#traumatic invalidation

[fromchaostocosmos]

The Boston-area trauma therapists, writing in the Journal of Human Behavior in the Social Environment, give a different name to the pain many Jews have felt over the last harrowing 20 months: “traumatic invalidation.” It’s a common term in their field, describing when, for example, rape victims are told they have “misinterpreted” events or even brought them on themselves.

Individuals whose experiences are invalidated or downplayed can be at risk for a range of symptoms, including mood swings, anxiety, depression and even post-traumatic stress. Making it worse, they write, are therapists and counselors who either don’t appreciate their Jewish clients’ pain or who minimize their distress. Posted last month by a journal for specialists — part of a forthcoming issue on antisemitism and social work — the paper by Bar-Halpern and Wolfman has been shared widely on social media.

Bar-Halpern, 41, is a clinical psychologist, a lecturer at Harvard Medical School and director of trauma training and services at Parents for Peace, a national helpline for U.S. families with children drawn to extremism of all kinds. She grew up in Israel and moved to the United States 17 years ago. Wolfman, 45, is a Harvard-trained clinical psychologist who grew up in Connecticut. She is founder and director of Village Psychology in Belmont, Massachusetts.

[fuji09]

Some are just way too harsh on Derek. Like the guy is constantly being traumatized!

[adustoflove]

"Suffering isn't a competition." You're just saying that cause you're losing

[edenfenixblogs]

YES

Reading this open source article on how Jewish tauma and distress is treated by non-Jews made things click for me and helped me realize what happened and why I felt ill when I expressed my fears of antisemitism in my city and globally during a situation that took place roughly a year ago. I highly recommend reading it through.

This is an article about the article:

The article itself:

[birdiebirdjay]

(whispers to myself) if people are allowed to stan petunia dursley i am allowed to be a remus lupin apologist

[playlamb]

I want to feel safe and it has never happened and that is a very bad bad thing to your body and mind

[coachbeards]

There is a whole subset of people that think that Ted shouldn't be upset by his father killing himself because he wasn't " actually traumatized", that actual trauma is for people who survive abuse.

I'm not surprised there's a whole group of people who believe that because lots of people who survived things like that or really dysfunctional household, where things were bad but they weren't physically hit frequently. Get told to shut up and sit down.There is trauma and Trauma.

And part of it might be that a lot of these people are younger so they find it easy to empathize with Jamie and they find it very easy to demonize Ted. He's just a person, but they don't see that.

that doesn’t make any sense lmao like….anyone can experience trauma and it varies from person to person. trauma and responses to trauma are so unique to the individual…Ted is traumatized no matter how people think of it. his father’s death has had a THIRTY YEAR impact on him that he only recently began working through with a therapist, after suffering panic attacks and masks throughout his marriage….i hate it.

[kuromilolita]

sooo in conclusion no one can be trusted and everyone is waiting for the chance to get me vulnerable then stab me in the back

[very-cool-ale]

I think some people don't realise that childhood trauma doesn't just come from family.

[unwelcome-ozian]

[trauma-culture-is]

trauma culture is going into survivor spaces, seeing a bunch of people go "idk my trauma wasn't THAT bad i didn't go through [X experience]", and being immediately filled with rage at the people who gaslit you about it when you went through the exact experience they're comparing themselves to

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[bittyfromquotev]

So when I get upset I get really aggressive for no reason.

I really want to kill something right now (obviously not actually gonna do it but still). Because what the f u c k.

[the-mothering-doctor]

Alce - What about a father who violates his toddler daughter then leaves her behind?

Thea - Or a father who gets physical when his daughter doesn't meet his expectations?

(ooc: Both are traumatized via father-induced horrors)

Awful.

[flameblessed]

// I'm really not feeling well due to things that happened yesterday tbh so idk man. I'm gonna try to power through and not let this person continue to ruin shit for me. But it's so hard to not break down when someone lies about you and continues to invalidate how much they hurt you for months.

[hussyknee]

"pre-civilization" is a racist term all by itself, as is the idea that migratory populations cannot be indigeneous. indigeneity is not genetic and not innate. it is a relationship with a colonizing entity.

literally every other definition of indigeneity can be weaponised to either 1. justify colonizing a certain people who don't meet the arbitrary standard, for example under your definition palestinians and domari are not indigeneous because they are post-civ and dom are migrants to the region, and 2. can be used to cloak revanchist, reactionary fascism in post-colonial societies in the language of liberation.

i do not know why you need a scholar to tell you this. i usually respect your willingness not to center yourself in these topics as someone who is not currently living under a settler colonial occupation. it is very tiresome to see people opine about indigeneity when they cannot even get the definition of the word right, and then argue with indigeneous people when we correct them.

I agree I shouldn't have used pre-civilization. I honestly feel like "civilization" is a very colonial term that reinforces the myth that societies evolve in a linear progression. I meant the fact that they remained distinct from the kind of later agrarian society that can pack up, migrate and settle elsewhere, whose technologies created expansionism and competition for resources.

I live under extractive colonialism, the Global South exists under colonality, we also need a way of describing that colonization without infringing on the colonization we inflict on others. There has to be a difference between native and indigenous. I want to be clear on what that is and whether it changes with context, because this is not the definition I have understood all my life. I never dispute that you are indigenous because you know your own struggle.

Please understand that I associate the term indigenous that something that when misapplied turns into bloody ethnic violence against your own neighbours. Eelam Tamils are colonized by us but their claim of indigeneity involved massacring Muslims praying in their mosques and forcible assimilation and displacement of Indigenous Tamils. Sinhalese who had also been in the North since the British took over and were part of their communities were expelled by them— were they indigenous? Malayyiah Tamils are kept ghettoised and indentured to the tea plantations they were brought here from India to work a hundred years ago. Many of them are not remaining in Sri Lanka by choice, others feel this is their homeland now. They're indisputably colonized yet I have never heard the term indigenous applied to them. The Veddahs were turned into a freak show by the British which was continued by the Sinhalese post-independence, or forced to leave when the agriculture of the locals deforested their lands— by the natives who had also been there for untold generations and also called themselves indigenous under British colonization. I can't imagine calling them settlers.

So yes, I want to figure out whether I have misunderstood the definition I have seen used specifically to protect the people who have been rooted in to the land they live off of and can't migrate to another place without losing their entire way of life, unlike the rest of us. I want to understand whether it's different according to the ways people are colonized. I'm sorry but neither your identity nor mine confers authority on whether other people conceptualize indigeneity differently and why. This is me telling you why what you tell me doesn't gel with what I know, not that I'm appointing myself the final authority on the subject. Please give me the space to learn about it on my own with academics and sources I know and trust.

[daevite]

did wildbow trip and write something on what it's like to exist as a physically disabled person who requires external care and assistance on a regular basis in modern society w/ subtle implications on how that can be a scary position to ave because even if the people you rely on are kind everyone has their limits and ends to their patience and there aren't enough systems in place to compensate for that or did he do this with that intention in mind (not a serious question)