#midtermpt

[mariellekayev-blog]

“This Works for Me”

MY STRESS BUSTING TECHNIQUES

1. Hangout with friends.

2. Eat.

3. Fangirl over boybands a.k.a. stalking

Ps. if it means fangirling, it means saving pictures, watch recent videos, know updates about them, and etc.

4. Travel.

5. Simply sleep. (artwork not mine; credits to the owner)

6. Do calligraphy.

7. Chill.

8. Watch Disney movies alone or with someone.

[seyruhdesquitado-blog]

MY KIND OF LOVE

As a teenager, As I am.

As a person and as a constant observer.

I have seen and experienced different kinds of love.

Love to one’s family  or even the love to one’s friends.

But i think the most important kind of love, is the love for oneself.

They say that love conquers all,

Love is a connection of a person to another.

It is an untamed force that we cannot control.

It is a sacrificial effort that we do.

But love always starts from within ourselves.

Loving ourselves leads us to love others. 

Self love is necessary for acceptance and respect.

This self love is the foundation, and the beginning,

To start building a love for other people.

A love that relates us to the whole humanity.

So we must love ourselves first.

That’s the kind of love that we need.

That’s the kind of love that we are looking for.

A love, not just for other people,

But most importantly, A love for ourselves.

[peasminusuno-blog]

The question now is, “What does it take to become a good leader?”

Some people mistook or perhaps interchange  the words “leader” and “boss”. But the meme above shows the big difference between the two. So, what does it take to be a good leader?

* Leadership is where you establish relationships between you, as a leader, and your members/followers.

* A  leader does not dictate, but guides his members.

* A leader listens to the suggestions of his members, not just his ideas will be followed.

* A leader  know what’s best for his members.

* A leader experiences hardships together with his members, not just watching his members having a hard time.

If that are the things that could take one as a good leader, then what does it take to be a good follower?

* Followers follows instructions from a good leader.

* Followers respect its fellow followers, and his leader.

* Followers got each other’s back, not that doing things on their own.

[cageacolyte15-blog]

Controlling our emotions is difficult! This are some tips on how to manage one's emotion! 😊

[denisecaballo-blog]

Dear Mama Golda

Dear Mama, 

         Hi Ma! How are you? I've been so busy these days that I forgot how to take care of myself. If I were to ask, no I am not fine Ma. I can't have the right sleep every now and then. I sometimes forget and skipped meals. I have so many things to handle and I don't know if I can still hold on to this. What can you say about the things that I experience Ma? Can you help me with this :

1. When I got home, things are already piled up on my shoulders. Do homework and I'll do my ��do household chores. But then, when  I do homework, I sometimes forget that I still have to wash the dishes. But then when I will also work on the dishes I tend to get lazy after and won't do my homework. 2. I still get a little shy approaching my classmates. Sometimes I just act as if I'm busy with something so that I have a way not to talk to them and to get away with awkwardness. 3. I'm still pressured ma. I think this won't leave me. I still can't adjust fully on my new environment. I'm striving but not too much to say that I improved. How can I be able to do this Ma? 4. I get too emotional now that final is already approaching, meaning more lessons to come and I need to be more attentive so that I can understand and follow the discussion. But ma, I'm scared already. What if I will receive low grades? Ma, I hope you can help me about the problems that I am facing right now. This ends here ma. Thank you.                                        

                                                     -Khea

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Hi ate,

What you re going through right now is just part of the evolving journey of a teenager.

Comes along the pressures of your studies are your peers, and at the same time the pressure of religiously serving your family.

I do not believe you wont be able to do it. You will and you are able because you are capable. You are actually matured and are able to handle your tasks well despite all the pressures.

Your new environment? Well, what can I say... I don’t know if its because of the new crowd... Their status in life, meaning well-off. Or they are intelligent that makes you feel you're a little less mentally equipped. This is what i can say, disregard who they are and who you are. Just be who you are, enjoy being a teenager but with boundaries set, enjoy student life, and don’t get intimidated with them. Each of us are born unique. You are unique in your own subtle way.

Shy? You are not actually shy, i guess its a feeling of you being intimidated with them. You can overcome your shyness by trusting yourself. Have total trust in yourself. And most importantly also, you need to establish rapport. Make friends ... Because they may help you ease the pressures that is stressing you right now.

Prioritize your studies... Your household chores should now be a joint responsibility. I'll speak with your lil bro n sis to help you with the household chores.

Don’t be afraid to get low grades. Be optimistic... Because i know, and i trust that you can make it. Even your mommy Darlyn is so proud of you. Well, we just did accept the fact that math is indeed your fave subject.

Love you ate, so.much... Believe in yourself and keep on dreaming...

Shine bright like a diamond, langga..

[myelgiesebial6me-blog]

“My kind of love”

Its normal for girls to set standards because this c an help them satisfy of what they want.They want of a guy that ca n always understand their personality.I usually set standards for guys because according to our teacher girls dont have standards are cheap.My standards for the guys are mentioned above.

According to Robert Sternberg  who explained the triangular theory of love intimacy, passion  and commitment.Robert  describe many kinds of love whom he categories it according to the components it does have:(many kinds but i’ll just mention at least 3)

*fatuous love  - can be exemplified by a whirlwind courtship and marriage in which a commitment is motivated largely by passion, without the stabilizing influence of intimacy.

*consummate love- is the complete form of love, representing the ideal relationship toward which many people strive but which apparently few achieve. Sternberg cautions that maintaining a consummate love may be even harder than achieving it.

*Empty love-Sometimes, a stronger love deteriorates into empty love, in which the commitment remains, but the intimacy and passion have died. In cultures in which arranged marriages are common, relationships often begin as empty love.

according to the test i’ve tried “5 language of love”, my language is “ast of service” which shows that i’m a  ki nd of girl who do usually attract to someone who give services on me.

[mariellekayev-blog]

“My Kind of Love”

Q: What is Love for you?

According to the Theory of Love, love is when you feel appreciated, and when someone gives meaningful words or messages to you especially when you hear it from the one you love. Not just actions, words also matter. Aside from enjoying their presence, you also enjoy conversations and small talks. You feel so special.

me: 

[seyruhdesquitado-blog]

#dearperdev

Dear Ate Sarah,

I am Sarah Desquitado, a teenager who is currently facing challenges interms of school and family. Being on the 11th grade and being an only child gives me so much pressure to do things satisfying the expectations of my family. I grew up just doing and fulfilling other people’s wants. That’s why I always think that my efforts are not enough. I have always follow the words of my parents, and I’ve always obey the things that they wanted me to do. This kind of pressure gives me negative effects as a person, not just emotionally but also mentally. I tend to overthink on what will happen on the things that I do.  I also get easily annoyed by little things.

I am not like this before, expecially when I was younger. I was a happy pill for my friends and my family but since I started highschool, the expectations of my parents become higher, resulting to a huge pressure that I have to endure.

 RESPONSE:

Dear Younger Sarah,

I know that you have been through a lot these past few years; you have been forced to do things just to comply with the expectations of your parents. I know it is really difficult but please bear with it for a little bit longer, soon these hardships will end. Giving up is never an option, you were raised a fighter so never stop knocking down your challenges. I have actually experienced that kind of problem. And throughout the years, I have overcome those problems by following these points:

1)      Take deep breaths.

2)      Value yourself; treat yourself with kindness and respect, and avoid self-criticism.

3)      Be with a good company

4)      Write down your thoughts and feelings about what is stressing you.

5)      Think of the words that your about to say.

6)      Do something that makes you happy

As you face some challenges, always reflect on it and learn from it. Don’t be a perfectionist; learn to accept your mistakes because you can only learn from a mistake after you admit you’ve made it. Also remember that there are those people who would always give a helping hand to you in times of crisis, and be more open to other people. I hope this could help you!

“Living is a process of developing oneself. Without experiencing pain from disconcerting periods of our lives, we would be different person, perhaps a lesser person.”  ― Kilroy J. Oldster, Dead Toad Scrolls 

[peasminusuno-blog]

-Brainy vs Hearty

Dear Ate Psych,

I don't like to share my problems but hell, I'm severely bleeding. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to cry in front of my friends and family because honestly, i really don’t know what I'm feeling right now. What would I do?

- A broken girl who doesn’t bother to fix what is needed to be fixed.

Reply:

Dear broken girl who doesn’t bother to fix what is needed to be fixed,

People would always experience their downs, it's nothing to be ashamed of. You're unsure of how you're feeling? Cry. Just cry. Let everything out, stop keeping all those emotions all by yourself. I'm here to help you, never be scared or feel shy to tell me your pain and sorrows, isn't that what sisters are for? As an ate I don't want to see my younger sister being in pain and suffering by herself because it also hurts me. I'll be your pillow when you need a hug, I'll be your shoulder to cry on and I'll be the ears to listen to your problems. You're never alone broken girl. 

 Love, Ate Psych

Dear Kuya Hearty,

Could you please stop acting so weird whenever you see him? You don’t have any benefits if you just keep on staring at him or worse, you’ll just keep on bleeding. You’ll just ache when your beat becomes fast.

- A girl who is “hanggang tingin lamang”

Reply:

To the  girl who is “hanggang tingin lamang”,

I'm sorry for being such a bad role model for you, I know you're right and I should listen to you. As an older brother I feel bad that I couldn't act right, for being immature. I know you're saying this to me because you care for me and you want what's good for me, but sometimes in love there are always times where you'd become a fool. I won't promise but I'll try to keep those words in my mind and be a good brother to you. Thank you. 

Love always, Kuya Hearty

[cageacolyte15-blog]

A good leader or followers we must trust and follow each other! 😂😂😂

[denisecaballo-blog]

“Lead and Follow”

As a former student of Sir Meneleo Dalman Tumampil, I have been able to see a true value of a good leader is. 

I chose him as what makes one a good leader is because: 

1, He knows how to listen to other people’s opinion and he accepts their point, 

2. He knows when to be serious in a situation and he knows how to manage his emotion.

3. He talks to people and ask them about their day.

4. He knows what’s right and what’s wrong.

5. He fights against corrupt people. 

6. When he notices that you have a problem, he would approach you and ask you. He would listen to your story and he will give you an advice. 

7. He cares and respects the people around him.

8.  He don’t treat us like a student, but rather he treated us like we’re his own children. 

9. He teaches us good manner and right conduct. 

10. Lastly, because of how he raised his only child that I believe Sir Tumampil is a good leader. It is because his child represents how he raised her to be a good person and respect other people. 

[thecolorfulhijabi-blog]

Lead and Follow

[myelgiesebial6me-blog]

my happiness calendar :) <3

[klexasoriano-blog]

This Works For Me!

Stress Busting Techniques:

1. Eat well

2. Listen to musics

3. Exercise

4. Bond with family and friends

5. Manage your time well

6. Talk to others

7. Get enough sleep

8. Take a break

9. Take care of yourself

10. Stay positive

11. Spend time with the things and people you love

12. Play with pets

13. Relax

[mariellekayev-blog]

“Lead and Follow”

Q: What is a leader?

According to Salovey’s Emotional Intelligence Theory, a leader is someone who has a calm attitude and who in in control to any situations.  A leader is someone who has complete trust in all around them; a compassionate listener, always speaking kindly and with simplicity; is approachable and always seems to make the right informed decisions. 

In addition to his theory, a leader is someone who knows how to lead others especially himself, because you cannot properly lead others if you do not know how to lead yourself. A leader know how to control his emotions especially with his teammates. Emotional Intelligence theory and Leadership have a deep embedded relationship that should not be underestimated or overlooked.

[seyruhdesquitado-blog]

Here are tips to improve one’s study habits: