#tw trans abled

[whatevenisexisting]

Here is your reminder not to bother engaging with the “transx” community that makes a joke out of the trans and larger LGBT community by spreading misinformation, romanticizing disabilities (notice how nobody identifies with the conditions that are stigmatized in a different way like IBS), perpetuating racism (if you’re white and identify as a person of color, I have some news for you hun), encouraging adults to go in the space of minors, further fueling ped0s who have no shame in acting on their disorder, and overall just causing harm to those of us who live with these actual identities!

It’s not worth it, babes. Exit out of Tumblr for a bit, take a deep breath, eat a snack or hydrate or step outside - give yourself that care. They aren’t going to listen because they’re too far in this echo chamber.

The only thing we can do is hope that this “community” will eventually realize what they’re doing is harmful and apologize, even delete their blog to eliminate the harm they caused - in my opinion, it’s better to delete than leave it up, unless they make it very clear they were wrong and caused harm.

And maybe, if someone seems genuine in asking more about these identities, and the energy is there, messaging them privately and providing them with the education they are seeking and deserve. Because responding publicly at this point will only cause further harm to ourselves and will lead them to be convinced by others what we want so badly for them to NOT believe.

Conserve your energy, babes. Use it elsewhere, whether it’s as an advocate for your or other communities, engaging in your hobbies and self-care, seeking out your support system, know that each of these alternatives is valid. It’s valid if you do engage, but it’s JUST as valid as if you do not.

Put yourself first.

[eliana-system]

TLDR trans id is harmful fetichization

« Trans id » people are basically:

« Omg you ´re so lucky to be sitting all day in your wheelchair! I wish i had one » people

 « Black people get so much more attention and privilege » people

 « I wish i was autistic so people would be patient with me » people

On fucking steroids.

adding on top of that A LOT of outright ableism and racism. This isn’t biid, where people suffer from a distorted perception of self. These « trans id » are actively encouraging people to normalise this and act on it. They fucking whine about their imaginary disability or oppression and then go work a job, go to school, do their favorite sport not feeling fucking nerve pain. Not experiencing racism or getting beat up by a cop.

THIS IS FETICHIZATION. THIS IS SO FUCKING HARMFUL AND EVERY. COMMUNITY. YOU.TRY.TO.COPY. IS TELLING YOU!!! If you even at least pretend to care about physically and disabled people, black and asian people, FUCKING STOP. i don’t care id you have a weird ass fantasy in your head. I do care that you go out of your way to fetichize discriminated people, that you mock them by coping the aspect you find attractive for whatever reason, and then ignoring all their struggle. Yes being « trans disabled » is fucking ableist when you don’t exerience all the bad things about it. Where’s the mobilty loss? The pain? Or are we just a pretend play for you?

does mocking disabled and poc people ´s struggles not seem like an bigot move?

[uncanny-tranny]

I think a lot of discussions would be made better by recognizing that masculinity and femininity aren't inherently preferred, but adherence to cishet standards is, which is slightly different.

This is why a masculine trans man* or a feminine trans woman* often still face stigma - it isn't that they aren't gender conforming to the gender they are. It is that cishetero standards do not want trans people to exist at all, in any capacity.

[vyeoh]

Something about ballister (an adult) talking nimona (a trans teen) down from suicide, projected to the kingdom with the text overlay "monster attack"

[zluty-spendlik]

I am currently healing from a shoulder surgery. Which kinda sucks ass even from a cis point of view, but it also surprisingly gives me a lot of dysphoria - and im not happy about it. So have a list of things that SUCK

an obvious one but i cant wash myself - i require assistance. and BOY OH BOY is that bad for my mental health. trying hard not to throw up everytime i gotta take a shower. 0/10 has me avoiding hygiene and now i have a rash and acne

passing doesnt happen anymore- why? cause i cant even wear a bra so any kind of binding is impossible (not to mention the fact that im not allowed to get a binder bcs of my arm) plus my gigantic boobs are now super visible because of the orthesis i gotta wear

i go from doctor to doctor and hearing my deadname called out multiple times in front of a lot of ppl is uncomfortable

my orthesis is bright purple/pink. not to link a color to a gender but its really not helping

family members get sappier when talking to me so being reffered to as "their poor little girl" is f u n

thanks for listening to my bitching about life i do appreciate it. and im sorry to the disabled trans folk who deal with this on the regular, its honestly really devastating

[junejasprose-addict]

Some fucking ghouls on twitter just misgendered me and called me a chaser and a cross dresser and an agamp because I have an nsfw account where I retweet porn. Why do these kinds of people exist? Why are there trans women that just love acting exactly like terfs? I am so fucking tired of this shit and I'm not out to anyone irl so I have fucking no one to talk to about this! I'm not a docile little house cat so that gives people a free pass to paint me as a predator

[ra1ny-daze]

.. ……goddammit i want to look like him so bad..

sorry im having a gender dysphoria/envy moment right now hhghhghgnnmmmmm…

im SO fucking tired of being perceived as a girl,, I WANT TO BE ABLE TO BE FEMME,, AND PEOPLE TO PERCEIVE ME AS Boy In Makeup OR Boy In Skirt GRHGRHGHDHDJ,,,, ALSO I WANT TO BE PERCEIVED AS A BOY WHEN IM MASC OR ANDROGYNOUS!!! NOT AS A “tOMbOy” OR WHATEVER THE FUCK!!

[matoitech]

ppl on here r always talking about how they’re not allowed to complain about men anymore but there’s not a whole lot of acknowledgement that this website is infested with transphobes particularly of the fascist variety and a lot of posts about gender and ‘feminism’ on here r total bull. like idk call me crazy but maybe there’s a reason trans people r ‘sensitive’ and care a lot about wording and shit. it’s not like we’re whiny baby idiots who can’t handle ‘the patriarchy and misogyny is bad’ unrelated its so crazy that when uterushaver5000 complains abt how they’re called a transmisogynist for complaining about MEN!! you click on their blog and they’re a transmisogynist. like who would’ve been able to guess (this is sarcasm)

[muttfr0mmars]

need multiple tboys filling n pluggin all my holes pls n thank you

need them talking abt me n my holes like i'm not even there, but telling each other how good i feel n how wet i am n how my cunt clenches up when i've got tcock in my mouth <//3

just imagining bein splayed across one of their laps, my back to their front, having them whisper praises n filth in my ear while the other one plays with my boypussy :'(( goddd

ridin a transmasc's face while they grab at my tits n hips n thighs, n i've got my face buried in another tboy's bush hnnnn need !!!

really just need to be passed around n used n groped n praised by other hot sexy amazing tboys <3

[xxv1l3-1c3xx]

people who call you a faggot but in a way that feels like they’re calling you “my love” >>

[ghost-of-a-slave]

" radqueers are all super privileged assholes "

meanwhile most radqueers do have trauma . meanwhile most radqueers are disabled . meanwhile a lot of radqueers are bodily poc .

im radqueer , bodily disabled and bodily poc as well as severely traumatized . am i suddenly not a minority or oppressed or actively struggling because im radqueer ?? why is your support of minorities so conditioned ?? the moment someone doesn't fit into a little box you shame them and say they have everything you've ever wanted like no , if you were me you would still be miserable .

The thing is I genuinely do not have the capacity to believe any of what you've said given everything that the community is founded upon.

Are you actually traumatized or are you "trans trauma" and had a perfect life and never got hurt? I'd rather have never experienced what I did. Yet your community encourages people to not only pretend to experience what I did (trafficking) but also encourages purposefully endangering yourself and trying to GET PEOPLE ABUSED. On the flip side are you someone who actually experienced something as extreme as I did or the same situation or are you "trans severity" of your trauma because you have refused to do any of the work that is necessary to get over your own insecurities and accept that you can come away with the same kind of horrific fucked up mental state as people who go through a variety of things and by speaking over real survivors of specific areas not only are you doing self-harm (emotional) but you are ruining the chances of real survivors getting help and aid. I am sick and tired of having to placate people who come crawling to me for validation that their trauma is actually that bad or throwing a tantrum because I have it worse than them and they cannot handle it. I do not understand people who are that fucking annoying and weird. Guess what? I know many people who have it worse than me- sometimes I feel like things should have been even worse- sometimes I wish my scars were more clear or bigger or worse, but that isn't healthy that's a trauma reaction that needs to be worked through because NO I'm still a victim and a survivor of horrific things. I would never be so evil and cruel as to pretend I went through the things they did and lie about my actual trauma (which transtrauma people do).

Are you actually disabled or are you "transabled" ? and not in the BIID sense because those with BIID are super valid and matter a lot (and are also by definition actually really disabled with a neurological condition. And I also am for those with BIID being able to have amputations if needed as all the data and science shows that it improves life quality and makes them happier and able to go about their life better). Because if you're actually disabled then yeah your disabilities matter and you should be able to be given aid for them but your own ableism because of whatever internalized issues you have going on is now externalized when you join a far right extremist group which let's be clear is what "radqueer" is. You deserve to not have people mocking your disability and just because you're fine with ableism doesn't mean all of us are or have to be. The majority of radqueers however are not actually disabled or at least have a series of disabilities they pretend to have to make fun of people with those disabilities or because they think it's funny/cool. Example; people with "transASPD" are a fucking laughable joke because it's honestly incredibly funny to see them try super hard to be like me and others and have the fucking weird mental detachments and inability to feel guilt aside from the persons who are your "exceptions" and just being a piece of shit asshole because they're incapable of understanding how REAL sociopaths operate and how we can easily function in society and keep ourselves from doing harm because of ya know- self control.

Are you actually POC or are you "transrace" ? Because let's be clear so many radqueers are super fucking white and are larping as POC because they want brownie points or want to be allowed to say slurs. Those are literally the only reasons outside of real mixed people having internalized issues about their own race or actual POC dealing with the consequences of racism so horribly that they feel like they have to be white or they don't matter. This by default is racist- like it is literally just the bullshit "I don't see color" race is a social concept sure but it's based off of REAL immutable characteristics. If your fucking people were not genocided you will NEVER understand what it's like to be Native American and you doing shit like redface only makes things worse. I have no idea why you struggle to understand blackface is bad it's actually very fucking concerning you can even pretend you're not just a reactionary who's no different from the Jan 6thers.

I don't know if I can believe any radqueer who claims minority status because your community is based on making fun of real minorities and larping as us. It's based on racism, antisemitism, ableism, and queerphobia. That's why you fuckers have shit like "trans nazi" and use that to allow again LITERAL NAZIS into your community. Get fucking real you're a bigot and it's pathetic you pretend otherwise.

"why is your support of minorities so conditioned" because a) I don't believe that the majority of you chucklefucks are actual minorities so this doesn't apply and b) bigots aren't deserving of rights or anything similar and that applies even to self-hating minorities who advocate for harm to minorities :)

I don't care about fucking idpol, if you're causing tangible harm to the majority of minorities (which radqueers do via nazi bullshit) then you're just as bad the cishet white men doing the exact same. Like I'm sorry you think your racist ass is better because you have minority points or something?

And sure if I was you I'd be miserable because I was a bigot and bigots are miserable. But you could just no longer be like that if you stopped being a bad person maybe.

[whatevenisexisting]

The fact that there are people who want to have Epilepsy and read tips on it will never not disgust me. Like seriously. Y’all are fucking ignorant, ableist, and your identity is NOT in good faith.

Why? Because as someone who actually has epilepsy, it DOES hurt for me to see some people on tumblr want this damn condition. As I’m struggling to get through a work week, as I’m finally realizing I need accommodations, as I’m feeling frustrated because I haven’t had a seizure since April 19th, and I already had two this month.

Remember y’all, when you have a seizure, out goes your ability to drive for at least a few months. Put yourself in a small town with no public transit, rely on family to get literally ANYWHERE - and then tell me you’re “transepileptic”.

I wasn’t planning to ever drive again, but that decision DOES affect my life and let’s say I chose to drive once it was legal. Well, in my state I would have been able to drive by July but BAM. There it goes again.

Have a seizure, and you cannot drive. Now you have to find other ways to get EVERYWHERE you can’t walk to. And if it’s pouring like it is for me today? Yeah, your choice is either walk in the rain and get soaked, take an Uber for a ride that’s only 5-10 minutes and easy walking distance, or stay home.

Not everyone can rely on family or friends every single time they need to go somewhere, remember that.

And I know I’m focusing on this part but it’s just ONE aspect.

I mentioned I had a rough week at work and I did. Have fun dealing with post-seizure depression and just overall triggered depression as you work for a suicide hotline. Have fun not being able to tell 99% of your coworkers WHY you are struggling so much this week because you can’t even the say the name of your condition (and as a side note, your mom hates this and doesn’t understand - she thinks it just means you’re ashamed even though you aren’t), so yeah, they respect that and it’s your right but it would be easier to talk to them if they KNEW. But you don’t, because you barely accept your condition to begin with. (The five stages of grief? Yeah, apply them here and put yourself permanently in between denial and acceptance, also anger and depression, and have a jolly good time.)

Oh don’t forget needing time off work! Because if you’re lucky like me, you’re going to be exhausted the next day and will need to sleep all day! Which means using a sick day, and in America most people are LUCKY to get two weeks. My friend’s partner gets five days. Total. Of paid time off and sick COMBINED. So yeah, have a blast balancing what little sick time you get with needing to care for your body because sometimes you cannot recover quickly for them! You likely don’t know that tonic clonic used to be called grand mal (don’t worry most people without epilepsy don’t know this and you know you don’t have epilepsy soooo) but with grand mal, you might end up in the hospital because you can injure yourself! Any seizure that involves convulsions puts you at risk of physical (even mental, if you hit your head and get a concussion) injury, but I’m sure you haven’t thought of that part, have you?

Or maybe you have and you still want a condition that severely impacts people’s lives and can kill them, in which case you’re just ableist lmao, and insist that me being against people outright SAYING they’re faking a disorder is somehow transphobic or I’m “using the same talking points” as people against the trans community. Like stop stop STOP.

You know what the difference here is? Trans people didn’t choose to be trans, they can’t always come out of the closet because it’s NOT SAFE which surprise, might have a significant impact on their mental health. They don’t have a choice but to be closeted. Staying closeted STILL comes with consequences though. Coming out of the closet might come with consequences. There’s a reason trans people have such a high suicide rate.

As for the “talking points”…that’s just stupid because you people KNOW and SAY you don’t have this condition. You give each other “tips” for doing these symbols, or should I say FAKING the symptoms.

Me talking about the REALITIES of living with a disability is a desperate attempt to get you to stop romanticizing them. Me talking about the TRUTH of living with something like in my case epilepsy, is a desperate attempt to make you realize it’s NOT something you want.

I’M the one who didn’t have a goddamn choice for this condition. JUST LIKE trans people don’t have a choice to be trans and cis people don’t have a choice to be cis.

YOU fucking DO have this choice. YOU have the choice to get off Tumblr, out of this horrible echo chamber and ask yourself why the fuck you’re ASKING for TIPS FOR HAVING A SEIZURE.

Like for real, get off this hellsite and THINK about what you’re absorbing. This. Is. Not. Healthy.

And no, I don’t give a shit if you’re ~also disabled and okay with this~ because it’s not okay lmao. Like these are not good faith identities. Period. These people romanticize serious conditions, play into the idea that people with disabilities are faking theirs (especially if they suddenly become able to do things - “oh, jessy can do that, why can’t you?” Disabled people hear that enough already), and simply ignore the reality.

Ugh. I’m only writing this because Tumblr is a blog and a safe space to write, my therapist is sick today and can’t do a session with me, and I woke up still pretty sad and frustrated and then I thought of “transabled” people and decided to rant. Going to keep this public for now, might make it private later.

[rivilu]

Hey hello can i be sad on main or will the heavens unleash 7 thousand ravenous hawks upon me

[uncanny-tranny]

The frustrating part about conversations like "should people with self-harm scars warn others before showing off their body?" and conversations like it is how nobody would tell me that my scars are obscene or should be hidden despite, literally, being self-harm scars. They just do not know because people literally do not know what self-harm scars are and what self-harm is.

Our bodies are not vulgar or gross. We deserve to live our lives, and if our scars make you uncomfortable, we can be compassionate about that, but that doesn't mean that our bodies are Bad and should be Locked Away. Treat us like we belong, because we do.

[bensonluvr69]

this transphobic article is bullshit

if one of the words in the first sentence is "woke" you immediately know they're bigoted asf

[on-a-lucky-tide]

Consultation for surgery is booked, lads.