#tw aphobia

[bloggingboutburgers]

Yeah, I know "not all aro/aces" and all, but please don't use "not all aro/aces" as an excuse to not explore anything exclusively aro/ace ever. Otherwise any trace of aro/aceness might end up effectively lost to fandom osmosis.

To sum up... If you wouldn't be homophobic that way, please don't be aphobic that way.

[yagikidd57]

[our-arospec-experience]

The worst aro experience (imo) is people having no idea what ANY of the labels are or what they mean. If you’re aromantic you’re either confused, always also asexual or not lgbt. If you’re anything else under the aro umbrella you are making up terms and people do not know what you mean.

:(

[the-aroace-defense]

Hi! I wanted to warn you of carcinizedgender, this is a aphobe that should be blocked and reported. I just wanted send this as there is many who are pretending they are for aspecs when they aren't. This one discriminated a aroace person named who was is his ex-gf.

Thank you, I'll look into it.

Update : yeah no, I agree, that person should be reported for aphobia

[sullina]

told someone i was aroace today and their immediate response was "how terrible!"

like, i've read from others that things like this happen, but ngl, actually experiencing it myself was a little surprising.

I wasn't really all that offended tho. I've only known this person for a few days.

But still. my first response was "how is it terrible?"

I'm not exactly "missing out" on anything. How could I miss out on something that sounds like a nightmare to me?

[dam-bluecookies]

"that's not very aromantic of you" "that's not very asexual of you" WELL that's not very minding your own business of you

[agrebel18]

saw someone on here the other day say that we don’t need aromantic and asexual representation in media because that’s a “sanitized” identity like BITCH WHAT????? IF YOU CAN ONLY SEE ASPEC PEOPLE AS CHILDREN THAT IS A YOU PROBLEM.

[theautisticfroglord]

I genuinely hate when people invalidate demiromantic/demisexual/other labels in general by saying somethin like "OMG!!!! why do these labels exist that's how every relationship is!!!!! what has this generation come to?!!?,!?!!"

some people out here are dating someone they just met two days ago. while it literally took me two whole years of getting to know someone before having a crush on them. can y'all please not find excuses to invalidate aspec/arospec people. thanks

[it-is-only-a-novel]

Reminder that it's aphobia if you tell an aspec that they need a partner to be happy.

Yes, even if you told them first that you accept them the way they are, and you're just "expressing concern".

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

I present to you;

YES THIS IS APHOBIC

A series where I show comments and explain why they’re aphobic (sometimes it’s not needed)

Tw aphobic below this line

Aphobia. Denial of identity, ignorance, found on a “what is asexual” TikTok. Was the top comment. It is completely incorrect and is hilarious in the fact that so many aspecs have through they were bisexual in the past

These to comments are very similar, and are both aphobic. You’ll actually find some asexuals get all the “play” they just aren’t interested. But by your logic, if you’re a straight male and you can’t land a girl you must be gay? Right?

Hey everyone needs therapy. But I’m pretty sure your talking “correctional therapy” but I’m so sure you wouldn’t support that! Yes this is aphobic and probably one of the most obvious ones.

Don’t take this bs you are so so so valid

And the final image

Ah yes the old “don’t want sex must be a plant”, gives serious consent issues here and yes aphobic

[bloggingboutburgers]

Lately I've read one defense of casual/systemic/accidental aphobia too many and I let it get to my head.

Just because people "don't mean to hurt you", that doesn't mean they don't hurt you. That shouldn't justify hurtful dismissal. Especially after you make it clear over and over again that you don't wanna be dismissed and that it hurts.

I'm all for giving people time to get educated and open their mind to things but... Yeah typically that ain't that.

Bleh.

PS: The saddest part is that despite deciding "we should be past that" the fight ain't over for anybody anyway really. But yeah, the "they just want you to be happy" excuse helps nowhere, is my point.

[yagikidd57]

[our-arospec-experience]

In light of recent asks,

Cishet aro men are valid. This blog will not tolerate arophobia.

all asks containing hate of any sort will be reported and deleted.

💚🤍🩶🖤

[immortalarizona]

listen. I have never watched Riverdale and never will. but that doesn’t mean I’m not sO FUCKING PISSED at the polycule ending.

I’m not mad about the polyamory (I would like to stress this point for anyone who wants to come after me for this post), I’m mad that Jughead Jones, one of, like, the two aroace characters in media people have actually maybe heard of (the other being Yelena Belova) is part of this romantic, sexual relationship.

he’s ace!!!

he’s aro!!!

and it fucking stings that the writers thought it was okay to erase that aroace rep when there’s next to none for us to begin with.

fuck your amatonormativity and fuck your queer erasure. we aspecs deserve better.

[besttropeveershowdown]

The Worst Trope Ever Showdown: Round 1, Side A

Found the Right Person

a character is single and content with it. they say they aren't interested in dating and haven't felt this way about anyone. others keep telling them stuff like "you just haven't found the right person yet" and they always respond saying that they don't want to. but then, mostly right at the end, they do find the right one and start a relationship with them that comes very sudden and is like weirdly intense. bonus points if the character is a strong and independent woman and then in the end decides to give up her job or hobbies for love or whatever.

Propaganda:

I hate it so much. I'm aroace and people constantly ask me when I will finally find a partner or that I just haven't fount the right one yet. I do not want to find the right one! leave me alone! and seeing these characters that I can relate to, that have a good life, maybe a cool hobby and friends who is also constantly asked this and says that they don't want a partner, and then having them stripped of this aspect because suddenly they find the love of their life and drop these things because their partner wants them to, is not fun. because this implies that everyone deep inside wants to find someone, and people who say that they don't are lying. because apparently only finding love and admitting that you were wrong and actually wanted this all along can make you happy. amatonormativity at its best. people will point to these characters and be like "look, even they could find love, there is still a chance for you", fuck off

The Power of Friendship

Companionship with others is a character's greatest strength.

Propaganda:

This trope seems to be everywhere, from books to tv shows to movies. It's always at the end of the fight when everyone is about to give up and then the hero launches into a speech about this and all of a sudden they have the strength to defeat the villian even though they were literally about to die

[agrebel18]

anyways if you genuinely believe that aro/ace/aspec people in general aren’t “queer enough” and believe that they “don’t need” representation in media like all other queer people, I wish you a very get the fuck off my account </3