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Robert Greene didn’t say it exactly like this, but in The Laws of Human Nature, he clearly explains how we should judge character & not how someone makes us feel

It’s easy to get swept up by charm, attention, or chemistry. But Greene says to pay attention to people’s patterns, not their promises. Don’t just listen to what they say, watch what they do

The faster you learn to read someone’s true character, the more time, energy & heartache you save

That one skill alone can change your whole life

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and we want to remember the couple for what they do to stay in love or how they commit and communicate their feelings rather than just being couples.

I think the other reason I don't really get into ships as portrayed by fandom culture is that it seems like the mindset is more like. "I want these characters to be in a Romantic Relationship(TM)" instead of "I want these characters' relationship to be romantic"

What I mean here is that, so often I see pairings enacting romance tropes to the point of heavily altering or downright replacing their original dynamic - as if the people behind it only understand romance as a series of checklists to tick off. Couples like to kiss and sleep in the same bed and flirt with each other, so it doesn't matter who the characters are, if they're a couple then naturally they'll do those things, right??

And that's where the whole thing starts to lose me, because I would assume that the appeal of shipping characters is, y'know... the characters? Rather than just, the idea of a couple? If I'm thinking about how it'd be cool for them to be in love, my first thought is always "so how would they show it," because just like everything else about a person, the answer is going to be different on a case-by-case basis.

Maybe the characters involved aren't really into kissing, but they like arranging date activities. Maybe they aren't committed to the structure of dating at all, and just want to be around each other whenever they can. And even if they are the types to like doing traditionally romantic things, that doesn't suddenly erase whatever else they had going on before they started adding that on top of it.

I'm not saying that the more typical romance tropes and activities are bad, just that they're applied kind of excessively, regardless of whether or not they actually work for the characters involved. I want to see my favorite characters having relationships that are true to who they are, not what the stock depiction of a couple says they should be.

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how do you guys look and pick THEE book you gonna buy in a bookstore?

ps: im about to have my first bookstore (physical store) shopping experience lol im so tired of ebooks and just really wanna stay out of the digitals as much as possible so please plase please reco me some of your favorites as well

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life decisions are kinda better when you constantly think that you’re a celebrity

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how are we when we start noticing that someone is about to leave from your life for doing something wrong, something red flag, something we didn’t find good for us?

i hope we’re not sadder about it but rather happier to know and remember that life’s not always that bad.

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people come and go so you guys better enjoy the moments with anyone you like in your life before they go or before you go and be kind so you won’t have any regrets (not applicable to certain people who does bad things and certainly did you wrong, babe)

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happy outside, anxious inside. who’s with me?

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have you ever been in a place where you felt home even though you’ve only been there for the first time?

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it’s good to be back after opening a new life page.

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Rainer Maria Rilke, Rilke’s Book of Hours

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excited for Halloween 🎃

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slowly getting back at doing things that used to make me like i’m a cloud nine resident ♡

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daily reminder

You’re not a kid anymore. You have the right to choose your own life. You can start again. If you want a cat, all you have to do is choose a life in which you can have a cat. It’s simple. It’s your right.

Haruki Murakami

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everyday is #EarthDay 🌏

THAT STRING

everyone feels down lately. everyone, including me feels burnt out. everyone needs a hug. and i think #EARTHDAY is just perfect to remind ourselves that we always have that string that connects us to nature. that string that saves us from stress, anxiety, or negativity in general. shorten the length of that string by keeping our distance to nature as close as we can. it’s always been there waiting for us to remember it. a string that hugs. a string that comforts, a string that feeds us with strength and positivity.

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can we talk about how hard it is to get back to the routines you used to do every day?

i used to journal and read books (at least one chapter) every day before (months ago) but now i couldn’t even remember when’s the last time i did so. i am worried. overthinking about it on a bigger scale. i fear that what if this happens again to me in the future. forgetting not only routines as cute as journaling but those bigger ones. forgetting my self. forgetting to treasure memories. forgetting to connect to others. become more and more foreign to a life i live in everyday. maybe i’m meeting up growth then? but is it necessary to feel sad? is it necessary to feel like you don’t want it? coz i’ve known growth to be something you would want coz you know you’ll be happy having it.

random it may be but let me leave it here ♡

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do you love random thoughts??