So, I'm two chapters into Jonny Sims new book, Family Business.
And I'm really liking it so far, but man is it hitting hard. For some insight, the main character has recently joined a cleanup crew that comes in after someone dies to clean and sort through the stuff.
It's just...I see myself and my family in this, and it is hard. (It's a sign that the writing is good that I'm seeing myself in it so much.)
So, deeply personal stuff ahead, with content warnings for death and hoarding. If you don't want to read it, just know I am very deeply suggesting this book.
I was raised in a hoarded house. My grandmother died, and my mother could bare to part with any of her stuff. Or any of her own stuff. She was so depressed that she couldn't clean, and everything just kept...building. You basically had to do parkour to get through the basement. And it started with a few rooms and just...grew.
My uncle was similar. He could never throw out anything. Plastic food containers, plastic utensils, anything that might be useful someday. He had piles and piles of books. When he died, I wanted the books, but they were infested with insects and falling apart. The feeling this book gets, of sitting surrounded by piles of memories, some that you can hardly understand...yeah. That's it. Wondering what happier times might have looked like.
For my mom -- we managed to move once. The whole mess didn't get sorted- some stuff just got stuffed into large plastic trash bags so it could sit in piles, waiting to be sorted. And sorting is a hazard for reasons that have nothing to do with health and safety. Will a memory leave my mother in tears, unable to continue? Will I suggest getting rid of something only to offend her for daring to suggest it? Will it lead to stories of people I can never keep straight in my head, whose memory I will not be able to continue?
And when I read this book, I wonder...what happens when she dies? What does it say that one of my biggest fears of thinking about my mother's future death is what on earth will I do with all of this stuff? Will I be able to sort it out myself before the bills become too much? Will I know what's important and what isn't? Would I need to use a service like the one in the book, putting everything she held so dear into the hands of strangers?
Would I falter, suffering from the same inability to let go as her? Would I just continue the problem, to be found dead one day on a bare mattress surrounded by piles of memories and cockroaches?
I don't know what research Jonny did when writing this book, but the words...they are right. I'm not even very far in because reading it hurts. But in a good way.
it’s hard for me to feed myself right now (just in terms of physical ability), so my mom drove me and the animals to her place. she carried the cats in first, because I had to butt-scoot up the front stairs, and once inside, Pangur got scared and ran. she’s tucked herself away somewhere, and nobody can find her. I probably could, and I could lure her out and make her feel safe again, except that I’m largely immobile. I keep falling on the crutches and fucking my leg up further, and the likeliest hiding spots are up or down a fleet of stairs. it’s been 4 hours, and it’s killing me not to look for her. I’m so tempted to crawl down the basement stairs, broken leg be damned.
cheers to the future of humanity (and the future of us)
[ID: Digital illustration in color of Vash and Wolfwood from Trigun. The illustration takes place during the ship/home arc, specifically chapter 21. At the center, Vash is grabbing Wolfwood by the collar and pulls him into a kiss in the middle of a celebration. The pair is colored in vibrant warm hues while their surroundings are colored in cooler colors like green and teals. Luida, Brad, Meryl, and Milly are shown amongst the crowd, occupied in the celebrations as Vash and Wolfwood share a moment by themselves at the center. END ID]
speaking to siraj (@siraj2024) earlier today, he told me that he wasn't able to make the trip to a wifi hotspot and promote his campaign yesterday — or continue his tireless updates on the state of things in gaza — because his little boy has contracted a serious infection, one of the many illnesses spreading through the refugee tent camp that the family are stuck in. siraj, his wife, and their two very young children need a safe shelter, now.
support from people on tumblr meant siraj's fundraiser was able to reach its 2nd goal of $20 000 CAD, and now we need to help the abudayeh family reach $30 000 CAD. (siraj hopes to meet this goal by sunday 11/08.) the money will go toward food and medicine, but more importantly toward building supplies that siraj will use to rebuild his home and create a safe shelter for his family.
if you're able to donate, please do. otherwise, please reblog, or else reblog one of siraj's own posts. (by the way, if you're american, your $5 donation is actually nearly $7 CAD. your money goes a LOT further than you guys realise. and any donation helps.)
unfortunately if I want to independently develop a hypothesis about Rohan's economic/subsistence structure I really need to learn things like the requirements of taking care of horses in the winter and the growing seasons/growing lengths of crops like lettuce, radishes, carrots, and kale, and metalworking time and space commitments, and the types of houses that can be erected and torn down quickly, and the required land area of grazing per horse, and the social organization of Iron Age Eurasian horse cultures, and what other animals might naturally live on the Mark, and productivity and caloric value of mare's milk,
unpopular opinion maybe but sam has been pissing me off lately
i think it started with him laughing in gwen's face about the bonzo thing and (as far as we know) not apologizing???
it's like he only thinks supernatural things can happen to HIM. sam wtf why are you gatekeeping the horrors??
he also only ever listens to celia, alice indulged his magnus thing as long as she could but realized shit was getting dangerous and wanted to protect him
alice is also flawed (jealousy is a bad color on you babe but i forgive you) but like everyone is?? and sam is just dismissing her every word because of it??
he doesn't have to follow her advice but could he at least let her speak??? i hate how dismissive he is, even celia listens to alice more than him
and in episode 24, his "well what can i do about that" mentality was sooooo irritating
he said it twice, when alice said gwen wasn't okay, and when alice said the tape recorder thing was hunting them
1. gwen not being okay could be something you at least pretend to give a shit about, like seriously. everyone tolerates your childhood rejection trauma and you don't bother batting an eye as gwen crumbles? jesus man
and 2. why is it only something 'crazy' when it's not you saying it sam? he expects everyone to believe the evil about the magnus institute (with honestly no evidence? i think we gloss over how little ties the institute actually has rn because we listened to tma) and dismisses alice's concerns that they're all going to die
i don't hate sam by any means (disregard previous discord statements ❤️ i was a lil upset) but he has been seriously upsetting me
also if there's anything i forgot um my bad i'm just oh so sleepy
I know most folks have probably seen this already, but I really need to talk about how insane it is that David mentioned Michael as a possible Doctor on an episode of DW Confidential in 2007.
This was ten years before filming GO season 1, and there was absolutely no reason for David to be saying Michael's name. Julie and Jane did not bring Michael up in any capacity, nor was he specifically relevant to the conversation. Yet of all the names David could have said, out of all the countless UK actors in the business...he said "Michael Sheen."
There is this idea that soulmates are "loud." That it means seeing someone from across a crowded room as music swells dramatically in the background. But soulmates are also quiet. A soulmate can be someone you talk about when no one is listening. Someone you think about and who makes you blush for no real reason at all. Someone who lives in the back of your mind, vibrating at a steady hum that you don't even hear at first.
Until it gets louder.
Until they're suddenly a part of your life in a way you never expected.
Until you can't remember anymore what life was like without them.
From BYT in 2003 to this DW Confidential in 2007 to Good Omens in 2017 on into the present. Call it the invisible red string. Call it Fate. Whatever it is that's between them, I am and will forever be in awe at Michael always being on David's mind (and vice-versa), and how they finally found each other...