#emotional judgments

[stuckinapril]

friend wanted to see my tumblr, and when i told him i can’t show it to him bc it’s basically my personal diary he went “oh so I can’t see it but a bunch of strangers on tumblr can??” he literally does not get me. no one will get me like the people in my phone get me

[hyunjining]

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TRANSLATION BY @/HNBN_TRANSLATED ON TWITTER

HJ: “Lately the world has gotten kinda sharper so people tend to block away their mushy feelings. For me as well... lately it feels like I’ve been living on a dopamine addiction. Usually I’m a very sentimental person, but lately I can’t even write. I can’t write, and when I focus on a thought I end up thinking ‘Ah, this a bit... is this cringey?’

But luckily you guys... I like that there are so many people who enjoy cringey stuff. After all there’s nothing wrong with cringe. To share something you’re into, to share someone’s world... isn’t that something that requires a bit of courage? I guess only people who’ve experienced it would know but... Isn’t it the case?”

oh how i love hyunjin’s brain... he’s so lovely ❣️

[sittinginsunflowers]

It’s such a small little thing but the queens reactions when Brennan laughed at the Michelle Visage joke made me so happy. He didn’t draw attention to himself or pat himself on the back. It’s like you could see the queens relax a little and feel like they could fully be themselves in a space they all weren’t really used to being in. They know they don’t have to appeal to Brennan, but it’s also fun to know they’re at a table where their work is known and respected and it’s such a small thing but it means so much

[ongreenergrasses]

tagged by @lasciatemi-stare this was really cute and also got me dead to rights so. you know 🤷🏻‍♀️

Superpower Test

tagging @shatterthefragments @ghoulangerlee @thesunkeptrising @paris-roubaix and anyone else who would like to 🌷

[philosophybits]

If it is their very nature to cause others distress, my anger towards those fools is as inappropriate as it would be towards fire for its nature to burn.

Śāntideva, Bodhicaryāvatāra, Crosby & Skilton tr. (6:39)

[furiousgoldfish]

Does anyone else get people implicitly trusting you, even when they've only gotten to know you?

I had people meet me and 10 minutes later they felt comfortable leaving me with their kids while they go get something done, or leaving me alone in their house. People I barely know will tell me all kinds of horrifying things that had happen to them, sadly this usually spirals out of control and they full on expect me to be their therapist from then on, and will react very badly if I want to leave.

I'm always very surprised when people do things like that because I would never, under any circumstances, trust someone as quickly as that, I usually sus people out for months and years before telling them anything about myself and STILL I end up dead wrong and my trust is betrayed. I have to cut off 99% of people that I meet because my judgment in people is just that bad.

Other people's implicit trust in me, however, is never wrong. I never would do anything to hurt the trust they've put in me, so nobody has ever had anything bad happen to them, for trusting me. I'd never steal or do anything remotely bad to a kid. It's hard to even resist comforting any person who's telling me about their pain.

So how come everyone can see right through me immediately, but I can't see trough others no matter what kind of strategy or effort I put into it? I will notice that some people are manipulative or without empathy and steer clear but for others, I won't know until it's too late and it's often too late. Did anyone ever figure this out?

[anne-o-nyme]

Essek has a 400′s life crisis and goes back on the road with a party of young adventurers. He, of course, brings Caleb with him.

all credits for this amazing idea goes back to the great @flappingduster-scribbles

[fusionsprunt]

Starbs pls ur goin to make ppl ship Exo and Hunter-

(which is fine!)

[aoitakumi8148]

...𝒯𝒽𝑒 𝒮𝒽𝓇𝑒𝒹𝓈 𝒜𝓇𝑒 𝒩𝑒𝓋𝑒𝓇 𝒞𝑜𝓁𝒹... 𝐼 𝐿𝑜𝓋𝑒, 𝑅𝑒𝓂𝑒𝓂𝒷𝑒𝓇 𝒜𝓃𝒹 𝐹𝑜𝓇𝑔𝒾𝓋𝑒 𝒴𝑜𝓊.

[letsgolando-4]

Sebastian Vettel being Sebastian Vettel

[veliseraptor]

just thinking about the "xue yang never cared about xiao xingchen he doesn't have real feelings and just thinks of him as a toy" take again and @ameliarating pointed something out to me namely:

Xue Yang broke into peals of laughter. "Wei-qianbei, you're merciless!"

"Fine, laugh. Even if you laugh yourself to death, Xiao Xingchen's soul will still be too broken to put back together. He found you repulsive, yet you still insist on dragging him back so that you can play games with him."

Abruptly, Xue Yang swung from laughter into rage. "Who wants to play games?!"

"Then why did you kneel in front of me and beg me to fix his soul for you?"

Of course, someone as clever as Xue Yang must have been aware that Wei Wuxian was trying to bait him. First, distracting him with anger, and second, provoking him into shouting, Wei Wuxian made it possible for Lan Wangji to deduce his location and strike. But still, Xue Yang couldn't help replying. "Why? Hah! As if you don't know. I want to turn him into a fierce corpse - under my control! Didn't he want to be a pure, virtuous cultivator? Then I'll make him endlessly slaughter people, so he'll never find peace!"

"Ah? You hate him that much? Then why did you kill Chang Ping?"

Xue Yang sneered. "Why did I kill Chang Ping? Do you need to ask, Yiling Patriarch? Didn't I already tell you? I said I was going to kill the entire Yueyang Chang Clan - I wasn't even going to spare one dog!"

[...] Wei Wuxian said, "You sure came up with a good explanation. Too bad the timing doesn't match up. Someone like you, who can't even let a dirty look go without avenging yourself a thousand times over, someone who strikes so swiftly and ruthlessly - if someone like you really wanted to kill off an entire family, why would they wait so many years to finish? You know perfectly well why you killed Chang Ping."

"Then tell me, what do I know? What do I know perfectly well?!"

He shouted this last sentence.

"You killed them, yes. But why lingchi? Killing someone that way signifies that it was punishment. If you were only getting revenge for yourself, why did you use Shuanghua and not your own Jiangzai? Why did you have to dig out Chang Ping's eyes and make him like Xiao Xingchen?"

Xue Yang shouted himself hoarse. "Bullshit! It's all bullshit! It was revenge - was I supposed to let him die comfortably?"

"Indeed, it was revenge. But whose revenge were you seeking? How ridiculous. If you genuinely wanted revenge, you should have sliced yourself into pieces!" (MDZS, Chapter 42)

so if we're meant to buy that interpretation, then...what is the point of this passage? what is it trying to say? is it just to give Wei Wuxian a means of distracting Xue Yang and making him show himself? then why this means? and why are we taking the line that Xue Yang himself, a famously reliable narrator (?) gives (re: wanting to turn Xiao Xingchen into a fierce corpse and control him) as the truth of the situation, as opposed to Wei Wuxian's own interpretation (where Xue Yang is taking revenge on Xiao Xingchen's behalf, albeit expressed onto a different target)? and what is the point of Xue Yang's reaction after this, where he suddenly goes silent and stops responding, meant to indicate? the fact that Xue Yang gets angrier and angrier at Wei Wuxian for pressing the point?

these are all cues present for a narrative purpose, not "just because," and they're pointing in a direction that indicates that Xue Yang in this scene is lying through his teeth, whether or not he admits that to himself.

furthermore, since inevitably "but adaptation" comes up in these conversations, CQL actually retains this scene in a remarkably intact form:

coming to the conclusion based on this scene alone (not even touching the narrative surrounding the events in the past) that people who claim that "xue yang had no genuine feelings about xiao xingchen whatsoever" is to be taken as truth are not just taking the most boring possible read of this text but also at least a little actively reading against it.

[thejudgmentdays]

HELP

[via @dommysterio35 on tiktok]

[thewalkingplumbob]

Previously / Legacy Tag

Transcript below:

Reila: So I talked to Brielle today when I took Luca to the library.

Emely: And? Did she have some good news?

Reila, small sigh: Yes and no. She said there are a lot of loopholes in Newcrest adoption laws.

*distracted*

Emely: Oh yeah? What kind of noodles?

Reila. louder: Loopholes, not noodles. Babe are you even listening?

Emely: You have my full attention. Tell me about these loopholes. What does Brielle think?

Reila: She thinks Kiara has a good chance at getting visitation rights. But I told her no way.

Emely, soft: Would that be such a bad thing?

Reila, surprised: W-what?! You think we should let her see Luca? I thought we were on the same page about this?

Emely: Do I want her to be any part of his life? No. But she's his biological mom. The more I try to think logically, the more letting her have visitation makes sense.

*falling asleep*

Reila: Wow. Okay. So I guess I'm the irrational one now?

Emely, mumbling: You're not irrational...

[philosophybits]

May all of my kind accept that everything is [empty] like space. They get angry in disputes and delight in celebrations. With feelings of grief, vexation, and despair; with mutually inflicted lacerations and amputations’ because of their evil actions, they lead their lives miserably, longing for their own happiness.

Śāntideva, Bodhicaryāvatāra, Crosby & Skilton tr. (9:154-155)

[loveyourlovelysoul]

downplaying others and judging them or imagining about possible "wrong" behaviours/habit of theirs in order to feel better about yourself may be what you've learned is right/normal to do (you and your needs probably have been judged and downplayed a lot too) but deep down you know it's not. you know how it feels like to be on the other side and you know you're not aware of the true story (as no one is aware of yours). this is just a gentle reminder for you: you can stop this cycle if you want to. if you don't like it, if you feel the need to stop it, you can.

[jichanxo]

kuwana + vent art