#hyper-vigilance

[raffaellopalandri]

Coping and Masking Mechanisms in Exceptionally Gifted Neurodivergent Individuals

Exceptionally Gifted Individuals with non-neurotypical cognition—such as those with AuDHD (Autistic Spectrum and ADHD comorbidity), high IQ, or exceptional cognitive abilities—experience the world in a profoundly different way from the majority of the population. Photo by zhang kaiyv on Pexels.com Their neurological wiring does not merely lead to enhanced intelligence but also comes with unique…

[calltoamentor]

Resentment and Hypervigilance: The Poison We Drink

What happens if you keep drinking? What if you build an entire community around consuming the poison and warning others away from it? What if you build an entire lifestyle around spreading the legacy of the poisoned well?

Resentment, much like its counterparts hatred and anger, is yet another variety of poison that we drink while expecting the subject of our scrutiny to suffer the consequences. Many participants say its for their own good, or the good of the world, or the drinker’s mental well-being. If ever resentment had an accurate symbol, I feel it would be this image. Today we speak of resentment;…

[northstarscowboyhat]

Late night Magma doodles

(Also because I feel like this needs to be clarified; the joke is that Clover got the step dad shirt from Starlo ((hence why its oversized on them)). Clover still uses they/them pronouns in this AU.)

[conceptofjoy]

what the fuck does "i guess" mean. i agree not existing is terrifying? dirk "im killin myself" strider. he just finished this whole rant

so basically the splintering is a a cause of that fear of non existence. "mind falters, ...threatens to retreat into the void in any way" its his fear of inaction. which is what existing means to them.

[lumpywhump]

whumpee always has one ear uncovered when wearing headphones. They were caught off guard once and they're not going to let it happen again

[mazzystar24]

Buddie are the most kidnappable murderable robbable people cos Eddie here invites Freddie fakeman into his house and buck takes 3-4 business days to notice someone in his house (3 someones actually I’m just being gracious and only counting the one in his line of sight)

No critical thinking meets no awareness of surroundings

Y’all are fr a serial killers and robbers wet dream

Some of y’all have never been girls and it shows🙄🤚

[livecrow]

I kind of think every single human interaction Ghost has, no matter how benign, he's involuntarily evaluating how he could beat their ass.

Sometimes the passing thought morphs into an urge. His brain is like, "gotta neutralize the threat" when it's just some guy stocking oranges at the grocery store.

[shyolet]

i feel like every other week this site has a popular post thats core is basically mocking people with communication disorders or speech impediments

[sarcasticsra]

HE COULDN’T THINK OF ANY FACTS.

Hyperfixation and passion got married and are taking care of all of the interests! Elias’ brain is just absolutely flooded with dopamine right now, it’s the BEST.

“A strong sense of pleasure slightly tempered by conscience sounds pretty fun.” Trapp is always 100% correct. My god this man is so quick and talented. More Trapp on D20 2kforever.

Conscience understanding the place self-loathing can come from and shrinking it back into more helpful “you fucked up but you’re going to fix it” guilt, accountability. Goddamn seriously self-loathing evolving from guilt Brennan you’re a goddamn genius.

Impulse and hyper vigilance have gotten divorced and remarried 17 times at least already, you can’t convince me otherwise.

Way to go, Elias. I knew you could do it, buddy.

[ruminate88]

In 2025, I thought I would be out of my little hibernation that I created last year where I spend as much time by myself as I can but guess not. I’ll get back to normal life again when it’s time. You can’t rush yourself. Our brains run on the clock but our bodies don’t.

You have to learn to love yourself (something you never did before by spending alone time with yourself.) You move slower, eat slower and rest more. You’re calming your nervous system and creating trust within yourself again. You’ll still have moments of being triggered and you’ll have moments of hyper-vigilance. This is all part of it. Healing is hard and there’s no deadline becuase it’s not a race or a project. It’s the chapter of your life that you’re in.

This is not about isolation or becoming selfish. You’re not trying to push people away and hurt them but you are finally taking care of your needs. You need to test your trust by getting back out there with people. You can’t hide forever and live in fear but process the lessons of the past. Use your lessons for future relationships. Your body will know when it’s time to push yourself harder. Right now, just take it easy. ❤️‍🩹 4/15/25

[imalayla]

Before it eats my brain up I will type out weird interaction with the neighbor diagonal from me. I'm walking Stol, he pees on a tree on the side of the street opposite from my house. It's not a yard, it's an empty spanse of grass, weeds, and trees that are between the parking pad of the apartment building, and the street.

Guy (tall, large, older man maybe 50s-60s) pulls up into his driveway and gets out. At first I don't even register that he's talking to me. But I finally realize he's asking me "is that your yard?"

I said "sorry?" Not sure if I heard him right.

"is that your yard??" (He sounds slurred , perhaps drunk?)

"No that's not my yard."

"don't let your dog go in other people's yards."

At this point I'm ?? Not sure how to process this but my alarm bells are going off due to this man's body language and tone of voice. So I just say "my dog peed on the tree." cuz I don't know what else to say.

He says even louder "don't matter, that's not your yard."

I wanted to say well is it YOUR yard?! But I just said "big deal, he peed on a tree, it's fine."

I continue walking Stoli, trying to ignore the guy but I can tell he's following me a little down the street which makes me even more nervous. I hear him saying something but I dont catch the whole thing.

Stoli stops to poop (and again I must stress this is NOT a yard. It's essentially a no-mans land, unkempt side of a residential street with overgrown weeds, invasive plants, bare dirt, etc.)

I am getting poop bags out when I hear the guy about "AND NOW HES TAKIN A SHIT? HES SHITTING?"

I don't say anything at this point but NGL my temper is spiking. I pick up the poop and debate on yelling back that if he doesn't shut up I'll throw the shit bag in his face. I keep walking though. I don't know why but it got my blood pressure up SO much.

I hear him say one more time "THAT DOG IS SHITTING!" But I continue walking around the loop and the guy stops following me after I ignored him over the shit comment.

This is the first time I've ever seen this man or even interacted with people in that house.

The place Stoli peed isn't his house or yard or land. What a bizarre thing to get angry about, my dog hiking his leg on a tree that's by the street. I picked up his poop as I always do. It makes me nervous bc no matter where I go for walks I have to walk past this guy's house because it's RIGHT there, corner lot diagonal from ours. Low key was afraid of being assaulted or shot, but it may just be my PTSD hyper vigilance. He was giving off some rancid vibes.

[proudfreakmetarusonikku]

it’s bizarre how people took “don’t be parasocial you don’t know these people” to “you should never trust people to be at all decent unless you personally know them” bc like. one that’s terrible advice to give considering you’re far more likely to be harmed by someone you know with like, most crimes, but also like… Yeah you should be able to reasonably expect that people aren’t horrible criminals? That isn’t absurd or being overly trusting thats very normal to expect. Y'all have reinvented severe life destroying paranoia and victim blaming (bc I’ve seen people start talking over Actual Victims bc they were stupid for trusting people) bc one minecraft youtuber you watched was shitty like. No we should not expect Every Random Person or even Every Random Man to be a rapist by default that's extremely unhealthy in so many ways. That’s not reasonable caution that’s like, a phobia. Please stop getting into echo chambers that reinforce emotional self harm to stay safe it’s not helping!

[pocketdogs]

I need muzzle recommendations please. people around here seem to leave food and garbage wherever they fucking please so Finn, the fucking gluttonous asshole that he is, has once again swallowed something he shouldn’t have (a piece of chicken with 1/4 of the skewer stick in it and a bunch of chicken bones). this happened on and off-leash so now he’s lost every bit of freedom he’s earned over the years (granted we did use to live in a civilised society where people didn’t fucking litter). so yeah, he needs to be muzzled

[shimmeringweeds]

out of context ep 12 "my new boss is goofy" quotes that I've hidden in my drafts since december hoping someone not me will bring up as more "queer-baiting" examples but, well, here we are.

These quotes are about apartment hunting. But also, do they not read as one person's anxiety over a budding romance?

Momose is hesitant to move because he's found happiness with what they have. Yet he wants the space to grow by himself in confidence and equality. He wants to keep the relationship (broadly speaking) but realizes that continuing as they are will not serve either of them in the long run. (Plus, in a typical courting situation, rejection at this stage is not a good look. +10 anxiety.)

But god bless Shirosaki. Healing boss of our dreams. He explicitly states his feelings on the matter. Yes, he wants Momose to stay. Yes, he is sad. But if Momose wants to leave, then he will back that choice without sacrificing the relationship.

There's an underlying message communicated here that the quality of their relationship is more important than the status of it (status equaling colleagues vs. neighbors vs. roommates vs. lovers) At the same time, he recognizes that status (boss/subordinate and, yes, romantic/platonic) is important to society. The impact that weight has on a person's psyche cannot be brushed aside. It's respected by them both.

They've survived abusive relationships. They are finding the value in sitting with loneliness and building personal confidence. They know they have unconditional friends backing them up. They grace each other with the gift of understanding and space to heal and to grow.

No rush. No pressure. No rejection. Good vibes only.

[hideyourautumn-milkteeth]

I need a super direct dude. It’s probably why the thought of dating a cis guy seems so appealing. As a trans person myself I feel very familiar with the weird complex we have around communicating things (due to many reasons, be it trauma, insecurity, or just general anxiety/inexperience) and it’s smth that broke down both my past T4T relationships.

I need a dude who’s caring, hot, and not afraid to just fucking SAY how they’re feeling even if it’s smth difficult. LIKE IF U ARE FEELING A CERTAIN WAY OR ARE BOTHERED SMTH SPECIFIC JUST FUCKING SAY SOOOO

I recognize it’s a challenge but I’m kinda at the end of my rope. I can’t date a bitch who acts passive or vague anymore lord have mercy. If you can’t work shit out it’ll lead into a long term discomfort which will cause frustration which will inevitably compound into resentment and bitterness. I CANT do that again.

[fluffydice]

Shoutout to both Imu and Aiura for admitting to have at least a bit of interest in Kuboyasu, and shoutout to Kuboyasu for being the equivalent of a either brick wall or a nuclear bomb when it comes to romance.