afterwards that are angry about peopke not knowing or acknowledging disability awareness month

thats not to say that transphobia and biphobia and aphobia and all of the discrimination the queer community faces from outside and inside isn’t bad, that isn’t to sy the erasure of disability awareness month isnt bad 

but god i am tired and im bad with stuff like that, im gettin better with it buti read something remotely angry and im like “everyone hates me im the worst person every i should go die in a ditch because im ableist and i dont do enough and-”

i dont- i dont know guys, but if im not around, either exams are ramping up or i just fear what my dashboard will tell me

[wilbug]

hey you can say wilbur is an awful person and a piece of shit without being ableist and saying hes a narcissist. btw. you can say hes abusive without saying he has a personality disorder because hes "evil because people with NPD are evil" because even though youre not directly saying it thats what youre implying.

[npdemu]

me: lol wouldn't it be funny if i made it on fdc or otherwise got fakeclaimed by some idiot also me: *blocks ableists on sight*

[crowpunkcognitivedecline]

in my local queer bar someone graffitied the single occupancy disabled stall sign* to read “quadruple occupancy” and i’m so fucking done.

*grafitti on the bathroom doors is perfectly normal and encouraged at this bar. the issue is vandalizing a disabled stall with a joke about misusing it to fuck.

i pointed it out and how fucking upsetting it is to have our fucking BATHROOMS be the butt of endless jokes about drugs and sex and uncleanliness and laziness CONSTANTLY. it’s fucking insulting to have the active misuse of the only place a cripple can fucking pee be treated as a haha funny by people who don’t suffer from it and in fact often PERPETRATE that.

when i brought up that it’s way less funny when you’ve had those jokes made to you constantly when you’re just trying to piss—a right constantly denied to cripples—an abled person just went “yeah, we’ve all been in middle school!”

they didn’t respond when i said “oh, so you’ve been a middle schooler with a wheelchair?”

ableist abuse from peers was a major factor in my losing my right to education, and the rest of it was not being given basic accomodations. i’m not interested in entertaining it from grown-ass adults.

(also, given that tonight is, i shit you not, TRANS NIGHT, you’d think people would have an idea of how humiliating and shitty it is to have the only bathroom you can use mocked and misused for sex.)

[underestimated-heroine]

One thing I hate is that whenever someone does something shitty, the internet has to make a pseudoscience about it. "Wife guy" pseudoscience, lukewarm nebulously sociological conspiracy theories about the toxicity of [x] hobby", diagnosing EVERY shitty person with NPD...just fucking stop already.

[angelboybreakdowns]

i hope that someday my sister is disabled and that nobody in her life supports her and that she is mocked or screamed at for not doing things she physically cannot do. i hope that people constantly turn her disability into a joke even when it is irrelevant to the situation. i hope that people tell her she is exaggerating when she mentions a single symptom or trait, even one she literally had to have to get diagnosed. i hope she feels like a worthless burden every second of her life. i hope she feels like not a single person in the world understands or supports her. I hope she spends years crying herself to sleep every night. i hope she has the worst life humanly possible.

(/sia i wouldnt actually wish this on anyone.)

[transmorolians]

last night i dreamt:

i played modded minecraft and was really bad at it because i can never remember how to play minecraft

i saw an internment camp in person

i fought dio brando with the power of friendship except my party members called me ableist slurs

my mum had to fake her death and run away, and i had to pretend she was dead

i played deltarune and kris was called various ableist slurs

i have no clue why i dreamt all this or what this means

but i did sleep like a log last night