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[kindnessoverperfection]

Please, if you can, take a moment to read and share this because I feel like I'm screaming underwater.

NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) stigma is rampant right now, and seems to be getting progressively worse. Everyone is using it as a buzzword in the worst ways possible, spreading misinformation and hatred against a real disorder.

I could go on a long time about how this happened, why it's factually incorrect (and what the disorder actually IS), why it's harmful, and the changes I'd like to see. But to keep this concise, I'll simply link to a few posts under the cut for further reading.

The point of this post is a plea. Please help stop the spread of stigma. Even in mental health communities, even around others with personality disorders, in neurodivergent "safe" spaces, other communities I thought people would be supportive in (e.g. trans support groups, progressive spaces in general), it keeps coming up. So I'm willing to bet that a lot of people on this site need to see this.

Because it's so hard to exist in this world.

My disorder already makes me feel as if I'm worthless and unlovable, like there's something inherently wrong and damaged about me. And it's so much harder to fight that and heal when my daily life consists of:

Laughing and spending time with my friends, doing my utmost best to connect and stay present and focused on them, trying to let my guards down and be real and believe I'm lovable- when suddenly they throw out the word "narcissist" to describe horrible people or someone they hate, or the conversation turns to how evil "people with narcissistic personality disorder" are. (Seriously, you don't know which of your friends might have NPD and feels like shit when you say those things & now knows that you'd hate them if you knew.)

Trying to look up "mental health positivity for people with npd", "mental health positivity cluster bs", only to find a) none of that, and b) more of the same old vile shit that makes me feel terrible about myself.

Having a hard time (which is constant at this point) and trying to look up resources for myself, only to again, find the same stigma. And no resources.

Not having any clue how to help myself, because even the mental health field is spitting so much vitriol at people with DISORDERS (who they're supposed to be helping!) that there's no solid research or therapy programs for people like me.

Losing close friends when they find out, despite us having had a good relationship before, and them KNOWING me and knowing that I'm not like the trending image of pwNPD. Because now they only see me through the lens of stigma and misinformation.

Hearing the same stigma come up literally wherever I go. Clubs. Meetings. Any online space. At the bus stop. At the mall. At a restaurant. At work. Buzzword of the year that everyone loooves loudly throwing around with their friends or over the phone. Feels awesome for me, makes my day so much better/s

I could go on for a long time, but I'm scared no one will read/rb this if it gets too much longer.

So please. Stop using the word "narcissist" as a synonym for "abusive".

Stop bringing up people you hate who you believe to have NPD because of a stigmatizing article full of misinformation whenever someone with actual NPD opens their mouth. (Imagine if people did that with any other disorder! "Hey, I'm autistic." "Oh... my old roommate screamed at me whenever I made noise around him, and didn't understand my needs, which seems like sensory overload and difficulty with social cues. He was definitely autistic. But as long as you're self-aware and always restraining your innate desire to be an abusive asshole, you're okay I guess, maybe." ...See how offensive and ignorant that is?)

Stop preventing healthcare for people with a disorder just because it's trendy to use us as a scapegoat.

If you got this far, thank you for reading, and please share this if you can. Further reading is under the cut.

NPD Criteria, re-written by someone who actually has NPD

Stigma in the DSM

Common perception of the DSM criteria vs how someone may actually experience them (Keep in mind that this is the way I personally experience these symptoms, and that presentation can vary a lot between individuals)

"Idk, the stigma is right though, because I've known a lot of people with NPD who are jerks, so I'm going to continue to support the blockage of treatment for this condition."

(All of these were written by me, because I didn't want to link to other folks' posts without permission, but if you want to add your own links in reblogs or replies please feel free <3)

[findingoblivion]

There’s a $500 laptop at the phone store across the street that would let me stream and start making money and building my community again, but realistically I can’t afford to spend that much money in one month, that’s more than my rent.

I know this isn’t the best cause or most important thing ever but I’ve had the same shit laptop that barely functions for 5 years now, and it’s probably going to die soon anyways, in which case I will be completely fucked as I am disabled and can’t make it to most in person jobs, I mostly work from home when I’m employed. Plus you know, there’s that whole thing where my entire life is online and all of my relationships are long distance.

So yeah, if you have a few spare bucks I’d really appreciate it if you could throw some my way. I can also do writing commissions for you for any fandom and premise if that’s something you’re interested in.

My PayPal is aelathehuntresshf@gmail.com

If you’d prefer to make a payment through wise or interac e transfer if you’re in Canada please DM me for those details. I can also share my AO3 and some other writing examples if you’d like.

Reblogs are also greatly appreciated!

0/500

[27-moons]

Tasneem’s fundraiser, to escape the horrors of war in Sudan, has been up for over two months and at the time of me writing this she has only received £1, 597 of her very small goal of £2,500. I’m counting on all of us to spread this fundraiser everywhere and to donate even £3-£5. If thousands of us give this amount she will be able to reach safety and security. For Tasneem donate and share! Thank you!

When sharing use these hashtags in order to spread it far. 🇸🇩♥️🇸🇩♥️🇸🇩

#Keep Eyes On Sudan #Sudan #Mutual Aid #Single Boost

[who-is-page]

The Alterhumans in Relationships Survey is collecting data on alterhumans and queerplatonic, sexual, and romantic relationships. This survey asks questions about your current and past relationships, and how you feel about relationships and alterhumanity. This survey was made for otherkin, therians, fictionkin, systems, and other people who may call themself alterhuman. But even if you don't use any of those terms, you can take still this survey.

This survey is being organized by Who-is-Page, an alterhuman scholar who has been in the community since 2014. The data collected in this survey will be used for research purposes and may be presented at an online convention (OtherCon 2024) later this year. Depending on how much you write in the write-in questions, this survey takes about 15 minutes.

Survey Link

Your physical body must at least 18 years old to participate in this survey. The survey will close on July 6th.

[sarroora]

Remember Glaze, the tool you can use to cloak your art and protect it from being scraped by AI?

There’s another tool out now, and it’s called Mist. From what’s written and what people are saying, it requires less processing power than Glaze and is faster. And apparently, it leaves less artifacts on flat artstyles (like mine).

Examples from their page:

I’ll try it myself today to be sure this is all real, but I wanted to share it with everyone as soon as I knew about it.

Protect your art by using Glaze or Mist (or anything like them that you know of) before uploading your work!

[katara]

i am begging you to reblog

here i go once again since my last post was not getting enough attention and right now our fridge is empty and i can't even buy food for me or my family, we've got many bills to pay on utilities and i currently have no job, we're desperate and money is really tight right now, please if you can spare something it would mean the world to us, i really mean it! if you can't donate please just rb this post!

paypal  |  kofi

[feluka]

and also.... sometimes... if a post is in arabic and left untranslated... consider the fact that if you can't read it maybe it's not for you <3

[baihujun]

Preview of my illustration for the JayDick charity zine SFW volume "NIGHTHOOD"

... But also *hint hint* you can get a peek of the whole piece in the store since it'll also be available as a foil print 😎

Zine info @jaydick-week

Preorder here ➡️ https://jaydickzine.bigcartel.com/

[letrune]

A friend in need

My friend CattStarr is unable to work and needs help. She is depressed and just not have any ways to help herself out of this ditch.

So I am going to make a fundraiser for her. Anything coming my way, new commissions after I finish with the ones I am doing will go for her benefit. I am doing this because she deserves such kindness.

If you got other ideas, please tell me.

[xekstrin]

Hellooooooooo we’re planning an all-day charity stream on Sunday (Feb 4) for my boss’s birthday, at 10AM PST

We'll be playing a bunch of games & raising money for Educate.Radiate.Elevate (https://educateradiateelevate.org/) 💪✨

And a link to the twitch stream is right here!

[casismybestfriend]

@ gifmakers please block the tumblr user allthingstv as all of their posts are stolen content just frankensteined together

and please check this blog especially if you make heartstopper or f.r.i.e.n.d.s gifs, it’s possible they could be reposted there

[wolvesbaned]

(DO NOT USE ATM; FORM UNAVAILABLE)

Hello!! My commissions are open for the holiday season. I have seven slots available atm! Reblogs greatly appreciated 💙

Commission Request Form

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Also, if you can't do a commission, but do want to support, feel free to tip me through here or Ko-fi and I'll doodle you a little werewolf (or monster of choice, if you specify) :)

[sev-on-kamino]

fuck it. URL change.

This is the artist formerly known as

💙blueink-bluesoul💙

I’m ✨sev-on-kamino✨now.

reblog to tell a friend 😌

I’ll refill anyone’s taglist form, just let me know.

[fadeintolight]

Okay that’s it follow me at @goat-demon

Made a secondary blog so I can muffle those screams about Dan and Phil on main and live out my true phannie self somewhere else. This goes out to the 2-3 people who might care!!

@queerdnp @sugarfishsushi @beachcollector @phomophobia @phannotfound @sparkly-dnp @cardsagainstdnpg @dreamingfairytales @evilovesyou @ideaofdia @justsayyoulikeklaine @starshroomsofdoom

[lexielivid]

Boyfriends

Taylor Zakhar Perez and Nicholas Galitzine