#genderfluid people as parents

[sarcasticsweetlara]

I really think we should talk about the fact that Tonks being gender fluid does not go against the fact that Tonks later becomes a parent (une mater en español).

As any person who falls in love with someone and married and wanted their own family Tonks was happy with having a child, even if Remus and Tonks struggled in seeing eye to eye they got together in the end and Tonks loved Teddy immensely as any good parent who would sacrifice everything in order for their child to be ok.

[zxal]

boychild of destiny

[t4transsexual]

we need to normalize using certain terms as short hands. theres a lot of ways to stealth and that may include someone medically transitioning to male and telling people hes a trans man, when in reality hes nonbinary or genderfluid or multigender or agender or maybe even just a woman who transitioned, or hes questioning his gender entirely but just knows transitioning and living as a man is the right answer no matter what he is. basically if you thought someone was one thing and they tell you theyre something else actually, even if this was a recent revelation or they were stealthing, believe them

[popcorn-plots]

the pros and cons of my parents knowing I'm pan:

they do support me and it's awesome

i get to point out all the hot girls, gays, and theys and get no judgement

BUT I literally can't do anything with a friend without being questioned like I'm a person of interest in a murder case and I think it's hilarious

"toby, who are you hanging out with?" "uh... just a friend?" "are they a girl or a boy?" "....girl?" "is this a platonic girlfriend date or is it an actual date?" "platonic." "are you sure?" "yes." "are you lying?" "no, this person is literally aro/ace and my best friend--"

but then with guys, she's like "yep, go right ahead. don't have sex but other than that do whatever you want"

like... mother?

[justaz]

im TIRED of reading fics with period typical homophobia 😭😭 i caint do it 😭😭😭 just let them be gay in peace 😭

[punkeropercyjackson]

Ares:Well,well,looks like the little twerp's finally grown up

Percy:Yep.And i'm twice the man you'll ever be

Ares:But i thought you came out as a woman??Poseidon keeps calling you his daughter

Percy:I contain multitudes

[sofastuffing]

I'm not dead

[apollolewis]

It's weird thinking back to when I was younger and realize I was obviously switching between genders. When I was really young I didn't know about being genderfluid or even just being trans. I didn't have much of a concept of gender or even biological sex back then either. I never thought too deeply about it either. People said I was a girl so I went along with it and just acted like I wanted. No concept of gender in my little head, more focused on school. I don't think I ever had moments of consciously questioning my gender until I started puberty, still didn't know what genderfluid was until a few years ago.

[thetardisisnotourdivision]

I can't fucking believe that I procrastinated my gender for like. A good three years.

[cottagecori]

crying into my sparkling apple cider because i thought about my parents aging for more than 10 seconds

[angst-is-yumyum]

I’m boreeeed

When your bored at 2am and you’re getting a little tired of the fixation you’ve been on for months so you go to ao3 to jump back into a specific part of fandom you haven’t been in for half a year:

[airlocksandaviaries]

I think this is a good time to share the fact that when I came out to my parents as genderfluid, my mom hugged me and told me she would always support me. 

My dad just stared at me, and after a beat, said, “do we have to mop you up?”

[larphis]

The crisis continues, I still live with my parents so privacy is pretty much an illusion in many ways.

We have corporate-shit Amazon prime premium so there was never really a reason to make my own account because shipping would just be more expensive, stuff would take longer to arrive and I didn’t mind letting my parents see what I ordered anyways because it was mostly just clothes.

But - I just made my own account because I want to get out of my comfortzone.

I think I will be brave and order myself a binder, just to know what it feels like to wear one and more importantly to know how it makes me feel.

I even considered buying something else you wouldn’t want to buy via your parents’ account but then I thought that would be too much if they DID end up accidentally opening my package before I got my hands on it.

Adult life is scary but I’m trying.

(Originally put this post in the queue to force myself to make a decision asap and I did! I ordered the binder and I’m fucking terrified. So excited and curious too but first and foremost terrified, haha. We’ll see how it goes. Cross your fingers for me, homies!)

[miscellaneoussmp]

Despite its flaws, the qsmp had really good representation, especially for communities often under or misrepresented in popular media.

There were a decent amount of genderfluid/genderqueer/nonbinary characters, mostly through the Eggs/Federation Employees/Other NPCs, but there were players like Maxo and Mike who use mutliple sets of pronouns. Pepito had no pronouns in English but preferred masculine pronouns/terms in Spanish. Most people referred to Richas with masculine terms, yet Pac and Mike affectionately referred to Richas as their daughter multiple times. Leo and JuanaFlippa openly had name and pronoun changes to reflect their gender identities. There was even discussion of preferred names with Lullah, who, as far as canon goes, is a cis character. There were openly accepted instances of cross dressing, that weren't even made into a big deal. Famously Mariana and Foolish, both masculine characters, are referred to with feminine terms. Mariana is referred to as Charlie Slimecicle's wife, and Foolish is referred to as grandma by both Richas and Pepito.

There were multiple aspec characters and multiple instances of queerplatonic/ambiguous relationships. Jaiden was very openly aroace. Her and Roier said they were partners. Cellbit came out as ace because he was worried that Roier wouldn't find their relationships fulfilling without sex. Roier responded that sex didn't matter to him in their marriage. Pac and Mike, who canonically share a soul, never defined their relationship and went with whatever people called them even if that defining word was boyfriends, despite Mike being aroace. Also, Mike had a nontraditional relationship in his relationship with Mine. Their relationship being that of goddess and devotee. Maxo openly had sex with Pierre while being an ace character. Empanada was an openly ace child character, and that was very accepted. Not to mention all the characters who could be interpreted as some form as aspec.

Qsmp also showed off many different forms of families. Platonic co-parenting basically defined the qsmp as we know it. Single fatherhood defined both Bad and Fit as characters and showed them having healthy relationships with their children. The rocky relationships of Charlie Slimecicle and Mariana and Maxo and Pierre were treated as serious parts of their stories despite the silliness also present in their relationships.

Sorry for the rambling, I just think that the qsmp is praised for its representation of queer relationships without mentioning its other forms of representation.

[neil-gaiman]

Hello Mr. Gaiman,

This is a really random question, but i can't ask my parents so why not ask Neil Gaiman I guess. As a result of more anti-trans bills spreading across the U.S. and all of the transphobes in my part of Michigan, my school system has decided to fire any teacher that uses a child's chosen name if it is not directly put into the record by their parents. Im personally genderfluid and transmasc with amazing teachers who had been calling me my chosen name but i dont want them fired and obviously they need their jobs. So that leaves trans kids like myself with abusive and unsupportive parents or something along those lines absolutely fucked. Its very painful to say the least. But there is a slight loop hole, you can go by a nickname as long as it relates to your name on the records they have. So I was wondering, is there any sort of masculine or androgynous sounding nickname you could think of any of these names:

Mayzie

Jean

Christine

I'm actually really bad at naming things so yeah. Any nickname at all besides the name Chris, I hate that name. Not including my last name cuz the internet is weird.

Thank you so much!

P.S. you really fucked me over with the good omens finale, i just finished it today. My queer young heart hurts. But it was so good.

You can pronounce "Jean" in the French way, as a John with a softer J sound. Or make it Gene.

Maze is an androgynous sort of a name that sounds a bit science fictional, a bit fantasy.

And I bet people in the notes will have ideas.

[astrxealis]

friend of a friend who i think is also my friend has a bf and i'm like woa when is it my turn