#i am also trans and genderfluid

[octopus-defence-squad]

SO. I have opinions on this from time playing and also time coaching. I am 5'10 and built sturdy. I played volleyball and was naturally better than a lot of kids by sheer fact that I was always tall and volleyball is a sport where height gives an advantage. I beat a lot of boys I played against for fun because I was taller than them and more skilled, due to years of playing and practice and clinics.

I also coached both boys and coed teams for elementary and middle schoolers. There were frequently complaints in that league about the unfairness of boys playing with girls.

HOWEVER I remember from my time playing at that level the same arguments happening about girls that were "too tall" or who played club or who otherwise were better than the others on the court. Of the kids I coached, there were quite a few girls who were at the same level as or better than the boys, and quite a few boys who (kindly) sucked ass at the sport.

But because volleyball is gendered as a "female" sport more often, and because there are very few opportunities for boys to play competitively (one option was a club that I played at, where I was bullied with the permission of my coach and which was Horrible, the other was in a different state and over an hour away), the boys that wanted to play tended to be good (because those who weren't would drop it), motivated enough to play in a sport which doesn't have strong support for boy players, and they didn't have options other than the coed league.

I will admit that part of it was likely due to my co-coach and I being strong coaches (most were parent volunteers who hadn't played in years) who had coached many of these boys for years. We often had either the only or the most boys on our team of any in the league.

But there was selection bias there. The boys looked stronger than the girls because the audience ignored W, who was a lovely kid but very weak. They ignored C, who was quite average. They ignored all the girls who played club and could also overhand serve, who were half a foot taller than any of my boys, because those were girls.

When I coached only boys, our games were 45 minutes away, rather than 7. Our area had 3 teams of boys (with quite a lot of variation in their skill sets) which is a lot more than there were when I was that level, but isn't enough to form a league.

I taught an equal number of boys and girls how to jump serve. I taught an equal number of boys and girls how to pass without the ball going wildly out of bounds. ESPECIALLY at a younger level, experience, size, and passion matter far more than anything else, much less gender.

People just don't like to admit that sex matters less than they want it to.

crazy that in the 1970s they were like, "fine, women can play sports. but because they're innately less athletic than men, only in a special ghettoized League For The Frail And Delicate where they get paid less 😊". And not only is that still the system in 2023, but viciously lashing out at the smallest challenges to that system gets framed as Feminist Praxis

[joejoeba]

i dont generally dabble in gender stuff since I just frankly dont really care but i want to imagine Mista is the only cis person in the gang and he has no idea

[beanghostprincess]

Finding hilariously ironic how most of Sanji's perv jokes end up being extremely trans-coded to some extent only because the joke is longer than it should be.

The "guy with a woman's body" joke has been a thing for ages now, but it usually ends after the "haha I have booobs" joke. Sanji extends it to "I want to stay in this body forever. It feels right. I don't want to give it back". Which could still be read as some perverted stuff, but I don't think any man would agree with that. No matter how much of a pervert he is. Because usually being perceived as a woman is something they refuse to go through although they like being in possession sexually of a woman's body (a type of excitement Sanji actually shows, not by being that much aroused by it but being comfortable with it? Which is... A different approach to the joke).

Sanji has made the typical "going into the girl's changing room/bathroom" joke a couple of times, but in Egghead he goes all the way to be extremely frustrated about not being able to do so? And it is obviously different than wanting to keep Nami's body forever. It can still be seen as frustration for not being able to see girls naked. But. But. The fact that the length of the joke increases? The fact that it's way longer than it should be for an average "haha boobs" joke? You know what I mean.

Not to mention his whole arc during the time-skip and how a simple (both transphobic and misogynistic, by the way) joke, goes all the way to show us that Sanji is indeed comfortable in more feminine clothes and environment, until he's pretty much forced to snap out of his fantasy to go back to the crew. But he wasn't having a bad time at all. And it is intended to be a joke, but it's... Longer than it should be to be considered only a joke and to not pay attention to it.

This isn't meant to be an analysis of any kind because if it were I would've worded it differently and would've mentioned how his childhood is also extremely trans-coded, but we all already know that. I just find it extremely funny how all of these jokes that intend to be directed at straight perv men are actually too long to not be taken into consideration as something deeper than a joke. But, aha, yeah, these are just jokes and definitely not proof of Sanji's perception of gender and his issues with it.

[saedyne]

thinking of refining my gender. making it weirder. giving it some more tasting notes. like we're at ribena right now and i'm shooting for red wine that'd pair nicely with a good stew

[littlesapphicraccoonguy]

Do y’all ever see a male character you love and relate to and just go:

[verdantvain]

My therapist just told me, "If gender If was a flavour, you'd be a kitkat sold in Japan." What does that mean for me?

[princeturnedpauper]

Straw Hat LGBT+ headcanons YIPEEEE!!!!!

Luffy - aromantic asexual

Zoro - mlm (gay) demisexual

Nami - transgender (mtf) lesbian

Usopp - transgender (ftm) pansexual/romantic

Sanji - genderfluid bisexual

Chopper - pansexual/romantic

Robin - transgender (mtf) bisexual

[normal-about-charcters]

i have a fanfic/universe rewrite in my head of a transformers series and if I ever hunker down and work on it these two will be irrevocably linked together in my head for it

[chainedspectre]

proving something to one particular friend.

[drsantosgf]

literally nothing will stop me from calling good omens gay "but they're not human!" i do not care "but the lore!" i do not care "but neil gaiman said!" i do not care. those bitches are gay what are you gonna do? call a cop? vague post? cope

[technomanceer]

can a country boy really be a transmasc demigirl...........

[stormratyaps]

I started yapping but it turned into a vent - here's the short(er) version

just saw another genderfluid tiktok that really resonated, about how you'll constantly think you're faking it, thinking 'oh im just cis' 'oh im just binary trans' ... and the fear of other people thinking I'm cis and invalidating my gender is really big for me, so much so that like,, I am a girl right now, but I don't feel like that's allowed as a trans identifying person (because its my agab), and it's lowkey giving me gender dysphoria. But then I'm like wait gender dysphoria?? About my agab?? that doesn't sound like a thing. It's so confusing

[woodlandstarz13]

guys i missed it :( i missed one of the few days of the year that i’m visible.. my essence is fading.. it was nice knowing you guys

[inu-sunset]

inuyasha is like that knuckles comic where when kagome clocks his faggergie egg aura and asks him what his pronouns are he’s like stop cursing at me

[justaz]

im TIRED of reading fics with period typical homophobia 😭😭 i caint do it 😭😭😭 just let them be gay in peace 😭

[major-fukkup]

So, I've been looking for a way to say this, but I guess the easiest way is to just say it. I might be trans. I haven't fully figured it out yet but I know that ever since I can remember I've always hated my female body, wished I was a boy, and she/her never sounded right for me even before I knew using different pronouns was an actual thing you could do. There's a good chance that all of this was learned from my biological mom liking my four older brothers better than me, but anyway, these things are why...

I ordered a chest binder and it's supposed to come this Sunday.

Now, this is a thing I've been wanting for literal years. It wasn't that expensive, though it's true for many of those years I wouldn't have been able to afford it. Mostly I've just been scared to try it.

What if it doesn't help? What if it doesn't make me feel any different?

I already legally changed my name, which I am overjoyed with BUT I thought once I break away from the old identities I was forced to have, things would get better. They haven't. I still hate seeing my body in the mirror. My face too, but there's not really anything I can do about that. I think I might hate it less if I don't hate the rest of me.

Anyway I'm hoping that once I become the me I want to be, I can be happy with being me.