#aromantic stuff

[bizarreaizen]

someone: hey can you give me some relationship advice?

me who's aroace: communicate.

someone: I tried but it didn't-

me: break up.

[opossums-in-a-trenchcoat]

I can’t stand forced romance in media. You’re telling me this man and woman who’ve barely spoken to each other, have not flirted at all and have barely been together for three scenes are in love??? Like am I just too aroace to see it?? I always feel so surprised

[bloggingboutburgers]

In my defense if I'd known about the possibility that not everybody approaches romance the same that'd have saved a lot of being an asshole TwT

...But with that said I'm an existentialist so yeah main conclusion I take for myself personally is I'm a jackass and it's my fault

[thearoacemoon]

I think we should talk more about how being embarrassed is not necessarily a sign of romantic love

Because society makes us believe this is some sort of rule.

You can feel embarrassed in the presence of someone you admire.

You can feel embarrassed in the presence of someone you think is aesthetically pleasing without feeling other kind of attraction.

You can feel embarrassed if someone gives you an unexpected compliment.

And in many other situations.

[flyerbatyt]

Alastor really is the aromantic representation we needed!!

I, as an aromantic person personally just use valentine's day to cuddle up under a blanket with some hot cocoa and binge my favorite shows!! 😋😋

Tell me! How do you celebrate valentine's day?! ✨♥️

Aromantic or not! :D

[siriusly-remu]

my slogan: yes homo no romo

[ticcitavvi]

y’all.

asexuality ≠ aromantic, and vice versa.

asexuals are perfectly capable of having and/or wanting romantic relationships.

aromantics are perfectly capable of having and/or wanting sexual expierences.

please stop assuming the two are interchangeable.

[thearomanticasexualexp]

A Life with Less Societal Expectations

Lacking something sometimes feel so alienating.

Aside from asexuality and aromanticism that can exclude you from romantic and sexual experiences, being socially inadept is also something hard to take. It excludes you from so many things life has to offer.

Aroace people who are also aplatonic, aspec peple who struggle to make friends, aspec people who are outcasts, aspec people who are loners, aspec people who have a past negative experience with friendships, aspec people who are introverted, aspec people who are not comfortable with social interactions, aspec people who were bullied, aspec people who were the last choice in a friend group, aspec people who don't have a stable social circle, aspec people who only have two or three friends they can truly trust, aspec people who have social anxiety, aspec people who are always misunderstood, aspec people who have an "unfriendly" appearance, intimidating aspecs, aspec people who try to fit in so hard but it always feel fruitless, aplatonic people who are happy, aspec people who have no choice but to be by themselves, aspec people with avoidant attachment style, aspec people who love the friends they have but don't know how to show it.

It can never feel the same.

But does it have to?

The successful and happy life seems to be so linear. Graduate, get a high-paying job, be financially secure, find a partner, get married, have children, have sex. Build friendships. It's tiring having to stress out when it's ever gonna happen in this life.

Being aro and ace can already exclude you from at least two experiences. Does being a socially-anxious have to exclude you from making meaningful friendships too?

At this point, it won't even matter anymore. A life with less societal expectations is good too. At least, by carrying those labels around, there is a concrete reason for not engaging in a certain activity for the experience.

Additionally, building a life where we don't have to feel like we're missing out on what is socially expected - dating, getting married, having children, having sex, friendships - doesn't sound like a bad idea.

Lacking something doesn't need to be so alienating. If you extricate yourself from the feeling that makes you uncomfortable in the first place - not having a certain relationship - and replace it with something good, like focusing on your career and volunteering, it feels much more fulfilling.

Accept the void.

[aroxbetchio]

i joined a new discord server filled with a bunch of hopeless alloromantics and i’ve never felt more aro😭

[cherrytea556]

Tropes i like or would like to see as an Aro

One sided crush with a twist - Its when someone has a crush on another to which that crush knows and doesn't express the same feelings as a form of love ironically since the person would stop loving them if the love is received.

Non crush attraction - Its where someone likes another but not in a crush way, moreso of a 'huh, their pretty' way (whether temporary or not)

Undefined relationships - These relationships arent a friendship but also not a romantic one either. They come in a variety of whatever you imagine their dynamic to have with each other. I call them undefined since i myself cant define them but it just makes sense.

Yin yang/opposite type friendships - I love these so much, its basically two people that are opposite of each other as friends. Its so great especially when you find these little similarities that connect them to each other. 10/10 trope, would love to see more of.

Those quiet moments where the being in mind is going through a hard time and the other are giving them support while trying to respect their boundaries - slowly putting their hand in theirs to see if the person is comfortable, giving a little nod for reassurance, offering a comfort object of the person etc....Quiet moments like those are so good, 100/10

Affectionate/No physical contact friendships - Friendships where its either very affectionate to each other or no physical affection are both great and should co exist within each other

Person being proud/comfortable that they're lonely and single - A twist of the 'tragic single lonely person' trope. They actually prefer to be single and 'lonely' because they like them alone in their own time, relationships are just not for them and their respected for that.

Person being proud/comfortable that their unattractive - With media treating being unattractive as this big bad thing, it would be nice to see people not caring or even preferring to be unattractive. Whether its because they like that no one wants them or just generally not care about looks, their unattractiveness isnt important, moreso the content of their character.

Found friendships - Its like found family but replace family bond with friendship bond, even better when its either unexpected or when they only have each other.

Thats all, let me know what kind of tropes you like or would want to see more often

[bizarreaizen]

aromantic and asexual cis men seriously need more recognition, they've been told that being a virgin above the age of 18 is weird and that they get no bitches and they've seen that romance and sex is very important to a man and you need to have it or your "lame" and "boring"

[opossums-in-a-trenchcoat]

Shout out to aros who

want romantic/queer-platonic relationships

don’t want romantic/queer-platonic relationships

experience some romance attraction

are no romo

are also ace

are not ace

want to live alone

want a companion of some sort

and every kind of aro!

You are all valid and cool as heck!

[asexuwales]

my friend is going through a breakup at the moment and she keeps posting things like this. But this is the one that really hit me. People, even my best friend, always put relationships first.

Relationships will always mean more to someone than your friendship, being in second place for EVERYONE through my entire life until death is really terrifying.

[saturnniidae]

Shout out to Sweet tooth for having strong male-female friendships that end in tragedy but remain completely platonic as well as little to no romance throughout the entire show

[flittermousemoth]

Aro-spike be like: My Biannual Romance

[kingofdandelions]

Just realised "you need a romantic partner to be happy" and " you need god in your life to be happy" is two incredibly similar sentences that I hate.

"You need a romantic parten to be happy" No. No i do not. I have no desire to be in a romantic relationship, and I have ways of being happy. "Oh so you're gonna die alone then?" Nope. I have friends that are better than any romantic partner could be and I doubt they'd let me die alone.

"You need god in your life to be happy" is such a dumb sentence. Oh right, obviously I need that guilt of drinking coffee, listening to music I like and "wanting to destroy my body" by getting tattoos. Without those extra rules I could neeeeever find a community, don't be ridicilous.

Except I can, and I already have that. The thought that atheists can never live fulfilled lives is one of things that made me skeptical to religion in the first place, because it made no sense to 11 yo me when I knew many atheists, and most of them seemed as happy and even more happy than the people in the church.