#making lists

[ahedderick]

   My mother used to write me chore lists when I was a kid, using a little spiral notepad like this one. I’ve gone through various iterations of list-making throughout my adult life, centering around the back-of-a-random-envelope motif. March of ‘22, though, when I was sitting in the hospital marking my father’s last days, I bought a full-sized notebook. I was making lists while I was sitting there; things I needed to do for his house, for my house, business/financial/cleaning/organizing. I used it to take notes when Drs or nurses were giving me advice.

   After he passed away, the list-making kicked into a heretofore undiscovered high gear. I had categories of lists. 

   I’ve done a lot in the last 13 months, but having this large, less-losable notebook has been a real help. I can page back and see when I met with a finance person, look up the phone number for the ‘mystery lawyer’* who does not seem to exist in the phone book or on the web. I can look at the thiings I’ve already accomplished when I feel like I’m not getting ANYTHING done. I am. Just never as fast as I want.

   Bless the Bigass Notebook. Long may it reign.

* He’s a nice guy and very helpful - but I don’t know how the HECK anyone contacts him if they haven’t already met him in person. He is a phantom.

[deathspeaker]

A more forgiving (and useful) way to use To-Do Lists

So I have both ADHD and autism. BAD. I struggle with time management as well as even perceiving time. So sometimes five minutes feels like an hour and an hour feels like five minutes and I can blink and suddenly the sun is fucking rising and I feel not even a hint of tiredness to indicate I stayed up all night.

The usual advice is ‘Keep a to-do list!’ but this created a different issue where I would make a to-do list and then not accomplish all of it then feel like a worthless sack of shit for only managing to do like... one thing on the list.

Then I started doing it a little differently. I made a list per day and would do as much as I could, then the next day make a new list but I would still keep track of the previous days so I could tackle each line without feeling guilty for missing something. I wouldn’t have to keep writing ‘Clean the fish tank’ every day until I got it done, I just had to consult the list and it oddly made it easier to do? I don’t know the psychology behind this but it felt less stressful. It became... forgiving.

I also try to divide up the ‘to-do’s’ in a way that they aren’t too big. I don’t just put ‘clean the kitchen’ because that could actually cover like 10 different tasks and many can’t be done out of order (I can’t load dirty dishes into the dish washer until the clean dishes are unloaded). So instead I start with what steps need to be done first, like the ‘unload clean dishes’. This step probably helps my autism a touch more than my ADHD. If you give me a single task that is actually made up of a dozen tasks it easily overwhelms me, makes it hard to manage and I tend not to accomplish half of it.

Due to my current issue (getting tested for an immune disorder, might have fibromyalgia but doctor wants to rule out Lupus first) I get exhausted quickly, lots of pain and muscle weakness. So I’ve added a timer to it. I set the timer, play video games/watch tv/read then when it goes off I pick something off the list, do that (and because they’re divided up into easy bites I don’t wear myself out) then go back to the ADHD rewarding thing my stupid brain craves while my body gets a chance to relax.

I’m using this timer trick not just for boring things that need to get done but to help me manage learning new skills, doing something fun but educational (Duolingo with Spanish!). Playing with my pets, doing some stretches, etc.

If this helps anyone I’ll be happy! I’m 40, getting more disabled it seems so I’ve picked up a few things. It also keeps me busy so I don’t fall into a worse depression spiral.

[commedesgarconsliketheboys]

tidal when the pawn extraordinary machine the idler wheel fetch the bolt cutters

lush retired from sad new career in business bury me at makeout creek puberty 2 be the cowboy laurel hell

whatever people say i am thats what im not favourite worst nightmare humbug suck it and see am tranquility base hotel and casino the car

psychopomp soft sounds from another planet jubilee

Pretty Things Shark Smile Capacity Watering Coma Great White Shark Mythological Beauty Objects Haley Mary Black Diamonds

[nicxxx5]

i love making lists idk why and i lowkey want to start making lists of my interests and sharing them but idk if people would care

[wangxianficrecs]

Hi! Hey! Hellooo! I'm the one who asked for Dom!LanZhan and I just wanted to give you and @artemisisdiana and anyone who recommended fics (not necessarily just for the Dom!LanZhan request) the biggest thank you, you guys are awesome (^ . ^) !! Wishing you nothing but good things!!

Ooops, I overlooked this and now it's a month late. Yes, the Dom Lan Wangji post was excellent, I'm so pleased that @artemisisdiana had such good records and happy that you asked for it!

And speaking of, I believe someone else had requested a similar post but with Dom Wei Wuxian, so if you (=anyone who has a suggestion) want to contribute to that, just send me what you've bookmarked and I'll throw the post together.....

[creatingnikki]

I like making lists

Poetry and to-dos and everything in between

Because it is literally one step at a time

No pressure on my mind

We take it as we go

So then it naturally flows

And helps my heart and soul grow

[maracajesus]

HypMic Characters as K-Pop Songs/MVs

small disclaimer: this is smth i did mostly bc i like imagining and drawing my fave characters in scenes or outfits from my favorite k-pop music videos and album photoshoots so some of these are based on the mv, others more on the lyrics or just general vibe of the song

Original thread on Twitter: pt. 1 and pt. 2

❝ BUSTER BROS!! ❞ 

➽ Limitless - NCT 127

➽ Mic Drop - BTS 

➽ Rhythm Ta - iKON 

❝Yamada Ichirou❞

➽ Trespass - MONSTA X

➽ No more Dream - BTS

➽ Bling Bling - iKON

❝Yamada Jirou❞

➽ Bucket List - Park Hyunjin and Achillo

➽ Misfit - NCT U

➽ N/S - Stray Kids

❝Yamada Saburou❞

➽ OGZ - Park Hyunjin, Achillo and Woochan

➽ Fantasy - VIXX

➽ Get Cool - Stray Kids

❝MAD TRIGGER CREW❞

➽ Red Light - f(x)

➽ Fighter - MONSTA X

➽ Simon Says - NCT 127

❝Aohitsugi Samatoki❞

➽ Boss - NCT U

➽ Danger - Taemin

➽ Agust D - Agust D

❝Iruma Jyuto❞

➽ Horololo - EXO-CBX

➽ Sherlock - SHINee

➽ Dope - BTS

❝Busujima Mason Riou❞

➽ Kill this Love - BLACKPINK

➽ Wonderland - ATEEZ

➽ Everybody - SHINee

❝Fling Posse ❞

➽ Night rather than Day - EXID

➽ The One - EXO-CBX

➽ Just right - GOT7

❝Amemura Ramuda❞

➽ Devil - CLC

➽ Russian Roulette - Red Velvet

➽ Noir - Sunmi

❝Yumeno Gentarou❞

➽ Automatic - Red Velvet

➽ The Red Shoes - IU

➽ Shangri La - VIXX

❝Arisugawa Dice❞

➽ Lotto - EXO

➽ Jackpot - Block B

➽ Ka-Ching - EXO-CBX

❝Matenrou❞

➽ Growl - EXO

➽ Beautiful – MONSTA X

➽ Butterfly - LOONA

❝Jinguuji Jakurai❞

➽ Blood, Sweat and Tears - BTS

➽ Psycho - Red Velvet

➽ Scentist - VIXX

❝Izanami Hifumi❞

➽ Something - TVXQ!

➽ Famous - Taemin

➽ Overdose - EXO

❝Kannonzaka Doppo❞

➽ Workaholic - Bol4

➽ Zombie - Day6

➽ Lost Child - Bursters

❝Bad Ass Temple❞

➽ Cherrybomb - NCT 127

➽ War of Hormone - BTS

➽ THE BLACK CAT NERO - ATEEZ

❝Harai Kuukou❞

➽ Fire Truck - NCT 127

➽ Hobgoblin - CLC

➽  Mimew - Yezi

❝Aimono Jyushi❞

➽ You and I - Dreamcatcher

➽ Shoot Me - Day6

➽ Hyde - Vixx

❝Amaguni Hitoya❞

➽ Tempo - EXO

➽ DOOM DADA - T.O.P

➽ Call me Baby - EXO

❝Dotsuitare Hompo❞

➽ 1 of 1 - SHINee

➽ I wanna be a Celeb - Celeb Five

➽ My Copycat - Orange Caramel

❝Nurude Sasara❞

➽ Aze Gag - MAMAMOO

➽ days gone by - Day6

➽ How People Move - AKMU

❝Tsutsujimori Rosho❞

➽ Heroine - Sunmi

➽ Tell me what to do - SHINee

➽ new - Yves (LOONA)

❝Amayado Rei❞

➽ Regular (Eng Vers.) - NCT 127

➽ I am the Best - 2NE1

➽ Black Suit - Super Junior

[iibislintu]

Can we have an ask game

that is simply people asking each other to make slightly random, very specific lists?

Like, what are your favourite ways of eating potatoes

or five times you thought it could have been an otter but wasn’t

or your least favourite stereotypes about ravens

If you reblog this, I’ll promise to ask you for a list!

[zippyzstuff]

[dreaminterlude]

does anyone have any winter break plans? or something they’re looking forward to during break if you get to have one? i hope you all have something nice to look forward to

[pattern-recognition]

reinstalling fnv..

[thanatophobia-thoughts]

Here is another method for help: the Self-Care List. 

You should create this when you are in a calm state of mind, not in the midst of a panic. 

This can include things ranging from taking some time to cry, cleaning, journaling, writing, binging a TV show, drinking a calming beverage, eating ice cream, playing a game, or enjoying another activity that will help you.

This should not include potentially harmful self-care, like drinking to excess, hard drugs, dangerous promiscuities (without protection and things like that), physical exertion to the point of collapse, and things of that nature. 

Having this list handy is a way for you to reference it in those moments, and look for what you need for this particular moment. Do you need social stimulation? Do you need a distraction? Do you need to calm down? You can organize the list in a fashion that will help you find what you need, when you need it. 

There’s a caveat here, though: timing. 

You shouldn’t endlessly indulge in self-care.

As some have put it, sometimes self-care is getting up and doing those things you don’t want to do, like taking the shower, going to the appointment, or getting up for work. 

Set aside the time for it, but come out of it afterwards to resume. If self-care does not get you to the point that you can return to life, then it is not doing its job. If you don’t resume, you end up spiraling, and making things worse for yourself (maybe not your anxiety, but your overall well-being). 

Now, obviously, some self-care should just be sprinkled throughout your life and day. I consider taking a shower self-care rather than effort, because of all the nice soaps and face stuff I have. It feels luxe. But it’s also quite self-care, and daily. Making time to do nice things for yourself SHOULD be normal.

This is the self-care to bring you out of a funk, not the normal, every day nice things you do. Not that one piece of stolen chocolate (or 3). 

So do keep that in mind, when considering this form of self-care. 

[doit-tomorrow]

[allofthefeelings]

I don’t need anyone to appreciate how pedantic I am, my own appreciation is enough

[officecryptid]

Management read a new book, so we have to have an hour long meeting about it first thing Monday morning.