#i hate using that word

[tadpoledancer]

I know I might come off as a proshipper from how I talk about purity culture in fandom a lot. I'm not.

I refuse to side with people who defend content that is undeniably rooted in pedophilia, such as loli and shotacon. the "fiction doesn't affect reality" argument isn't true- sexual content involving characters that are purposefully meant to represent children is morally reprehensible and it is just plain wrong to act like it isn't. it isn't normal to think characters that obviously look like toddlers is hot. it's not normal to think incest is hot. I have accepted that this content will always exist, whether I like it or not. but I am not a proshipper.

but I'm not an anti, either. fiction affects reality- but not in the ways antis claim it does. it's not 1:1. not all characters that are assigned an age by their creators look or act like a real person that age. part 3 Jotaro Kujo looks like a brickhouse on steroids, but he is canonically 17 for plot convenience. to call people who find him attractive pedophiles would be disingenuous because no real child looks like that. antis hyperfocus on the numerical age rather than what they should focus on, which is their visual and behavioral age.

I am not an anti because they have shown time and time again to not give a singular fuck about real, living human beings. I would rather shit in my hands and clap than associate myself with the people who I have witnessed on repeated instances harassing, threatening, suicide baiting, and doxxing real victims of child sexual assault that disagreed with them or used dark fiction to relieve their trauma. the antishipping community has never been about helping victims. every single day that very community proves I'm right in thinking that they do all this bullshit for the sake or their egos.

I refuse to take either side. nobody in either community has critical thinking skills and I refuse to be lumped in with them and their "cause."

[theotherbuckley]

incorrect tweets pt 17/?

[cangrellesteponme]

wife

[sainztander]

monza gp 2024 | sky sport italia

[choccy-milky]

the place me and my roommate were supposed to move into today was so disgusting and uninhabitable we just took our stuff and left and now we're gonna be staying at airbnbs and hotels until further notice/until we can find a new place hopefully quickly...........im in my homeless drifter era y'all!!!😍😍so if im not as active then thats why LMFAO

1 like = 1 prayer

[vampyfrnk]

happy birthday ray toro! - july 15th, 1977

[knifearo]

i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as a binary i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as a sliding scale of "less" to "more" i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as the only two options i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as significantly different things i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as all encompassing i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as the two halves of a shallow concept of love that doesn't actually encompass anything at all i think we need to overhaul every popular conception about "types" of love so we can talk about things that are real and true for once

[deuteragonist1]

Merthur really have it all huh. King and lionheart dynamic. Fucking hate at first sight then speedrun to trying to die for the other. Slow burn? Never heard of her. One of them wears gloves and one doesn't and I'm not even gonna bother to explain why that is top fucking tier. Lies and secrets that could bring about the doom of the kingdom. Obviously adore each other but will actually fucking die before saying it with actual words. The prince is a gigantic asshole who doesn't know how to show care or ask for attention like a person who had healthy emotional development as a child and oscillates between pulling pigtails and acting like an over-eager puppy or both at the same time. Domesticity levels previously unheard of. They canonically wear each other's clothes. One of them makes up words and the other promptly starts using them. Both are extremely into the other's specific brand of dumbassery. Their love language is fucking playing together. "I don't want you to change" fuck this fuck everything

[yanderespamton78]

AJDJSOAJW I MADE MY SPAMTON PLUSH THE DEFRAG OUTFIT

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

I'm so normal. About. This comicc

Yes

Defragmentation by @zarla-s go read it if you haven't rjkwsjdkdhkash

[mossy-aro]

ultimately i think my insistence on aro positivity honestly is as much a political stance as a personal one.

when i say aro positivity is crucial and that i dislike doomer-ist posts that express sentiments like 'I hate being aro so much I wish I was dead instead’ it's not because I don’t think there can and should be a space for negativity and acknowledging self-hate, or the many ways being aromantic can really suck sometimes. i find that to be very important!

that being said. there is smth here about how self-hate posts are sometimes just arophobia that we inflict on ourselves. and when we put that out into the ether it (intentionally or not) can become arophobia that we inflict on other members of the community. i think there absolutely needs to be a place for negativity and the expression of anger and frustration and self loathing even - these are all good things to talk about because these are things that we experience. that being said, it can also be genuinely upsetting and triggering to people to have what is essentially arophobia shown to them and then have that be validated by other aspec people. your personal thoughts can affect your wider community on a level you may not anticipate. and i understand it i truly do! it took me so long to be able to recover from accepting being aroace - it threw my entire world off kilter and made me question everything about my place in the world.

but my insistence on aro joy and positivity is because ultimately i do believe that building is at the core essence of it all. that ultimately discussions and the purpose of community should be about construction, not destruction. and this is both a personal and a political stance. talking about how much you hate yourself and cultivating online discussions/spaces where negativity about aspec identity is the main and only theme is destructive - if that’s where we let the conversation end. these thoughts can and should be used as a vehicle to look for a path forward!

joy and positivity create a space where the focus can become on forging a path forward, on construction, on community building instead of tearing ourselves and others down with negative thoughts. it’s not productive or healthy when it stops at a place of negativity - it becomes actively destructive to the essence of community.

and i do think that this is especially poignant considering the fact that being any kind of queer, but especially aromantic (and/or asexual) means forging a path for yourself and making your own happiness where there is no obvious way forward. our communities exist mostly online (right now, anyway), there is little recognition of our existence in the real world, the effects of amatonormativity are both pervasive and actively dehumanising, and there are legal, economic and social structures in place actively making our lives more difficult. yes that all sucks! it’s good to acknowledge that. we need to in order to change it. but more importantly, that’s not the end. we are still here and our happiness, our future is for us to determine. even if we can’t change the laws or society, loving yourself and understanding aromanticism as a political identity (as well as personal), as a radical worldview, and as a protest against amatonormativity is essential for both community and personal well being. the personal is political.

tldr. i guess my point is that as a community, we should focus on building, improving, and nurturing ourselves and each other (construction) as opposed to destruction. we should recognise aromanticism and asexuality as political identities as well as personal ones and rely on community and self-love in the absence of anything else as a form of protest and political power. destruction (the recognition of everything that is wrong) is essential as a starting point - but where do we go from there? we rebuild.

[wigglebox]

Supernatural September - Day 2 | Identity

[elfcollector]

DRAGON AGE: ORIGINS (2009) — developed by bioware.

[toytulini]

listen im ace and im pro kink at pride and whatever, but the way some of yall are wording your posts in response to the backlash against it is uh. really taking me back to the ace shitcourse era.

yall know theres nothing wrong with being a "virgin", right? that its not inherently shameful to have not had sex, to never have sex, even if youre not ace, even if you do want to have sex someday, like, its fine that you haven't had sex?

maybe if your problem is that theyre trying to police your behavior and shame you for expressing your sexuality, you can say that? instead of resorting to "haha stupid virgin gets no bitches" like my god. do you not hear how fucking regressive that attitude is? i know, i know, youre "joking".

get a better joke

[thewiglesswonder]

I cannot believe that a cornerstone of the plot of The Owl House rests on the fact that Evelyn Clawthorne fucked Caleb Wittebane so good that it's still causing problems 400 years later.

[severalowls]

Continually blown away by that post that's like "dumb europeans don't realise most of the world regularly on 16 hour road trips" like idk, India and China don't also have extremely extensive public transport networks and that no, the personal-car-highway-centric-drive-across-the-country-regularly thing IS in fact a very American Thing. Even in large countries where there isn't a massive rail network, people heading to another city or region several days travel away are probably getting a bus.

The OP being sanctimonious about this is, of course, Californian.

[ardate]

Every Boromir hater makes my enormous love for him grow stronger. Sorry you couldn't understand him, I get him tho and we're holding hands and the whole of Gondor is laughing at you