#BI PEOPLE ARE VALID

[sashasienna]

I'm so bored of being told I'm valid, I don't want to be valid I want to be adored.

[repressedqueen]

okay, our boy has impeccable taste in men....

[suzetonic]

"Asexuals aren't oppressed!"

1. yes we are

2. it's not a goddamn oppression competition

3. acespec people are often treated in condescending, infantilising, and degrading ways, including by medical professionals (remember that one episode of H*use MD with the asexual guy? The one where he's "cured" in the end? Yeah)

4.I didn't spend years not knowing that my lack of sexual attraction wasn't the norm for most people and later being told asexuality is a fucking medical condition before FINALLY accepting myself for you to tell me I'm not oppressed.

5. Dividing our community only helps the people who want us all dead.

[knifearo]

reminder to everyone that trauma IS a valid reason to use aspec labels. "i don't know if i'm aspec or just traumatized—" protip!!! you can be both!!!! the thing about labels is that they're not immutable states of being that you're born as. they're literally just words that we use to describe our lived experiences, and if asexual or aromantic or any related label feel relevant to the way that you experience attraction, whether it's a result of trauma or not, they're there for you to use. having trauma as a cause does not invalidate the fact that someone is experiencing lesser or no attraction. that's still the aspec experience babey. use the label if you want it's there for you <3

[lovelyheartclover]

....

Why is it ALWAYS the nonlesbians that dont care enough to educate themselves on why the "bi lesbian" lable is problematic or just support the lable???

Just saw a post (op will not be named, PLEASE DO NOT ATTACK THEM) saying that the whole 'bi lesbian' discourse doesn't matter because regardless if someone is bi, lesbian, or both, they are queer and that we should stop being angry at how people choose to label themselves as.

Gee sherlock I donno, maybe im upset because the label that person chose to identify as is ACTUALLY PROBLEMATIC AND HARMFUL TO BOTH THE LESBIAN AND BI COMMUNITY!????

YOU CALLING YOURSELF A 'BI LESBIAN' IS SAYING THAT LESBIANS CAN LIKE MEN IN ANY COMPACITY, WHICH BTW IS NOT TRUE. LESBIANS HAVE AND WILL NEVER LIKE OR INCLUDE MEN.

LEAVE US ALONE.

The post's tag btw ⬇️

[amriye]

"I'm bi, actually."

- literally every bisexual person ever

[heartbelongs2zouis]

i’m so happy with bi-buck and the representation, however, the way some buddie shippers are suddenly so disloyal is rubbing me the wrong way! And I don’t mean the people that don’t mind tommy, and feel like it’s good for buck to have his own journey, and then finding his way to his one and true love eddie—i mean the people that are suddenly so okay with bucktommy being endgame or “they all have two hands” uhm no? It’s supposed to be buck and eddie. Or is it just that literally any guy is okay?? Because quite frankly then, what was the point of hating every girlfriend buck ever had? Bisexual means liking both, so that just seems a bit hypocritical to me…

[cruelsister-moved2]

like we are on our nine billionth positivity post for cis men with beards and masculine trans men and feminine lesbians and bi people in m/f relationships and nb people who are comfortable passing as their agab etc.... do we need more? is straight people not being able to tell you're gay/trans really the biggest issue facing lgbt people right now?

there seems to be this undiminishable reservoir of care and sympathy for the very idea of having ur queerness slighted in any context. meanwhile people who never get the choice whether or not to hide it are routinely dehumanised, othered, and ignored. if the issues facing these groups do get discussed it's almost never with much concern for their feelings. invalidation and erasure may be one of the issues facing lgbt people and it deserves attention too but I really don't think you can claim at this point that it isn't getting its fair share already.

for what it's worth, even your hypothetical most flaming butch lesbian/fem gay man/androgynous nb person etc still meets people who assume they're cishet, who even actively refuse to acknowledge that they're not. the false equivalence between erasure and overt prejudice alleged exclusively by those who largely experience only the former is in fact erasing the reality of people who experience both

[weedle-testaburger]

i will always maintain the worst phase of this site is when ‘’‘ace discourse’’‘ was a thing. even before i realised i was queer when i heard about asexuality i was like ‘ok that makes sense as a valid queer thing like gay or trans’, and yet some people got so pathetically angry about it, refusing to acknowledge aspec people are lgbtq despite the prejudice they face (up to and including sexual violence), trying to accuse aspecs of being paedophiles for saying it’s ok for teens to not want sex (which is a take i will always find insane), accusing them of just being prudes and turning ‘aphobe’ into a joke insult. fuck all those losers who did that so hard

[best-enemies]

I've reached season 5 on my CSI rewatch and I'm a few episodes past "Swap Meet", where a woman is murdered after attending a swing party with other couples from the neighbourhood. Near the end of the episode there's a moment that made me jump from my seat:

(Grissom walks up to Sara and takes the seat next to her. He's holding two cups. He hands her a cup of tea.)

[INT. POLICE DEPARTMENT - BRASS' OFFICE]

Erin Brady: Everybody fantasizes about other people. (She glances at Grissom.)

Even you, Mr. Grissom. A neighbor, a friend ... girl at the office.

[INT. POLICE DEPARTMENT - HALLWAY]

(The door opens. Paul Brady walks out of the hallway. Erin Brady walks out into the hallway. Sara is sitting in the hallway chair watching them. She watches as they meet and kiss.)

(Grissom walks up to Sara and takes the seat next to her. He's holding two culps. He hands her a cup of tea.)

LIKE!!!!!!!

Right after Erin ends her sentence with 'girl at the office', the first time Sara and Grissom meet again, he brings her tea. This might be an innocent interaction but to me it seemed like a nod to this relationship they have where both are into each other, know about the other's feelings, but can't/won't do anything about it (although Sara has kind of given Grissom an ultimatum). I don't know if it was intentional - I'm guessing it is, because I picked it up immediately. I might or might not have squealed in delight.

[hellomynameisbisexual]

The bisexual flag is a silent symphony of colors celebrating a powerful symbol of the beautiful complexity of loving across spectrums. To all my fellow bi folks: we are valid, we are loved, our love is beautiful, and our vibrant hearts are a gift to the world.

[theevilicecreamsoda]

You know what, for a community that’s supposed to be about “loving” each other and being a community we sure do jack shit. We’ll be like “everyone’s welcome 😊” then “erm except you, you arent queer enough, you havent suffered enough” is that all we are? Are we only fucking valuable to you if we fucking suffer? Is that the only reason im queer? Because i have been hurt? If thats all this fucking community is then i dont want to be queer. If this community decides its going to be hellbent on picking and choosing who or what belongs then fuck you all. If this community only focuses on the pain and suffering people have felt then ignore that of others then fuck you all. Grow the hell up.

[f0rthel0ve0fw0men]

as bi week comes to an end, I wanna make a few more reminders to everyone and all bisexuals reading this.

you are still bisexual if you have a male leaning preference

you are still bisexual if you have a female leaning preference

you are still bisexual if your preference goes outside the binary

you are still bisexual if you don't have a preference

you are still bisexual if you're single

you are still bisexual if you have no desire to date

you are still bisexual if you're in a same sex relationship

you are still bisexual if you're in a different sex relationship

you are still bisexual if you're in a monogamous relationship

you are still bisexual if you're in an open relationship

you do not have to pick a side

you are not "promiscuous" or "confused"

you're not "50% gay" or "50% straight" you're 100% you and 100% bi 200% perfect!

you define what bisexuality looks like for you! Bisexuality is a spectrum and varies for different people. And that's ok!

Lastly,

bisexual people don't need to "pick a side"

bisexual people aren't "confused" or "whores"

bisexual people aren't more likely to "cheat on their partner(s)"

bisexual people more than likely don't wanna be part of your orgy :/

bisexual people aren't "pretending"

bisexual women aren't straight

bisexual men aren't gay

bisexual people have been here, are here, and will always be here! You can't get rid of us! 🥰

remember you are valid 10000% no matter what people say. Keep shining!

op: me! :)

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[catboyfurina]

Idk what precisely to call it since honorifics aren't Pronouns but vertin using she/her while routinely being addressed as Lord, sir, etc is soooooooo 🥰 it's like mixed pronouns but not.

[gayofthefae]

Notes: this is all the Duffers’ fault aka this whole idea was inspired by the line used in the Stranger Things diegetic soundtrack “even as I wander, I’m keeping you in sight” implying a level of self awareness during Mike’s relationship with El or even some awareness before based on the use of keeping as something to maintain from some implied “before”.

Thinking about bi Mike saying when he developed romantic feelings for El he realized that he had had them before.

And now that I’ve said it out loud, thinking about the complexities of Mike realizing that what he had felt/been feeling for Will was romantic because of the romantic feelings he was developing for someone else.

And then being in mourning so obviously he’s not just gonna jump tracks back to Will again as if nothing happened and then he’s torn. For the year and a half since. 

Thinking about Mike acknowledging his feelings for Will at the same moment he acknowledged his feelings for El and this fascinating idea of one not being able to exist without the other. THINKING ABOUT MIKE REJECTING THE IDEA OF HAVING FEELINGS FOR EL BECAUSE IF THAT’S WHAT ROMANTIC FEELINGS FEEL LIKE THEN THAT MEANS THAT-

oh i am thinking thoughts

and then I put a bunch more in the tags so I’m not reformatting them but here

#whether it's like THE answer that the duffer's are providing or have planned or not i just think it fits into the puzzle in such an interest#ing but aligned way i'd never thought of before#it explains his hesitancy to admit his feelings despite being insecure about not having had a crush yet#it explains his projection and seeming torn#it explains his focus on el as the second/more recent person he developed feelings for and trying to equate that to being a separate instanc#e from will#like because he started having feelings for her second that means that his feelings for will should end soon and he will transition to el#he realizes he's had feelings for will but he tries his best to treat it as: i learned some hard to swallow information about myself. that i#HAD feelings for Will#but it isn't that#and then it bleeds into the retroactive repression theory and the compartmentalization of yeah i had a crush on him no biggie though because#i don't anymore so it doesn't even really matter actually so idk why we're even talking about this really#he's using his self awareness as an excuse to equate it to being past he held off acknowledging 1/2 of his hand in hand feelings he knew he#as torn but tried to focus on el even though he was still emotionally pulled to will and that pull overrode the commitment to singular roman#tic focus in the instances that he realized it was negatively impacting will. because not losing Will will always be more important to him#than whatever shit he's dealing with in his own head. it's like that threat of losing people grounds him. reminds him of the consequences of#his actions and the ripple of his repression and he snaps back into acting on his emotions of getting Will back and he'll deal with the#emotional and romantic repurcussions of that later but it's the instinctual priority

Oh my god also the SHED SCENE as it plays into this whole idea? This a very exciting new avenue to explore. Okay, Mike going through the grief without El but still having those feelings for Will and that same applicable instinct to save and help and comfort him overriding the idea of socially “right” or acceptable and just acting on his feelings and something about the way that scene is shot and the way everyone turns around to face them and how he isn’t sitting in the place everyone sits when they talk to Will and how it was impulsive. impromptu. Nobody expected him to talk in that moment. It was just Joyce there. He stepped up to help and maybe he wasn’t even sure he was gonna tell that story. Maybe it was a conscious choice or maybe it just fell out of his mouth, I honestly don’t know. But thinking about that same prioritization instinctively that he’s shown to disregard social ideas to focus on El and actually allow himself to pay needed attention to Will as well (not saying social pressures is all that makes him pay attention to El just that it does influence his lack of focus on Will) coming up in the original supernatural context.

Thinking about how El showing up made Mike feel better after Will was dancing with that girl. But how Will’s presence and comfort made Mike feel better after El “died”. And how it’s always been this exchange that we knew about but his self-aware feelings never had to actually be addressed until season 3 because he was mourning but she was also dead supposedly so at the very least he no longer had to decipher between or prioritize those feelings until she came back. And then her coming back was a good thing but then they were both there and he had to face that El’s presence hadn’t erased his feelings for Will. Maybe he thought that his feelings, like their presence, would be mutually exclusive. Because even if he had feelings for Will in season 2, it was in El’s absence. So maybe he felt fine in the idea that that was the nature of their existence. And then he was comforted well El showed up - distracted from Will and that girl. Thus, again, telling him that they could exist separately. 

Even when the summer came he wasn’t actually struggling to balance them that much. He had both of them - maybe a bit more focus on El just in his routine tardiness but besides that pretty balanced. He maintained the relationship he always had with Will because there’s no harm in that, right? And likely hoped that because he was in a romantic relationship with El and not in one with Will that that would even the scales and he would get over this thing with Will as long as he didn’t reinforce the romantic aspect and it would be fine but then shit hit the fan and we’ve already been over that a million times including in this post so. If I think of more, I’ll make more edits. :) Excited about this new perspective. I love when things just    fit  !

[lifeofcynch]

anyway if you’re okay with people calling themselves ‘bi lesbian’ and don’t care about how biphobic and lesbophobic that shit is, gtfo my blog. not every term people call themselves is valid. stop excusing terms that are born out of bigoted, misinformed ideas of already existing terms. lesbians like women exclusively, and bi women can have a preference for women ffs.