#Ask an autistic person

[house-of-slayterr]

What if the autistic character dated Deadpool?

Bro that would be bloody sick, mate! By the Gods, do I adore this idea! I have yet to witness live-action Deadpool yet, but I hear Ryan Reynolds does a good job. I only really know comic Wade. But I think he would have loads of fun, teasing an autistic significant other whos not great with understanding sarcasm. Because he is a sarcastic bastard at the best of times, he doesn't even have to try.

His constant breaking of the fourth wall might be a bit confusing. And if they're anything like me, they pick up on ways of speech, and would accidentally join in on the references. Like when I refer to myself as "we" instead of "I" in front of people by accident. I feel like he'd be good about special interests and hyperfixations. He would listen to them talk for hours, and probably bring things up at random times to show he was listening. he'd be the type to kill a villain and see they have something his darling likes, and just steal it for them. It's up to you if he'd explain how he got it or not.

I also feel like he'd be great at calming down or helping them avoid meltdowns. He could easily fit small noise-cancelling ear buds in his suit, and I don't think he'd mind carrying extra things for his partner. If they called, panicking while he was on a mission, he would end it as quickly as possible and get home to them. But he wouldn't hang up the phone, if they needed to hear his voice, he'd just adapt his fighting style. He'd be good at giving deep pressure therapy, and would hug his significant other on his lap, or lay on top of them if they needed him to.

He would never make fun of them for things they don't understand, or any learning disabilities they may have. He may not be the best teacher, but f he sees they're frustrated with something, he would try his best to help. He's not one to make someone feel small for things they can't control. With his regenerative healing, if they had an issue with hurting themselves, he'd redirect their energy to him. Since he can heal fast and they can, he'd let them know it's okay to hit, punch, bite, etc...

I feel like, if they needed space, he would make a little spot in his apartment for them to just decompress. Like a pillow fort that's always in the corner. If they needed to sleep in d different bed than him some nights, he would make sure they had an option other than the couch. And if that wasn't available, he'd be the one to move. Overall, I think he'd be a great boyfriend in general, but especially to someone with autism. He's not as dim as people make him out to be. But I wanna know what everyone else thinks, thanks for the question Anon <3

[cryptcatz]

question: do ppl ACTUALLY say things they don’t mean when they’re angry? or is that just an excuse after letting something true slip? i wouldn’t ever say something i don’t mean in anger, so the concept confuses me.

but something was said to me that is bothering me, though apparently was said in an argument and wasn’t meant. but i don’t rlly believe it wasn’t like, deep down true thoughts/feelings??? anyone have any insight? anyone say things they don’t mean in anger?

EDIT: this was a hastily worded post that i didn’t expect to get notes. this is a genuine question asked in good faith that i got a lot of amazing answers to!

also re: the many ppl saying “OP is lying about not saying things they don’t mean in anger because everyone does it”— i genuinely have never done that. if i say something mean while angry, i meant it. that’s literally why i asked this question and why the concept confuses me, because i wouldn’t do something like that so i wanted perspective from people who do it. idk why y’all can’t believe that lmao not everyone is as prone to anger and outbursts

[inkskinned]

crows use tools and like to slide down snowy hills. today we saw a goose with a hurt foot who was kept safe by his flock - before taking off, they waited for him to catch up. there are colors only butterflies see. reindeer are matriarchical. cows have best friends and 4 stomachs and like jazz music. i watched a video recently of an octopus making himself a door out of a coconut shell.

i am a little soft, okay. but sometimes i can't talk either. the world is like fractal light to me, and passes through my skin in tendrils. i feel certain small things like a catapult; i skirt around the big things and somehow arrive in crisis without ever realizing i'm in pain.

in 5th grade we read The Curious Incident of the Dog In The Night-time, which is about a young autistic boy. it is how they introduced us to empathy about neurotypes, which was well-timed: around 10 years old was when i started having my life fully ruined by symptoms. people started noticing.

i wonder if birds can tell if another bird is odd. like the phrase odd duck. i have to believe that all odd ducks are still very much loved by the other normal ducks. i have to believe that, or i will cry.

i remember my 5th grade teacher holding the curious incident up, dazzled by the language written by someone who is neurotypical. my teacher said: "sometimes i want to cut open their mind to know exactly how autistics are thinking. it's just so different! they must see the world so strangely!" later, at 22, in my education classes, we were taught to say a person with autism or a person on the spectrum or neurodivergent. i actually personally kind of like person-first language - it implies the other person is trying to protect me from myself. i know they had to teach themselves that pattern of speech, is all, and it shows they're at least trying. and i was a person first, even if i wasn't good at it.

plants learn information. they must encode data somehow, but where would they store it? when you cut open a sapling, you cannot find the how they think - if they "think" at all. they learn, but do not think. i want to paint that process - i think it would be mostly purple and blue.

the book was not about me, it was about a young boy. his life was patterned into a different set of categories. he did not cry about the tag on his shirt. i remember reading it and saying to myself: i am wrong, and broken, but it isn't in this way. something else is wrong with me instead. later, in that same person-first education class, my teacher would bring up the curious incident and mention that it is now widely panned as being inaccurate and stereotypical. she frowned and said we might not know how a person with autism thinks, but it is unlikely to be expressed in that way. this book was written with the best intentions by a special-ed teacher, but there's some debate as to if somebody who was on the spectrum would be even able to write something like this.

we might not understand it, but crows and ravens have developed their own language. this is also true of whales, dolphins, and many other species. i do not know how a crow thinks, but we do know they can problem solve. (is "thinking" equal to "problem solving"? or is "thinking" data processing? data management?) i do not know how my dog thinks, either, but we "talk" all the same - i know what he is asking for, even if he only asks once.

i am not a dolphin or reindeer or a dog in the nighttime, but i am an odd duck. in the ugly duckling, she grows up and comes home and is beautiful and finds her soulmate. all that ugliness she experienced lives in downy feathers inside of her, staining everything a muted grey. she is beautiful eventually, though, so she is loved. they do not want to cut her open to see how she thinks.

a while ago i got into an argument with a classmate about that weird sia music video about autism. my classmate said she thought it was good to raise awareness. i told her they should have just hired someone else to do it. she said it's not fair to an autistic person to expect them to be able to handle that kind of a thing.

today i saw a goose, and he was limping. i want to be loved like a flock loves a wounded creature: the phrase taken under a wing. which is to say i have always known i am not normal. desperate, mewling - i want to be loved beyond words.

loved beyond thinking.

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Autism & Asking for Help

Lil Penguin Studios/Autism Happy Place

[asaethiel]

1/2 of the messiest polycule in the queer housing facebook group AKA i just finished imperial radch

[incorrectskyrimquotes]

*in this same cadence as a dragon shout* AU. TIST. IC.

[rabdoidal]

idk how to express it but like. my mum asked me earlier "do you have initiative? you need to learn how to do things without people telling you" and idk how to tell her like. 1. i am autistic and a HUGE part of that is not having motivation or initiative in the traditional sense because its harder to read what people want from you, 2. i also have executive dysfunction with my depression, and 3. she is the reason why i have a lack of motivation! because my whole life when i Try to do things to help out, i either get confused or i do it wrong, and shes not patient with me and also doesnt explain things to me - and the worst part is 4. i dont know how to explain stuff to her without it feeling like an excuse, because when i speak plainly, she thinks im dodging blame, when im actually just trying to communicate my default settings and how im working on overcoming them because i live in a neurotypical society. when i dont contribute or help out because im scared of messing up, i am ridiculed and shamed, and when i do contribute, im not allowed to ask clarifying questions or ask for support, because then i am an idiot. and y'know what? its annoying to be told i have no motivation when right now is the time where i have the most self-driven motivation ive ever had

[rubberduckyrye]

-inhales-

GONTA IS NOOOOT A GULLIBLE IDIOOOOOOT!! HE IS AN INTELLIGENT YOUNG MAAAAAN!!! A YOUNG ADULT WHO IS AUTISTIC CODED WHO GOT HORNY WHEN HE SAW MIU IN HER UNDERWEAR!!!! NOT A CHIIIIIIIILD!!!

I will SCREAM this into the void until people stop being weird about Gonta!!!!!! I am no longer asking!!!

Anyway some more links

Gonta was NOT manipulated into the Insect Meet and Greet this is just a blatant lie you fell for

Gonta is a victim of many ableist micro aggressions from his classmates

Gonta is proven to be a young adult by Kirumi Toujou

I am NO LONGER ASKING for people to stop with their ableist interpretations I am no longer asking!!!

[aubreysnailbat]

"jane doe is autistic--" you FOOL, EVERYONE IN RIDE THE CYCLONE IS AUTISTIC

(edit: i reblogged this with some elaboration!! check my profile if you're interested)

[hcnnibal]

i hadn't realised how little the age gap between a1 and a2 actually was until i saw your last post and omg... i'm DESTROYED, vati. a1 was literally a baby raising an even smaller baby. the fact that he felt responsible for a2's well being and how he turned out at such a young age. like.. it's scary to think about the amount of responsability that goes into raising a child as an adult and he was going through it AS A CHILD. i'm not doing good, mate. need to lay down a bit.

😭😭😭😭 i know 😭😭😭 especially w a2 being a ‘difficult’ child… like this sickly little kid who was always off in his own little world…who never did as he was told who never spoke… who had a violent temper and was set off by the littlest thing… like being the only link a2 had to the real world, the only one who understood him and also the only one he would listen to

[house-of-slayterr]

I forgot that the autistic character has dyscalculia and auditory processing disorder. Dyscalculia is a learning disability in math. People with dyscalculia have trouble with math at many levels. They often struggle with key concepts like bigger vs. smaller. And they can have a hard time doing basic math problems and more abstract math. Auditory processing disorder is a thing where someone has a hard time understanding speech as it sounds like gibberish. To be honest it annoys the hell out of people if you ask them to repeat themselves. Would that ruin their chances of being a sniper? The character wasn't in the military. They had to get a permit just like everyone else who wanted to learn the basics of firearms. The girl is not a sniper by military standards as she doesn't call herself one.

I struggled with dyscalculia for a long time. Math for me isn't necessarily more difficult, I just can't do it the way my teachers wanted me to. Things like switching fractions to decimals, counting on my fingers, or doing long division were things that took a lot more effort for me. I used to confuse some of my numbers, and it also affected the way I would write said numbers. Mathematical concepts would have to be explained in-depth for me to understand them, and I fucking hated word problems.

When I moved on to higher lever maths I wanted to blow my brains out. Whicher genesis decides to add letters to maths, deserves to go to jail. Pythagoras, I'm coming for your fucking throat mate! Archimedes and Euclid, your geometry bullshit makes no bloody sense. And Pierre de Fermat, your theorem is the bane of my existence, fuck off.

I also suffer from Auditory Processing Disorder. As a barista, my primary job when I'm at the register is to LISTEN to the customers. When the mask mandate was heavier in my state, that took away my ability to read lips. Which royally fucked me in the ass. Add the plexy glass window in front of me, the sound of the lights, the ice machine, coffee pots, blender and my other coworkers making ambient noise, and you have the recipe for a sensory disaster. I've had to take to wearing noise-cancelling earbuds during work, and sometimes if customers notice them, they get pissy. But I always wear my autism pin, so at least if they complain to corporate, they're being ableist and ignorant.

But I don't think this would ruin her chances of becoming a sniper. Sensory issues are something that as an autistic person, you learn to deal with eventually. You find little things that help and use them to your advantage. You discover ways to avoid things that would send you into sensory overload. People may get annoyed with her for asking to repeat themselves, but it doesn't sound like thtas something that she would take personally. Perhaps she can carry around da recording device, and she can turn it on when she knows she has to have a conversation with someone important. That way she can listen back to it over and over again until she understands. That's what I used to do in school, it helped tremendously. It also is a great way to learn tone and inflexion s you can study the way that person speaks. If it's a character she will be interacting with often this could be used to her advantage.

I think it's interesting that she didn't learn from being in the military. And that she has the wherewithal to not classify herself as such. It says a lot about who she is as a person. It's clear she takes definitions and classifications very seriously. The fact that she's self-taught serves to prove how smart and dedicated she is. You can tell she enjoys her job very much! I think she'll make an excellent sniper and an even better character. IF you're willing Anon, I would love to read what you write. I'm seriously invested now I already adore this character and I cant wait to see where her story goes! You're doing an amazing job, thanks for coming to me with your questions and sharing such a special charter with me!

[mueritos]

quick lil post about coming back to art full-time while also being a full time MSW student….it can be possible 0.0

anyway ty to everyone who has supported me over the years i wouldnt be able to go back to art without you all

[mitskijamie]

Roy obviously knows that Jamie admires/respects/looks up to him but I like to think there's some part of him that wants Jamie to think he's like. Cool. On some level he's just a middle aged man who peaked in his 20s and craves validation from his cool gen Z coworker. I'm not like a regular coach I'm a Cool coach

[possamble]

i wonder if you have any thoughts about how marcille always seems to dislike it when falin wears men's clothing ( i bet she wears it out of its comfiness rather than because she prefers masc style tho, although i hope both lolol) and super short hairstyle

I wonder if it's just her interest in cute feminine fashion in general or maybe there's something more

For the clothes, at least, it's like... Marcille is probably more horrified by the clothing being actually made for and marketed to men than anything else. I bet she'd be fine if Falin wore the exact same things but they were in the women's section, or at least, branded unisex. She would be so so silly about arbitrary stuff like that in a modern setting.

The hair I think is a tangled issue of Falin's resemblance to Laios getting a little too obvious for Marcille's mental health, and Marcille's own very intense relationship with how (female) mages should treat their hair. Also, since it's mostly a joke doodle, I kind of took it as a flanderized Bad Taste Marcille being horrified by a woman with short hair because she buys into gender norms. Some people are... weird about what women do with their hair and unfortunately I can fully see how Marcille can be weird like that in a vacuum joke setting.

(there's also something to be said about how this kind of femininity policing could also be used as plausibly deniable homoerotic subtext. like, girl, why do you care that much about how cute another girl looks? hm?)

[cadaverkeys]

Autism is a highly employable trait, it's just only so in like, niche jobs that are highly sought after already which sucks. Yeah maybe I don't interact with people in a normal way, but when they're forced to deal with me because I have the most special of interests and know the most about them, that's a them problem, not a me one.

If you can find a job that values you for your skills in your niche interest I think that's fantastic and I hope that you feel very fulfilled in your position but I wouldnt call autism highly employable. Most autistic people do not have a special interest that can be turned into a profitable skill and the majority of jobs rely heavily on your ability to communicate with others and withstand stressful situations.

Autistic people are statistically extremely underemployed. And though equal-opportunity employment is theoretically made its way to being the cultural norm I've only ever been able to hold a job by refusing to disclose my medical history.

[eshithepetty]

Mob Psycho 100?? More like Mob 'why are all these characters just different flavors of autistic holy shit'..... 100!!!!!

Click on image for better resolution. Also an ID below, in case the text is too small to read:

[ID: art of Mob, Tsubomi, Tome, Ritsu and Serizawa from Mob Psycho 100, with a list of autistic symptoms below them. The background is beige and behind each character is a square mismatch of colors unique to them as a background.

Mob:

He is wearing his school uniform and smiling lightly. The background colors are saturated blues, cyans, pinks and reds, which are swirling in a liquid like fashion. Below, text reads:

Polite little autistic boy

flat affect

alexithymia

perpetually confused

attempts to mask, just ends up appearing a different type of ‘weird’ as a result

low empathy, high compassion

really strict moral integrity

didn’t have a special interest for the longest time due to repressing himself

disassociating king :(

comorbid inattentive type ADHD

Tsubomi:

She is wearing her school uniform, staring ahead with a bored, uninterested expression. The colors behind her are dark and sharp browns, violets and reds. Below, text reads:

Girlboss

masking queen

low empathy

can’t read social cues but has mastered the art of scripting and being polite and pretty to escape ostracization

hard time connecting to people

often acts unintentionally rude/blunt

stubborn

actually cares a whole lot about people she really considers friends

Tome:

She is also wearing the uniform, leaning her chin on her hand and flapping the other hand excitedly as she rambles about something. The colors behind her are a bright yellow, green and orange, formed as circles and some sharp edges. Below, text reads:

Weird Girl

stimming galore

loud™

special interest in the occult/aliens

finds herself only connecting to people through that interest

emotional dysregulation

comorbid hyperactive ADHD

barely passing grades

probably spends hours on random wikipedia articles

Ritsu:

He is wearing a yellow hoodie, looking to the side and finger raised in confusion. The colors behind him are green, orange and magenta, and they are swirling in a kind of square vortex around him. Below, text reads:

just a little hater

sounds /neg

has a selective wardrobe of comfy clothes cause textures,,,

has no idea what friends are

special interest in psychic powers

spoons are a comfort item

denied he was autistic for a long time because “wdym, i’m completely normal. Look how well adjusted I am.”

comorbid OCD

Serizawa:

He's wearing his usual suit and smiling, eyes closed with the grin, his hands clasped together at his chest. The colors behind him are cyans, blues, greens and magentas, some lines, some circles. Below, text reads:

gamer .....

self isolation as an (unhealthy) coping mechanism

uses comfort items

emotions also be dysregulating but like,, he’s learning to deal with it

high empathy

missed out on a lot of milestones, but it’s okay, he’s catching up :)

special interest in video games

finds comfort in dark, tight spaces

comorbid social anxiety

End ID.]