#how to life

[asarajaa]

How do people life? Like, really, how? How you decided which career to chose between all of them? How do you chose the person you want to get married with? How do you know you want to get married in the first place? Children? You wanna stay here? Run away? How do you start living and not surviving? How do you keep going and why are you? How can you believe in God? How can't you? Why?

I want to start living, not surviving. Want to see the world, want to meet Jesus, want to apologize, want to marry and have kids but also want to live alone in new york and Colombia. There's so much to do and so little time.

How do you life? How do you decide to leave? How do you decide to stay? How do you come to the conclusion that you have lived before your death? That you have made the most of it and you have no regrets or that you do?

How? How? How?

How do I life? And why should I?

[you-were-meteowrong]

Let me tell you about Do Things Days

So I've always seen things about how useful it is for people with ADHD to "gameify" life, and ive tried those apps and things and they never seemed to work? Turns out, i just needed my own game! So here it is:

Every other day is Do Things Day (happy do things day!). You do Things™ on Do Things Day. You should be doing at least 1 (one) Thing™ on Do Things Day. The day ends at five in the afternoon (unless it doesnt, then it doesnt) If you do a Thing™ on a Not Do Things Day, then huzzah! You can bank this as a point to skip a Do Things Day in the future! There can only be three banked skips max at a time.

The day after a Do Things Day is ALWAYS a Not Do Things Day, thats the reward.

If you do more than 1 (one) Thing™ on a Not Do Things Day, congrate! You've found a Hidden Do Things Day! Tomorrow is now Not Do Things Day.

What counts as a Thing™? I dont know, really! If it feels like a Thing™, then it is. Sometimes i just do things and those dont count because they're just things. For me, laundry is always a Thing™, but like cleaning my room is not a Thing™. Or sometimes it is! Right now it doesnt feel like a Thing™ but its been one before. Work and school are not Things™ for me because it must always be done (woe)

Also To Do Lists are ILLEGAL. There is no such thing. It's called a Do Things Menu. If you don't know what Thing™ to do on Do Things Day, pick the most yummy Thing™ on the Do Things Menu!

anyways thats it im super proud of myself for coming up with this

[1mnobodywhoareyou]

i think we need to start assuming more people know less things.

not in a condescending way.

but in a "granting more grace because this isn't actually common knowledge and nobody taught them" way.

teenagers become adults with the knowledge offered to them (and children become teenagers the same way)

people enter fandom from nothing

people join new social media all the time

older adults re-enter a workforce after years away

people move to new towns, states/provinces, countries on the regular

etc etc etc

none of these things come with instruction guides and almost everyone is trying to piece together the "rules" as they go.

what's common knowledge to *you* isn't common knowledge period.

and those people who ask "stupid questions"? they're brave as fuck. and people whose literal job it is to answer them need to stop being horrible about receiving them.

(fwiw, i'm speaking as much to myself as i am to anyone else)

[nxchtmxhr]

someone please tell me how i become a stoic yedi guru ascended being who is capable of maintaining healthy self esteem completely regardless of what people say and who is able to take any criticism in insult in stride

[texasdreamer01]

#the more unrelated and unassociated adults you hang out with as a young person #the better protected you are from grooming too #because its unlikely all of them will protect one if they start being creepy #it'll also give you a framework for when an adult is being inappropriate with you (x)

it’s so important for your health to regularly interact with people at least a decade older than you who aren’t family, especially as a young person.

When my 45 year old teammate gives me advice on mental health and I know she understands because she’s had a tough adult life.

When my 32 year old friend tells me his life started improving for the first time the year she turned 30.

When the 60 year old man at the soup kitchen gives me permission to grieve by telling me I’m ‘just a baby’ with only gentleness in his voice.

It’s so much easier to abandon and break out from the cultural idealisation of youth when you surround yourself with wonderful people in all stages of their lives.

[drumlincountry]

If your life is horrible and you need a new source of meaning and direction.... Do NOT find religion. Learn to identify plants.

[snaxle]

I DONT WANNA PAY BILLS I WANNA USE MY MONEY FOR FOOD AND LIL GIFTS FOR MYSELF AND MY LOVED ONES

[icewindandboringhorror]

(also feel free in the tags to clarify Why you made the choice you made!! :0c)

[icyfreedom]

I hope people know the story of Emil Ferris, the writer and artist of My Favorite Thing Is Monsters. There is a great video on her called "How this 55-year-old's first comic made over $5,000,000" by matttt.

At the end, the video shows one of her onstage interviews where she addresses the audience and says, "There are things you want to do in life that you are not sure you can do and I am here to tell you, not only can you but I will come to your house and kill you if you don't do it." For the briefest of moments in her voice, I know she is telling the truth.

"No one wants to see art of ocs" If I dont see art of peoples ocs at least once a day I DIE. Do you want that to happen? Do you want me to DIE? Draw your ocs.

[nosongunsung11]

collection of posts for a very specific dynamic

[texasdreamer01]

#some actual advice as someone with this problem #is to look the person in the face and repeat their name five times in your head every time you talk to them for the first few times you meet #i often find i forget names because I get anxious about the conversation and I'm focusing on that #but if i consciously set aside some focus for the name it sticks a lot better #still bad at faces-i just dont have a visual memory-but a general shape/figure for the entire person tends to stick in my memory faster (x)

people are always like “i have face blindness but i’m good with names” or “im terrible with names but i never forget a face” well baby idk how to tell u this but i am . bad at both.

[batcavescolony]

the difference between Haymitch and Katniss's narration is so funny. Haymitch would give us everyone's social security number if he knew them, while Katniss wouldn't even tell us her mom's name.

[strongintherealgay]

You don't have to like weed but I find people who are vehemently anti-weed but claim to be left leaning infuriating. If you go into a rage because you smelled someone smoking pot, how the fuck do you expect to form community with people addicted to meth? It's easier to say you hate smokers than to say you hate all drug users in leftist spaces because one makes you sound a bit like a square while the other is the writing on the wall. You aren't anti-weed, you're anti-drug user and anyone who uses substances is not safe around you.

EDIT: Glad to see this post take off. Ironically I've not been able to smoke for almost 4 months because of an injury that landed me in a nursing home. Please help me keep the apartment I am trying to get well enough to move back to.

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Finally caught up with Apothecary Diaries. I can't believe they gave Maomao a gun.

[thefangirl-16-blog]

WHO WILL WIN