#selftrust

[glowettee]

🦢 you don't need more tips, you need to trust yourself

hey lovelies!! mindy here, back with another "no aesthetics post". so i've been thinking about this a lot lately (like, literally in the middle of the night when i should be sleeping but my brain won't shut up??) and i realized something that honestly changed everything for me. we're all obsessed with consuming advice, tips, strategies… but at some point we need to ask: is all this "help" actually helping?

i used to be that girl with 27 self-help books on her nightstand, 14 productivity podcasts in my queue, and approximately 10000 saved posts about "how to live your best life." i was drowning in good advice. and yet? i wasn't actually doing anything with it all.

here's the uncomfortable truth that i personally learned: collecting self-help is often just another form of procrastination. we trick ourselves into thinking we're making progress because we're "learning," but we're actually just avoiding the scary part, taking action when we don't feel ready.

✧ when you know it's become a problem:

you feel like you need to read "just one more" article before starting

you have notebooks filled with advice you've never implemented

you follow dozens of gurus but haven't committed to any single approach

you constantly switch systems hoping to find the "perfect" one

you know what to do but still feel paralyzed

you use phrases like "once i learn enough about x, then i'll start"

you feel overwhelmed by conflicting advice but keep seeking more

the most painful realization? all this consumption is actually making you less confident. every new piece of advice makes you question your instincts more. every contradicting tip makes you doubt your judgment. every perfect "before and after" makes you wonder what's wrong with you.

✧ why we get stuck in the advice loop:

consuming feels safe. implementing feels risky. reading about someone else's success story gives us the emotional satisfaction of achievement without any of the messy work or potential failure. it's like emotional junk food, momentarily satisfying but ultimately empty.

plus, there's something so alluring about the promise that the next book, the next course, the next system will finally be THE ONE that changes everything. we become collectors of solutions rather than solvers of problems.

✧ how to break free (ironic, i know… more advice):

declare an information fast. seriously. no new self-help for at least 30 days. it will feel uncomfortable, like an itch you can't scratch. that's how you know you need it.

pick ONE system or approach you've already learned and commit to it fully. not perfectly, just consistently. the magic isn't in finding the perfect system, it's in the consistent application of any decent one.

start before you feel ready. that knot in your stomach when you think about taking action? that's your growth edge. the discomfort isn't a sign to seek more knowledge, it's the signal that you're about to grow.

recognize that implementation creates wisdom that consumption never will. you'll learn more from a week of messy action than a year of perfect theory.

identify your "consumption triggers" do you reach for advice when you're afraid? uncertain? compare yourself to others? notice the emotional patterns.

create an "already know" document. write down everything you already know about your goal. you'll be shocked at how much wisdom you already possess.

trust that you are the expert on your own life. external advice can inform you, but it can never know the nuances of your specific situation like you do.

the truth is, you already know enough. you've probably known enough for a while now. the answers you're seeking outside yourself are usually already within you, buried under layers of doubt and other people's opinions.

what if the most radical act of self-improvement isn't finding new advice, but trusting the wisdom you already have? what if you already have everything you need?

so this is my gentle nudge to put down the self-help, close the tabs, unfollow the gurus (yes, even me if you need to), and start the messy, imperfect process of actually living instead of just learning about living.

because honestly, the world doesn't need more people who know all the right theories. it needs people brave enough to take imperfect action on what they already know.

xoxo, mindy 🤍

p.s. if you're wondering "but how will i know what to do without guidance?", that's exactly the point. you won't know for certain. and that uncertainty is where the real growth happens. trust yourself anyway.

[rainydetectiveglitter]

As a 4/6 Mental Projector, I spent years second-guessing myself, overthinking, and pushing myself into places I wasn’t invited. I surrounded myself with people who drained me, hoping that by giving my energy to them, I would receive guidance in return. But all I found was frustration, exhaustion, and confusion. I learned the hard way that I wasn’t allowing myself to follow my design. I was forcing myself into a mold that wasn’t mine. Now, I’ve stopped trying to control everything, and I’ve learned to trust my process. Letting go of the need to force things has made all the difference.

Here’s a breakdown of each authority and how they show up for every Human Design type.

Emotional Authority Generator/Manifesting Generator You’re not meant to make decisions in the heat of the moment. Your emotions are waves—sometimes powerful, sometimes calm. When you make decisions while in the middle of an emotional high or low, you’re not truly in your power. You’re reacting, not choosing. It feels like being caught in a current, swept away by what feels urgent. The truth is, emotional clarity only comes after the storm has passed. You need to give yourself time to ride through the waves. Waiting isn’t procrastination, it’s honoring the natural process that leads you to your true decisions. The biggest shift is learning to detach from the urgency to decide in the moment. When you stop and wait for emotional clarity, the decision becomes undeniable.

Sacral Authority Generator/Manifesting Generator Your gut response isn’t just an instinct—it’s your truth speaking directly to you. It's loud, it's visceral, and it doesn't need to be justified. The struggle comes when you ignore that immediate “yes” or “no,” trying to convince yourself to follow a path that doesn't resonate. If you’re not honoring your sacral, you end up exhausted, resentful, and stuck in situations that drain you. You might find yourself caught in the trap of “doing it for others” or because you think you should. The raw truth is that when you’re not aligned with your sacral authority, you live in a constant state of internal conflict, trying to meet external expectations, and it leaves you hollow. The key is learning to say no without explanation and trust that what your body responds to is your roadmap to fulfillment.

Splenic Authority Projector/Manifestor/Reflector Your splenic intuition is a quiet, immediate knowing that doesn’t need to be explained. It’s primal, and it doesn’t make sense to anyone, including yourself. It’s that fleeting gut feeling that tells you to go left or right, and if you don’t listen, the moment passes, and you’re left questioning, “Why didn’t I just follow my first instinct?” The darkness here is the fear of being wrong, the doubt that creeps in when you can’t explain why something feels right or wrong. When you don’t trust the splenic hit, you can end up spinning in overthinking, overanalyzing, and self-doubt. The gift here is that your splenic response is always accurate. The struggle is that it comes without words, without logic, and requires deep trust in something that feels intangible. Trust it, because when you do, everything falls into place with ease.

Ego Authority Manifestor/Projector This authority is about what you truly want—what your deepest desires are, not what others think you should want. Your ego is your source of power, your will to create and take action. The hardest part is learning that it’s okay to be selfish. In fact, it’s necessary. If you’re making decisions based on what others want, you’ll end up living their lives, not yours. It feels like a constant inner battle, a conflict between your desire to please and the raw truth that you must honor your own desires. The ego death here is the relinquishing of outside approval, the acceptance that your decisions are yours to make, and the courage to act from your own desires. The liberation comes when you no longer feel guilty for choosing what’s right for you.

Self-Projected Authority Projector Your decisions are made when you speak your truth aloud. It’s not about thinking things through or weighing the pros and cons in your mind—it’s about saying it out loud, hearing yourself, and feeling what resonates. The challenge here is that you can get lost in others’ feedback, in the need for someone else to guide you or validate your decisions. But your clarity is in your own voice, not in others’ opinions. You may have spent years waiting for others to tell you what to do, but the power comes from learning to trust your own voice. The deeper truth is that you already have the answers within you, but they only surface when you speak them into being. Your gift is the ability to articulate your truth, but the struggle is the uncertainty of having to trust yourself without someone else telling you what’s right.

Mental Projector Authority Mental Projector Your authority is not internal. You don’t make decisions from an inner place of clarity; you need others and the environment around you to help you process. Without the right environment and people, your mind becomes cloudy, uncertain, and chaotic. The darkness here is the temptation to isolate yourself and think your way through decisions. When you do that, you lose your grounding. You feel disconnected from your true self and everything seems out of reach. Your gift is that your clarity comes when you talk things through with the right people—when you’re in an environment that allows your mind to breathe. The struggle is that it’s hard to let go of the need to figure things out alone. But when you finally accept that your environment is essential, everything begins to make sense.

Environment Authority Reflector You’re not meant to make decisions quickly. You need time—28 days, to be precise. Your clarity comes from observing yourself in different environments, seeing how you react, and how you feel in various settings. The darkness here is impatience, the pressure to make decisions because the world tells you to. You may feel like you're falling behind, but the truth is that your wisdom unfolds over time. The struggle is in waiting, letting go of the need to force clarity. The beauty of your authority is that it’s not a rush; it’s a slow and steady process of reflection, observation, and integration. The key to your decision-making is patience: give yourself the full lunar cycle to see how the world reflects back to you what you need to know.

Find your Human Design and Authority here ↓ https://www.myhumandesign.com/

[caesarandthecity]

Follow Your Own Advice

Follow your own advice.

Stop looking for validation.

Study. Read. Listen. Observe. Act.

Your reality is the consequence of your own actions.

And if the results don’t match your expectations? If things don’t turn out the way you wanted?

At least you were true to yourself.

At least you lived by your own choices, not someone else’s.

And sometimes—many times—what we want is not what we need.

We must learn to understand that.

[in-tenebris-et-in-solitudine]

Always trust your instincts, you not crazy.

[celesteraeshares]

I recently wrote an article about shifting and reminding people that the path is uniquely your own.

[manifestisnow]

To change your life all you have to do is to change the way you think. Simple!

Get the free little Ebook that is made simple for you to start using your mindpower today.

Let us know what techniques you use.

Have an amzing day on planet Earth.

[hektor-world]

الثقة بالنفس ليست الإعتقاد بأن الجميع سيعجب بك، بل الثقة بالنفس هي اعتقادك بأن أعجاب الناس أو عدمه لن يوثر علي شخصك .

[tmarshconnors]

"If" Rudyard Kipling.

"If—" is a poem by Rudyard Kipling, first published in 1910. It is a timeless piece of literature that offers wisdom and advice on how to navigate the challenges and uncertainties of life. Here is the poem "If"

"If you can keep your head when all about you Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,

If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, But make allowance for their doubting too;

If you can wait and not be tired by waiting, Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies, Or being hated, don’t give way to hating, And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master; If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;

If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster And treat those two impostors just the same; If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools, Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken, And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss, And lose, and start again at your beginnings And never breathe a word about your loss;

If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew To serve your turn long after they are gone, And so hold on when there is nothing in you Except the Will which says to them: 'Hold on!'

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue, Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,

If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you, If all men count with you, but none too much;

If you can fill the unforgiving minute With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run, Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it, And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!"

This poem is often regarded as a guide for personal integrity, perseverance, and maintaining one's composure in the face of adversity.

Joseph Rudyard Kipling was an English novelist, short-story writer, poet, and journalist. He was born in British India.

Born: 30 December 1865, Mumbai, India

Died: 18 January 1936, London.

Childhood in India: Kipling was born on December 30, 1865, in Bombay, British India (now Mumbai, India). His early years were spent in India, and the sights and sounds of the country greatly influenced his later works, including some of his most famous stories like "The Jungle Book."

Nobel Prize in Literature: In 1907, Rudyard Kipling became the first English-language writer to be awarded the Nobel Prize in Literature. At the age of 41, he received the prestigious honor, primarily for his narrative mastery and his depiction of British imperialism.

Kipling's Voice: Kipling was an early enthusiast of audio recordings. In 1899, Thomas Edison recorded Kipling reading his poem "If—" on an Edison phonograph, making him one of the first authors to have their voice preserved in this manner. You can still find recordings of his voice online.

War Correspondent: During the late 19th and early 20th centuries, Kipling worked as a war correspondent. He covered the Boer War in South Africa and later the First World War. His experiences as a correspondent and his son's death in World War I deeply affected him and influenced his later writings.

The Kipling Family and Disney: Rudyard Kipling's works, particularly "The Jungle Book," were adapted into successful Disney animated films. Interestingly, Kipling's daughter, Elsie, was instrumental in negotiating the rights with Disney for the adaptation. The films, released in 1967 and 2016, brought Kipling's classic stories to a new generation of audiences.

[jrich103]

I am not afraid of storms for I am learning how to sail my ship. — Louise May Alcott

[ngocngadotnet]

📵🧠🚫 She made it a rule never to take advice from her friends again. // Tā zhìdìng le yì tiáo guīzé, zài yě bù tīng péngyǒu de jiànyì.

Check out Vietnamese and Chinese versions: https://ngocnga.net/new-rule/?utm_source=tumblr&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=quote

[ariahasting5]

There’s nothing wrong with starting small. There’s something wrong with never starting at all.

[feelgoodrebel]

There’s a kind of quiet grief I used to carry - the kind that shows up after you’ve said yes… when you meant no. A yes made out of guilt. Or obligation. Or that deep ache to not be “too much” for someone. And then comes the resentment. The shutdown. The self-abandonment that looks like being “helpful” but feels like going missing inside your own life. But here's the truth I’m living now: ✨ Saying no doesn’t burn bridges. ✨ It builds safety. ✨ And every tiny no I’ve said has been a doorway back to myself. Today, I’m inviting you to try one. Just one. Say no to something small. Say no to an internal pressure, a performative yes, a should. Say no - and feel what soft power rises in its place. I wrote a full, tender blog post on this if you want to dive deeper. I also recorded it, so you can listen, if that's better for you. It’s called: 👉 The Sacred Art of Saying No (Without Burning Down Your Life) You can find it here:

And if this is the kind of sacred rebellion you’re craving more of… 🖤 The doors to Feel Good Rebel Academy close this Tuesday (June 24). We begin our new cycle together with: Radical Self Honesty. It’s real. Raw. Deeply freeing. And I’d love to welcome you in. You’re allowed to take up space. You’re allowed to rest. You’re allowed to say no - without guilt. 💜

[ktozent]

I Don’t “Believe in Myself”. I Train Myself. Belief fades. Structure stays. I don’t hype myself up. I show up. I systemize. I move. Belief isn’t a feeling — it’s the side-effect of repetition. #training #selftrust #structure #discipline #systems → https://bereznev.gumroad.com/l/insider P.S. Made by a madman — Kirill Bereznev

[in-tenebris-et-in-solitudine]

gut feeling.. intuition... that voice in your head, whatever... listen to it more. trust yourself more.

[celesteraeshares]

You Don’t Need Permission to Trust Yourself

Your path might not make sense to anyone else — and it doesn’t have to.

You don’t need approval to follow what feels aligned. You don’t need permission to rest when the world is shouting “hustle.” You don’t need a checklist to validate your intuition.

The soul speaks in quiet nudges — and sometimes the bravest thing you can do is trust what no one else can feel but you.

You’re not lost. You’re just on a path only you can see. And that’s sacred. 

— Celeste Rae