#stress management in parents

[roseofcards90]

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[dyingroses]

PSA on deescalation

Listen to the person! Yes, when people are angry they don't always communicate clearly and sometimes say things that they don't mean. But they are still intelligent human beings capable of knowing how they feel.

Leave the situation! If it's safe, leave the situation! It takes two to tango and it's harder to fight when you don't have an enemy anymore. If the person is telling you to leave you probably should.

Also you should almost never trap or prevent the other person from leaving! Letting someone who is upset leave allows them to get some space alone, get space from the conflict, feel safer, and get some adrenaline out by moving. You may feel it's not safe to leave the person or let the person leave. But try to balance those concerns with the fact that it's not fair to hold them hostage in a situation they don't feel safe in, at that point you're antagonizing them. Also you should respect that person's autonomy and judgement, they know themselves better than you do and often they want to avoid the conflict escalating as well.

Validate the other persons emotions! This helps show concern and make someone feel heard, which helps stem the conflict and stress. You don't have to apologize or deny what they did is wrong but express understanding and compassion for the distress they are feeling.

Express concern not judgement! If you think they "need help" ask if they "are okay?" ask if they need help. But don't tell them to "calm down."

Communicate your concerns! If you're concerned that safety of the the other person or other people if you leave the situation let them know. You might be able to work out a deal so that they walk a certain way so that you can see them get away safe. You can give them resources. This also communicates concern.

This all comes from what I've learned studying psychology and education. As well as from working in schools and mental hospitals. I don't have time right now to include references but if you curious about things mentioned I encourage you to look up deescalation techniques as well as the individual techniques I've mentioned.

[theshadowrealmitself]

Once again thinking about my oc who makes how to do videos that Vulcan kids like to watch, except this time I’m also thinking about “guest stars,” because you just know there’s going to be some things where you need an expert on it for

And originally I was just thinking about pleasant guest stars, and how the Human oc is unknowingly also teaching Vulcan kids how to handle their emotions because the Human is trying a lot of new things that actually scare them, or make them anxious, things like that, but they just calm themselves down on camera and continue doing them

But now I’m thinking about Jim Kirk, specifically aos Jim Kirk, guest starring before he ever became a captain, and it’s “how to ride a motorcycle,” and the whole time, this Human who is usually good at keeping a calm and pleasant disposition, just keeps turning to anxiously tell the camera “don’t do that” because Jim went straight to tricks and stuff that he shouldn’t be showing beginners

Jim Kirk is rewatching this episode as a captain, trying to avoid looking at Bones and Spock as they watch him put himself in danger without proper protective gear on

[shinigabi-tan]

Corny and Tammy in Hairspray (1988)

[1-8oo-wtfbro]

me: im doing really well at not saying “i’m gonna kms”! i’m really proud of how i’ve grown and how far i am in my healing journey-

my mom: *enters room*

Me:

[seekingthestars]

me, yesterday: i got some projects done so i am finally starting to feel a little less overwhelmed at work!

work, today: gives me 5 new projects in the span of 8 hours

me: well nevermind 🫠🫠🫠🫠

[blueish-bird]

(Chainsaw Man Spoilers)

AU where Aki survives Part 1 and now not only has to deal with the existential horrors of his new state of being but is also incredibly allergic to dogs, so he lives in the apartment next door to Denji, Nayuta, and their dozen-or-so huskies. (He’s not as allergic to cats, but Meowy likes Denji more than him.)

[tired-twili]

Me: has a really hard couple of days and stuggles to do basic tasks

My parents: it rlly upsets us when u don't eat dinner with us:(

[mantisgodsdomain]

Slowly, yet painfully realizing that we're probably the exact type of person that random fandom guys would miscast as a father.

[kohakhearts]

cons of going to a “good schoolTM”: insane workload, unbearable classmates, next to no support when you have any kind of extenuating circumstances Including literal hospitalization, etc

pros of going to a “good schoolTM”: the 9-5 lifestyle is genuinely a major improvement

[violasmirabiles]

was supposed to work on my dollars fandom event fics over the weekend but was a fool and somehow failed to take into the equation that 1) my brother got married on friday so that whole afternoon and evening went there, 2) his wifes mother insisted on arranging a wedding dinner on saturday with my parents and me and all the wifes siblings and their partners as well as one set of grandparents present and while the food was amazing and there was sooo much wine and a generally good time was had and also i won their wedding kahoot and was also in the queerest family feuds winning team with the wifes twin sister and her girlfriend (prize for both was bragging rights) i was there till like midnight and 3) on sunday all this socializing and The Stress that came with it had me feeling like someone put my brain in the blender the happy couple got from the wifes brother and also i had a headache for hangover reasons and also also there was the first round of finlands presidential election to stress over

anyway i know theres no hurry and the first days thing is well on the way and i have Ideas™ for most days im just laughing at myself. like. sure this was the kind of weekend where i was gonna have time and energy to write anything

[dummerjan]

i just passed out from stress

[faepunkprince]

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[magnoliamyrrh]

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[girlwithfish]

every time i go on a trip w my mom she is stressed out of her mind. i mean i understand bc thats me literally every time i go home and have to clean my apt and pack to go see my parents 😵‍💫