#family is important

[intoanotherworld23]

Sorry everyone that I haven’t been that active on here lately, I just wanted to let my followers now its cause my older brother passed away last month unexpectedly, and my family and I have been having an incredibly difficult time with it. He was only 32, and was in a different state which makes it even harder cause none of us could get to him. It wasn’t suicide, foul play, or drug overdose. It was a complete accident, and he didn’t suffer or in any pain. So having the motivation to write has been a little difficult, but I promise I will get back to writing, and you guys haven’t got rid of me yet. I hope you guys understand, and I look forward to writing more for you guys. Also, hug your family and loved ones tightly cause you really don’t know when it’ll be your last. Appreciate the people in your life and don’t ever take them for granted💜🤍

[eyeofnewtblog]

Things that happen at home:

So, when I first met my SO, he was very clear that American Thanksgiving was his mom’s favorite holiday and going to her place was non negotiable. Every other holiday is up for grabs, but this is the one time a year his mom wants all of her kids around. My family doesn’t care: whoever shows up is welcome, grab a plate, do presents in private unless you’re under the age of ten, etc.

So, some highlights of spending time with my very redneck in-laws:

My brother in law, after a game of Yahtzee, in the most tipsy tired voice imaginable: I sure wish you could count without talking.

My mother in law and sister in law, repeatedly: IF YOU AREN’T HELPING THEN GET OUT. OUT!!!. (To be fair, it’s a pretty small kitchen so if you have two people cooking and one person washing the dishes it’s great but if someone comes in to chat or drop a dirty dish…dude, you chose to walk into the mine field.)

Me, having been given a giant Tupperware and told to make a lightly tossed salad with only tomatoes, cucumbers, avocado, and lettuce: *gets everything shredded and quartered into the giant Tupperware, snaps the lid on, clutches the entire container to my chest, and starts jumping up and down*

Husbo, sister in law, mother in law, brother in law (who at the time were all arguing over the proper making of brown gravy): *turn to look at me, bust out laughing*

Me: *still jumping up and down with a giant Tupperware of salad) You said you wanted it tossed and then didn’t give me any way to do that besides a lid and shaking! My arms are not strong!

My sister in law, trying very hard to not die laughing at me: At least it gets the job done!

Much later and a also lot of alcohol later:

Me: *consistently calls my brother in law’s fiancé the wrong name - Mattie instead of Meggy is honestly a perfect example without using real names*

The whole family: *corrects me first gently and then progressively more sarcastic like as the drunken misnaming continues*

Me, each and every time: Fuck, I am so sorry, I didn’t mean to do that. That’s genuinely my bad.

My totally chill future sister in law who is also a kindergarten teacher that parties hardy OFF of any social media: Nah, don’t worry about it, my students are worse, and at least you apologized for the mistakes.

Things that happen on Black Friday:

Husbo takes all of his siblings out for breakfast at the local greasy spoon…

Me, to my sister in law’s fiancé: so what do you think about the newest black panther movie and black Adam?

*proceed very interesting discussion on how celebrities effect/affect political demographics and why medical and mechanical insurance can and cannot be more similar *

[postsfromthedark]

still not understanding why Allison was/is so mad at viktor specifically. Like sure he lied - but she never once cared about their mothers anyway. Even before Harlan though they was always really mad at viktor, or annoyed

Is she just mad that viktors becoming important without her? (Even tho half their brothers still don't give a shit abt him). In s1, his role in the family would have been nothing if she didn't try to get the heat off him from his books. Maybe she's mad that he doesn't need her to be a part of the family anymore

[fluffywing-e-tarot]

“Solemnly proclaim that marriage between a man and a Woman is ordained of God and that the family is central to the Creator’s plan for the eternal destiny of His children.”

This sentence at the beginning of The Family a Proclamation to the World has great importance as it tells us the importance of not only Marriage but gender and children. The greatest message that we can receive from this is God our Father knows us and that we are on this Earth because we chose to be here. We want to be glorified and perfected beings, but we have to experience choice by knowing good and evil.

I have come to know that family is central to the plan of god by watching my own parents. Two different people choose to work together as one unit to teach and guide their children. My siblings and I have all had our own struggles, but each has chosen a marriage. I desire a marriage that as time goes by, our love becomes a garden to show Heavenly Father. Though I struggle with my relations with others. A marriage that is sealed with God is what I truly want.

[deardiary17]

Dad came home and brought all of us sweets. Four packets for four children. Yeah, me too. I'm 24, and it's the best thing in the world to receive sweets from your parents as if you're still 10 :D

[nymph1e]

On Discomfort and Morality

My father finds gay men uncomfortable.

He's told me before that it's like a knee-jerk for him. Something he doesn't consciously control. He sees two men behaving romantically, and his body reacts with mild discomfort.

In the 1960s, when he was in high school, most of the boys in his form thought he was gay on the simple fact that he wasn't homophobic. He wouldn't participate in insulting queer people, he didn't care if someone was gay, he wouldn't have a problem hanging out with gay people. So people thought he was gay. That's how prevalent homophobia was in his formative years.

When I was 10, my dad told me very seriously that Holmes and Watson were gay. That it was obvious from the literature and the time period that they were meant to be a gay couple. When I was 14 and I came out to my parents as bi, when my mum was upset my dad ripped into her for it. Told her that she was being stupid, that it was my life to live how I wanted to and that she needed to get over herself.

My dad formed my views on censorship: that being that it was completely ridiculous and thoroughly evil. He didn't believe in censorship of any kind. If I asked him a question about sex, he answered it honestly. When I was 12 and I asked him about homosexuality, still young and uncertain, he told me that there was nothing wrong with it. That it was just how some people were. That there was likely an evolutionary reason for it. And that for some people it was uncomfortable on an instinctual level.

He taught me that just because you're uncomfortable with something, doesn't make it wrong. He also taught me that most people don't understand this.

I see a lot of this on the internet as of the last few years. The anti shipping movement, the terf movement, the anti ace movement. It all stems from discomfort that people have crossed wires into believing means wrong. Really every -ism and -phobia out there stems from this same fundamental aspect of humanity.

The next time you see something and you automatically think it's disgusting, or wrong, or immoral, I invite you to ask yourself: is this actually wrong or does this just make me uncomfortable?

[wearenotjustnumbers2]

This child in gaza is screaming:

"I wish it was a dream. Oh, mom and dad. I wish it was a dream and my mom and dad are still alive" after being rescued from underneath the rubble to find his parents killed by Israel.

Share this, we are not numbers. Let our voices be heard in hopes that this stops.

[jjspina]

Happy Thanksgiving!

[inkskinned]

in internet posts it is easy to cut them out of your life. they are hurting you! they aren't listening to you!

they held your hair back. they lent you lipstick. they held your hand at the train station and got you home safe. they rounded on your bully, got loud, said get fucked, spitting-mad in your defense.

they also cut the hair off again. told you that you should really think twice before wearing something like that. took you for granted. took your insecurities and threw them in your face again.

you know logically it should be easy. all the internet advice comments always read it will feel better. like an equation - if a person is rotten, you just remove them. you pull the tooth that's hurting.

but it was never a big flare-up moment. you don't live in a sitcom. they never tried to take your boyfriend or steal from your apartment. they showed up to birthdays and they wrote songs about you and bring you water without you asking. once you found out they carry an emergency inhaler for you, even though you haven't had an asthma attack in years - just in case.

where is the line? people fuck up. sometimes they fuck up badly. sometimes people have raw personalities, like a powerline, and being around them is dangerous. addicting. sometimes they can't help themselves, but you know they're trying. sometimes they are just rough-around-the-edges. sometimes they don't even realize how they sounded when they said that. sometimes it's just - you've both loved each other for so long now, the way this thing hurts goes back to the root.

and that's the fucked up part. you have pushed your fingers against the sweetheart of memory. things these days are electric, tense, harrowing. they didn't used to be. there were a lot of good days in there. sometimes you want to just close your eyes and say can this be over yet? do we still need to be fighting?

doing that would give up any chance you get of getting an apology, but you don't always know that you need an apology, you love them. once they flaked on your birthday party. once they told you to get over it, people are always dying. they also let you crash on their couch for a week after the breakup, handfeeding you when you were so sad you couldn't eat. they are also judgmental about everything, occasionally react to banal statements with an attitude that is weird and fiery. they also love you like a lighthouse sometimes, so strong they cut the storm like lightning.

but the problem is that you might be storm. you might be the thing that needs breaking. what if you are two forces who are desperately, horribly drawn to each other, shaped by the other person's passions, and both good for each other and bad in equal measure.

what if you're both just people, and you're no saint neither.

just cut them off! swallowing the saltwater, you catch yourself in the mirror. you've been shaking more than usual. there's an ache in you that is oblique, loud, impossible to soothe. is this what it looks like? when life is "easier"?

your mouth will always have a hole, is the thing, if you remove the tooth.

[cassandragemini]

its so crazy that for the last 5 years a small but annoyingly vocal online group has been acting like mob movies of all things are pretentious and inaccessible cinema. yeah the godfather is kinda slow but these are movies about criminals who shoot people

[thetrashiestbaby]

part 2

[silvermoon424]

I'm so fucking sick of amatonormativity dude. Someone on Reddit left a comment that was basically like "the majority of people need a romantic relationship to be happy, it's how we're wired" and I responded saying that I disagreed and that more and more people (especially women) are finding fulfillment in other relationships and are happy being single.

I got heavily downvoted.

Of course most people like being in a committed relationship, but you don't have to be aromantic or asexual to enjoy being single. Maybe more people would like being single if we as a culture stopped pushing the narrative (especially on women) that being single is lonely, horrible, and depressing and that you need a romantic partner to be a complete person.

[kooldewd123]

one of the funniest underrated parts of animorphs to me is the fact that time travel is a surprisingly common plot point, and yet it kinda gets glossed over because it almost never factors into the story in a way that actually matters. like. jake dies crossing the delaware but gets better on a technicality. there were aliens on earth at the same time as the dinosaurs but the asteroid got them too. time travel is a known phenomenon that the andalites have studied, but we don’t actually get any explanation for it because ax was distracted in class that day. everyone went back in time 24 hours and then died and forgot everything. two separate members of the main cast are different varieties of time anomalies and really the only effect it has on them is tobias getting over his family issues. jake is shown a prophetic vision of a world where the yeerks win and we just never get an explanation for what the fuck that was about. every time time travel is brought up, it contradicts at least one other time travel plotline. this is the series that taught me to never take time travel seriously in fiction and i can’t thank it enough for that. this is hilarious.

[kathaynesart]

Language Before/After Kids

Sorry if the humor is a bit crass, but I've witnessed this phenomena so many times with friends who become parents that I could not help but wonder which extreme side of the line these boys fall on.

This is also a bit of a character dive. I kind of like the idea of Leo constantly censoring himself around Casey Junior, because it gives it even more oomph when he says "badass" in the beginning of the movie since it signals that he now views CJ as an adult who he respects, depends on, and can speak with frankly. No censoring needed.

[myrskytuuli]

hnhnhnhnhngghhg I just want Alastor to start being pulled into the Hotel's nonsense more. That stupid attention starved lonely asshole needs to be folded into the cringefail found family against his will.

Alastor being aroace + overpowered + creepy overlord has probably completely solidified in his mind the belief that the only way he can gain human interaction is by being annoying and forcing his presence on other people.

I NEED him to get snapped in half like a twig in some fight and Charlie going nephilim protective mode and bridal carry him back to the hotel like: Oh no our favourite creepy deer boy, we can't have our happy family without our favourite creepy deer! Get loved you idiot.

[favroitecrime]

Palestinian freedom fighters breaking out of Gaza and reclaiming their occupied territories. They’ve taken over israeli tanks and have chased out the settlers that were on that land. They’ve launched rockets everywhere and the iron dome has failed to intercept. This is about to mark a momentous event in history.

From the river to the sea, Palestine will be free.