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animeyanderelover · 1 year ago

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Can I ask NSFW headcanon for Muzan? Thank You 😊

What would the reaction be like if Yoriichi, Muzan, Carla and Reiji with a s/o who had an extremely complicated pregnancy, they almost lost their s/o and the baby, pls pls 🤧

I am no doctor so I would appreciate any corrections of errors I might have made. This might also be somewhat more extreme but I went with what I found on the internet.

Tw: Yandere themes, possessive behavior, obsession, toxic relationship, abduction, manipulation, gaslighting, clinginess, controlling behavior, pregnancy, forced pregnancy, labor, high-risk pregnancy, premature labor, birth, cannibalism, illness, cardiac arrest, C-section

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Extremely complicated pregnancy

Reiji Sakamaki

☕️A life with Reiji is thoroughly scheduled as he always needs to have control over every little thing in your life. The already tight leash you had on you only becomes tighter the moment you manage to get pregnant with his child. He oversees everything strictly in your life from that day on from the food you consume to the drinks you choose. He’s very adamant that you stay healthy and deliver him a healthy child. A child that he has been planning to have with you for a longer time now. He has read every available source, he has created a diet schedule for you and he feels validated in his speculation and research when you actually find yourself craving occasionally blood which he immediately provides you with since you carry a vampire baby. You normally refuse the consumption of blood from humans because you’re still human yourself which leads always to him forcing it past your lips and down your throat. Consider the health of your baby before being such an unreasonable and neglectful mother-to-be. His own mother always ignored him so Reiji is extremely dedicated to ensure that you are a good mother to his own child.

☕️The first few months of the pregnancy go rather well. Besides the common morning sickness, some headaches and mood swings the baby develops healthily inside your womb. Reiji monitors everything extremely closely and you have him checking on your condition and the condition of the little one almost daily. Whenever you lash out on him due to his restricting schedules, he always quickly puts you back in your place by sharply scolding you for your immature behavior. He's designing the nursery room for the baby, accompanies you whenever he deems that it's time for you to take a walk outside and get some fresh air. The baby starts visibly moving around and kicking your insides when you are 19 weeks along and from that day on Reiji even starts observing the movements of the baby because any lack of it or very frequent movements can also indicate whether the baby is feeling fine or not. He has even already chosen a handful of names although he decides to wait until the baby is born and he can see them for the first time.

☕It's within your fifth month that you start experiencing complications. There is an increase in your headache, you suffer from shortness of breath, your vision is blurry or you see dark spots dancing in front of your eyes and you also experience abdominal pain. You would like to think that this is normal but you can't deny that some of those symptoms scare you and the way Reiji's eyes narrow when you are forced to tell him about it only adds to your growing anxiety. When he runs some tests on you and realizes that your blood pressure is elevated, he starts getting worried. This shouldn't happen. He has always hated it when something didn't go according to his plan but your current pregnancy only heightens the stress he is feeling because right now he can't afford that anything goes wrong. The slight panic he initially feels manifests itself into accusations against you as he questions if you have done something that has caused your high blood pressure. His preparations should have been perfect. It is not his fault.

☕Soon he is too busy closely monitoring your increasingly worsening condition to put the blame on you though as your symptoms have worsened. Your vision randomly blurs or darkens, your headache has led to increased nausea and has made it difficult for you to stomach food, your hands and face have swollen and Reiji has even started suspecting that the blood supply to your placenta doesn't work as it should. The baby doesn't grow and develop as it should due to the lack of blood supply and with each passing week he starts worrying more and more about it. He tries everything he can think of to cease your dizziness and your nausea, the abdominal pain and the lacking blood supply to your placenta but nothing seems to really work. There is no medicine or cure to your symptoms and when Reiji realizes that he can't do anything, the only choice he is left with is trying to prolong the pregnancy long enough to guarantee the survival of his darling and his baby. He starts mentally preparing himself to perform a C-section on you if worst should come to worst.

☕The worst case scenario happens in your 30th week when premature labor starts together with intense abdominal pain. You are weakened from weeks of dizziness, nausea and stress and the sheer exhaustion from labor proves too much for you as you faint after a few hours. This leaves Reiji with pretty much no choice but a Caesarean section, especially since the fetus is in breech position. Normally he would be pretty confident in his skills but there is too much on the line for him and this stops him from staying as level-headed as he would like. The little girl he pulls out from your womb during the surgery is worringly small even if she is a prematurely born baby. The most difficult step should have been overcome but instead dread fills him when he notices that she isn't breathing. Suddenly he feels like he is carrying the weight of the world on his shoulders as he spends minutes trying to keep the baby alive until his daughter finally manages to breathe independently and starts weakly crying and even then he can't allow himself to relax. Neither you nor the baby are out of health risks after all.

☕You are quite weakened after the difficult pregnancy and the surgery and it takes you a few weeks until you feel somewhat healthy enough again to walk longer distances without any help and do certain tasks without experiencing any pain. Just because you can theoretically do it though doesn't mean by a long shot that Reiji will let you. He has become overly cautious after the birth. He's extremely skittish whenever he monitors the health of the baby due to her breathing issues upon birth and worried for any lasting damage she might have suffered due to her restricted development in your womb. You find yourself spending the first few weeks after the surgery mostly spending time with your daughter whilst Reiji is doing everything else. He monitors the health of his darling and their daughter, he cooks for his s/o and he assists whenever and however he can. He feels stressed out even after the condition of you and the baby stabilize because in his mind he can't stop agonizing over the fact that he could do little to nothing to help you in any way.

Carla Tsukinami

🔮If you wind up being Carla's darling and can biologically bear children, prepare yourself for giving him a child. Carla expects his darling to give him a healthy and strong heir and there will be no room for discussion. You will bear him his child and you will be a good and attentive mother to his baby. All of this happens only after Carla has already broken your mind down enough for you to be completely putty in his hold. Pregnancy is the final step, the final claim he can lay on you to mark you for all eternity as his and at that point you will happily accept his wish of wanting a baby with you. You love him after all and you're sure that you'll love a child with the same golden eyes as his just as much. It is extremely pleasing to see your quick embrace of the idea and he wastes very little time after he has told you about his plans to see it through that you are pregnant as soon as possible. It doesn't take long for him until he senses the new life deep within your womb. He couldn't be more pleased in that moment.

🔮Similar to Reiji, Carla will be very controlling as soon as he has confirmed that you are expecting his heir. You are always kept within his vicinity and you aren't allowed to go anywhere without informing him. He wouldn't want anything to happen to you, especially with his brother around. That rarely happens though as you are pretty obedient and listen to him which means that you allow him to lead you outside and go for a walk. You feel pretty sick quite often and spend a lot of time on the toilet whenever nausea grabs a hold of you. Shin has made fun of you once when he saw you hanging over the toilet which struck the wrong cord in you in that moment and actually led you to shed tears of shame. You only know that Carla wasn't too pleased when you started crying because of Shin and told you that he'd talk with his brother. Ever since Shin has been trying his best to not say anything within your presence although he looks like he has a lot of snarky stuff he could say. You spend a large amount of time only with Carla though, basking in his affection and joy due to your pregnancy.

🔮As soon as your bump really starts showing is when other symptoms start to appear. Your hunger increases significantly as soon as the baby bump shows and this makes it difficult for you since Carla has put you on a diet to keep you and the baby healthy. You have troubles keeping your temper under control when he initially always denies you your cravings but you try your best to stay quiet. Until the intense craving for blood starts one day and you start feeling sluggish and weak. That is when Carla starts paying more attention to your cravings. You’re only human, you would under normal conditions never want to consume blood. Is it the baby that makes you crave blood? He has obviously speculated how a pregnancy with a vampire baby would go for your mortal body but speculations don’t necessarily have to line up with the reality. He decides to give in to your new cravings this time as he notices how your energy gets drained. The blood seems to replenish your energy for a while.

🔮The bigger the baby swells though, the more it seems to drain your energy. You grow more tired and exhausted with each month that passes by no matter how much blood Carla lets you consume or how much you eat. Very little of the food you digest is actually used for your own energy as the baby seems to take all the nutrients it needs and leaves very little for you. You lose weight and feel dizzy and exhausted whilst the baby is thriving. Soon it starts getting so bad that you can’t even walk properly on your own anymore without the danger of collapsing. Carla has to assist you even when you go to the toilet and despite your weak protest and tears of shame, he doesn’t allow you anything anymore without his help. The baby sucks everything out of you, he can see your clear struggle everyday as your energy drops and your pain increases due to the heavy weight of the baby inside of you and its strong kicks that feel like it’ll burst out of you any moment. The closer you get to your due date, the weaker and thinner you become. This isn’t good.

🔮Miraculously you make it to your due date until your water breaks but it comes with a heavy price. You’re exhausted, you’re tired and you barely have any energy left to even push properly. All of this is made even worse by the fact that the baby has grown a lot whilst it was protected inside of you. They are big which makes the entire process even more arduous as your body tries its hardest to squeeze the infant out of your body and down your birth channel. When the shoulders of the baby get stuck though and prevent you from giving birth to the baby, everything takes quickly a turn for the worse. Nothing seems to help. That’s when Carla takes action, fully aware that being stuck could end up harming the baby. You can vaguely recall the burning feeling when he abruptly reaches his hand out into your vagina in an attempt to turn the baby around. It’s a painful and uncomfortable feeling that is the final push you need before you finally succumb to unconsciousness which leaves Carla alone to guide the baby out of your body.

🔮You suffer from a fourth-degree tear and malnutrition for weeks after birth which leaves you completely bedridden under Carla’s guidance. His son on the other hand suffered from fractures to his upper arm bone. All of this is rather upsetting and frustrating to Carla who didn’t expect a shoulder dystocia to occur during the birth of his own heir. He spends nearly all of his time in his chambers where he nurses you and the baby back to health. Shin rarely runs into his older brother for that reason. Every time he does spot Carla, he’s always tempted to ask him mockingly how you and his nephew are doing, considering that you went through all of this hell only because of Carla’s wish for an heir. The piercing glare Carla gives him whenever he opens his mouth to ask that question keeps him from doing so though. The younger Tsukinami brother isn’t allowed to visit you and the little boy either, especially not when neither of you has fully recovered. Until that day comes, no one will see you two.

Kibutsuji Muzan

🩸There have never been any records of demons and humans procreating. If there would have been, Muzan as the King of Demons would have known about it. Technically speaking he has no real need nor any interest in any children of his own. He doesn't need any heir for he is immortal and doesn't plan to ever give up his position to anyone else for he plans to become the perfect existence. Perhaps there is a spark of curiosity though as soon as he has you in his life as it is a thought that often crosses his mind when he dumps his cum inside of you. He has a fondness for science after all but none of it has ever led him to actively try for a baby with you. Then one day he senses the little heartbeat inside of you, senses the new life that has been spawned in your womb. Whilst he isn't actively thrilled about the pregnancy and might even consider an abortion, ultimately it is his scientific interest that manages to stop him from removing the thing from you. A part of him hopes that this child will be able to develop an immunity against the sun due to being only a half demon.

🩸Since Muzan has always gotten his way with you, you are left with little to no choice but accept his decision to keep the child for now. Your feelings about the little baby currently developing inside of you are confusing as you despise him for forcing you to keep it. Yet you bow down in fear whenever you are faced with his displeasure when he sees you expressing those feelings and thoughts in front of him. This little life inside of you has been directly created by him and perhaps this plays a large fact in why he won't tolerate you thinking about it in such a way. Because the baby will have more from him than any of the demons he has created throughout his entire life. Muzan views himself in the highest light, as a near god, so something that will have his genetics must be strong too. You don't seem to realize that your unwillingness to embrace the thought of having his child will only make him more determined to keep it since he won't allow you to reject something that has been directly created by him.

🩸Too prideful to show any lingering questions he has in regards of the unique biology his baby will have due to being created by a demon and a human, Muzan just monitors your pregnancy very closely. Partially because of his fascination to finally know that such a pregnancy will be like and partially because he doesn't know what might happen. It is this selfish mindset that soon leads you down a path of misery. Your body is unable to handle the creature inside your womb that seems to suck out all the energy and proteins meant for you whenever you force something down your throat despite your growing nausea. The growth spurt the baby has is abnormal for the first few months but all of this comes with the cost of your own decline of health. Everything is painful and everything is tiring and the little baby is incredibly strong starting from their first kicks. At this rate it is already far too late for Muzan to do anything. Through your pain and your exhaustion you sometimes bitterly blame him for what he puts you through but you never get any apology from him and you know exactly why. He would never admit it after all.

🩸Then everything suddenly stops though. The growth of your bump and the kicks and hits of the baby inside. There is suddenly no movement anymore at all and despite your not so positive feelings, you slowly start to worry about it. Your own condition isn't improving too greatly though as your food either gets thrown up by you or still seems to be received by the fetus instead. Muzan has already noticed it too. He can still sense the heartbeat within but to his own growing dread it seems to get weaker by the days. His mind is racing as to why and the steadily weakening condition of you and the baby only seem to be a reminder that the time he has to find a solution is limited. Eventually he starts considering that the baby you bear is technically still a demon too. He starts considering that the baby might have reached a phase within their development where the current food you consume isn't sufficient enough anymore. Maybe they need some human flesh. Even though you refuse when he first brings up his theory, Muzan doesn't care as he shoves it from that day on down your throat and to his satisfaction his idea was right.

🩸Yet he can't enjoy the fact that his theory was right for too long. Your body, unable to handle the large amount of energy and nutrition the baby steals from it, goes into premature and sudden labor in the seventh month. Neither of you two two are prepared for it and even the baby seems to be unhappy about your body giving up on them as they start making a ruckus inside your womb, only adding to the pain you are already feeling. Muzan is unable to calm the irritated baby down. Everything happens too fast for him to even prepare anything. Your body is in a rush to expel the baby from inside you and their frequent and wild movement only cause them to slide down your birth channel faster. The frequent activity of your baby soon comes to a hold though. Their umbilical cord got flattened and Muzan is met with deafening silence when the bloody infant lays in his arms. It is this silence that makes him suddenly lose his composure as the motionless child reminds him vividly of his own birth. Not his own child too. He spends minutes frantically reanimating the infant before she finally lets out her first weak cries.

🩸If your own condition should have worsened any more, Muzan probably would have turned you into a demon. Somehow your fragile body pulled through though and in a way he’s relieved about that. Because for now it would be more beneficial to let you stay human and care for the little girl you gave birth to. With her black hair and her red and bleary eyes she looks a lot like Muzan and perhaps it’s her visible similarity to him that fills his heart with pride. She recovers quicker than you from her troublesome birth, probably because she is half demon. Her appetite is as insatiable as it was during her time in your womb though and to your slight horror she still has her preferences to the taste of human blood and flesh together with your breastmilk. Muzan gives her what you don’t want to give her as he has realized that she probably needs the different nutrients to develop properly just like she needed whilst being in your belly. Now that the baby is born, he forbids you from expressing any hesitation and confusion when you’re taking care of her. This girl is his own flesh and blood and he won’t tolerate you not loving her who is so much like him.

Tsugikuni Yoriichi

☀️Pregnancy should be a joyful occasion for parents yet despite the expected happiness and joy Yoriichi feels when it becomes known that you are expecting his child, there is also a gnawing fear that haunts him. He can't help but recall the heart-wrenching fate that befell Uta and the unborn baby. Even if he has you now in his life, this is a memory he is unable to forget as he often still blames himself for their deaths through the hand of a demon. The slow growth of your bump triggers those haunting memories and sometimes he dreams of the same scene he saw when he returned home to Uta, only that it is now your body torn apart with the precious child murdered before it even had the chance to live. Yoriichi becomes very protective and paranoid over you as he doesn't think that he could bear a repeat of what has already once happened to him. There is always this underlying fear and paranoia that make him much more aware of his surroundings even as he rejoices when he witnesses the first kicks of his baby. His katana is always kept close, especially when night comes where he finds himself often lying awake.

☀️As winter is already awaiting, Yoriichi makes an effort to keep you warm and protected and your home as cozy as possible. He never leaves you as soon as the sun goes down as he now knows better. All tasks are usually finished within the day so that he can stay by your side and protect you as soon as it gets dark. Despite his efforts to always keep you warm and healthy though, you seem to catch a cold. It is nothing to be worried over though. You have a light headache, your throat hurts whenever you swallow and you cough. You are not really worried though and even assure Yoriichi that it'll pass by soon. Despite feeling already a bit more fatigued due to your pregnancy and now your illness, you still feel fine. You decide to stay inside nevertheless as he fetches you a doctor to monitor your condition. After all you know of his loss of his first pregnant wife so you try to make him feel better and calmer by letting a doctor tell him that you are fine and that you will be fit in a few days again. When Yoriichi returns with the doctor, you feel slightly febrile.

☀️What should have been only a mild cold soon turns into a serious condition though. Maybe it is because you are pregnant and are just more prone to bacteria yet such explanations do nothing to help Yoriichi's terrified heart. Despite your weak protests to leave the room so he doesn't catch what you have, he stays faithfully with you as your fever soon feels like it is burning your skin and sweat coats your skin. Every swallow is a small challenge as it brings you uncomfortable pain and you are often thrown into coughing fits, your throat coated with phlegm and constantly itching in a dry way. With your worse condition, Yoriichi has asked the doctor to come by every day. He does whatever he can do to help you. He cooks for you and feeds you even if you should have no hunger or simply feel too tired and he heads the advices of the doctor when giving you the medicine that should help your condition. His chest is tight with fear and worry as he feels anxious whenever he sees your bump and wonders how your sick body may also negatively impact the baby.

☀️Perhaps it is just his fate to watch helplessly as he loses everyone he loves in his life. First his brother, then Uta and his unborn child and now you and the baby you are carrying. Yoriichi can only watch helplessly how you grow weaker and weaker as the days pass by. Your lips are chappy and dry and your skin coated in ill sweat as your whole body is uncomfortably hot due to your fever. Yet even in this condition you try to soothe Yoriichi in his silent despair and promise him that it'll soon get better even as he has to support your weak body when you want to walk around. Your sick appearance always tears his heart apart, his sorrow growing by the day yet he tries to stay strong for you. But this thin threat snaps when your contractions start at only 30 weeks. His whole body is shaking and silent tears cascade down his face as a the doctor and a midwife he brought with him try their best to help you to deliver the baby. He feels small, insignificant and terrifyingly helpless as he stays by your side and with every scream and cry you let out he thinks he is more desrving of death for not being able to save anyone in his life.

☀️Even after you have made it through birth and have delivered a little boy does his torment continue. Your health plummets down after labor as your body is left severely weakened after the physical exertion that leaves you in a nearly unconscious state as you are too exhausted and sick to even leave. Your sickness soon spreads out to his newborn son and even if his heart is already tattered and torn enough, Yoriichi only continues to suffer. Wherever he goes, he is only reminded of his cursed fate. He spends his time either catering to your needs, his heart screaming whenever you ask in your weak condition for your son or he silently watches over the baby whose little body is desperately battling against the deadly cold. He is too terrified to fall asleep anymore at night, too afraid to wake up one morning to your cold body or to the motionless body of his baby. Instead he lays awake at night, his heart beating anxiously as he listens to your troubled breaths and the breaths of the little baby. Sometimes it becomes too much for him and he is left muffling his sobs with his hand at night.

☀️Many days pass before you finally start feeling better. You're still feeling slightly feverish but you are able to move by yourself anymore. Yoriichi, who is feeling an overwhelming urge to hug you, kiss you and show you how grateful he is that you are still alive, has to hold himself back as you aren't fully cured yet and still need recovery. You're finally able to interact with your son and the sight of you holding the child that both of you created is a small remedy for his bruised and broken heart, even if the baby is also still sick. He slowly starts recovering though together with you as he receives all the love and care he could possibly get from you, Yoriichi and the doctor. It still takes weeks until his son as well as you are fully recovered and well again and for the first time in a while he feels like he can see the light again. Despite his own exhaustion and tiredness from all his fear he is especially attentive and loving with you and his little son. He just wants the both of you to know how much it really means to him that both of you are still alive and with him.

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↬|Atsushi|

If Atsushi were to become a yandere, his worst behavior towards his s/o would likely be extreme possessiveness and obsession. He may constantly monitor and track their every move, preventing them from interacting with anyone else or even leaving the house. He may also become increasingly controlling and manipulative, using psychological tactics such as guilt and shame to keep his s/o under his thumb. Additionally, he may become physically aggressive and violent, using force or threats to keep his s/o compliant and submissive. This behavior would be overwhelming and terrifying for his s/o, trapping them in a dangerous and unhealthy relationship.

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Dazai's s/o's worst experience with him would be when he becomes completely obsessed, possessive, and controlling. He would constantly monitor their every move, not allowing them to have any freedom or autonomy in the relationship. He might even resort to physical or emotional abuse to keep them in line and under his control. Dazai's possessiveness and jealousy would also cause him to lash out violently at anyone who tried to threaten the relationship, regardless of the truth behind it. Dazai's gasligting methods can be incredibly subtle and manipulative. He would constantly make them doubt their own perceptions and memories, making them question their sanity. He would play the victim, blaming them for his own actions and convincing them that they're the ones overreacting. He's also a master at making them believe that their feelings and thoughts are not valid, and that he's the only one who really understands them. Dazai would also twist their words and use any information they disclose against them, further twisting their perception of reality.

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↬|Chuuya|

Chuuya's S/O's worst experience with him would probably be their first argument. Chuuya is extremely possessive by nature, and it does not take much to set him off into a possessive rampage. If he senses that something is off about the way his S/O is interacting with another person, it's very likely that he will start asking questions and getting jealous, which would quickly lead to a massive argument, especially if his S/O isn't in the mood to deal with his possessive antics.

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↬|Akutagawa|

He would probably be very controlling, always wanting to know where his S/O is and who they're with. He'd be very possesive and jealous, monitoring their every move and not allowing them any freedom. Their private messages and calls are also probably being checked by him, which leaves no space for any privacy. He'd also be constantly testing them to see if they really do love him and nobody else. If he catches them even looking in the direction of someone else he's probably going to go berserk.

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The worst experience his s/o would have with Jouno would likely be his extreme possessiveness and control. Because he's so possessive of them, they would have little to no freedom in the relationship. He would demand to know their whereabouts and activities at all times, and he would have no tolerance at all for them spending time with other people. He would constantly question them about what they're doing, and he would try to control every aspect of their life. He would be extremely demanding and controlling, leaving them feeling suffocated and trapped in the relationship.

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↬|Tetchou|

He would be very controlling. He’d control where they go, who they can talk to, and basically any part of their life. If his s/o ever does anything to go against how he wants things to be, he’d react badly. Anything from yelling to even hurting them as a way to punish them. He’d also be even more clingy and never take his eyes off them, becoming even more possessive.

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Physical hurt. Being kept in a room against their will. Baby, what did you expect?~ Being completely isolated from everyone around them and being completely in the hands of Fyodor, having no contact to the outside world, basically locked up with no way out. Fyodor being overly possessive to the point of being overly controlling of every aspect of his s\o life, from who they spend time with to what music they listen to. Constant monitoring and surveillance by Fyodor to the extent of even stalking the person. (if they aren't physically locked up by him)

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Nikolai's s/o would probably experience a lot of clinginess from him, as Nikolai would want to be with them all the time and never let them go. Nikolai would probably be jealous and possessive of them, wanting all their attention to be on him at all times. Nikolai wouldn't tolerate them even so much as glancing at another person, feeling the need to keep them all to himself and make sure they couldn't look at anyone else. Nikolai would probably be obsessive and controlling to his s/o, trying to keep control of them and make sure they were entirely dependent on him.

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↬|Sigma|

Sigma would constantly monitor them whereabouts and conversations, and would not allow them to hang out with friends or family. He would also be very demanding and demanding, expecting them to do whatever he says and always be available to him. He would not allow them to have any autonomy or independence, resulting in a very oppressive and suffocating relationship.

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callizinc · 2 months ago

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so how do you interpret the significance of the themes in ena overall. like potential messaging. and how does dream bbq interact with the themes established in the youtube series.

i’ve seen people say they interpret it as anything from commentary on immigration (particularly how immigrants are treated poorly) to like, internet culture, or autism, or whatever really. i noticed a lot of people relate their own experiences to it. it’s cool how many different interpretations people get out of it (even if folks get a little in the weeds about the symbolism sometimes, and personally i’m not as focused on potential symbolism as the worldbuilding in itself)

This is an absolutely diabolical (/positive) ask to send me . This is like opening the floodgates to world's largest and most dangerous dam. Oh my goodness gracious

WELL!! That is of course such a good and cool question!! to be honest, i hope i can answer it sufficiently, since i've spent the most time thinking about Specific things in dbbq so far as opposed to the bigger and greater picture—But here's the thoughts i have about all that at present!

I guess, for one, i think interpreting the series to be commentaries on immigration, internet culture, and/or neurodivergence and the like are all completely fair and valid. I don't have much to say about those interpretations at the moment myself, but still, I think they're all interesting in their own right! I also agree 100% that it's super cool how many interpretations people have; even if i. Don't vibe with all of them LOL, i genuinely really like how much thought it inspires!

Right now, i can't help but interpret the game as a commentary on unhealthy work/life balances and abusive work dynamics. Which feels like the most obvious interpretation possible but... still LOL.

Ena's literal only moods are "smooth talking salesperson obsessed with work" and "pissed at everyone because of her stupid job she doesn't even like". There's her line where she goes "Oh, I am no longer the boss of myself" with extreme nonchalance, Not to mention she goes to The Club one single time and has a breakdown and starts like. turning into branches or something ("I need to get back to my deplorable job... I can't afford another moment of joy.." LIKE GIRL...).

We don't even know what her job... Is? like obviously she's a salesperson but, What is she supposed to be selling? and i know they have the slot machines and everything, but what does her Business even Do? The fact that none of this is clear IS amusing, but i also feel like it represents how her job, ultimately, is Not of importance. Nothing she's doing is of true value to herself, nor to others, but she commits her entire life to her shitty job anyway, leaving no room to even consider breaks or ANY life Outside of work ("any good business should be open all hours" ...).

Not to mention how. you know. Everybody hates her 😭 WHICH IS A WHOLE CAN OF WORMS ON ITS OWN, But i feel it also fits into this interpretation; She, for whatever reason, commits her life to work, the thing you're Supposed to do to be a valuable member of society, so to say, yet it gains her no respect, no benefits, seemingly nothing good at all. Maybe she works so hard to try to gain the respect of others, even though, just like how our capitalistic workplaces will chew you up and spit you back out, and no matter how hard you work, those people will never truly care about you.

However, the references to violence in regards to Ena are also important, i think, with the "I'm not doing ANYTHING!" scene, and the fact that the game trailer shows two accounts of Ena wielding a gun, and also.. A shot of Ena as an armless crumbling green zombie in the same desolate landscape full of raining bullets.

I'm unsure where to go with that as of right now—mostly because I don't think the game would draw parallels between Specific real life events, I'd still want to ensure i'm being respectful if i am to start talking about something like war/soldier theming. Still, i think this has to be significant, there's two separate depictions of Ena wielding a gun in the game's trailer, and I truly don't know how to else you're meant to interpret the scenes of distressed and desolate Enas around giant knives and raining bullets LOL

...I also just remembered you also asked how DBBQ's themes interact with the youtube series's themes, But. i feel embarrassed enough already having written this much. and also I don't know. About that one. I don't knowwwww. So um. I'm gonna stop here 😭

#IM SORRY THIS GOT SO LONG I HOPE YOU DONT MIND! But. ...Like i said this question IS like opening the floodgates for me LOL #So thank you Very much for the ask!! thank you :D This was a blast to answer and i hope you enjoy these interpretations too!!#Honestly like . Someone ask me this same question in like. a month or two when ive had even more time to Ponder everything #im sure ill have more stuff to say then.... Whether it will be Good stuff is debatable. but ill deffo at least have even more Thoughts LOL #ena dream bbq #ena #dream bbq #ena joel g #Thank you again so much for the ask :D i appreciate it!!#askbox #analysis

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fiddleyoumust · 11 months ago

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So, the reality series The Boyfriend has eaten a large chunk of my brain recently. I'm not usually a huge reality TV person, but this show is scratching my brain so well, and I think it's mostly because it's very communication focused. So we get a lot of these men being exposed to different ideas and perspectives, different ways of communicating and problem solving, and most importantly, different ways of being in intimate relationships.

Shun is not my favorite person in the house, but I do find him the most fascinating to watch navigate these new relationships. He's extremely low energy, moody, introverted, outwardly calm, and reflective. He very obviously does not trust his own instincts about love and relationships, which is understandable given what he's revealed about past partners.

There is obviously a lot going on with Shun below the surface, and I get the feeling he is an extremely emotional person who has gotten very good at masking those emotions because he's never had anyone who cared about him enough to unmask them. We show our emotions to others because we want something in return - validation, comfort, understanding, etc. But we are able to show those emotions because we have an understanding with the people we are showing them to, that we will get something in return, that they care enough to give us something back for being open about our feelings.

Shun, an orphan who spent his entire childhood in an orphanage and who has had mostly toxic romantic relationships, hasn't had anyone he could trust enough to share his emotions with, so he is very closed off, even though he has a good understanding of his emotions and is a very good communicator when he needs to be. I think Dai (the guy Shun is most interested in) is a great fit for him, even though Shun hasn't fully realized it yet. Dai is ready to be that person for Shun, and his desire for Shun to trust him, his desire to be Shun's safe space is palpable in every move he's made to get closer to Shun.

In one of the most recent episodes, Shun passes up the opportunity to spend time with Dai simply because Shun's in a bad mood. He immediately feels bad about it because he knows his rejection hurt Dai's feelings. When Dai gets back from the daily mission, Shun makes a failed attempt to explain himself.

The conversation is so interesting because Shun is making a case for why not going with Dai was his perogative and Dai, who is just a really excellent person, and who has really tried hard to meet Shun where he is emotionally, is 100% not interested in having that conversation. Because he doesn't actually care if Shun wanted to go or not go, it's Shun's disregard for Dai's feelings that he's upset about. It's being taken for granted. They are not having the same conversation. But Dai also doesn't want to tell Shun how to fix it because he wants Shun to care about him enough to figure it out on his own.

They leave that conversation with Shun feeling worse than when he went into it. He goes off to sulk with a bottle of wine. Then Taehon, another contestant, joins him, and they have one of the best conversations I've seen on a reality show.

Shun talks about why he didn't go on the daily mission with Dai and how he doesn't feel like he had to volunteer to go, even though he likes Dai a lot. Taehon validates Shun's feelings, and here is the part that really hit me, and the part that I really hope Shun remembers later because he's revealed a bit about his past relationships and it seems like he was very much a person who got obsessed and lost himself to the whims of the men he's been interested in.

Shun tells Taehon, "I'm not obligated to go with Dai. We're not even dating yet." And Taehon replies, "Even if you were dating already, you're still not obligated to go." And MY GOD I hope those words stay with Shun for the rest of his life. That was something someone like Shun NEEDED to hear. You do not have to bend to the whims of your romantic partner. They are not entitled to drag you beyond your boundaries, and it is 100% okay to set boundaries and demand your romantic partners respect them.

Shun goes on to wonder if he wasn't wrong, why does he still feel so bad about what happened. Taehon tells him maybe focusing on right and wrong isn't what's important here, and Shun all on his own realizes what he feels bad about is hurting Dai's feelings, and even if hurting Dai wasn't intentional, and even though Shun had the right to not spend time with Dai, he should still let Dai know he's sorry that his choice caused Dai pain.

So, Shun apologizes for hurting Dai, and Dai is very happy, and the two of them get back on track. The entire show is so emotionally satisfying because you get to see in real time the ways people communicate, the intricacies of navigating new relationships, both romantic and not. If you enjoy watching people in all their odd, frustrating beauty, I highly recommend checking out The Boyfriend on Netflix. It's delightful.

#the boyfriend netflix #daishun #shundai #shun nakanishi #dai nakai #the boyfriend #the boyfriend the series

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blakeswritingimagines · 11 months ago

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Dating Yandere Hans Landa Would Include:

As a Yandere he is quite possessive, he'll do anything to make sure you're only his. He will find any excuse to be close to you, including using spying "techniques". he will get jealous over the simplest things, and he won't tolerate being away from you too long. He will do everything he can for your affection and attention.

His yandere tendencies would go a step further – he may display stalking behavior, keeping a very close eye on his love interest's every move, and may even resort to kidnapping to keep you all to himself. He'd try to isolate his love from others, wanting your complete attention and devotion, and could even become controlling, trying to dictate how you should behave and what you should wear.

He would constantly need reassurance from you and would need to be the center of your world. Any sign of perceived abandonment or rejection would cause him great distress and could lead to irrational and potentially harmful behavior like stalking, harassment, or even physical violence. He would try to isolate his love interest from friends and family and could become increasingly controlling over your actions and decisions. His intense devotion and possessiveness could border on suffocating for you.

Hans could also display controlling and manipulative behavior to ensure you stay loyal to him. He might try to control your social interactions, activities, and even your career or education choices to keep you under his influence. His jealousy and possessiveness could lead him to demand constant communication and attention, and he might even resort to stalking or surveillance to keep tabs on his love interest's whereabouts and activities.

As a yandere, Hans also has a bad tendency to control and manipulate his love interest. He could try to dictate your actions, decisions, and even your appearance and opinions to maintain control in the relationship. He'd likely be highly critical and dismissive of any feelings or opinions that don't align with his own and could use guilt or shame to keep you compliant. He could also be prone to emotional and verbal abuse. He's also prone to violent or harmful actions if he feels threatened or possessive.

He exhibits obsessive behavior, always needing to know where you are and who you are with. He could try to constantly check in on you, monitor your activities, and even try to sabotage any potential relationships or friendships that could interfere with your own. He might also exhibit extreme jealousy and possessiveness, which could lead to lashing out at anyone he perceives as a threat to the relationship. He would be reluctant to let you out of his sight and might use controlling tactics to keep you close to him.

He has extreme mood swings and emotional instability. He could switch between being intensely happy and loving one moment, to becoming explosive, angry, or even paranoid the next. He would be susceptible and reactive, and his emotions could swing wildly in response to even minor things that he perceives as a threat to his love. He would have a hard time managing his own emotions, and might constantly seek reassurance and validation from his love interest to feel reassured and secure in the relationship

He has a twisted sense of love and might try to convince you that you are completely dependent on him. He engages in gaslighting or emotional manipulation to make you doubt your own feelings or actions, making you more dependent on him. He would constantly need reassurance and would try to keep you under his control by using threats or blackmail to keep you from leaving him.

As a yandere, he has a tendency to be very dependent on you emotionally and psychologically. He could rely on you as a primary source of comfort and support, becoming extremely upset or unstable if you are not available to fulfill his need for attention. He could be excessively clingy and demanding, requiring your undivided attention, and become extremely jealous if you spend time with anyone else.

He likely prioritizes taking you out on romantic and elaborate dates to make you feel special and appreciated. He would go above and beyond to plan the perfect outing, like candlelit dinners or private boat rides. He might also have a tendency to be excessively controlling or protective during these dates, making sure no one else interferes with your time together and only allowing you to interact with people he approves of.

Hans would likely use gifts and rewards to reinforce your positive behavior and to express his affection for you. He might even go overboard, gifting you expensive and extravagant gifts to demonstrate his devotion. On the other hand, he could also be prone to withholding rewards or even using them as a weapon during conflicts. He could threaten to take them away as a way to control your behavior and make you compliant with his demands.

He would likely have a tendency to use punishments as a means of exerting control and disciplining you. He might become hostile, violent, or resort to verbal abuse when he perceives that you have disobeyed or upset him in some way. He could also try to control your behavior by imposing restrictions, such as limiting your freedom or access to things that bring you joy. He might even threaten severe consequences if you don't comply with his expectations or demands.

He would be extremely sensitive and reactive to conflicts or arguments with you. He would likely struggle with dealing with disagreements and become easily defensive or hostile. He might also resort to emotional manipulation or guilt-tripping to make you feel bad and take responsibility for the conflict. He could use his knowledge of your weaknesses and insecurities against you to win arguments or get his way.

Hans would likely put on a charming and charismatic front in public, he would have a possessive and controlling demeanor when interacting with you. He would also be very protective and territorial when it comes to the relationship and might become hostile or confrontational if he perceives that anyone else is threatening or trying to interfere.

He would exhibit a mix of intense affection and manipulative behavior. He might shower you with praise, gifts, and demonstrations of his devotion, and be very attentive and romantic. However, this affection could also be used to control and manipulate you, as he would expect you to return his affection in equal measure and might become upset or angry if you do not reciprocate in the way he expects.

If you wanted to break up, Hans in yandere mode would likely react fiercely. He might refuse to accept the breakup, trying to change your mind through emotional manipulation, guilt-tripping, threats, or even physical violence. He could also threaten to hurt himself or others if the break-up went through, and might become extremely vengeful or destructive in response to the rejection. He might also try to manipulate his partner with promises of love, attention, and devotion in an attempt to keep you from leaving.

He would likely be very invested in the idea of marriage, as it is a symbol of ultimate commitment and possession. He might be very determined to marry you, even if it means resorting to manipulation, pressure, or trickery to make it happen. He might be very controlling in planning the wedding and could try to manipulate his partner into agreeing to a wedding that suits his own desires rather than your own. He would likely expect his partner to be completely devoted and loyal to him in marriage and might be very possessive and jealous of anyone who interferes with the relationship.

Hans would likely be very focused on the idea of having children with his love interest as a way of cementing and solidifying the bond and relationship. He might be very determined to have children with you, even if it means resorting to manipulation, pressure, or trickery to make it happen. He might also see children as a way to keep you dependent and emotionally attached to him, which further reinforces his desire to have children. He would likely expect his partner to be fully committed to your new role as a parent and expects you to prioritize the family over anything else.

If you were unable or unwilling to have children, he as a yandere would likely react extremely negatively. He might try to manipulate or pressure you into changing your mind, making you feel guilty or inadequate for being unable to have children. He might also blame himself and become very distressed, feeling like he is unable to create the perfect family unit that he desires. He could also become very jealous of other families and resentful towards you. In extreme cases, he might resort to violence or threats to enforce his desire to have children.

"I will do anything for you. I will kill for you. I will die for you. You are the light of my life, the air that I breathe. You are my world, my everything. I will never let anyone hurt you. I will never let anyone touch you. You are mine and mine alone. No one else deserves you but me."

Hair pulling - Yanking on your hair during sex adds an element of roughness and intensity that he craves. It's a way for him to exert control over you and mark you as his.

Bondage - Tying you up and leaving you helpless is a great way to show his dominance and control. Seeing you struggle against your restraints only fuels his arousal further.

Verbal degradation - Nothing turns him on more than hearing you beg for mercy while he degrades you. Hearing you plead for relief and call him names only fuels his desire to continue tormenting you.

Orgasm denial - Making you reach the brink of orgasm but denying you release is a sadistic pleasure of his. The frustration and desperation you experience only fuels his arousal further.

Gagging - He loves seeing you struggle to breathe as his cock forces its way deeper into your throats. The sound of your choked gasps, and the sight of tears rolling down your cheeks is incredibly erotic.

#hans landa #hans landa x reader #hans landa x you #hans landa x yn #yandere hans landa #inglourious basterds #yandere inglourious basterds #yandere x reader #dating would include

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snowdood · 4 months ago

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Dan and Phil Astrology Charts/Analysis Part 1

IDK if anyone has done this but as a big astrology fan it's cool to look at peoples placements. All information comes from Co-Star (which ik some people don't like but i think the description of the information was valid). Birth times/location from TABINOF.

Dan's Chart:

Sun in Gemini, 12th house The sun determines your ego, identity, and "role" in life. It's the core of who you are, and is the sign you're most likely to already know. You are fundamentally dynamic, quick-witted, eclectic, and curious. Fascinated by everything, your childlike energy is often scattered in a million directions. On a social level, this may come off as gossipy or flaky. It's in your twelfth house, meaning you feel the need to distinguish yourself from others through privacy, secrets, and introspection.

Ascendant in Cancer, 1st house Your ascendant is the "mask" you present to people. It can be seen in your personal style and how you come off to people when you first meet. You come across as gentle, intuitive, and warm, though some may regard this as overly emotional or sensitive to criticism. Moon in Gemini, 12th house The moon rules your emotions, moods, and feelings. This is likely the sign you most think of yourself as, since it reflects your personality when you're alone or deeply comfortable. Your emotional self is often restless and unsettled. You're extremely adaptable, which sometimes makes you feel pulled in too many directions. You are easily bored and need to feel like you are free to be creative and create meaning, which can make you feel like you're in a constant identity crisis. It's in your 12th house, meaning you find security and safety through privacy, secrets, and introspection. Mercury in Gemini, 12th house Mercury determines how you communicate, talk, think, and process information. It also indicates how you learn. It is the mind's planet. Your intellect is dynamic, quick-witted, and eclectic. You're deeply curious about everything, and your energy is often scattered in a million directions. The way you speak is articulate and witty, but you're likely to talk behind people's backs. It's in your 12th house, meaning you are curious about and inclined to analyze your secrets, dreams, and mental health. Venus in Leo, 2nd house Venus determines how and what you love. It indicates how you express affection and the qualities you're attracted to. Your romantic side is idealistic af. You need a lot of love, care, and validation—in return, you don't hold anything back. You want a passionate relationship, though sometimes it just seems like you like drama. It's in your 2nd house, meaning that for you, love is often expressed in money and material possessions. Mars in Leo, 2nd house Mars is the planet of aggression. It determines how you assert yourself, take action, and the energy that surrounds you—particularly in your sex life, your ambitiousness, and when you're angry. You assert yourself in a way that is authoritative and persuasive, and you push things forward with confidence and gusto. It's in your 2nd house, meaning you put a lot of energy into money and material possessions.

Jupiter in Leo, 2nd house One of the two social planets, Jupiter rules idealism, optimism, and expansion. It's also very philosophical. You grow and find understanding through magnanimity, inspiring confidence, thinking big, and feeling good about yourself. It's in your 2nd house, meaning you find success through money and material possessions. Saturn in Aquarius, 8th house The other social planet, Saturn rules responsibility, restrictions, limits, boundaries, fears, and self-discipline. You struggle with obstinacy, a superiority complex, and being overly detached. It's in your 8th house, meaning you have had difficulties with darkness, taboos, rebirth, sex, and transformation. Uranus in Capricorn, 7th house Uranus rules innovation, rebellion, and progress. It's in your 7th house, meaning that for you, this manifests in rebelling against dated expectations about close relationships and long-term partnerships. Neptune in Capricorn, 7th house Neptune rules dreams, imagination, and the unconscious. It's in your 7th house, meaning that for you, this manifests in your ideal expectations—verging on unrealistic and impractical—about close relationships and long-term partnerships. Pluto in Scorpio, 5th house Pluto rules power, intensity, obsession, and control. It's in your 5th house, meaning you personally are transforming outdated definitions of romance, creativity, and pleasure.

**Phil's will be in a seperate post bc i hit the word count limit :(

#dan and phil #phan #astrology #interesting #dnp art #dan howell #daniel howell #phil lester #amazingphil

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astroyongie · 4 months ago

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can you do seventeen toxic love traits please 🙂‍↕️

Seventeen Toxic Love Traits

Scoups

Attention-Seeking – scoups is unfortunately the type to flirt with others for validation since due to his lower self esteem, he feels good when knowing that people like him or find him attractive even when he is in a relationship

Wonwoo

Manipulative Communication – won woo is the type to twist words to win during arguments and during period where he wants things his way. he is extremely good at communicative manipulation and gaslighting

Mingyu

Controlling – Mingyu is the type who wants to dictate everything in the relationship which can be sometimes very overwhelming. he wants to be the man of the relationship but often, his controlative nature can be toxic

Vernon

Emotionally Cold – Vernon is the type to struggles a lot with emotional intimacy even with his partner. so he doesn't show his emotions much, doesnt communicate and he can feel very distance even during intimacy

Hoshi

Two-Faced Love – Hoshi is the type who says one thing at one given moment but then he does another. so his actions never are in accordance to what he says which can be quite infuriating. you never know when to trust him

Jun

Emotionally Inconsistent – Jun is the type to feel different every day of the week and that makes him very hard to deal with. because you never know how to access his feelings or understand what might have triggered his mood swings as well

The8

Overly Practical – The8 is the type who views love as a business deal and not really as an emotional connection. to him his relationships need to have goals and meaning, and purposes. he would be with someone for the sake of love if there isnt financial interestes behind for exemple

Dino

Puts Work First – Dino is the type to always neglect his relationships for success. which means that to him, his job comes first, his relationship comes after and his partner needs to accept that or else they will be quite unhappy

Woozi

Manipulative Charm – woozy is the type who uses kindness to control his partner, so yeah it's a form of gaslight and even "grooming" in a way. Since he will manipulate his partner into keeping them where he needs

Jeonghan

Avoids Conflict – Jeonghan's is the type to hide his problems and the relationship problems until they explode. and when they explode he can get impulsive and aggressive and his communication is then, terrible

Joshua

Avoids Deep Conversations – Joshua is the type who prefers intellectual talks over emotions. talking about feelings or emotional connection can make him feel very uncomfortable so he will avoid those topics

Unpredictable & Inconsistent – DK is the type who changes his mind frequently about things so it can be quite frustrating of this partner. he often seems like he doesnt know what to do with the relationship. his actions are also unpredictable which makes you confuse

Seungkwan

Controlling & Rigid – Seungkwan is the type who wants things done his way only since it can trigger him if you try to change his routine and habits. because of that he can become very controlling and rigid in the relationship

#seventeen #seventeen astrology #seventeen headcanons #seventeen imagines #seventeen scenarios #seventeen reactions #seventeen joshua #kim mingyu #svt #seungkwan #mingyu #seventeen mingyu #seventeen wonwoo

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ilikekidsshows · 7 months ago

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I just saw a video of children pshycologist where she said "a lot of parents nowadays only want their kids to be happy, and that's why a lot of kids nowadays has a lot of problem. because they never taught what necessary for them, such as disappointment, responsibility, accountability, how to regulate their emotion, emphaty-" and some more I don't remember, sorry. And Marinette's parents does reflect this IRL problem which should be a good thing because we have seen what kind of child Marinette is as a result of such parenting. but, instead of make this a moral lesson, the show just validated this kind of parenting and Marinette behavior as "good".

But also it's interesting how I never see the so claimed child pshycologist who said "sentimonster is good methapor for abuse" commenting about Marinette problematic behavior, or maybe because I'm no longer followed the blog, idk.

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To discuss the connection between Marinette’s problematic behavior and how she’s been raised, people would need to accept her accountability for said behavior first. Instead the closest to accepting that Marinette did anything wrong I’ve seen from the stans is the take that “Gabriel manipulated her into it” because being manipulated would make Marinette a victim and therefore not culpable for her own actions in their eyes. To the average Marinette stan, “being asked nicely by the main villain” just about equates to “was forced to do it with a gun held to her head”.

Also, like, I really do think that the Miraculous fandom at large either considers Marinette’s parents as close to perfect as you can get or claims they're neglectful for not suing the school for suspending her. Because, as I said before, the idea of parents who never expect anything from you, always give you whatever you want and instantly do whatever it takes to keep you in a good mood sounds really good. We all talk about how having supportive parents is really important, so no one thinks it’s possible for parents to be too supportive. It sounds ridiculous, the idea that you can basically give your child too much love by wanting them to always be cheerful and never having to struggle with anything.

The reasons for this attitude make sense. The other extreme of completely unsupportive parents messes with a child’s psyche much more obviously than being overly permissive does. Unless you’re actively observing someone’s behavior and know what to look for, there’s not much difference between having a healthy sense of self and being self-obsessed. It’s good to take care of yourself and prioritize yourself, it keeps you safe and healthy. But it’s bad to mistreat others because you just couldn’t be bothered to be considerate. It’s one thing to set boundaries when you’re dealing with things yourself and don’t have enough strength to take care of someone else on top of that, and a completely another thing to ask others to always prioritize you to their own detriment because you can't deal with even the smallest problem alone.

Fortitude against anything needs to be built up, just having support doesn’t cut it. When it comes to strengthening your immune system, it's not enough to just take all your vitamins while staying indoors all day, you actually need to expose yourself to bacteria by going outside frequently. It’s the entire point of vaccines that you need small amounts of a bad thing to be able to counter large amounts of it. Children facing expectations, disappointments and stressors is the same thing. You’ll never be able to handle even the slightest amount of stress unless you get exposed to it in small amounts first.

Also, like, this isn’t new information about parenting. Granted, developmental psychology as a separate field of psychology is a pretty new field of science to begin with (less than two centuries old), but I remember, already in my childhood, there being a philosophical approach to parenting that said: “overprotective parents raise cowards”. This was based on the idea that children mimic their parents, so the things their parents overly protect them from start to register as “scary” things. These days we know child development also includes more subtle connections, and, indeed, several articles on overprotective parenting discuss children with overprotective parents as being overly anxious, being more dependent on others, being involved in bullying as either a victim or perpetrator (or even both) and tending to lie to get people to like them more, among other behaviors connected to different types of overprotective parenting. Sounds almost like a checklist for Marinette, huh?

I used to think Marinette was coddled all the way back during the original show. It was just so obvious to me, because that’s how I was parented and I had similar problems with emotions and I had to clean up my act as a teenager. But, I think the reason it’s never been a topic of discussion, is that it makes Marinette out to be flawed in a real, tangible way that she herself would need to fix. Even before the retool validated all the more annoying stans, we had to be very roundabout and hushhush about any flaws Marinette had, because the stans were using the boogeyman of “everyone on Reddit/Youtube calls her stalker and blahblahblah” to justify being annoying jerks to people trying to discuss Marinette’s character with anything that wasn’t pure praise.

The one thing to remember about the fabled fandom psychologist, whose posts I’ve also had blocked for years, is that they were a popular blog. I’ve never been that popular in the Miraculous fandom, some posts of mine were, and my most popular posts were the most milktoast, tongue-in-cheek posts that didn’t actually challenge the audience in any way, practically shitposting. The Miraculous fandom at large, the side of it that desperately clings to this show and its protagonist as flawless, have never wanted to be challenged. They don’t want to read anything too spicy, they want to read posts that validate the common consensus . And that’s why a popular Miraculous blog would never write an in-depth analysis of Marinette’s character flaws and what caused them, it just wouldn’t bring the numbers they’re used to. In fact, if a popular blog decided to say anything even vaguely critical-sounding, they’d be torn apart by the Marinette stan mob who are just “so sick of all the salt”.

I know these things because I lived that too. I used to dial back my opinions on this show so much, once it became clear that Marinette stans just don’t remember what happens in the show and go purely on vibes and will dogpile anyone who says the vibe isn’t canon. The thing I said that offended these stans so much? “Marinette has a huge support system.” This was “too much salt”. I was new to active blogging and didn’t know how to deal with that much negative attention, so I tried to remain mostly inoffensive the rest of my time in the fandom. Choosing to burn any bridges with a fandom that unquestionably supports this bad of a show was the best decision I ever made.

#ml fandom salt #ml critical #ml salt #dats chats

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moodymisty · 1 year ago

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The discussion of primarchs stealing other primarch’s beloved got me thinking, how do you think the primarch’s sons the astartes react to another primarch trying to woo away their primarch’s beloved. Because you can be sure that astartes will have their own opinions on the situation.

Now initially I’m sure some legions would be stoked, (Iron Warriors, Iron Hands, World Eaters, Death Guard, and Dark Angels), seeing this as way to rid themselves of their “legion mother” and that she would be a different legion problem.

However, some members of the legion probably have the hindsight to see that if you were no longer around then their primarch’s mood would take a turn for the worse. So regardless of their own feelings they have to make sure you stay because they couldn’t handle their genefather becoming even more unrully. Or possibly, as the only parental figure that dispenses praise and emotional validation, they could discover that they miss your presence

As for other legions, (Luna Wolves, Ultramarines, Thousand Sons and Imperial Fists) now while these legions do not initially like you they have warmed up you over time so you suddenly being poached by another legion wouldn’t be welcome news. But more than that, for these prideful legions the fact another primarch’s thinks they can so easily take you away from their primarch is a grave insult against their primarch’s qualities as a partner and ability to keep you happy, an insult they take personally.

Then you come to the third option, (Blood Angels, Salamanders, White Scars, and Emperor’s Children), the legions that actually like you and enjoy your company as their “mother”. Now these astartes will be much more primed to head off any attempts made by other primarchs to seduce their mother away. Because beyond your position as their primarch’s beloved, they actually independently enjoy you as person. So attempts to remove you will be met with opposition. The strength and violence of this opposition tends to range depending on legion though, with White Scars being angry but still able to keep a cool head. While the Blood Angels absolutely losing it if other primarchs or other legions think they can take away their mother from them.

As for some of the others (Raven Guard, and Space Wolves) I think they belong to a combination of category 2 and 3. They have there reservations but they do warm up to you in time. Also the news of another primarch attempting to court you is unwelcome and received with hostilities, especially from the Space Wolves.

Now as for the remaining legions (Word Bearers, Night Lords and Alpha Legion) I’m not quite sure which category they fall into or if the necessitate their own category.

I love all this thank you for sending, I agree with it all the primarch soap opera grows larger.

Night Lords are definitely in the 'don't necessarily like you but you keep Konrad in check so they want to keep you around' tier. We have to remember that NLs were VERY different pre heresy, even if they were still deranged murderers they as a whole weren't as horrific as Konrad was and oftentimes found his more extreme behavior weird (EX the flesh statue)

Word Bearers I think warm up to you overtime, especially if Lorgar has all of his 'goddess' talk. It wears on them.

Alpha Legion I don't know, I think they'd be a combination of them all. They enjoy having you keep the twins on track, they genuinely like you somewhat especially if you're active in their plans (ex spying) but also they don't like you cause you're a liability.

#reply #Misty's book club #Primarch WifeSwap plotline

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candiid-caniine · 2 years ago

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Hey! Long time no see, i know i said id send you a fantasy i thought you'd like but now ive forgotten almost all of it, oop!

Life happened, and uh, i saw that you mentioned your libido being a bit low, which definitely is my case too (im recovering from depression, now that im okay id love to get my FULL libido back, or at least a good percentage of it) do you have any tips on that?

Also any recs of blogs writing in the same vibe as you? (same-ish kinks would be nice but im specifically looking for queer inclusive stuff!) it makes me 10x hornier than the regular video/photo porn!

Hope you're well, you pathetic little thing!

💫

hi friend!! ugh i feel you. sorry i haven't got any advice on regaining ur libido...we just let mine wax and wane as it will, though denial has been a big help in keeping it steady!

i've heard good things abt ginseng and some other herbs. obvs use at your own risk, mind that some herbal treatments can cross-interact with certain medications, remember that pre-packaged supplement pills are often unregulated and may contain toxins, and be aware that some herbal remedies work better on pw certain anatomy than others, and finally that many herbal remedies considered to increase libido are largely untested on trans folx!

finally, sorry it's taken so long to answer this ask...i'm autistic and have been cataloguing lol. i present to you a list of other blog recs under the cut, organized by general vibe! i've tried to primarily include blogs that do their own posts rather than those who primarily reblog :)

note that my headings may provide some context as to what to expect, but you read at your own risk and each blog will typically have its own trigger warnings addressed in the header/pinned. additionally, i've not tagged some of the ppl below because they prefer that "Men DNI" blogs not interact, and idk if "no cis men" qualifies ahah!

all blogs below are queer- and/or trans-inclusive, if not exclusive! there is no detrans/misgendering, at least I don't think - i don't tend to follow those blogs.

hard kinks (blood, knives, etc; includes primarily-cnc blogs):

@puppy-mommy , who also does general t4t kink content, but does state untagged hard kinks!

@visciousest is someone whose blog i scroll when i'm in a Certain Mood ahah,, i won't elaborate

@hell-hound-bites: just. fuck. would drool on his knife blade.

@snuff-fag: its username should give you fair warning as to how wild its content tends to get, so please browse responsibly.

@condor-bait is taking a break right now, and all my love is with him as he takes care of himself. he made me feel so valid and so fuckable as a young trans person learning to love myself in a new way, and i've always been too shy to tell him how much his content meant to me one-on-one (yes, despite its often-extreme themes!), and he deserves as much time as he needs to heal!

@unwillingfvckpuppy for mostly cnc and medical kinks! if you like his style, but not so much their harder content, he also has a more-tame main blog--i just mainly follow/scroll this one!

@vampvictim: top-tier cnc/intox stuff, plus some great knife/bloodplay :)

@cryptidtid is wonderful and holy shit i follow a lot of hard kink blogs lol. incredible

@cnc-pet: i have been following her for a long ass fucking time lol. they post a lot of really good cnc and stories, but you'll also find a lot of aftercare tips and advice on her blog! i really admire blogs who try to balance horny content with best practices

@dollobotomy

general kinky content:

@excessively-queer . just plain old good shit :) there's a good amt of edging and degradation.

@clouded-king was honestly one of my earlier introductions to the queer/t4t kink community on here and how fucking euphoric it can be :) he posts some hard kinks, but generally it's a balance of a lot of different kinks so read his pinned at your leisure!

@ / cottontailx : just good kinky nsft posts :)

@ / digitalpenetration: often specifically t4t which i love!!

@femmelovefemme can step on me :)

@bigothteddies: could not build this section w/o mentioning him :) they had a big influence on my fantasies for a long time!

@hazelj-xoxo: bigtime want her to cuck me. have followed her across multiple blog deletions lol

@transpidered is forever an icon!

@subspaceemo

@writefinch for great stories and text posts

edging and denial, specifically:

@6irlpet is 1 of my go-to hands-down-pants scroll sessions :)

@droolkink is my inspiration!

@flustersluts does exactly what the name implies lol. a good helping of other kink content too :)

@puppycvnt is a 10/10!

@barkwoofbarkwoofbark: we r denial friends imo!!

@strawbrrysub

@blyssful-abyss

@urhighnessbitch is a big fav <3

non-detrans genderplay:

@butchviolence does amazing butch supremacy stuff and i,,, fucking hell. even just seeing their username puts me in a Particular state of mind ahah. they also post hard kinks so be aware as you proceed!

@mtfdomme: i literally just reblogged from her today lol. tbh i want to be their little stupid pupthing. it's not all transfem supremacy undertones/overtones, but that's what i mainly follow her for, plus just general t4t goodness! also, their general personality? and the way she shuts down people who disrespect their boundaries? huge inspiration for me!

@cuntboydestroyer: take me to the animal shelter and neuter me. good lord.

@the-kind-of-dame is the main inspiration for my recent genderplay post lol

@terfbreaking-tgirl (be warned of dykebreaking if that's an issue for you)

@barbarian-lesbian is my other inspiration for the recent genderplay post

@superiorineveryway

weird asf (/complimentary; my favorite type of shit. robots, ND-focused posts, etc):

@specksizedgoddess has introduced me to things i didn't know, like...existed, and that's saying a lot as one of my special interests is kink! never knew how down bad i was to be a tiny buggirl, nor how much i wanted to be someone's stupid little robot... BIG tw tho: there is snuff and gore content here, so proceed with caution if you don't wanna see that!

@sapphling fucked me up real good with some bird!sub bondage posts awhile back lol

@nobelisha: found them through their ghost cnc post so that's why they're in this category ahah! they don't have a pinned so proceed w awareness :)

@devout-cleric: hierophilia/religion kink, and i'm something of an acolyte of hers :) if you've read this far down you may as well know i'm her Little Lamb anon lol

piss/omo:

@latenightomo

@pissheartmybeloved - their URL makes me crack up every time, plus good content!

@hold-it-a-little-longer - good scenarios/imagines!

@ohmyrashi - (i think) my original intro to omo!

monsterfucking/terato:

@septimus-moonlight was my first real introduction to trans-positive terato and i've never settled for half-fun cis-oriented terato ever since :) mind tags!

@eggedbellies as well!

@bredpun doesn't appear to be active lately but still good for a scroll!

@steamandcream

@of-mutts-and-men

#t4t nsft #asks #gen #denial #h/d #advice #💫 anon

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jyeshindra · 2 years ago

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ALL ABOUT CANCER ASCENDANT

Here we go guys...moving through our ascendant series we come to our lovely lunar beings, the Cancer Ascendant!

As always, let's go over what the ascendant is in astrology. It is our mask. How others see us and how we approach the various sectors of our lives are determined by the ascendant. We also see the journey and direction of our soul through the rising. It is the moment we choose to incarnate into this reality, making it an extremely personal point in the chart.

The ascendant also marks our chart ruler, which is where we'll begin with our Cancer Ascendant. Ruled by the Moon, Cancer Ascendants possess a familiar, warm quality that endears them to the world.

The Moon is known to soften and round out the features, so perhaps you possess a sweet, soft smile. The cheeks may be rounded and plump. There may be a delicate quality to your skin or your disposition. I've also noticed that Cancer Ascendants have quite the gaze! (Honestly any water ascendant is mesmerizing in the eyes). I attribute this to the illusory, trance like nature of the Moon. Maybe you appear as if you're always on the verge of crying!

The Moon in astrology represents our emotions, our reactions, our ingrained habits and patterns, who we feel we truly are, and what we need to feel nurtured and safe. Cancer Risings, you are sensitive beings who are emotionally attuned to your environment. This makes you empathetic and intuitive. People like to come to you because they feel you'll understand them, and being Moon-ruled, you likely will. There is a nurturing quality to your aura and an ingrained desire to protect, nurture, and care for others. It will always be part of who you are.

But the Moon is constantly shifting! It only stays in one sign for 2.5 days! There is a turbulence to you, Cancer, with your shifting moods and shifting desires. What you felt yesterday may not be what you feel today and since you view the world through the lens of your emotions, you may appear somewhat erratic or irrational to others! Such is how you respond to people and environments. When things are off, when something wrong is said, you feel it. Your instincts are unparalleled, Cancer and you must learn to trust them. How does that saying go...mother knows best?

The world sees your gentle, emotional nature Cancer. You're likely sensitive to your environment, so you keep a low profile and are apt to be flustered easily. It takes a while for people to truly know you, but do believe if you are angry or hurt, the world will know.

I think this is the cardinal, self-focused nature of Cancer. You're very aware of your own comfort and security and will do what is necessary to defend that or protect that. Much like the crab, the exterior is hard but the inside is soft and mushy. Cancers are aware of their own defenselessness and adjust accordingly. There are Cancer Risings who have an easier time with others and are more approachable. Others may withdraw within themselves and keep their distance.

Make sure you are taking care of yourself, Cancer. Nurture, self-care, and self-responsibility must be at the forefront of your mind! This is the folly of water signs I believe...to get caught in codependency and needing others to take care of them and their emotions. What you want is to be validated and nurtured back Cancer. Your life can be full of ups and downs, with moments of melancholy and resentment.

But when it comes to expressing yourself, you can do so with such a creative flair. Perhaps it's not on display in your presentation but it's certainly a skill you have (Leo 2nd House). Your wealth and your self-esteem may be built through this creative expression and through processing your world in fantastical ways.

As always, check out where the Moon is placed in your own chart. It's sign and house and aspects will be significant.

When you incarnated into this world, you exchanged the airy intellectuality of Gemini for a more sensitive and emotionally attuned experience. This is the meaning of your Gemini-ruled 12H. Don't forget that part of you! It's still there. The Moon will bog you down at times...that is the nature of things. But there is a part of you that wants variety, new experiences, new people to talk to, new environments to explore. You want to communicate your experience and take in all kinds of different experiences. Just because you may feel things does not mean you should stop yourself from enjoying life.

Your 4th House in Libra points to an environment in which fairness and justice could have been very important to your security and emotional life. There could have been an emphasis placed on considering others, caring for others, or even caring for the world. There could be deep relationships made from your home environment that are important to you. Cultivating comfort and safety as you grow older becomes centered around who is with you. Surrounding yourself with good art, pleasurable people, and meaningful relationships that allow you to love and be loved.

It can also mean perhaps your home environment was one in which you had to care for others! In which you did not make room for your own experiences or desires and instead constantly gave to other people. Maybe you witnessed a mother/father figure who was very self-sacrificing. Libra in a negative energy can be a very people-pleasing.

Ultimately, you attract strong, authoritative partners who give you structure and guidance. Water and Earth mix well together in this regard, like a river with earth to guide it. Such is your Capricorn 7H. You need someone who prioritizes comfort and security just as much as you do. And you'll enjoy the Capricorn finding their emotional home within you just as you find your stability within Capricorn.

That's all we've got folks! Hopefully, I can get the Leo Ascendant post out sooner than later :P

jyeshindra

#astro observations #astrology #natal chart #zodiac #ascendant #astro notes #astrology signs #astro community #astrologer #cancer #cancer rising #water signs #cardinal signs #horoscope #astro placements #natal astrology #astrology notes

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del-stars · 10 months ago

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dawg PLEASE talk to me abt bitchkiller I need more

i am literally always waiting to talk about bitchkiller

they just make so much sense to me-- and not in a long-term romance way. sirius' soulmate is remus, and barty's is.... not sirius black, that's for sure. sirius and barty are, quite literally, the same person: brash, impulsive, self-obsessed, and desperate for validation. being around one another makes both of them certifiably worse, and they spiral into these extreme caricatures of themselves. sirius' mood hangs on a thread, literally entirely dependent on if barty is being nice to him that day. barty loves the control he has over sirius and can think about nothing else: he needs sirius next to him at all times. their egos prevent them both from being vulnerable with each other because they can't be seen as weak, and so their whole relationship is founded on mind-blowing hate(?) sex and mutual obsession. they never get emotional with one another, never actually define their relationship, and thrive on miscommunication-- but they also both desperately need one another. barty knows what it's like to be inside sirius' head, and sirius knows what it's like to be inside barty's house. they are not interested in being better people, they are not interested in healing from their trauma, and they are definitely not interested in creating healthy boundaries. their friends hate them together because they've never been more chaotic and off-the-rails, never been more burrowed into everything bad that's ever happened to them.

this could be me projecting but it's that insane situationship you have when you're young, which seems so exhilarating and intense and fun that you almost manage to convince yourself it's worth all of the judgment and crying and exhaustion. sirius isn't aware enough to see that he's being manipulated, and barty doesn't even realise the extent to which he's doing the manipulating. you can't blame them because they quite literally did not know any better-- they've never had an example of how to be loved properly, without violence and obsession. i think in most universes it's sirius who ends things with barty (after many, many attempts) because he's put on the path to get away from all of that. he spends a long time thinking about what would've happened if they'd both been raised by different people-- in another universe, with different names, and all of that. barty feels betrayed because-- well, sirius was supposed to get it. he was supposed to understand barty, to know what he was really like and want him anyway. they were supposed to be stuck at rock bottom together.

anyway, tl;dr: more ships where they aren't soulmates !! more ships where they make each other worse !!

#i will talk about bitchkiller ANY DAY OF THE WEEK!!!!#am i allowed to say they're tracy and evie from thirteen #bitchkiller #barty x sirius #del answers #sirius x barty #sirius black #barty crouch jr #marauders #mwpp #harry potter #hp

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aspd-culture · 2 years ago

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Heya, idk if this is a valid question or is really dumb, but like, does the age at which ASPD behavior starts to show have to be strictly 15?

I have been wondering whether I should get officially diagnosed, since the media and general societal representation of it doesn’t seem as reflecting of me (with exception of a few) but I do relate extremely closely to most of the diagnosing criteria. Although??? The physical aggression thing?? Like I have those impulses and plenty of them, but I just don’t follow through with most because of convenience. That sort of thing is one of the main things that makes me doubt whether I do actually have it. (Same with impulsive behaviors etc)

But my main point/ask is the age thing. As a very young child I was pretty sweet? Ig? Like I wasn’t an aggressive child, rather pretty passive. As far as I recall, my symptoms started when I was about 15-16, when I was starting to process that mine was a traumatic situation? and earlier than that I was just an edgy teen, I guess? I sure had some of the symptons way earlier, but the main ones/ the ones that I feel are more prominent in me didn’t show up until a bit later? I’m not sure. So my question is, does it mean it can’t be ASPD?

Also your page is lifesaving. Thanks man.

Note: due to the way copy and pasting criteria works on tumblr, this post will be written exclusively in plain text, as copying and pasting it all over again would take forever, but I want this post to be accessible still.

I haaaate the way the DSM phrases criteria. Absolutely no worries, it is confusing as heck and you wouldn't be the first person at all to ask about this.

So, the symptoms of Conduct Disorder or Oppositional Defiant Disorder (DSM criteria below) need to show by or before the age of 15. (I do not know if Intermittent Explosive Disorder satisfies this criteria, but it very well may.) That means they may start when you're a toddler, or they may start when you're 14.5. Anywhere in there, you have to qualify for one of those two disorders, but you also do not have to have been diagnosed with them.

Also, having had been an "edgy teen" definitely could have been those symptoms showing themselves. The reason ASPD can't be diagnosed before 18 is because teenage edginess could either be symptoms or be normal, and the only real way to tell is if it continues past teenage and into adulthood.

The diagnostic criteria of Oppostional Defiant Disorder is as follows, quoted from the DSM-V TR:

A. A pattern of angry/iritable mood, argumentative/defiant behavior, or vindictiveness lasting at least 6 months as evidenced by at least four symptoms from any of the following categories, and exhibited during interaction with at least one individual who is not a sibling.

Angry/lrritable Mood

1. Often loses temper

2. Is often touchy or easily annoyed

3. Is often angry and resentful.

Argumentative/Defiant Behavior

4. Often argues with authority figures or, for children and adolescents, with adults.

5. Often actively defies or refuses to comply with requests from authority figures or with rules

6. Often deliberately annoys others

7. Often blames others for his or her mistakes or misbehavior.

Vindictiveness

8. Has been spiteful or vindictive at least twice within the past 6 months

Note: The persistence and frequency of these behaviors should be used to distinguish a behavior that is within normal limits from a behavior that is symptomatic. For children younger than 5 years, the behavior should occur on most days for a period of at least 6 months unless otherwise noted (Criterion A8). For individuals 5 years or older, the behavior should occur at least once per week for at least 6 months, unless otherwise noted (Criterion A8). While these frequency criteria provide guidance on a minimal level of frequency to define symptoms, other factors should also be considered, such as whether the frequency and intensity of the behaviors are outside a range that is normative for the individual's developmental level, gender, and culture.

B. The disturbance in behavior is associated with distress in the individual or others in his or her immediate social context (e.g., family, peer group, work colleagues), or it impacts negatively on social, educational, occupational, or other important areas of functioning

C. The behaviors do not occur exclusively during the course of a psychotic substance use, depressive, or bipolar disorder. Also, the criteria are not met for disruptive mood dysregulation disorder.

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Conduct disorder's criteria more clearly shows the lead-in to ASPD.

The diagnostic criteria for Conduct Disorder is as follows, quoted from the DSM-V TR:

A. A repetitive and persistent pattern of behavior in which the basic rights of others or major age-appropriate societal norms or rules are violated, as manifested by the presence of at least three of the following 15 criteria in the past 12 months from any of the categories below, with at least one criterion present in the past 6 months:

Aggression to People and Animals

1. Often bullies, threatens, or intimidates others.

2. Often initiates physical fights.

3. Has used a weapon that can cause serious physical harm to others (e.g., a bat, brick, broken bottle, knife, gun)

4. Has been physically cruel to people

5. Has been physically cruel to animals

6. Has stolen while confronting a victim (e.g., mugging, purse snatching, extortion, armed robbery)

7. Has forced someone into sexual activity

Destruction of Property

8. Has deliberately engaged in fire setting with the intention of causing serious damage.

9. Has deliberately destroyed others' property (other than by fire setting).

Deceitfulness or Theft

10. Has broken into someone else's house, building, or car.

11. Often lies to obtain goods or favors or to avoid obligations (i.e., "cons' others).

12. Has stolen items of nontrivial value without confronting a victim (e.g. shoplifting, but without breaking and entering; forgery)

Serious Violations of Rules

13. Often stays out at night despite parental prohibitions, beginning before age 13 years.

14. Has run away from home overnight at least twice while living in the parental or parental surrogate home, or once without returning for a lengthy period

15. Is often truant from school, beginning before age 13 years

B. The disturbance in behavior causes clinically significant impairment in social, academic, or occupational functioning

C. If the individual is age 18 years or older, criteria are not met for antisocial personality disorder.

[Skipping a bit of the quote which specifies codes for the various ages CD can present. It is worth noting that these are *not* criteria, they are specifications to be noted in the file of the person being diagnosed with conduct disorder to accurately describe their experience. As you'll see, these specifications are flags as to whether a child/teen with conduct disorder should be evaluated for ASPD upon reaching adulthood.]

Specify if:

With limited prosocial emotions: To qualify for this specifier, an individual must have displayed at least two of the following characteristics persistently over at least 12 months and in multiple relationships and settings. These characteristics reflect the individual's typical pattern of interpersonal and emotional functioning over this period and not just occasional occurrences in some situations. Thus, to assess the criteria for the specifier, multiple information sources are necessary. In addition to the individual's self-report, it is necessary to consider reports by others who have known the individual for extended periods of time (e.g., parents, teachers, co-workers, extended family members, peers).

Lack of remorse or guilt: Does not feel bad or guilty when he or she does something wrong (exclude remorse when expressed only when caught and/or facing punishment). The individual shows a general lack of concern about the negative consequences of his or her actions. For example, the individual is not remorseful after hurting someone or does not care about the consequences of breaking rules.

Callous-lack of empathy: Disregards and is unconcerned about the feelings of others. The individual is described as cold and uncaring. The individual appears more concerned about the effects of his or her actions on himself or herself, rather than their effects on others, even when they result in substantial harm to others.

Unconcerned about performance: Does not show concern about poor/problematic performance at school, at work, or in other important activities. The individual does not put forth the effort necessary to perform well, even when expectations are clear, and typically blames others for his or her poor performance.

Shallow or deficient affect: Does not express feelings or show emotions to others, except in ways that seem shallow, insincere, or superficial (e.g. actions contradict the emotion displayed; can turn emotions "on" or "off" quickly) or when emotional expressions are used for gain (e.g., emotions displayed to manipulate or intimidate others).

Specify current severity:

Mild: Few if any conduct problems in excess of those required to make the diagnosis are present, and conduct problems cause relatively minor harm to others (e.g., lying, truancy, staying out after dark without permission, other rule breaking)

Moderate: The number of conduct problems and the effect on others are intermediate between those specified in "mild" and those in "severe" (e.g. stealing without confronting a victim, vandalism)

Severe: Many conduct problems in excess of those required to make the diagnosis are present, or conduct problems cause considerable harm to others (e.g., forced sex, physical cruelty, use of a weapon, stealing while confronting a victim, breaking and entering).

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As you can see, the criteria required before age 15 is not as intense as many professionals describe it. Remember that you are only required to have shown 3 out of the total 15 criteria in there. There is even a whole specifier for Conduct Disorder that is mild and only includes things like lying, basic rule-breaking, and/or staying out past curfew.

Acts of physical aggression are not actually required for ASPD at all, it's just that many prosocials see that being one of the possible symptoms and fixate on it, thus pushing everyone with ASPD into the box of physical aggresion. You absolutely can have ASPD and never act on any violent thoughts or urges.

I was also a very sweet and passive child, developing most of my externalized ASPD symptoms (rule breaking, disrespectful behavior/actions, challenging authority, etc) around age 13. However, the internal symptoms were there for me much younger - easily bored with poor handling of boredom, lack of empathetic reactions, difficulty apologizing/showing remorse due to not really feeling it, becoming very angry but not showing it, resulting for me in self destructive behaviors like cheek biting or controlled destructive behaviors like breaking something that wouldn't be missed (pencils and pens mostly for me).

Regardless of what symptoms were shown when, symptoms are still symptoms, and if you had enough for Conduct Disorder or Oppositional Defiant Disorder before your 16th birthday, you are well within possibility of having ASPD. Keep in mind that the lying, manipulation, etc that can qualify for Conduct Disorder doesn't have to be grandiose or destructive except where it is explicitly stated in the criteria that it does (such as fire setting only counting for the destruction of property criteria if you meant to damage something with said fire).

It's so easy to count yourself out of ASPD because you don't fit the stereotypes or public perception of ASPD, but I assure you that there are many, many ways something as complex as a personality disorder can show itself.

It is absolutely a great thing, however, that you are covering your bases and making sure to do the research to see if this is what you have. That is the basis of an informed self-dx, should you come to the conclusion that you have ASPD.

Now, as for actually getting diagnosed, your mileage may vary with professionals. Many have bias against pwASPD ingrained into their practice, and won't diagnose you with it even though you have it if you aren't/weren't violent, law-breaking, or if they just think you "seem far too kind to have ASPD" (a real quote a former professional said to me a few months before I was diagnosed by my long-time psychiatrist). This doesn't mean you don't have ASPD. If they can't give you other explanations that make sense, and if their reasons for denying you that diagnosis are based in stigma or anything other than actual criteria, then you are well within your rights to continue being self-dx.

A professional should be able to explain, using criteria, why you don't have a disorder you think you may have. If they're doing their job, they should be willing to explain to you what their reasons are and point you in the direction they think may be causing the symptoms. And no, "just acting like a teenager" isn't good enough if enough symptoms have persisted into adulthood for you to meet the criteria for ASPD.

I hope this helps, apologies for it being so long.

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