#not bad but i adore them

[pottermoregays]

i am elbows deep in marauders era lust rn im so 🥰😍 for it and i think its curing my bone deep depression to become only muscle deep

[metaphoricallyrose]

Jr year baby!

[chloesimaginationthings]

Abby could befriend any animatronic from FNAF..

[giantkillerjack]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

[ariaste]

Me: [sees everyone talking about how Assad Zaman was "literally" coming up with RPF about himself and Eric Bogosian in an interview]

Me: ah, fandom's doing its little "interpret an innocent comment in Some Kind Of Way" thing again, let's go find the video and do our own critical thinking about what was actually said here--

Assad: What would happen if I said-- [words that cannot be interpreted as anything but RPF fanfic]

Me:

Me: ok fandom gets a pass on this one actually

[citrenecult]

hehe frowg

Close ups:

[homeforclones]

The difference between Season 1 and Season 3 of the Bad Batch

Season 1: Omega: Crosshair, can I have a hug? Crosshair: The audacity??? Of this Child??? Nothing would revolt me more than to show any kind of weakness to sate your neediness. Season 3: Omega: Crosshair, you're getting a hug. Crosshair: The charity??? Of my Sister??? Nothing would give me more joy than to be hugged by the Literal Angel that you are, though I am a lowly worm.

[mushramoo]

7.2 ft tall 600 pound sister moment <3

[toytle]

merry halbarry to those who celebrate, santa got me their gay little sits + footsie playing activities this year ❤️💚

[fridgrave2-0]

hehe ghost-turbo haunting felix au

turbo is connected to the last piece of his code in the whole arcade - a trophy he gifted to felix in mid 80s as a symbol of him genuinely caring about their relationships on par with being the best racer. felix also gave him one of his medals and both kept their gifts next to other rewards, but when roadblasters and turbotime were unplugged, the medal was gone with everything else

now, after burning in cola-lava turbo is basically dead, but scraps of his code still were intertwined with the trophy (after all, it was his first winner's cup, but felix never knew about it), giving turbo an opportunity to exist as a shadow incapable of interacting with anything and anyone besides felix, who kept the trophy even after the roadblasters incident

also I went crazy in tags, feel free to check them out

[v3nuskae]

I love BratFeen fanfiction that's basically like:

(Sorry for the bad doodle. I have so much art ideas rn that I feel like I'm going to explode if I don't do all of them.)

[ladeldee]

If the Sniffer doesn’t win the Mob Vote I’m starting a riot in the Minecraft Server

[florbe-triz]

Malos habitos

[tomatoart]

Seeing double on my 2000s girl

[royalarchivist]

Jaiden: Do I have to go with one other person, or can I have like, a group?

Cucurucho: Yes.

Jaiden: That's... not... [Laughs] There's two options there...

Cucurucho: Ha ha ha.

Jaiden: Ok, so– [Laughs] I'll go- I'll go with–

Cucurucho: [The Admin audibly laughs]

Jaiden: I'll– did you just laugh? [Laughs and hits her desk]

Cucurucho: Ha ha ha.

Jaiden: [Keeps laughing] I got the– I g– Am I going crazy? [Laughs] Ok–

Cucurucho: I hope you enjoy the– [Soundboard audio cuts off as Cucurucho runs away]

Jaiden: Thank you, thank you! I made him snicker, guys, I made him snicker! [Laughs]

(Fun fact: Retroity recently confirmed it was her laugh we heard!)

[anstarwar]

I see your old man Tech. And I raise you, Tech and Phee together.

Ohhh challenge accepted! They’re just having a nice relaxing afternoon on Pabu enjoying the sun and being alive and happy and old together. Perhaps they just got back from an adventure?