#sex journalism

[800milesisadrive]

Since Vice.com is shutting down, make sure you take the chance and read Samantha Cole's excellent backlog of sex + tech reporting.

(Luckily, she's still doing amazing work at 404media.co)

[afklancelot]

myhouse.wad is good because it takes the reversal from the classic meme “Can [X] run Doom” to “Can Doom run [X]”, with X in this case being House of Leaves

and it turns out that yes, Doom CAN run HoL. it can run HoL phenomenally.

[mirrorhouse]

I have what you're looking for. High quality. Befitting a man of my tastes. I have a room over on Divisadero, not too far a walk.

[stuckinapril]

I think my life would be fixed if I fell asleep at a beautiful 8 pm and woke up at a beautiful 4 am bc it means I’m asleep when most people are awake and I’m awake when most people are asleep and honestly? Couldn’t ask for more

[crnl-chicken-tots]

As I sit here putting Deadpool and Wolverine into situations, I also wonder what the people want to see. Friends and foes, I'm so smitten and trapped in a Honda Odessey full of thoughts, tell me what you want to see and I'll make it happen;;

I must continue to contribute to these primary colored idiots

[meredithmcclaren]

I'm very easily amused.

[nobie]

Neil Gaiman.

I want to say a few things from a journalist perspective. I'm a journalist myself, I needed to get as much information as I could about this news with as much objectivity as I can have.

Tortoise is a UK based media group. They do a lot of multi media investigative reporting (not traditional mmj though more like scripted podcasts, regular podcasts, videos etc.). Their motto, I guess you could call it, is “Get the news not when it happens, but when it’s ready.”

It’s a fine model from a business standpoint, but in the journalism industry, being fast and accurate is what most news organizations strive for. But never hit the mark to be honest. Heavy on the accuracy part. Tortoise is comparable in America to NPR, but NPR is on a far larger scale since Tortoise is still new, being founded in 2019.

The SA allegations became a story from the ground up. There was nothing said about it before yesterday because this story came directly from the women he allegedly assaulted. I know using the word "allegedly" seems like a cheap shot, but it has to be used because none of it has been confirmed by Gaiman. Only that he did in fact have relationships with these two women. But the SA allegations continue to be denied. The reporters and producers at Tortoise media have written an article and created a full four part podcast. They detailed their stories from both women, spoke about SA misconceptions, and gave background on Gaiman and his relationships (relationships meaning sexual and non con acts happening with them so be aware of that).

The podcast, I'm not entirely fond of because a sensitive subject should not be made into a form of "entertainment." But it did give me more information and different perspective on the story. And from the way this podcast is produced you can tell this story was not investigated lightly. It is a bit distasteful, but it has been done before. This is a full production mind you with a beginning, middle, and end. Plus sound effects and dramatic music, so thats why I say I'm not really fond of the idea. Just reporting the entire story with quotes from the victims would've been enough. I can only hope the reporter and producer did their job ethically as to fully understood the allegations and weight of the subject. (They do mention that in the podcast as well, but as a journalist all I do is ask questions so I def had questions.)

Now this goes without saying, but there should never be any doubt that SA is unjustified and horrifying. And one should never disregard the feelings of the victims. Saying anything like "well they shouldn't have put themselves in that situation," is what I mean by disregard. Why would anyone put themselves in that situation?

That line of thinking is why SA is one the biggest ethical topics in media. Should it be reported? Should it not? How do we go about reporting such a sensitive subject objectively? Do we name the victims? Do we name our sources? Have we considered all of the code of ethics in our reporting? What about our personal values?

Journalism code of ethics: Minimizing harm, seek the truth, act independently, take accountability and be transparent. This might be the first time you're seeing these and I know historically it feels like none of this is considered, but I always consider them.

It’s been a battle of my own personal values to have to report events like this with no bias, but it’s necessary for accuracy and integrity in my reporting.

Ethically, as a journalist, I can't choose sides I need to look at it from all sides. But personally, as a human, I can't condone these actions. Nor will I ever condone it. All kinds of things are being said about this news, and everyone is allowed their own opinion. I only wanted to put my perspective out there because it should be another side of the story to understand, considering this came from Tortoise investigating the allegations.

Here is the article and other news sites that have talked about the story from Tortoise. Also gonna link SPJ code of ethics in case you want to read through them.

Tortoise

The allegations against Neil Gaiman (ep.1 on spotify but you can listen anywhere they have podcasts)

The Telegraph

Daily Mail

The Rolling Stones

SPJ Code of Ethics

Also to the Good Omens fandom, I know this is tough news, but you are allowed to still enjoy Good Omens. I know the guilt/shame of enjoying things that are against your morals, but be kind to yourself.

none of this edited so i apologize for any mistakes.

[chameleonwritess]

Alright, 4th attempt. We’ve got a 1/3 success rate so far. Bets on this one being accepted?

[justablogofstuff]

[askarsjustsoswedish]

Flashing gifs // Alexander Skarsgård - Mackage Spring Campaign - 20 Feb '24. Thanks Mackage.com (x), and AlexanderSkarsgard_Archive Instastory.

I never knew a man could look so sexy in a mac until now!

[purevibesworld]

[salembehindbars]

To all the girlies posting your CD and Vinyl collections, just keep your windows locked REAL tight!

[lover-praxis]

casual by chappell roan eats so hard i want to cry during sex to this song

[sassypainterangel]

"the WOMAN will have HER period if SHE is not pregnant. the lining will exit via HER uterus"

oh shut tf up.

[fancyschmancyopinions]

RENEE RAPP at the premiere of “Mean Girls” on January 8th 2024 in New York City wearing CHRISTIAN SIRIANO

This was interesting look. I liked that Renee wore a bit of pink, which felt like a nice little homage to Mean Girls. I think this look really represent the more edginess of her version of Regina George, and is more in line what she wears in the movie.

[laidee-flegman]

Shadow work prompts for sexual trauma

I love shadow work. It's one of the main forms of therapy that I still use to this day

When did you first become aware of your own sexuality, and how did it shape your early experiences?

What messages or beliefs about sexuality were you exposed to as a child, and how have they influenced your adult life?

Have you experienced any traumatic events related to your sexuality? Explore the details and emotions tied to these experiences.

How do you feel about your body and appearance, especially in relation to your sexuality?

Reflect on your first intimate or sexual encounter. How did it impact your views on sex and intimacy?

Write about your experiences with consent. Have you ever felt pressured or violated?

What are your current sexual preferences and desires? How do they align or conflict with your past experiences?

Explore your relationship with shame and guilt regarding your sexual history.

How do you navigate discussions about sex, boundaries, and desires in your current relationships?

Have you ever been in a relationship where your sexual needs were neglected or exploited? Reflect on this experience.

What role does vulnerability play in your sexual experiences and relationships?

Reflect on your sexual self-esteem and self-worth. Do you find it challenging to embrace your sexual identity?

Have you ever used substances or other coping mechanisms to deal with sexual trauma or discomfort?

How has your sexual trauma affected your self-image and self-acceptance?

Explore any recurring sexual fantasies, fetishes, or desires and the emotions associated with them.

Write a letter to your younger self, offering support and understanding in relation to past sexual experiences.

Reflect on your current sexual boundaries and how they may be influenced by past trauma.

How do you cope with triggers related to your sexual trauma, and what self-care practices do you employ?

What are your beliefs about love and intimacy? How have they evolved over time?

Have you sought therapy or counseling for sexual trauma, and how did it impact your healing process?

Explore the concept of forgiveness. Have you considered forgiving those involved in your sexual trauma?

Reflect on your journey of self-discovery and self-acceptance in relation to your sexuality.

What are your fears or insecurities surrounding sexual intimacy, and how can you work on them?

Describe a situation where you felt empowered and in control of your own sexuality.

How does your sexual identity align with your overall sense of self and well-being?

Write about your ideal vision of a healthy and fulfilling sexual life. What steps can you take to move closer to this vision?

Reflect on any positive and growth experiences related to your sexuality.

How do you communicate your sexual needs and boundaries with your current or potential partners?

Explore the concept of healing rituals or practices that can help you in your journey of sexual trauma recovery.

What kind of support, whether from friends, family, or professionals, do you need to further your healing process regarding sexual trauma?

Please keep in mind that delving into trauma can be emotionally challenging. If at any point these prompts lead to distress, it's important to seek the support of a mental health professional to guide you through the healing process.