#health coding

[flowersfromunderground]

[liviawildrose]

𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫

it’s a hard pill to swallow, but sometimes, you’ve got to step into a role you never signed up for. maybe your mom wasn’t the nurturing, protective figure she was supposed to be. maybe your dad let you down in ways that left scars. maybe your friends only stuck around to take, never to give. the truth? you can’t wait for someone to come and save you. you have to become your own mother.

ask yourself:

if your child was in your shoes—stuck in a bad relationship, getting treated like crap— would you tell them, “stay”? or would you say, “you deserve better than this”?

if your child was chasing their dreams but struggling, would you mock them? no. you’d guide them, push them to be their best. you’d discipline them with love and cheer them on with pride. now, apply that same energy to yourself.

be that mom who says: “get your shit together because you deserve the best life possible.”

but also the mom who says: “it’s okay to rest, i’ve got your back, and i’m proud of you.”

start showing up for yourself the way you needed someone to show up for you. and yes, it’s sad. sad that we even have to do this. but it’s also empowering to realize you can.

personally, here’s my story.

my mom never cared to take my pictures as a kid nor cared if a haircut made me happy or not, it was literally everything up to her convenience. it hurts now because i would’ve loved to look back and see those memories. but i don’t have them. i can count the photos of my childhood—20 pictures in 17 years. insane, right? so, i made a promise to myself: from now on, i will document my life. i won’t delete my photos. i’ll make sure there’s a record of who i was, what i felt, what i achieved. and when i have kids? you bet i’ll take pictures of them. i’ll curate their childhood with care because i know what it feels like to not have that.

but being your own mother isn’t just about the pictures or the memories. it’s about analyzing everything you missed out on and providing it for yourself now. it’s about being selfless enough to let go of bad habits that hold you back. it’s about kicking toxic people out of your life the way a mom would protect her child from bad influences. it’s about prioritizing your healing, even if it’s messy and uncomfortable. you have to heal your inner child. that 5-year-old who was bullied, that 13-year-old who was treated like shit in her first relationship, that 7-year-old who dreamed big but was told she couldn’t they’re all still inside you, waiting for someone to nurture them. and unfortunately, no one else is going to do it for you. no one else is going to come and fix the damage.

i made a pact with myself: when i have kids, i will raise them so well that they won’t ever need to “heal their inner child” at 17 or 18. they’ll be whole. they’ll be loved. they’ll know their worth from the start. but for now, i’m doing that for myself. and you need to do it for yourself too. because at the end of the day, the only way to heal is to become the person you needed all along. become your own mother.

what is the inner child?

the “inner child” is the part of you that holds your early experiences, memories, and emotions. it’s the 5-year-old you who loved to laugh but was scolded for being “too much.” it’s the 10-year-old you who dreamed big but felt dismissed. it’s the teen you who felt heartbreak for the first time but didn’t know how to process it. your inner child carries the wounds, fears, and unmet needs from your past, but also your natural creativity, curiosity, and joy. healing your inner child means reconnecting with this version of yourself, giving it the love and understanding it never received, and releasing the pain it has carried for years.

how do you heal your inner child?

1. journaling: dialogue with your inner child

dedicate a journal specifically to your inner child. write letters to them, like:

“dear [your name at 5/7/13], i remember when you felt [insert memory]. i’m sorry you went through that, but i’m here now, and i’ve got you.”

let your inner child respond. write as if you’re that younger version of yourself—pour out your fears, dreams, and questions. this process can uncover emotions and patterns you didn’t realize were affecting you.

2. therapy: safe exploration with a professional

a therapist (especially one trained in inner child work) can help you identify wounds and patterns from childhood. they’ll guide you in understanding how your upbringing shaped your beliefs about yourself and the world. therapy also gives you tools to reframe those beliefs and meet your emotional needs.

watch “dear zindagi” lol

3. look at old photos and memories

revisit old photos, journals, or artwork from your childhood. don’t just look at them—analyze them. (i wish i could d this but im stuck with 20 photos so… 😭) what do you notice in your younger self’s eyes, body language, or expression?

• ask yourself:

• what was i feeling here?

• did i feel safe? loved? excited? scared?

• what did i need in this moment that i didn’t get?

• use this reflection to understand your inner child’s unmet needs.

4. create new positive memories

your inner child is still alive within you, and they crave fun, love, and freedom. do things your younger self would’ve loved but never got to do: buy yourself a toy you always wanted. go to an amusement park or build a pillow fort. dance around your room like no one’s watching. this isn’t childish it’s healing.

5. practice reparenting

treat yourself as if you were your own child. when you feel sad or scared, don’t ignore it.

ask yourself: what do i need right now? and give it to yourself.

be the loving, supportive, and protective parent your inner child deserved.

6. identify triggers and patterns

notice when you’re acting out of a place of childhood wounds.

for example: do you get overly anxious when someone’s mad at you? do you seek validation in toxic relationships? trace these behaviors back to your childhood.

were you taught that love is conditional? did you have to “earn” attention by being perfect? once you identify the root, you can start rewiring your responses.

7. inner child meditations and visualizations

find a quiet space and imagine your inner child sitting across from you. visualize yourself comforting them, hugging them, and telling them they’re safe. remind them: “you don’t have to be scared anymore. i’m here for you.”

8. nurture yourself daily

make self-care non-negotiable. eat foods you love, sleep well, move your body, and spend time doing things that make you happy. when you treat yourself with care, you show your inner child they’re worth it.

9. forgive

healing isn’t about excusing those who hurt you. it’s about releasing the hold they have over you so you can move forward. write a forgiveness letter—not for them, but for yourself. (they don’t deserve the love i’m sorry)

“i release the pain you caused me so it doesn’t control me anymore.”

10. promise to break the cycle

vow to yourself (and your future children if you want them) just cause your grandma bleed on your mom and then your mom passed it to you does not mean you will make your future kids life miserable too. the generational trauma must break with you. your future child does not deserve it and so your inner child protect you inner child and when you have a child of your own be the best mother possible, i personally would love to make my future kids childhood so memorable and happy that they will feel the need to comeback and relive their childhood that’s the kind of childhood i want to give them

“i will not let this pain define me. i will create a life of love, joy, and freedom.”

healing your inner child isn’t easy, but it’s life-changing.when you reconnect with that innocent, wounded part of yourself, you’ll find that the love and peace you’ve been searching for has always been within you.

11. foster your inner child’s dreams

when you were a child, your dreams weren’t influenced by fear, rejection, or societal pressures. you dreamed with your heart wide open, purely and authentically. reconnecting with those dreams can heal the part of you that felt unheard or invalidated back then.

a. reflect on your childhood aspirations

• sit down and ask yourself:

• what did i want to be when i was 5? 10? 13?

• what made me happiest back then?

• what did i lose interest in because someone told me i wasn’t good enough?

• write down every dream, no matter how “unrealistic” it seems.

hint: those childhood dreams often point to your soul’s calling.

b. start chasing those dreams now

• even if your dreams have evolved, find ways to honor the essence of them.

• wanted to be a singer at 13? start singing lessons or recording yourself.

• wanted to help people? explore careers like psychology, teaching, or coaching.

• don’t hold back.

it’s not about being perfect, it’s about reconnecting with the passion your younger self had.

c. create small wins for your inner child

• maybe 8-year-old you always wanted to paint but never got the supplies. buy yourself a beginner’s set and paint, even if it’s messy.

• maybe 6-year-old you wanted to be a dancer. take a fun dance class and twirl like no one’s watching.

• small wins send the message to your inner child that they are finally being prioritized.

e. validate your inner child’s feelings and failures

• remind yourself:

“it’s okay that 10-year-old me struggled with making friends. i was just a child trying my best.”

• instead of shaming yourself for past actions, honor them.

every mistake was a step toward becoming the incredible person you are now.

f. use your dreams to shape your future

• your childhood passions aren’t just hobbies—they’re roadmaps to your authentic self.

• align your current goals with your inner child’s desires.

• if 7-year-old you dreamed of making people smile, maybe your career or side hustle should reflect that.

• if 12-year-old you loved storytelling, find ways to write, act, or share your voice.

fostering your inner child’s dreams doesn’t just heal the past—it builds a future that feels authentic to you. every time you take a step toward those dreams, you’re telling your inner child: “you were always worthy. your dreams always mattered. and now, i’m making them come true for you.”

[sweetestnpink]

The girliest things you can try to do on your worst days 𓍯𓂃𓏧♡

• i learned that when i have a clean room, my mindset is better

•saying affirmations can really help, just tell yourself you’re beautiful

• good hygiene even if you might not be having the best day:(

•get yourself a sweet treat, you deserve it babes

•try doing your skincare routine -`♡´-

•having your nails & hair done helps!!

•for my lovers who might not be able to afford hair & nails, i recommend press ons for nails & doing simple natural hairstyles might help or trying to learn how to do your own hair

• I really love doing sanrio face masks when i feel down

• romanticize your life, even the little things could help you feel better

•always remember you are loved by someone even if you might not feel like it

That’s all for now my dolls! 𝜗𝜚⋆₊˚ I just wanted to post something small to help because currently senior year is kicking my butt & I know even I have my bad days recently. Just know each day gets by luvs & you are loved no matter what. mental health always matters.♡

[x4ver1a]

i desire things that will destroy me in the end.

[fumguss]

i really like slay the princess

[whump-galaxy]

The whumpee intentionally breaks something of the carewhumper’s to get their attention. The carewhumper goes deathly quiet, staring at the pieces on the ground.

As the seconds tick by, the whumpee begins to regret their choice. They wonder if the carewhumper will finally drop the caring act.

[ohshinytrinketsmine]

This Love Doesn't Have Long Beans

[o0anapher0o]

A thing we underestimate, I think, is how impulsive Tommy actually is. Obviously Buck is 'the impulsive one' and the cool, confident and competent persona Tommy has (which we already know is bullshit Mr Fake mouth static), kinda distract from the fact that he makes snap decisions all the time he can’t possibly have thought through (because there was no time). Do we think he even thought 20 seconds before he agreed to fly into a hurricane for a man he hadn’t spoken to in five years? He went to talk to Buck, a guy who for all he knew was straight as a ruler, and it took about a minute of flirting before he decided Fuck it I’m kissing him about it. It probably took two seconds after Buck opened his dumb mouth when Eddie crashed their date for Tommy to decide the date was over, and under two minutes from sitting down with his shitty coffee to agreeing to give Buck a second chance.

That’s not to say he couldn’t justify his decisions if pressed (he can and he does ‘I didn’t want to pressure you’), or that he isn’t fully prepared to live with the consequences, but you cannot tell me he considered either the reasons or the consequences in the moment. That comes later.

And because he tends to play responsible adult to bratty baby bi Buck it kind of distracts from how reckless most of these decisions are. The majority of them have the potential to backfire really bad. Death, heartbreak or getting punched in the face type of bad.

Which brings me to the break up, because that’s the same type of snap decision. Tommy is put in a situation and he jumps, damn the consequences. He doesn’t take the time to consider what he’s doing and he doesn’t give Buck the time to process what’s happening. Yes Buck jumped ahead with his ‘move in with me’, but Tommy also skipped a couple of steps there and threw the whole relationship out in a split second decision.

[divinitysin]

[catspawcreates]

Kill Code Moon enters the battle…

A day late, but my gawds…. When did I level up?

Must’ve been when I conquered this OP optional boss I found 😹 unlocked a new companion. Worth grinding mats & levels for.

I want to thank @eclipsartist on IG for reminding me about the boss music (my sound is almost always off on my phone) & an old TikTok where when Monty turns around a health bar appears. 💯

Edit without the health bar & more under the cut

I used the screenshots of the scene to color pick and help with the lighting, especially on Monty.

I thought the WIP with Monty before being rendered was really funny so I’ve included it and the sketch from the first post on the actual day, Jan 12th 😹

[http-tempted]

I’m too healed now I hate everyone

[kaiju-krew]

mothowl doodles

[brokenrefraction]

water dispenser roboe

[reality-detective]

Silent Film about "Food Label Codes" 🤔

[flowersfromunderground]

Life lately

[rose-reveries]

I think it’s fine if you don’t like Akito for all the shit she did (I personally don’t like her), but if I see one more brain dead person online say she, “didn’t *deserve* her redemption arc,” personally, I will be crashing out.

The story of Fruits Basket is about change. The mangaka basically TELLS you that you don’t have to forgive Akito, showcased that Rin herself says she could never forgive her for what she’s done to her.

Genuinely I do think the people who say she’s evil and didn’t deserve redemption and deserved to rot in the cat’s cell,

1.) hate any type of mental illness/trauma response that isn’t uwu cutesy

2.) lack critical thinking skills, and also empathy

3.) would probably call you disgusting for being so depressed that you haven’t showered in 2 weeks

A person’s trauma is never an excuse for their behavior, so I don’t think you can excuse her abusive behavior at all. She defenestrated and also stabbed someone, plus the loads of abusive she put on everyone from a young age.

That doesn’t mean that she can’t decide to change for herself. She didn’t change for you to like her. Bad people are allowed to change for the better, and you don’t have to forgive them for their past if you so choose.

Besides the fact that saying she deserved to rot goes against everything Fruits Basket is about, I think it also really feeds into this stale way of thinking. That “once you’re bad you’re always bad”, and when you push that narrative it actually will cause bad people to just never change because society is telling them they can’t, so why would they even put in the effort?

Anyway, never thought I’d defend Akito. I just need people to like experience empathy, critical thinking, and media literacy for 5 minutes because y’all piss me off.