#being queer sucks sometimes

[phippeet]

this is a rant about bbc ghosts s5, there is slight spoilers and also mentions of homophobia so if you dont want to read those things scroll away :)

i loved the captains story but one thing that really really bothers me is the way his whole story was executed and handled. It makes me upset to see even in 2023 that we still have the problem of queer characters not given as much time as straight characters with their stories. like, in five years and five seasons we had to wait till the end of the second to last episode to find out how he died, and then it was not gone into depth about. it was definitely rushed, and it didnt really even have anything to do with the overarching plot of the episode like how most of the other characters stories did. and then you could also arguably even dismiss it because its so vague. and after the captain tells everyone how he died, theres no real acknowledgement about his queerness, or real acceptance. even though all of the ghosts definitely already knew, they could have said something about his queerness specifically. honestly he doesnt actually 'come out.' and then with the last line of the last episode being the captain being arguably the most outwardly gay hes ever been makes it worse. it makes me sad when a show that i love so dearly and that has such beautiful writing and characters falls into this homophobic trope of not giving the queer characters the time they deserve. because of what the creators said, i thought it would delve deeper into him. it would be a good story. but it was just dissapointing honestly. and honestly i could brush it off. but ive seen SO MANY shows and movies and books do this same thing. for some reason specifically with gay men. it just makes me upset to see this over and over and over and over and every single time the creators say it will be a good story and live up to expectations, but then it falls flat. i hate living in a world where the stories about me and the stories i want to see are sidelined.

like i said, i really did love the season, or series, i guess, and i liked the captains story, i dont think it matters how sad it was because that aspect fits within the world and the character and his time period. but what really hurts is seeing the shows and creators you love so much seemingly not care enough about you to actually show stories about people like you. it really really sucks.

[darknesspervades]

I LOVE BEING TRANS!!! I LOVE SEEING THE WORLD IN ITS SPECTRUM OF COLOUR AND BEING FREE TO EXPRESS MYSELF HOWEVER I WANT!!! I LOVE THAT I CAN EXPLORE MASCULINITY AND FEMININITY FREE OF RESTRICTIONS!!!!! I LOVE THAT I'M PART OF SUCH AN ACCEPTING COMMUNITY!!!! I LOVE BEING TRANSGENDER!!!!

[sophsun1]

Queer as Folk – 4.03: Starting a Whole New Life

[ratbastardman]

every reactionary leftist needs to be handed a dvd copy of deathnote because like if your first step to saving the world is deciding who needs to be protected and who needs to be eliminated my brother in christ you’ve got the moral compass of a fucked up teenager raised by a cop

[s-ccaam-era-crepe]

i need everyone to be the most normal about polyamorous and aro people Right Now

[perfectlyripeclementine]

hi this is a permission slip to be whatever identity you want. you wanna be trans but you think you’re not because [REDACTED]? i give you permission. you want to be a woman but you’re not allowed because [ELDRITCH SCREAM]? you’re exempted. permission slip. you might be bisexual if it wasn’t for [404 GENDER NOT FOUND]? i am currently stamping the gay card. point is nobody makes the rules for your gender and sexuality except yourself and if there’s something you want to be then you might just be that thing. and if you try it out and turns out your not? poof!! reverse permission slip. you can go back.

[savage-rhi]

Magneta

[indis-vines]

Being aroace kind of sucks sometimes...

Like I want to have someone that I can be close to in that way, who cares about me romantically that I can reciprocate

But yknow I don't get to have that :[[

Like I'm happy with my friends and family I love them all dearly but sometimes I'd like someone who I can have that level of relationship with without it being just friends know ://

[aromanticannibal]

ppl really b acting as if there's only one specific ship that has weird shippers that will complain about ppl not shipping their otp. it's literally always the case you either get fucked over for liking a gay ship or for liking a straight ship or for liking a toxic ship or people just start going "oh there's nothing wrong with the ship but the shippers💀" and you don't fucking know what they're talking about. like can we all just chill. the weird shippers r everywhere it's called some ppl are assholes sometimes. it's not fandom specific

[couriernewvegas]

i dont have any real opinion because i havent read this book so im just yapping to yap but . well yes identity does matter when u write or critique a book to some degree like yes just bc a lesbian writes a lesbian character doesnt mean it will be respectful or “good” and just bc someone who isnt a lesbian does so doesnt mean the opposite but . to some degree the way u operate in the world and experience gender and sexuality should be considered and connected to how u write characters of possibly different experiences and gender/sexualities

[starrytalking]

Honestly realising it is completely fine to not want a romantic relationship not only because I just don’t want to but also because I don’t want the commitment and want to freely make decisions for my life just how I want to live it felt really nice :)

[xxx-ang3l-w1th-a-sh0tgun-xxx]

i sometimes wish i wasn't queer

but then i remember women exist

[vamptastic]

it's just like. okay. when i say i like men in a gay way and women in a lesbian way i don't mean that i think straight attraction is icky or my attraction is somehow more enlightened and progressive. i mean that I've spent the formative years of my sexuality in a place with my gender presentation where people are equally as likely to see me as a man or a woman and often seem to think of me as both, and i cannot separate both my attraction to men or to women from that. ive always felt drawn to butchness because its this concept that your love for the same gender shapes your gender presentation and vice versa, but it's specific to womanhood and attraction to women as a woman in a way i can't entirely relate to. like, in many ways i am both a man and a woman, and i am attracted to both men and woman in a way both shaped by and reflected by that fact.

[du-hjarta-skulblaka]

Shout out to the folks at work the other day that enabled/encouraged me to go on a lil infodump about being transgender and who had genuine questions and listened to my answers. Obviously it's not something queer folks should be expected to do but I love being a point of information for people! I love talking about my experiences and my understandings of philosophies that intersect with that and I think alot of cishet people are maybe uncomfortable asking blunt questions? But so long as they're posed in good faith and with willingness to think about the response, I enjoy answering those weirdly specific things. How else to we dispel the willful ignorance that places of power want to foster towards us? I refuse to he a scapegoat and am deeply grateful to the people that are receptive to experiences outside their own

[echo-s-land]

I want to love boys as a boy

And I want to love girls as a girl

But no matter how much I think about it,

I can't think myself as one or the other.

Maybe I don't want to love,

Maybe I just want someone to understand me and be there for me

Someone I can be vulnerable around,

Without romance. Or maybe with it.

At the end, it's only me, and it will always be,

I'll be alone with my mind, thinking;

I want to love boys as a boy

And I want to love girls as a girl.

[tiercel]