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Emotional Walls Your Character Has Built (And What Might Finally Break Them)

(How your character defends their soft core and what could shatter it) Because protection becomes prison real fast.

✶ Sarcasm as armor. (Break it with someone who laughs gently, not mockingly.) ✶ Hyper-independence. (Break it with someone who shows up even when they’re told not to.) ✶ Stoicism. (Break it with a safe space to fall apart.) ✶ Flirting to avoid intimacy. (Break it with real vulnerability they didn’t see coming.) ✶ Ghosting everyone. (Break it with someone who won’t take silence as an answer.) ✶ Lying for convenience. (Break it with someone who sees through them but stays anyway.) ✶ Avoiding touch. (Break it with accidental, gentle contact that feels like home.) ✶ Oversharing meaningless things to hide real depth. (Break it with someone who asks the second question.) ✶ Overworking. (Break it with forced stillness and the terrifying sound of their own thoughts.) ✶ Pretending not to care. (Break it with a loss they can’t fake their way through.) ✶ Avoiding mirrors. (Break it with a quiet compliment that hits too hard.) ✶ Turning every conversation into a joke. (Break it with someone who doesn’t laugh.) ✶ Being everyone’s helper. (Break it when someone asks what they need, and waits for an answer.) ✶ Constantly saying “I’m fine.” (Break it when they finally scream that they’re not.) ✶ Running. Always running. (Break it with someone who doesn’t chase, but doesn’t leave, either.) ✶ Intellectualizing every feeling. (Break it with raw, messy emotion they can’t logic away.) ✶ Trying to be the strong one. (Break it when someone sees the weight they’re carrying, and offers to help.) ✶ Hiding behind success. (Break it when they succeed and still feel empty.) ✶ Avoiding conflict at all costs. (Break it when silence causes more pain than the truth.) ✶ Focusing on everyone else’s healing but their own. (Break it when they hit emotional burnout.)

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guys im going crazy, my Instagram is kicking me out as soon as i open it ever since yesterday evening. I've restarted my phone, cleared the app's cache. im gonna crash tf out rn!! please help TT

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What is emotional vulnerability? And can how can your characters show it?

(these are from my POV of what I have learnt and researched. differences in opinion are appreciated because no definition and depiction is set in stone | Credits must be given when reposted elsewhere / @urfriendlywriter ! I hope this helps all of you :D)

Tackling this with three topics:

What's vulnerability?

Actions related to vulnerability. (Actions/words that depict a person is feeling vulnerable + some dialogue prompts)

How to build trust between two people?

Vulnerability:

Emotional vulnerability is the ability to be open to and express one's feelings, even when facing the risk of rejection, criticism, or shame. Vulnerability means acknowledging your difficult emotions. Accepting overwhelming feelings, being able to express them with tender care towards yourself and others.

I'd consider myself a very openly communicative person. If I love you--as a friend, family or something else, I'll make sure you know the depth of it, the meaning behind my words, my look and my touch. I encourage vulnerability in all my relationships and it has positively reflected in their own personal growth as well. Being open, being real, being you, with all the ache, the scars, the hurt, and even the small ball of light within yourself amidst is all---that's vulnerability. And as we,

We gen z, we shelter ourselves to protect ourselves from hurt. But... if we get hurt, is it really our fault? No. If somebody hurts you intentionally, it doesn't translate to what you deserve or must go through. But if I don't get hurt... how will I learn to cope with it? Express it? Communicate through it? Learn from it? And.. importantly, how will I..

Learn how to heal myself again. Learn how to love myself far better. Learn how I want to be and what relationships I want to attract?

So, me, personally, I put myself out there. Like an open book. To read, to feel, to see--including the hurt and the parts I'm working on. Of course, i don't fully lodge it down a person's throat in one go, but u get what i mean. It is slow building of trust and can be used to your advantage as well. (lol that sounds toxic)

Harsh Truths?

Some people will use it against you, but should it hurt you if u were real to yourself? No.

Not all people u open up to may be emotionally mature. And that's okay. Move on.

It is not the end of the world if someone who saw all parts of you turned against you. It simply wasn't your person. It was neither of your faults.

Paint a character afraid to be vulnerable:

Hesitancy to open up, to speak up for themselves.

Blinking back tears, and telling themselves they'd be okay regardless.

"Atleast I don't have it worse."

"And.. If.. I tell you.. You won't look at me differently? Like.. I'm--I'm not worthy?"

doesn't ask for help. doesn't accept help easily.

doesn't think they're worthy to be seen. or to be loved. to be accepted or to even be heard.

"what i say won't make much of a difference anyway" A & "No, i want to hear it. how little, silly, stupid, serious, deep, it may be. I want to hear it. Please."

being numb to pain that they think it's normal to internalize it all.

and one day it erupts all out. into tears and rage. or raw unfiltered pain that bleeds onto everyone who loves them, hurting them too.

they freeze, momentarily surprised when they're asked for their honest opinion

or when they've to blink back tears when someone notices something and helps them without them even asking

detached during intimacy or hyperventilating after or during it

pulling away and pushing the other person away when they truly need them the most

Paint a character confident in themselves and are openly communicative:

you will not second guess what they feel about u, because u can see it in their faces or they'll openly say it

they encourage honest and deep conversations

the look of love is always there in their gaze

they love openly. they have so much love to give.

they'll hear u out no matter the time of the day and will provide a safe space for u

"I'm always here for u" in a soft, quiet voice, a gentle smile and a warm hug

"It's okay to feel that way. Hell u should feel that way. If u wanna talk about it.. here I am."

they're their own safe spaces and they can dive into their emotions, whenever and wherever needed.

they won't let u feel alone in ur misery. they'll shoulder the burden with u, but won't internalize it as their own. (i fear this is very important)

always knows the cause of why they said what they said / how they behaved or reacted

can analyze even u with one glance.

"how are you?" As a gentle caress of words & "I've-I've.. never been asked that.. not with such sincerity.." shyness of the one opening up.

^ "So, here I am.. I've got all the time of the day. Care to tell me?"

They aren't afraid of rejection. But they'll not put up with bullshit.

Building trust between two people:

Building trust is intimate. If done right. Between friends, family, lovers or anyone it may be. It's delicate, it's comforting quietness at some times and hearty loudness at some other. It's being understood, being seen, being able to communicate freely and respectfully.

Vulnerability is present where trust is.

asking help for small things without shying away from it

physical closeness. after moments of honesty or heavy emotions.

prioritizing each other

admiring every little thing they do

lots of "thank you"s being said that shows appreciation loud and clear

nervous glances, shaky hands and fluttering heartbeats as they may be help u zip up ur dress.

forehead kisses, followed up with, "I see you.. Let me help u cleanse away the day's stress."

celebrating even the smallest of their success

asking consent in every small thing!!

^ "i-i why are u asking for that? yes, of course." A & "Love.. I should always ask, even for such a thing as that." B

Being slow but steady with each other

"U don't want to do that? no rush." Immediately backing off A with a smile & B trying to understand how they aren't mad yet "A-are u sure?"

^ "We're in no rush.. We'll go at you pace. But consider my emotions too down the line, hmm?"

Lots of "And how does that make you feel?"

arguments feel less like the ones they saw growing up. and now it's more intimate, thoughtful, full of understanding and closeness. both sides are heard, understood, appreciated and both sides change.

Author's (@urfriendlywriter aka Ziya) note:

As someone who had to learn myself, I'm hoping such a love finds me and all of us too! I've read gentle love in a lot of books. Gentle, patient, communicative, uplifting but I'm yet to find a book that's full of these. So if u have any recommendations, let me know.

Thank u for reading so far! I hope this helps u write amazing, emotionally available characters.

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also, my loves. Omg i miss calling all of u that--MY LOVESSS, how are you? How are u? How is life going? I hope all your days ahead will be filled with everything your heart yearns for and more!

I've started second year of uni, CS major, and i do a little thing with brand identity design now! Hoping to develop into a business an year down the line 🥰 I love all of u. If you're having a hard time, always reach out to me, people you trust and love.

I know life has been particularly hard on most of us, so know that, none of u go unseen by God/Universe (whichever you believe in, loves). Wait until your time to shine comes, or make now your time to shine!

I have an upcoming post, posted about it in the last one just a minute ago. love u. take care. I'll see u again very soon mwah ❤️

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"I can't..."

"...trust you anymore."

"...believe you sometimes."

"...stop thinking about you."

"...think straight."

"...be with you right now."

"...see where the problem is."

"...go on like this."

"...seem to understand you."

"...figure it out."

"...be who you need."

"...promise you that."

"...love you."

"...win."

"...stay."

"...leave you here."

"...listen to you anymore."

"...see the issue."

"...fail again."

"...explain it."

"...talk right now."

"...imagine myself without you."

"...do this anymore."

"...be with you tight now."

"...lose you again."

"...believe another word you say."

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Guys! Feel free to check out this prompt generator by @pandorafufu ⭐ Design is fun and the prompt are good too!

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10 Quiet Ways Your Character Is Breaking Their Own Heart (And Pretending It's Fine)

These are the betrayals that aren’t loud. They don’t come with fireworks or screaming matches. These are the small, slow deaths. The ones that your character lets happen... while smiling politely.

» They say yes when they desperately want to say no. Every. Damn. Time. They show up when they're exhausted. They agree to things they hate. They make themselves smaller, softer, easier, because "good people" don’t make waves, right? (Spoiler: they're drowning.)

» They keep chasing people who only love them halfway. It's not even subtle anymore. They know these people leave them on "read," show up late, make them feel like an afterthought. But they cling anyway, spinning every scrap of affection into a story about hope. (It’s not hope. It’s hunger.)

» They refuse to believe good things are meant for them. They’ll hype everyone else up. They’ll believe in everyone else's dreams. But when something finally good lands in their lap? They’ll panic. Push it away. Tell themselves it was a fluke. (Because being disappointed feels safer than being lucky.)

» They’re waiting for closure that will never come. An apology. An explanation. A miracle where someone says, "You were right, and I was wrong, and I’m so sorry." They wait years. Decades. Lifetimes. But deep down, they know: some people never come back. Some stories just end without punctuation.

» They’re hoarding all their "almosts" like treasures. The job they almost got. The love that almost worked. The version of themselves they almost became. They replay those maybes like a greatest hits album. (Meanwhile, real life is slipping by while they mourn possibilities.)

» They’re performing a version of success they secretly hate. Look at the Instagram. Look at the LinkedIn updates. Look at the shiny exterior. It looks like winning. But every trophy they collect feels heavier, not lighter. Every promotion tastes a little more like ash. (Turns out, chasing someone else's dream is still losing.)

» They forgive people who aren’t sorry. Not because they’re enlightened. Not because they’ve healed. But because it’s easier to pretend it didn’t hurt than to sit with the fact that it did—and that the person responsible doesn't care. (Some wounds scar better when you stop pretending they were accidents.)

» They punish themselves for still being soft. The world told them, again and again, that soft things get broken. And they believed it. So every time they feel too much? Every time they cry or hope or trust? They tell themselves they’re weak. Stupid. Embarrassing. (They're not. They're just still alive.)

» They downplay their own magic. They call their talents "lucky breaks." Their beauty "average." Their intelligence "no big deal." They shrug off compliments like they're dangerous. Because deep down, they've been taught that being remarkable makes you a target.

» They cling to the idea that if they just work harder, they'll finally be enough. They believe in meritocracy like it’s a religion. That if they hustle hard enough, self-sacrifice deep enough, burn themselves to ash perfectly enough, someone, somewhere, will finally say, "You're worthy now." (They were always worthy. The system is just broken.)

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i really want to write around the topic of vulnerability, a person's actions when they feel vulnerable, how different people react to vulnerability differently. the level of trust that's placed when a person decides to open up... all these in a single post

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25 "you've no idea what you do to me," vulnerability dialogue prompts !!

(feel free to use <333 tag me when yall write!! my favs are 5!! 10, 3 )

"God, I need you."

"I've craved this more nights than I can remember." :'')

"Would it assure you if I say.. that I'd be honored to protect your vulnerability with me?"

when you both sleep together after a traumatic event, you holding them

^ they silently whisper, "I'm scared.. That you'll leave me once you see how much I need you. that this love will consume me, make me.. clingy, and you'll see I'm just.. broken"

"Can you hug me?" By a really vulnerable you and they still at the request before one hand moves to your back, holding you against them - perhaps more tightly than necessary.

They make a choked sound, half laugh, half sob, pressing their forehead against yours, "What would I be without you?"

"Would you... would you be okay if I put my arm around your shoulders? Like, hugging you from the side?"

^ "Would u want to?" you ask but they hadn't expected you to ask if they wanted to. your question implies that you care about their feelings too, and it touches something deep within them. "Yes," they admit softly. "I do."

Cuddling but its them on top resting their ear over ur heart and listening to its beatssssss

3 am truth exchanges and both your voices are really quiet, intimate and genuine, eyes shining with lots of emotions that you both honor and hold close.

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Angsty Prompts

(feel free to use, tag me when yall write!!! mwah xoxo)

"You're okay, look at me--yes, my love, you're okay. I'm here now."

tight hugs, their hands cradling you and your heart close to theirs.

Their heart shattering with every ragged breath u take and every sob that escapes your lips

"Do u know.. it's incredibly brave of you to.." They pause, gently rubbing the tears stains off your cheeks, "Be vulnerable with me? It's my honor, to protect you, and be a safe place for you."

being hospitalized, and waking up to find them curled at the foot of your bed, holding onto ur hand.

Voice breaking as they whisper, their hand tightening around yours, "I-I thought I lost you.."

pressing your lips their forehead, as they break apart in your arms, clinging onto you. eyes full of pain, tears and rare vulnerability that bares open their entire being to you

^ caressing their face, unable to know what to say or do but whispering, "Let me hold you through this all. It's okay to cry, my love.." and they completely shatter.

Them curling up into ur chest, needing comfort, security and strength

"I'm so sorry--" "No, no, no. You did ur best, my soul, i---i am the one sorry."

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i come home (here) again after an entire month!!!

How are u, my loveliessss?

University is so overwhelming but I'm making it throughhh! how is it all going for u?

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3 prompts a day!

(i wanna readd so tag me when yall use it!)

Them rushing into your arms after their achievement. Tears blur your eyes as you hug them tight as the word erupts into cheer. His heartbeat is louder against your chest, limbs shaking, "I did it, my love. D-did you see?" (play Alchemy by TS!!)

When they're trying to tickle you but you distract them by kissing them instead. And it renders them stuttering for a minute straight before they gently caress your face-- "That is so unfair.." They say tenderly, pressing a soft kiss to your nose. "You had to go be all cute and perfect..." (manifesting!!)

"Even sober, i can't think straight when I'm with you.." They mutter, visibly gulping as their nose brushes yours. "Please, darling.."

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hot smut prompts pt 3

(feel free to use <3 MDNI AND TAG ME WHEN YALL WRITE PLSPLS!! importantly 4, 7, 10! 20, 13!!omg)

"You're making it really hard to be a gentleman." [respectfully..]

"I could probably play with you all night, baby." They murmur against your lips, capturing your mouth in a wet, sloppy, and lewd kiss.

"Do you know what you do to me, darling..?" But it's 3 AM and they're groaning into the phone as they touch themselves!! >\\\<

"What would you.." They gulp, looking up at you on their knees, eyes wide, & needy, "Like me to do, [name]? Beg? Fuck, I will, please.." [sigh, us when?]

Their eyes covered with their arm, head thrown back, mouth hanging open, soft gasps and whimpers filling the air.

^ "You like that baby?" You ask, and see the column of their throat bob, along with a nod. [so like... this has neeeever happened to me. #single :')]

They unbuckle their belt, swallowing hard, watching you. They unhook their boxers and lets it fall to the floor. "Darling..."

"Do you know what you do to me?" As they press kisses down your stomach.

What if, they're watching you through a video call, their hands working their own needy, painfully hardened self, unhurriedly, eyes fixated on you, with a burning intensity, at the screen as you, all in your glory, is pleasuring yourself?

"You're such a pervert.." You mumble, a shy smile curving your lips. "Only for you, mia cara," They mutter kissing your aching breasts. (i volunteer.. -)

"Cum for me, my dear girl," As they, slowly grind their pelvic to yours, hitting that spot over and over again.

Kisses turns into bites and sucks as they pull your little bud into their mouth, eyes watching your face bury into the pillow,

^ They pull back, lips glistening with your cum, "Such a sweet taste, love, and I'm a starved starved man..." [fuck yes!!]

One hand gropes your breast while the other spreads over your stomach, pressing on where their cock bulges. "You feel that, baby? Tell me you want me deeper, faster, rougher.."

They drop the towel from their waist and crawl onto the bed, caging you. "What are you going to do to me?" You ask, your fingers dancing a trail down his chest.

^ "Whatever.." They sink in to kiss your jaw, "You want me to, my queen.. Tell me. Where do you want me?"

Your mouth is stuffed, eyes brimming but god do they taste so good. They wipe your lips as they pull back, watching their pooled fluid slide down ur throat. "Fuck, darling, you make me hard all over again.."

Legs around their torso as they kiss you hungrily, hands already plunging into you, stealing u of breath and words. "Tell me, darling, how I make you feel.." They ask, their fingers squelching in and out.

"You're a walking wet dream, baby.." They say, voice low, breathless and aroused extremely.

^ "Mhm ? What else do you think of me?" To that, they smirk and pull you closer, "Mhm.. I also think about how cute you'll look pressed to that glass window while I fuck you senseless.."

'Smut prompts cause you asked for it'

(GUYS THIS HAS ALLLL THE GOOD STUFF!!! I SWEAR PLS JUSTTGO AND READ IT OMG)

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birthday prompts for loversss !

(feel free to usee<3 tag mee!! inspired by my b'day haha. plot twist is i am single :))

staying up to wish them at midnight

you bring them a cake, singing hbd, but all their attention is on you.

hugs you, tearing up, breaking down because nobody has done this for them ever

intimate b'day celebrations like it's just you and them and every whisper of hbd and well wishes are so comforting <3

cupcake b'day celebrations!

them hugging u from behind as they watch u make a wish

"what did u wish for?" u ask as a soft murmur and they say, "you. to never let u go."

i celebrated my bestie's b'day and she said to me,

^ "thank u for loving me every year and making me feel like i am being loved by someone,"

^ "knowing that, that someone is you, is what matters." (i won in LIFEE)

"how's my favorite b'day girl/boy doing?" :))

maybe it's their first time having their b'day being celebrated, :(

and all they can do is bury their face into ur neck and cry. the cake abandoned for a moment until they gain composure.

when they write u letters on ur b'day,

or give u thought-out gifts.

wiping cake from the corners of their lips

or alternatively just kissing it away, making them fluster. (uhm.. didn't happen on my bday, who's lyINGG-)

a quiet whisper of happy birthday,

tight hugs and lingering kisses throughout the day, and just feeling loved by the other person. feeling their emotions of gratitude to have u in their life!

telling them or writing to them, "It's your [age] birthday, and so [age] reasons why I love you." (eg: 20th, 19th and so on)

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specific tropes in romance that always heal something in me that it never broke

like, forehead kisses, soft love confessions, peppering kisses all over the lover's face. promises that are kept, hands those are held with a gentle love, and hugs that engulf the heart too.

or when they rest their head on your chest, or lean on you for support.

"your tears kill me," kinda thing. or when a sunshine character finally cries and bawls their entire life's hurt out into their comfort grumpy character (plus point, if the grump feels guilty thinking if they had done something to trigger this emotional outburst)

communication. no matter hard the topic is, how big your differences are.

listening to the other person yap

admiring their facial features and seeing not just the outer structure but the person that they really are.

them getting angry on ur behalf

cradling each other in hugs basically

feeling emotional walls break when you're with that one person particularly

gentle communication. yearning to do more for your lover (!!!!)

affectionate smiles and eyes crinkling with a smile that's directed specially at you.

finding their laugh contagious.

the feeling of being accepted, despite flaws and all

silent domestic acts like being in the kitchen together, dressing up together, them drying ur hair while u sit between their legs

occasionally stolen kisses

or one deep kiss that just lights your world and fulfills your soul and heart.

sleepily nuzzling into each other!!

reaching for each other despite being asleep, with mumbled endearments and whispers of need!!!

laughter coming easily by their side, like happiness is just another day to day thing (this can also be about self love. when u truly love urself and prioritize your own rights and cherish the fact that you're you. happiness becomes beautiful even in solitude)

their fingers buried deep in yo- OOPS.?! :)

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5 prompts a day !

(24 hours drabble challenge! Write a drabble within 24hrs (using any one or more prompts) and tag meeee I'll repost it in this account for 24 hrs!!)

a very silent night and they're back from home, utterly spent and tired and beeline straight for you. pulling u closer by ur waist and resting their forehead against yours as they barely whisper, "love me, [name]."

forbidden love when,

^ "We can't, [name]-" they cuts you off, lips crashing against yours in a fierce, desperate kiss full of love and longing.

they break the kiss, their forehead resting against yours. "I know," their voice is murmured, "I know we can't. I know it's complicated. I know it's crazy. But fuck, I've missed you."

they swallow hard, their throat bobbing. "If you tell me to stop. If you push me away again. I won't come back this time. I'll respect your boundaries, but I won't put myself through this torture again." (someone PLS. WRITE. AND GIVE ME. ANGST!!!)

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20 friends with benefits to lovers !

(req by @nothums-from-tj and @ryuzakura !! feel free to use and tag me!! 4,5,18,19,20 is my AAAH favorites! pleaseee write and taggggg so i can read ;>)

pulling each other into rooms when gathered with friends

in-between kisses, "what if they find out?" "they won't." "but-" "shut up and just kiss me."

"i just wanna be held.." and them silently enveloping you into their arms.

hurriedly getting rid of every clothing, and them going, "god, you kept teasing me all day, you minx."

them pressing their body to yours which makes you gasp, "oh, lord have mercy-" "oh, he had plenty when he made you. my. fuck. friend." they say between every thrust!!!!!! [huffing rn]

you saying, "you're better than all of my previous 'partners'" and them getting flustered and looking away!!!

"wait.. do you perhaps like me?" "NO! no. No, why would I?" "Good. Don't." (ouch)

mid-sex, crying into their arms because they're the most real thing you've ever had, but it's not actually real.

^ "hey, hey, did i hurt you? are you okay?" them asking, and u shaking your head, "the opposite."

after sexy time, actually cuddling and tending to each other. ✿

watching them get together with a romantic partner or show interest in someone else as a potential and it just breaks your heart

"so you won't need me anymore, now, huh?" "you're still my friend. you still matter."

a messy confession that leads to more misunderstandings! leading to you avoiding them.

"you don't understand!" "then, make me.. please.. why are you avoiding me?"

"it was never just about sex to me," as a silent whisper.

"why didn't you tell me-" "i was scared of losing you!"

or alternatively, "I'm sorry. I-I.. don't feel the same way, [name]."

"touch me. not for release, but touch me anyways.. because you love me." ✿

"fuck, all our rules. [name], fuck them all. All I want is you. In every way possible. Be mine. Please."

"oh, my love.. mine.. look at how good you're taking me.." they force your chin up to meet their eyes in the mirror, "you like taking me in so good, love?" they ask, ramming into you. "feels so g-good.. now that you're more to me." you moan and stutter those words!!! [fogging up the mirrors rn]