#actually crippled

[homobuckybarnes]

Let disabled people live. We do not need to be actively trying to fix our disability all the time. For many of us, we’ve considered the options and *not* trying to “fix” it IS the best decision. It is so fucking exhausting being disabled and if we refuse to accept that by constantly trying to find new “fixes” we will never be able to be happy.

[giantkillerjack]

You shouldn't get a wheelchair, walker, cane, shower chair, or any kind of assistive technology mobility aid because then you might become dependent on them. Just like how you also shouldn't get glasses if you have bad eyesight because then you might become dependent on those.

For instance, if you end up stuck using corrective eyewear, you could actually lose your ability to tell what things are even when they are extremely blurry! You need to get used to having migraines from seeing unclearly because if you wear glasses all the time, you are basically giving up!! You don't need to see things coming at you from far away! You just need to get good at dodging, and if you can't, then you have no one to blame but yourself!!

For example, I read a really heart-worming article recently about a girl who was stuck using glasses - just absolutely, tragically trapped in her eyewear from dawn to dusk, even though she was good and never ever complained; and I heard she trained herself to discern the blurry faces of her loved ones with 60% accuracy! - she was even able to walk down the aisle at her wedding WITHOUT forcing the discomfort of seeing a woman in glasses on all her guests!!

Sure, she had to give her vows with a splitting headache, and she couldn't see her husband's expression when he said "I do," but overall, SO inspi-ration-al!!! So up-lifting!!

(She didn't even have to use a seeing eye cane, which would have been the worst-case scenario, obviously, because she worked hard to make sure she looked LESS disabled, not MORE disabled!!! Everyone knows blind people exist solely to be a cautionary tale to sighted people!!)

Also, did you know some people get glasses when they only need them a little bit?? How selfish of them! Sure, there's not a shortage, and an increase in demand would result in overall increased accessibility to glasses--but emotionally it's like taking glasses away from someone who needs them more! After all, if everyone who needed glasses got them, then...... um...... more people would have glasses! Which is probably bad!!!!

I also had a friend who was trapped in glasses who saved up all her money for laser eye surgery, and I don't know why everyone doesn't just do that! Sure, some doctors say some people don't "qualify" and it "won't help" those people, but that's why you can't give up!! You don't want to be one of those people!

After all, what's the worst thing that could happen with an unnecessary laser surgery to the face that comes with crippling debt??? It's worth the risk to gain your FREEDOM back, and I'm so proud of my friend!!

Tragically, she did die later that year while driving Uber and squinting at street signs, but at least now I know my friend is finally free from the shackles of her terrible eyesight. #ripAshley #rippedAshley #justripit 😌😌😌❤😇😇😇

And that's why you shouldn't get used to using a mobility aid!! Because, like glasses, they are inherently embarrassing to be seen with; and - like glasses - it is more noble to suffer silently than to depend on unnatural technologies that force you to rely on them; AND - just like glasses - by abstaining from using them, you DEFINITELY benefit SO many people in tangible life-changing ways!!! (Besides, everyone else will be so much more comfortable if you just look normal! 😊)

I hope you learned something today. 💖

[tucknroll]

when i say “life is such a pain,” i don’t mean it in a nondisabled ‘something unfortunate’ happened way but in i am disabled and i am in so much pain.

[momett]

"autism can cause motor issues therefore i can call myself a cripple" what if i crippled you like. for real

[satellites-halo]

Hi. My doctors diagnosed me with diffused AMPS after running one physical exam and asking some questions. Looking online, apparently the only difference between this and fibromyalgia is fatigue and brain fog and headaches- but fatigue and headaches and brain fog are also considered symptoms of AMPS?

The doctors INSISTED this wasn't fibromyalgia at all and shut me down every time I called it that. What the fuck is going on? Why does AMPS exist as a diagnosis? What's the difference between it and fibromyalgia? Pleaase if anyone can explain it'd be very appreciated . I'm so confused and really trying not to assume the worst

[discountprophet]

when people are listing minority/opppressed groups why are disabled people almost always left out unless the person themselves is disabled

oh wait its the rampant ableism even within minority groups

[cripple-woe]

Not so fun fact: my high schools policy for disabled fire evacuation was just to not

This needs to be talked about more, I’m sure my school wasn’t the only shitty one. We had no evac plans for our disabilities. We just had to stand next to the elevator and wait for help to come or for someone to call it drill and send us back, traumatised, to our classes.

When I moved to my college, they had to tell me what a personalised evacuation plan was. When we had a fire drill, my new teacher had to guide me out of the room as I shook in fear from the times we had sat upstairs on the third floor smelling smoke from a kitchen fire and not knowing how big that was or if someone was gonna come get us.

I was lucky, back then, that 2 sixteen year olds were in their last year, and had done this countless times before. They comforted me while I freaked out. That one was a drill. When there were fires, they were small and easily controlled, but when those came I was older, I comforted the younger students as we all stood there with the stench of burning filling our nostrils. Sometimes we’d move up the hall to the hallway balcony areas and lean over to see if the cafeteria was the culprit. We’d text friends outside asking for explanations, updates. Was it real, was it drill, where is the fire?

Sometimes I find myself beating myself up. Sometimes I say there was never any real threat, stop being dramatic.

But that’s not fair, no teenagers, no children, should have to spend a day every few months in fear waiting for a fire that might not be there. It’s cruel and it’s fucking lazy.

[gothcowgf]

Just a festering crockpot of trauma and a thin desperation to try to be alive and still be a good person all while my body caves in on its self ✌️

[cr-pplepunx]

i really do believe that psychological and neurodevelopmental conditions can cause physical disability. (tourettes causing pain and fatigue, schizophrenia causing catatonia, anxiety causing heart problems, autism and dyspraxia causing motor skill issues, etc...) many conditions can be both mentally and physically disabling.

but it feels disingenuous to describe yourself as "crippled by a psychological/neurodevelopmental disorder" while entirely avoiding calling yourself Physically Disabled.

the principles of cripplepunk specificies the exclusion of abled bodies and acknowledgement of the intersection between mental and physical disability.

cripplepunk is specifically stated to be by and for physically disabled people, so if you do not consider yourself to be physically disabled and you use the word "cripple", you are not cripplepunk. you are ableist.

[twisted-rat-king]

It's so bittersweet when someone tells us they hope we feel better soon upon seeing our braces & cane, assuming we have a sports injury or something </3 it's very kind of them to send well wishes, and we appreciate that, but in the back of our head we know this is chronic and that it's forever and that it's only going to get worse, and those well wishes serve as a reminder of this fate

[giantkillerjack]

Hey, y'all! Can someone please please tell me about the process for finding the right motorized wheelchair??

I've needed an electric wheelchair for years, and I've finally gotten the right prescription and the wheelchair-accessible housing I need.

But now I need to pick a wheelchair, and I STILL don't even know where to start.

The main issue is that I have no way of trying out different models of chair, and so I have no way of knowing what will and won't hurt my back - and so I ALSO have no way of knowing if I need a custom wheelchair or not.

I live in the United States in a major metropolitan area, and my insurance will ONLY pay for one chair, so as far as I know, it needs to be the right one on the first try. (Unless there's a trial-and-return policy? I have no idea. I have Medicare and Medicaid.)

I feel like there must be some kind of specialist who can help me find the right chair, but no healthcare provider I've seen has had that kind of expertise.

Where do I find these people? What do I do?? How can I find a place that allows me to try out different chairs?? Literally any advice is appreciated. Thank you in advance. <3

[tucknroll]

only i am allowed to be upset about being disabled. not the people who refused to believe i was. not the people who refused to accommodate me. not the people who chose to forget to make it easier for themselves. not the people who got rid of accommodations because they were getting in their way. not them, me.

[ricochetfuel]

My jaw is hurting from clenching it so hard and augdhshdud. I hate this. My spine hurts badly too and my overall body is killer. I'm so fucking sore.

[babyspacebatclone]

Sometimes, it’s really, really hard not to have a huge ego, you know???

I’ve talked about “Margret” on my blog before, one of our kids at the daycare who has been with us over two years now and having just the worst imaginable stuff happen even before that.

I haven’t been able to work much with her since May, which breaks my heart, but oh my stars my girl!!!

💕🌟💕🌟💕

This time last year, we were still worried she wouldn’t recover from her seizures and erratic brain activity period.

The start of this year, we weren’t sure she’d be able to sit unsupported. That she’d been left profoundly blind was also unavoidable.

And now??

My girl is walking!!! 🥰

She still doesn’t have the stability to do it unsupported, but she’ll find a wall, be up like nothing, and just cruise around until she finds the gate to outside and stand there and whine if she’s in the mobile baby room because she’s been visiting the toddler room and that place is so much more fun!!

She’ll seek out people, and just use them to stand and then walk away while holding their hands so they have to follow.

I only get a few minutes of cuddles with her every few nights when there’s the right balance of the number of kids at closing and her parents pick up late enough, since I’m stuck up front watching the oldest kids and the secured front entrance.

Today, I was able to justify sneaking in to the mobile room for a ten minute break, sat next to her, and started singing.

Like usual, she instantly zeroed in on me and climbed up to stand on my lap and bearhug me, alternately hanging over my shoulder because she’s gotten so tall and jumping in delight on my leg because she’s so tall she can’t safely use her beloved jumper anymore (at least she has a door-hanging one at home…).

I’m thinking nothing of this, since this is our routine on those rare ten minutes together in the evenings.

Her day teachers, however???

They’re both gaping at us, shocked.

Apparently they haven’t seen Margaret stay in one place so long unless she was complaining at the gate or else exhausted on the floor.

She’s only had this level of mobility a few months, and apparently she resents not exercising it as much as her energy level allows.

Unless it means cuddles with me.

Apparently.

Yeah, sometimes it’s really, really hard not to develop an inflated ego, that even after months of barely being able to be with this legally blind girl I’m still her favorite snuggler in the entire daycare center. 🤷‍♀️

[a-fools-jester]

it is so exhausting to live in a body that’s not able to do as i want. try as it might, my body cannot jump, cannot run, cannot do the things i wish it could.

it isn’t my body’s fault. i remind myself of that constantly.

it isn’t my body’s fault that the home i found in it feels more like a prison these days. so i try not to hate it. i try to cope and make jokes and pretend that it doesn’t sting when i can’t do things i used to be good at anymore, like ballet and basketball.

but some days i just want to run again. and my body is no longer able. and that’s okay but it still hurts.

[everythingwasnormalhere]

Ok so, I just remembered how people in the comments of a tiktok video were being assholes, and I want to rant now :3

The video showed two wheelchair users at a train(?), who had just arrived to their stop to find nobody was there with a ramp so they could leave the train. One of them blocked the door so it wouldn't close, and this lasted for 15 minutes. The train was stopped for said 15 minutes. There was a button by the door, that said that it'd contact the driver when pressed. It didn't. People offered to go find the driver, and they came back with the news that there were no people in the platform to put the ramp. In the end, passengers had to go out, and place the ramp themselves, before the train could carry on. The wheelchair users had warned they were coming, and asked to have the ramp put there so they could get down. The platform turned out to have workers, they all just ran away because they'd never encountered the situation in which they needed to do this simple task.

Because of the workers' negligence, the train was forced to stop for 15 minutes.

Everyone's comments?

"Why did they block the doors and stop the train? So selfish" Selfish were workers who refused to do their job.

"What if someone had needed to get to their stop urgently? They shouldn't have stopped the train" It wasn't the disabled people's fault, it was the workers who were negligent.

"Why didn't they just wheel themselves down those steps?" They shouldn't have to risk their (expensive) chairs just because people didn't do what they were paid to do.

"If I had been in that train I would've been pissed, how dare you stop it" And you probably wouldn't have even thought about fixing the problem yourself, would you?

"Entitled assholes" Ok I'll leave you stranded in a train with everyone who could help you get down outright refusing to. Let's see who's an entitled asshole now.

If someone fights for accessibility, as much as it might be a bother for you, you do not have the right to be mad at them. If someone fights for accessibility, it is exclusively the fault of a world catered exclusively for able-bodied people.

So next time you think, "hey the consequences of these disabled people fighting for their rights bother me", instead of blaming them for this, help them solve the issue. This way, next time they will not have to fight at all.

Able bodied people, go out and fight for a fucking accessible world if you're not an asshole.

[ Able-bodied people are encouraged to reblog this post, but try not to derail ]