#alloromantic asexual

[aroosprey]

Ace, Aro, OR BOTH?

I have made some ace/aro pride sea monsters,,, as a treat

edit: just so you know this artwork is made by an aroallo artist who doesn't appreciate being erased

tagging it as aspec/aro/ace and nothing else is fine, but if you're gonna tag aroace, don't exclude the other intersections represented here

[entropy-sea-system]

If you're alloace you need to understand that you enjoy more rep than aros. If you're aroace you need to understand that you enjoy more rep than non-ace aros including alloaros! If you're alloaro, you need to understand that rep for non sam aros, neu aros, etc. Is practically nonexistent. And so on.

If you're aro and/or ace and allotertiary you need to fucking understand that atertiaryspec ppl like aplatonics are also not represented at all despite being part of the aspec!! Yes we all need rep. Yes aspec rep as a whole is needed more regardless of the identity! But please don't erase the fact that some of us literally have way less rep than some other aspec identities and respect that we are allowed to be upset about how we are ignored in favor of another aspec identity all the fucking time.

[thereallyreallylatebird]

As an aroallo woman, I feel a sort of kinship with alloace men. We're both going against gender norms just by existing.

I'm breaking the expectation that women are more interested in romance than sex.

They're breaking the expectation that men are more interested in sex than romance.

They're experiences that are both opposite and parallel, that leave me with both a perfect understanding and no understanding at all of what the other is like. So, hats off to you, alloace men. As someone who is in many ways your opposite, I see you.

[sunoficarus]

This is a PSA: ACE ≠ ARO

I’m both tired but also kinda of sad to see the same stuff constantly getting mistaken, ESPECIALLY because I see it THE MOST from THE QUEER COMMUNITY

ASEXUALS ARE NOT ALWAYS AROMANTIC

I really can’t believe I have to say this but asexual just means no sexual attraction. Asexuals can be Aromantic or Arospec, but they can also be alloromantic!!

like, asexual people can totally have different boundaries for what qualifies as romantic or sexual in nature, that’s fine, but painting all asexual people as not interested in romantic stuff not only invalidates a lot of ace experiences, but it also erases Aromantic experiences.

Aromantic and Asexual are SEPARATE IDENTITIES

[lawofcollage]

The Alloace and Alloaro pride flags!

[alloacefolkscompetition]

FINALS

Jonathan's art made by cleonaturin on Artstation.

Propaganda under the cut

Why vote Tori Spring:

(by @secretlyafrog7)

Propaganda

Why vote Jonathan Sims:

(by @twinkle-twinklesilmaril)

He's confirmed biromantic ace by the creator

He loves cats

He's too curious for his own good

He reads statements about supernatural occurrences as if he's living them himself then dismisses them (to convince himself he doesn't believe them)

He is both intelligent and an idiot

His voice is amazing

His hair is prematurely greying (probably due to stress)

He has nice character development (in my opinion)

I'm currently enjoying The Magnus Archives (I'm in the 9th story right now), this contest made me discover it! He's the most submitted character and he gets a boyfriend. So yeah, that's what I wanted to add!

[iread-studies]

My Italian university just published a magazine AND one of the articles is by an endocrinologist who talks about the causes of asexuality AND he says that sometimes it's caused by illnesses but it's also a valid sexuality.

You guys, he mentions the spectrum!! He mentions alloromantic asexual people!!! He mentions demi and greysexuality!!!

I don't think I've ever seen anything similar in print in Italian. AND BY A UNIVERSITY.

I'm so excited.

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I don't want to dox myself so if you'd be interested in reading it (it's in Italian) DM me.

[leikeliscomet]

The reason I feel disconnected from the term alloace and its tag is bc it's just not specific enough and bc of that a lot of commentary on alloaces falls flat to me. The specific gender(s) you have romantic attraction for greatly determine what type of experience you will have. There are so many straight ace experiences I can't relate to. Can you safely express romantic attraction in public? Are depictions of your romantic attraction banned in books and TV/film? Then there's race too. When your race is sexualised and your asexuality is denied, how can you then express romantic attraction freely? When your race is simultaneously desexualised, are you even allowed conventional romance to begin with? When you are seen as a sexual being against your will how can you decentre sexual attraction when no one has ever believed you?

Aroallo on the other hand is used to describe the collective experience of aromanticism without asexuality so there's a consistent community for that that's grown but go to alloace and its less active and a series of random posts, not really 'collective community' stuff. Most alloace content isn't called alloace like aroallo content is called aroallo, but just asexual. There's many ace posts that would fit the label but aren't under the tag. Not sure why but I don't think it's that deep. A lot alloace posts aren't even about alloaces specifically, they're posts about arospec experiences either comparing alloaces implying there's a type of privilege or actively blaming us for arospec erasure. The erasure is real and their anger is justified but again it's assumed under the banner of alloace that having romantic attraction automatically guarantees a certain experience when it doesn't, historically or systemically. The most visible alloaces are predominantly white and cishet. The 'allo asexuality' they have is one a lot of alloaces are actively denied and so we actually have more in common with arospecs bc we both have relationship models and exploration of romance that goes against what is societally expected of us. I relate to Black arospecs bc we share the history of how Black people are sexualised and desexualised. I relate to lesbian arospecs bc our attraction to women is unconventional, experiencing 'half' and not the other.

I'm then left scratching my head being asked to use the privilege I don't have and use the visibility I don't get. Does the aspec community ask aspecs to stand with gay, bi, pan and lesbian aces? Do they make posts on how biphobia and acephobia overlap to protect bi aces? Do they ask aspecs to learn the history of how gay romantic lit was censored? Do they ask aspecs to support alloace victims/survivors with the sexual violence they experience from non-ace partners? Do they ask aspecs to unpack compulsory sexuality? Do they do the community support they wish to see themselves?

So yeah, I'm frustrated. With other parts if my identity and if I don't see certain posts about it I'd be like 'well stop complaining and be the one to say something then'. I could do up 'allo aces are valid' content but again, who would I be referring to? Would anyone care? Is it even possible to make a catchall post that fits the whole experience? It's looking like no. Again I need this community to start to looking outside the scope of their own personal aspec experience cus community is in the name but it doesn't feel like it.

[asexual-society]

positive asexual romantic experience of me and my boyfriend and both ace and i finally don't feel like there's pressure for sexual attraction and i can exist comfortably and intimately in a romantic relationship for the first time

!! this is super nice to hear, thank you for sharing!

[colorpicked-pride-flags]

Just

Try

Please

The BISEXUAL and ALLOACE flags color-picked from SHINJI ON A CHAIR [Evangelion]

[traceyshortfilm]

We go live TOMORROW! 💜

Tune into the first episode of "Ace of Hearts: A Podcast for Alloromantic Asexuals" tomorrow morning (4/24/2024)

YouTube

Spotify

Podcast description: "The dating world is no easy place for asexuals - people who experience little to no sexual attraction. But none of us have to go it alone. Take a step into our digital clubhouse, a space for alloromantic asexuals to share stories, tips, laments, and laughs. So grab an iced drink, sink into that fuzzy pink beanbag, and join us as we navigate all things love."

[archivomeow]

do i want to be her or be with her? wtf???

[bra1nwashed]

honestly, i sometimes get so sick of being allosexual and aromantic. and 𝙣𝙤𝙩 because 𝙞 have a problem my identity, but rather the fact that 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧 𝙥𝙚𝙤𝙥𝙡𝙚 do. for 𝙣𝙤 reason.

first of all, we get invalidated for the dumbest reasons. we have literally been called evil or horrible people. we have been told we're players or that we're just using people. i've seen so many occurrences like this too! even some alloaces have stereotyped us as bad people just because we don't feel anything romantic and are open to sexual relations.

second, we do 𝙣𝙤𝙩 get enough representation. all aromantic representation in media and sorts have all been aroace. from what i've seen, all cannon 𝙖𝙧𝙤𝙢𝙖𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙘 characters have also been ace. and i have nothing against aroace people. i'm all for their representation. but i really do think alloaros are not given enough representation and acknowledgement.

third, i'm sick of being rejected by people in a community we're supposed to feel welcome in. so many times, people who are allo (in both ways, not just ace or aro) have denied my validity. it's also quiet hurtful when coming from asexuals.

the aspec community is objected enough on it's own. however, asexuals and aroace people experience that less. asexuals have been able to defend themselves by saying they can still love. aroaces have been more accepted by allos because some people, for some reason, just think that if you can't feel romantic attraction, you shouldn't feel attraction at all. and then, when some is alloaro they are just cast out as a villain or seen as a bad person.

as an alloaro, i feel like being told we're bad people or something because we're open to sex and not romance is sort of like being called a fraud or being told you're faking your sexuality because you're bisexual or pansexual and in a hetero relationship.

it's something you might get shit for so commonly, so you usually don't react (𝙛𝙧𝙤𝙢 𝙢𝙮 𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙨𝙥𝙚𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙚). but sometimes it just gets bad. you feel unaccepted, unsafe, violated, and just overall offended and hurt.

it's harmful, stupid, and useless. i don't usually get angry at this point anymore. my identity have been insulted and invalidated multiple times. it's been unacknowledged even more. but that's what i hate. we are constantly invalidated because we don't get heard out. if we had to chance to speak out, i think the aspec community, especially aromantics, would have a much better, safer, more welcoming community.

thank you for listening <3

[starrailprideflags]

alloace flag colorpicked from kafka!

requested by: anonymous!

[garagegalaxy]

hello everyone! sherb here

i support aromantics. i support asexuals. i support aroace individuals. i support aroallo. i support alloace. i don’t care what you identify as, as long as it’s not a paraphilia you are welcome on my silly little blog

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