#i honestly can't judge him tbh because even knowing that it's not gonna be useful in any way that's probably how i'd react too

[thesmokinpossum]

No but seriously, I'm fully aware that beating the shit out of an abuser without their victim explicit consent is not going to help said victim in any way and I'm also aware that in the context of The Godfather it's also yet another example of a profundly patriarcal society/culture in which women are seen as extention of their family and where slights against them are therefore considered a slight against their male relatives but like…That scene were Sonny beat the absolute shit out of Connie's piece of trash husband is honestly one of my absolute favorite moment in cinema history, I'm cheering and clapping everytime like fuck yeah Sonny, bite this motherfucker!

[phoenix-before-the-flame]

You have awakened a hyperfixation that has been long dormant. It requires Natsu headcannons for nutrition (please, and thank you very much kind person)

Ah but of course. Would I even be Phoenix if I couldn't even oblige a comrade with Natsu headcanons

Always has something flammable on him. Packs of matches, lighters in his pockets, sparklers in his bags, etc. He's always gotta have something on him for snacking purposes when he's traveling. This also, incidentally, is a reason why no one likes having him near their kitchens because they know he's gonna swipe their matches/lighters.

Doesn't like reading much despite how much he loves stories. He gets why other people like it but it's just not for him. There's just not enough in there to catch his whole attention. He'd much rather listen to someone narrating a story to him than try to force himself to read it. This is the basis of how Natsu and Levy started hanging out as kids, she'd read some of her books aloud and he was her most avid listener.

Is unintentionally snobby towards other fire wizards. He's not even doing it on purpose! It's just if you use fire magic within his vicinity he will judge the quality of the flames, heat intensity, overall control, etc. It's even worse if he eats it and doesn't like it.

A lot more reliant on his senses compared to the other slayers, especially his sense of smell. Every new thing he encounters has to pass a sniff test first. He does this with people too but tries to not let it be too obvious (kept gettin too many complaints but he doesn't always remember). Flip side though is that he can get easily overwhelmed by smells that are too strong :(

Adrenaline junkie. Much to the annoyance of his friends. If he doesn't do anything that'll guarantee him a head rush he'll explode.

Absolutely despises anything touching his neck that isn't his scarf. He hates anything that touches his neck (and by proxy, the scar on it). It is an absolute no no zone for for anyone or anything to touch.

People fucking hate fighting him because he is all over the damn place. He's slippery, he keeps dropping to all fours like some freak. Can't let him get too close cause he bit someone a few minutes and they dunno if he's willing to sink his teeth into another person. Plus there's something in his eyes that makes people uncomfortable cause no one should look that excited while bleeding and fending off a hoard of bad guys.(In a normal sanctioned fight like GMG or something official he will not bite, he can hold back for that. Outside fights he's playing by his own rules though)

Started his collection of souvenirs from each mission as a way to tell Igneel about everything he's done over the year while he was gone. Stopped a lil bit after Igneel's passing but picked it back up again down the line. Maybe not as meticulous about it as before but it's a hobby he still keeps up.

Ambidextrous but favours his right for a lot of things. Still doesn't get why it's a big deal to people that he is tbh.

He could literally watch Happy stab someone but would still defend Happy without question and with his last breath. 'Oh? My lil buddy stabbed you? Well what'd you do to piss him off huh? He wouldn't do that just cause. Obviously you did something that made him defend himself! What were you tryna do to him huh?!' It's why Happy's so smug, he knows he can get away with almost anything cause of Natsu.

Had severe Tony Hawk syndrome before GMG and his face got known enough for people to finally be able to put a face with his nickname 'Salamander', which honestly he kinda misses. Sure free stuff is nice, and meeting new people but he could do without people always hounding him sometimes :/

Does not know how to tie shoelaces and never will. You can't make him.

[blueshirts-system]

How much I enjoyed the world tour songs (heavy spoilers)

Come Fly with us: originally didn't like it too much, but I'm more fond on a rewatch

Lovin Time and Rowing Time: neutral except for I think it's amusing when it sounds like Courtney says fuck in the most attention grabbing way

Before we die: I like this song a lot! It's fun! Love this cast ensemble style here everybody gets to say something neat

Stuck to a Pole: unironically love this song, it's so cool. The way we got here wasn't the best but I'm not ranking these on that. Bridgette getting to sing more of a... I don't know genres. Rock? Power Ballad? An angrier sounding song is cool.

What's not to Love: What's not to love? What's not to love? What's not to loooooveeee ABOUT NEW YORKKKKKKKK This song gets special points because the trio of Leshawna DJ and Lindsay are intact here and I love watching them

Baby: I like this song, and so does my bestie tbh. It's super fun to sing =D

I'm Sorry: It's decent? I like Bridgette and I like her singing. But this one is more personally eh for me. Love making jokes about Bridgette's apology video though

Eine Klein: Keeeep it down, so I can win the loot. I can't wait til you're voted out for being such a lout. Wait something's itching in my brain. She remembers me! =D A LOT of good fun moments in this song. It's kind of messy composition wise but who cares remembering makes me smile

[Slur] Rap: Honestly I don't even remember most of this song. It's decent to watch but definitely one of the less enjoyable ones

Paris in the Springtime: I love Paris in the springtime! Je t'amie in the fall. Okay I know I said I wasn't judging how we got here but it's literally interwoven with the text of the song. She's making Cody apologize?? Because she's upset he's upset about her stalking??? What. This plot is stupid. And then she was allegedly faking being upset the whole time according to her confessional. The positives are I do love the tune and pacing of this song, and Sierra jumping from painting to painting is super cool.

Sea Shanty Mix: I don't remember much about this song, but some bits of it are cool? Dance a jig with my partner he's irish. I can't get a thing to bite so we better get there first. Notable for being the last song Izzy participates in.

Oh My Izzy: I like this song! It's super cute. I love the way it shifts into a more scribbly fantasy style because it's Owen describing this song, and then all the different Izzy's and the almost dream logic of this world is great! Also Gwen's here singing back up and I like that. Weird because Owen was intending to break up with Izzy earlier. Notable for being the closing note on most of Izzy's story and for Gwen and Owen interacting again.

Save this show: it's decent? Honorable mention goes out to they can't even ja-party because everybody else loves that line

Sisters: well it's a Leshawna song so it gets points. Her dissing Alejandro has some memorable lines. Overall not too interested in this one, and it's a bit soured because they think her dancing sucks.

Changing the guard: Ella sang this song during her flash mob. Anyways. I love this song! It's soooo fun guys. If we're gonna find that clue, there's only one thing to doooo. Force someone to strip him down and Tyler dude that's you! ...and I'm allergic to uniformmmms. Hey buddy. Can we bribe you. To strip yourself doooooooowwwwnn. Honestly I kind of get the Noah and Owen love in this scene specifically, they're so fun bouncing off each other and being weirdly in sync with their rock paper scissors.

Greek Mix: Lot of fun, soured by being the gwuncan plotline. This kind of song is really neat and the very specific statues are funny to me. Also the pain the pain too much to explain. Thanks boar-bear I guess I win this gaaaaaame. Her ass did not help him at all.

Boyfriend kisser: I don't care for this song.

Shear the sheep: I mostly remember this one for it's part in a mashup, I don't care about it otherwise

We Built Gwen's Face: Ehh. I don't get it. The outfits are almost cool though, would have been neat if Owen's fit him a bit better.

Her Real Name isn't Blaineley: it's fine? Honestly I considered it a bit overboard. Mostly interesting for it's Geoff characterization that I'm trying to incorporate and because it's part of the very little we get to see of Blaineley

Blainerific: I actually like this a lot more than the previous song! =) It's fun to sing and I enjoy how on board Owen is with this. Interesting that we got the hype up intro song after the "she sucks" song

A Chinese Lesson: not much to say here, this one mostly exists for the plot and isn't too memorable. Plus yikes on Chris' outfit, he should not be playing dressup like that with other cultures' stuff

Wake Up: It's a beautiful dayyy. In the serengeti. The perfect time, to catch a pup. I'll find that Zeke, and then I'll catch him. As soon! As my legs wake up! I like this one it's neato. Kinda funky with the remaining cast participating and I like the style.

Condor: at this point in my watch I was scratching at the walls to be let out because I wasn't enjoying the final four very much. Not too much against this song though it's fine.

This is how we will end it: I like this one a fair bit! The puppet show is great, and then we got Heather arguing back and turning it into a duet, and then we got the slow turn from it's starting premise to it's end. Very fun that Heather is stuck behind the screen and we can only see her upper body because she'd under a boulder. Alejandro using puppets to acknowledge what he's done to Bridgette, Leshawna, and Courtney is fun and fitting for him. Not the biggest fan of how these contestants (specifically female contestants as well) had their stories thrown into a lake to prop Alejandro up, but this moment almost makes it worth it. The only way Heather gets out of this situation is by acknowledging a) Alejandro and her are rivals and equals, worthy competition b) turning that back on him, appealing to the sense of almost fair play Alejandro has. Putting herself on his level. (Literally. The theater is Alejandro only at first until she walks up to stand face to face with him.) Later on the volcano she rejects him, preferring to have the money and the cheers of the rest of the cast. I don't know if she felt that way here, if she truly considered Alejandro her equal in a way nobody else has been or not, but she was at least pretending in a way that was at least partially true. They fascinate me because they don't even like each other. Also Alejandro gets to sing duet with himself here that's neat.

Who you gonna root for: It's fine. I don't dislike it but I don't really like it either.

I'm winning this: I'm winning for real! Yeah Yeah! I'm winning this game! Super fun visuals, and it's cool because Courtney is portrayed as a protagonist and the story is almost behind her for once, which hasn't happened since like the halfway point of this season. I think it's interesting that Courtney is still rooting for Alejandro even though he caused her elimination. Alejandro+Courtney situationship likers we stay winning. The thing about Courtney is that she's much more of an Alejandro parallel than a Heather parallel. (At least in world tour and part of action. In island she was more a Bridgette foil I think.)

I'm gonna make it: And you can't stop me now! You are the worst, why must you torment me? It's a game to you but not to meee. (Heather!) Cody and Sierra are still here and I don't care for that, but this is perhaps my favorite moments with them so I like that. Heather and Alejandro angrily dancing on the train is obviously good, and then Cody singing about how he's no movie star in a cool way won him points from me.

Versus: shakes this song. shakes it between my teeth. hrggghhg... Versus Good.

Okay so. First of all there's obviously the theming of Heather and Alejandro as gods, towering about the mortal helpers. Very neat that they are also the ones with less power in this situation though, only able to yell in the form of lightning bolts. (But also they look so cool here! I love the super exaggerated colors!!) Their helpers are the ones actually able to do shit with the power in this situation, which Courtney tries to leverage by bargaining for a cut of the money. (Alecourt situationship win.) And actually let me get at who those helpers are!

Heather had her pick of the contestants, being last minute wayyy more popular than Alejandro. And she gets... Harold and Cody. Why. I mean Cody finished third so for narrative reasons she's obliged to have him, and he's enthusiastic about helping at least, but really? Heather wouldn't have gone for someone more generally competent when she's really pragmatic? Without going back and looking at the footage I'm guessing that perhaps Heather considers him not too useless by virtue of hanging out months on end, and he did volunteer.

Harold makes more sense. Yes he's a nerd and not the most optimal choice for this specific challenge, but he's generally pretty competent and could have a relevant skill, considering they didn't know the challenge yet. Also again he volunteered. Notably a team victory member.

But who I actually want to talk about is the other pair! Ooh baby I am vibrating at the speed of light about them.

Lindsay. Hi Lindsay. I like her so much. And like, of course she'd volunteer to help Alejandro. It's not about Alejandro at all, it's about Heather! Lindsay has not forgotten and she has not forgiven, even in the context of a season where Heather's the hero, and I think it's really neat we get all that without her saying a word. Alejandro helped dissolve Lindsay's team, targeting both DJ and Leshawna, and she knows he's bad news. She still doesn't care though. Team Victory? That's recent stuff. Heather is formative. In this, as with several other things, Heather's pull on the story is simply much greater than Alejandro's. God Lindsay is so cool.

Courtney is comparatively more simple: she's still working with Alejandro. To Courtney, she never truly left the game. She still likes Alejandro despite it all, even if she never had a crush on him. She doesn't care about Heather, she's doing this to help out one of the few positive connections she has, and for her competitive streak, and she gets to talk to Alejandro although in a distant way. She's bargaining with him, and does manage to extract a promise of "I'll pay you back somehow." And now for the secret team reveal! Courtney is a former member of the amazons, as is Heather and Cody. Lindsay and Harold are both from team victory. Only Alejandro is from Team Chris, as he stands atop his volcano, a god and alone.

I realize this isn't much about the song being musical, but I don't really care XD. This is all part of the song too, woven in part in parcel, and it heightens my enjoyment of it. But make no mistake, I love that part too! This song is really fun to listen to and watch. I love the overblown visuals and sheer sense of scale involved, this is a really great way to get you adjusted to the finale. The imagery of the helpers struggling to push giant parts is great. It's like ants. Loooove the lightning bolts that is so cool. And obviously they're both in volcanos when they're about to climb one. I love autotune because I like robots a lot and autotune reminds me of that =D That's it. You're doing greeeaaaat. Bring me logs to match his frame all overbuilt and lameee. I'm right here in it but you just fake it. Gods it's so cool they're set up as equal and opposite forces to each other.

In conclusion, world tour songs are a mixed bag for me but writing this out has given me a more reasons to appreciate them. Some of these are great! =D

[destinyc1020]

Hey, a kinda long sunday confession here and I'm struggling to phrase this in a way that doesn't make it sound judgemental or insensitive (because I'm really trying not to be), but ever since tcr filming Tom has seemed to age quite a bit. More obvious crow's feet, wrinkles on his face more pronounced, eyes look more tired...and listen, I know it was ultimately his choice to lose weight for the role and it's normal for wrinkles to be more pronounced and skin to sag after weight loss, but I do feel a little bad sometimes. Clearly filming was very intense emotionally (as he has said) but also physically. Of course he is still VERY handsome and attractive, but it does kinda suck to see a role age him this much and a year later even though he definitely looks healthier the crows feet seem to be sticking around (I guess once wrinkles come they can't really go without surgery). Anyway he's rich so i'm hoping he's spending some of it on some good skincare. Again, looks aren't the end all be all I get that, and I'm trying not to be superficial or anything, especially since most of the reason I'm his fan is because of his talent and personality! But sometimes when I see old pics of him during nwh press or uncharted press vs only a few months later during tcr filming the difference is a little alarming. And as much as I hate to say it hollywood obviously is hollywood so there's a lot of stock in appearances (though as a white man he does have it easier in that regard compared to others ofc and other than comments here and there from the general public I doubt it would affect his career). The dedication Tom puts into his roles is impressive but sometimes I do feel a little bad that his skin hasn't bounced back...and maybe it will and just needs time or it's just the normal aging process for a yt man being sped up a bit lol. Maybe this would have happened regardless of tcr who knows. But sometimes in certain lighting it can be a bit jarring - and maybe that's just because I'm so used to him looking younger than his age in his early 20s. Idk. Anyway, at the end of the day he seems like he's happy and content and confident with himself and that's all that matters I just wanted to ramble a bit :)

Wow... This was a long confession Anon! 😅

Well, I'll be honest, at first I was gonna rip into you lol, but I remembered that your ask was a "Confession Sunday" ask, and towards the end it seems like you were coming from a genuine place of concern, so I won't judge. Thanks for being honest Anon, I'm sure that probably wasn't easy to confess. It's sometimes hard to say anything LESS than favorable about our faves who we love. But I don't think anyone should be judged harshly in the fandom for their honest thoughts and feelings, as long as it's not coming from a place of SHADE. I'll just say that I think that we ALL have different genetics, and some skin tones just age quicker than others...that's just a fact of life lol. Tom is a white British man, with a mom who's a Ginger (red head) lol... I mean..... C'mon... 👀 Like, you kind of have to look at where someone is starting off from lol. 😅

Tom has had crows feet/laugh lines since he was even in his teens lol, so I think they're just genetic?? I mean, obviously, they will probably get more pronounced the older he gets, but I just think he's just always had them tbh. 🤷🏾‍♀️ If you look at even his younger photos, you'll see that I'm right.

I DO know that he lost a significant amount of weight for "Cherry", and I know that sometimes that can have an impact on your aging.... There were times when I really was worried about him during that time. 😭 Then, there were claims (not sure if they were true) that he had fainted in public at one point due to the lack of eating for the role. So yea, I was getting a bit worried. 😔 He also lost some weight (although not AS much) for his role in "The Crowded Room", and honestly, I don't think they really needed him to lose weight?? But I guess they wanted his character to look as meek and mild and young as possible? 🤷🏾‍♀️ It seems that role was emotionally exhausting and a bit crazy for him! (I'm just being totally honest when I say that I hope Tom doesn't take anymore roles where he has to DRASTICALLY lose weight again anytime soon. 😔)

I know that stress can definitely age you! I've even seen some of my other faves go through a hard role, or lose weight to play a character, or go through an arduous awards season, and they've looked so tired and worn out through and through...almost like everything just aged them overnight. 😔 So even emotional stresses, drastic weight loss, or a grueling work schedule can really do a number on your body, your skin, etc.

Anyway.... RE: Tom..... I do get your concern Anon, but he seems like he's looking healthy now! 😊 And honestly??? I don't think the crows feet or laugh lines in his face are a BAD thing tbh.... He's looked like a kid for so long lol, that I think it's actually a good thing that he's looking a bit more mature. 😅 JMHO. I think some fans wanna keep Tom in 2017 when they first fell in love with him in Spider-Man HOCO, but ummm...he was only 21 back then! Tom naturally has a young face, so now that he's looking more "grown", I don't think that's a bad thing per se. 🤔

He's still a very handsome man, and he's rich, so if he ever wanted to get botox or something cosmetic to lessen the creases around his eyes, then I'm sure he has MORE than enough money and resources to do so lol. He's a Brit though, so I don't think their actors worry so much cosmetic-wise about how they look like us Americans lol. 😅 I think there's WAY more pressure here in the US/LA area (especially) to look a certain way than there is overseas. Just my personal observation. 🤷🏾‍♀️

Either way, it's everyone's own personal decision on how they wish to take care of their "canvas", and it's always good to remember that it's what's on the INSIDE of a person that matters most!

Tom seems to be doing AWESOME right now! He's given up alcohol/drinking so much, he's mentioned that he's SLEEPING better, he seems ABUNDANTLY HAPPY, he seems to LOVE his life, he's getting a LONG BREAK from working (a whole YEAR off!), he doesn't seem to be smoking anymore lol, and he just seems overall super happy with life! 😃 I'm really happy and just so proud of him honestly. 🥰 He seems to be glowing to me! So, even though you think he looks more 'tired' these days, he actually seems to be in a much better place than he was just a year ago imo. Plus, he's married to dating Zendaya, and I'm sure she has a TON of facial regimens and creams she can help her hubby out with if he needs it lol. 🤭

[not-scared-of-microwaves]

Ok I know no one asked and most people have probably moved on (maybe?) but it still comes up in the kpop fan club discord server for my school so I'm bitter. Vent under the cut.

Can we stop pretending Namjoon is a horrible person who needs to be canceled??? and, worse, that I'm racist for still liking him??? All he did was share a Frank Ocean song. Do I think he should have? probably not, it wasn't the most culturally sensitive thing he's ever done, but he has a history of respecting people and learning from his mistakes. Do I think Frank Ocean himself is islamophobic? Fuck if I know, that's not my place to say. Bad Religion was, from what i've read, about his experience with religion as a a bisexual man. As someone who has some level of religious trauma myself, I can say being uncomfortable with the way religion treats certain groups of people is not the same as being against a certain religion. I hate the way Christianity as a whole treats gay people. I hate the way Christianity has made me feel. I do not hate Christianity or Christians. Writing about the way religion has made me feel does not mean I hate Christianity or Christians. Listening to music about the way religion made them feel does not mean I hate Christianity or Christians. (I am using Christianity as an example because its what my trauma is related to).

No, I don't know if Frank Ocean is islamophobic. If he is, then fuck him, but that's honestly irrelevent here. I cannot bring myself to believe that Namjoon is islamophobic because he shared a Frank Ocean song. Even if Frank Ocean is, that doesn't make Namjoon--Girls Just Want To Have Fun is incredibly misogynistic, but I'm not gonna judge someone for listening to it. Hell, I'll jam out to it myself, and tbh I can't name a single girl who won't.

yeah, Namjoon probably shouldn't have shared the song. But in the grand scale of things, it is SUCH A MINOR ISSUE. He isn't fucking G-Dragon, or Zico, with their blatant racism. He isn't fucking Seungri (who, by the way, is out of prison, not that anyone's talking about that), or Hyuna, who's dating JUNG JOON YOUNG (Seungri and Jung Joon Young were the two people behind the biggest part of the Burning Sun scandal, for those of you who don't recognize the names off the top of your head). Strictly talking about islamophobia, there's the whole damn israel palestine situation. There are so many other things to be angry about, and we've settled on this one.

ADDITION because I thought of more while I was doing homework: I'm not saying you have to like Namjoon, or support him. You don't. I'm saying please stop speaking like he's the worst person imaginable and that people who like him are too. It's ridiculous. If you want someone to do that to, look at any of the names above. If you're looking for someone to boycott, boycott something that's ACTIVELY HARMING PEOPLE (like Starbucks or MacDonalds harming Palestine), not a kpop idol who did something stupid and insensitive (and it WAS. I fully admit that.). It just seems to me like a waste of energy and time when there's so much else to be angry at.

[free--therapy]

honestly, i feel like i've been thinking way too much. like seriously overthinking a lot and it's just so unhealthy. some few times, i worry or overthink so much that by the end of the day, i feel physical symptoms of anxiety like chest tightness or trembling and dizziness.

i realise that my mind keeps subconsciously trying to find new reasons to worry especially reasons where i'd feel more worried or anxious or different than others.

as in if any of my past actions or mistakes are different than something most people would do then i end up overthinking because since it's so different, i can't openly talk about it to people. like watching that nsfw content for example. its not something i'd feel comfortable sharing with most people so in a way, it makes me feel different somehow and that makes me feel anxious.

similarly, if i have thoughts or opinions on certain things which are different than the majority and if my opinions are something that other people may find weird then even more so, i feel like i'm the only different person or like i'm the only weird/wrong person.

for example, i don't know if it's common but usually i try to people please. so because of this, wherever i go, even if its to family events with my cousins, i'm always very self conscious and conscious about my surroundings too. i try to look and act my best so as to keep a good impression on others and up until now, i never thought this was a problem but now if i overthink, it seems like such a weird thing.

also, in my culture, it's pretty common for people to get married to their first cousins and my extended family is pretty close. so growing up, i had this small crush on a cousin brother of mine but the thing is, there were a few times when he acted weirdly with me (like inappropriate touching) but since i was young, i never thought of it in a negative way. now it's normal between us and since he's older, i respect him. he's also very responsible and i admire him in a way so i usually try to be at my best behaviour around him even now. another cousin brother of mine also kinda confessed to my elder sister and she was weirded out with it since she thought of him as family because they were raised like that and when she asked for my opinion, i was fine with it tbh as in i didn't judge him for it or thought he was being weird. but that makes me think....am i the weird one here?

since there are these difference in opinions that i have about such weird things like relationships or how i think about people. in some cases, my opinions are very different than what most people have. up until now, i never thought about it and i just assumed i was okay with almost anything. as in, i didn't judge people or thought they were weird for doing things that majority wouldn't do as long as it's not a something too wrong ofc. but yeah, i just thought i had different opinions but i never bashed myself for it. nor did i make myself feel bad for it.

but recently, my anxiety has started making me overthink almost anything that can make me feel bad. so if any action of mine from the past or even any opinion/interest i have that is different than most people, i immediately end up overthinking about it despite knowing that it's only gonna make me feel worse.

i mean....sometimes these worries make me feel like....am i the only weird person here? am i the only one with "wrong" thoughts and opinions? and if so then, aren't i weird? is something wrong with me?

someone told me that i'm overthinking too much and i agree. i'm just digging too much into things that i shouldn't even be worrying about to begin with. i feel like i'm thinking too much about myself and my personality and i'm constantly trying to find "flaws" within myself and whenever i find a flaw or even just something different, i immediately start feeling out of place as if i don't belong. or as if there's something wrong with me.

i know that while some of my opinions may seem wrong to some people but i know that no matter what my opinion is, i shouldn't be making myself feel bad about it. i know that none of my actions or thoughts or opinions make me worth less and i know i should respect and love myself no matter what or how i think. and no amount of thought or opinions or actions of any kind make me any less than any other person. i know that no matter what, my feelings are valid and i am valid.

and most importantly, i know this is just my anxiety messing with me and making me think so irrationally. as you said, finding and believing the rational thoughts and having a clear rational perspective for a long time is very hard with anxiety clouding the mind with all kinds of irrational thoughts and i just relate so much. i mean....no matter how much i tell myself that this is just anxiety, that i'm still an amazing human and still deserve love, that my opinions, different or not, don't make me any less and this doesn't mean there's something wrong with me either. i know it and i tell myself that as well but i just can't bring myself to completely believe it lol

like if my anxiety finds some new flaw in me, no matter how much i remind myself to not give into it, in the end, my overthinking always takes over. though i know how this works now. i find something different in me (anything that is different or weird compared to other people), it can be my past actions or mistakes or it can be just a difference in opinion. in either case, if it's more "weird" than others then my anxiety ends up winning and i end up overthinking. and while doing that, i end up making even the most smallest of behaviour or thoughts of mine seem way more serious than they actually are. i can see it more clearly when i go out but at home, when i'm alone with me thoughts, it seems serious lol. but this is why i know that it's anxiety because it only gets worse sometimes and seems small the other times. i know that while other people also have imperfections or weird opinions or behaviours about certain topics but most people don't think so much about it to the point where it affects their life. but i do but i know that i don't have to. i can always let it be because it's just anxiety and i've just built a habit of overthinking everything about myself. and that habit is something i need to unlearn. i've been taking everything about myself too seriously because of this. so i need to start to relax again and let this go.

and while i may not be able to believe in rational thoughts completely right now, at least one development i've made is that i can recognize that this feeling and these thoughts are anxiety. i can at least remind myself that in the end, these thoughts don't deserve a place in my mind and they are false. i don't need to follow or believe what these irrational thoughts tell me because they are a result of overthinking and anxiety. and i'm proud of myself for at least always reminding myself of that.

thank you for listening as always!!

Hey Anon,

It's going to take some time and a lot of repetition for you to finally believe that you are worthy, enough, and deserving of good things. Like I've mentioned in the past before, it took a lot of repetitive negative thoughts for you to convince yourself that you're not worthy of those things, so it's going to take some time for you to reverse those thoughts and believe the good/positive things. It takes time and a lot of patience with yourself to achieve it, but believe me, you will. You just can't give up on yourself.

The more you have the courage to share the things you're anxious about, the more you'll find that you will actually have a lot more in common with other people than you think. When I got myself into group therapy sessions, I found out that a lot of people have the same sorts of thought patterns as myself and I started to feel a lot less lonely with how my mind worked, and so did the other people in the group. Even years later when I talk to other people and even friends who are now dealing with anxiety, it's been a lot easier for me to calm them down because they're going through the same kinds of thoughts that I did and I know that what makes people feel a lot more sane is knowing that they're not the only ones who think that way. Also through doing this I have found that a lot of people think very similar when in an anxious state of mind than they know.

It's okay to have differing opinions from the majority of people though, so don't think you're strange for being that way. I know I hold a lot of different opinions than most people do on a lot of different topics, but I'm okay with it being different. I actually take pride in having a different opinion or perspective on things because it allows me to give people a different perspective on things that they may have only looked at one way. There are so many different ways of looking at things and not everyone is going to hold that same perspective, but it doesn't mean you're crazy for it! I know it's hard to face rejection because of it though, but if you're convicted in your opinions and stances, but still willing to be open-minded about what others have to say, then you won't let others' opinions bother you.

i know that while other people also have imperfections or weird opinions or behaviours about certain topics but most people don't think so much about it to the point where it affects their life.

You'd be surprised how many other people are just as afflicted by their anxiety like you are. We all tend to put on an act/mask/façade when we're with other people, but when we're alone, we're our worst critics. Of course there are definitely people who know how to handle it better, but considering a majority of us have been raised in a culture and society that strives for perfection, we all think we're failures and not good enough, but we can be so forgiving to others when they mess up. Why? Because we know what it's like to feel defeated or not good enough, so why can't we give that same grace and forgiveness to ourselves? We're not less worthy than our friends and families that we can give those things too. A lot of people are battling their minds and have a hard time giving themselves the same love they can so easily give to others. We really shouldn't be the exception to the rule of unconditional love :)

Yes anon! Self-awareness is the first and biggest step you can take to start working on healing yourself and your anxiety. The fact that you can pinpoint and notice that it's your anxiety that's taking over your mind is good! Of course it takes a lot of time, practice, repetition, courage, and patience to get to a point where you can challenge the anxious thoughts, but you are well on your way. You should definitely be proud of yourself for being able to recognize it :)

[vivithefolle]

I think one of the main things that really irritates me about the Canary Incident in Book Six is that it could’ve been used as a way for Hermione to learn that while you can feel hurt, it’s not okay to physically take that hurt out on someone else(which I think the fic Golden Bullets touches on). But instead the narrative treats that scene as either humorous/Ron deserved it when in reality- as much as I disapproved of Ron’s behavior before that scene- it didn’t warrant any sort of reaction like that. There are 19 years between the last chapter of Book 7 and the epilogue, so I really hope that somebody called Hermione out on that sort of behavior eventually and she learned to grow out of it, because reading that Canary scene years later is pretty…yikes tbh🤷‍♀️

You're right and you should say it.

Honestly, the thing that makes Hermione even more detestable to me is the post-canaries. Like... okay, right, let's just, let's say it was a "regrettable childhood incident", "one instance of abusive behaviour but that's just the one when abuse is a pattern so we shouldn't judge her too harshly", ok, ok, it's just one teenage mistake, teenagers hit each other and are idiots, yeah! Ok Hermione faced no consequences for the canaries but that doesn't mean she hasn't learned a lesson, maybe she did so off-screen, we know how much Rowling likes to develop her female characters off-screen (hi Ginny), so yeah Hermione can totally have learned it's not ok to attack people-

‘Could’ve been worse. Remember those birds she set on me?’ ‘I still haven’t ruled it out,’ came Hermione’s muffled voice from beneath her blankets, but Harry saw Ron smiling slightly as he pulled his maroon pyjamas out of his rucksack - Deathly Hallows

........................... Ron. Ron my darling. Ron my beloved. Ron my beautiful boy. Ron my sweetest summer simp RUN HOLY FUCK RUN.

And, of course I don't condone Ron's behaviour while he was upset with Hermione hiding her involvement with Krum. I understand he felt betrayed and to him, dating is practically being married, so he thought he'd lost his chance, and so he lashed out at everyone and was being a total asshole as a result. But... yet, I can't help but see the way Rowling piles on the crap to make it so Ron blows a fuse. First she forces him back into the role of "haha loser Ron scared of playing Quidditch" when he'd have normally outgrown this thanks to the victory at the end of Book 5 (yes, it's "realistic" that his progress isn't streamlined, BUT THIS IS A BOOK. BOOKS DON'T OBEY THE RULES OF REALITY.), and he'd gotten over his jealousy of Krum at the end of Book 4 (but Rowling still poked fun at it in Book 5 before dropping it halfway through, ok why not) BUTT suddenly it's resurrected out of nowhere just to force Ron into a bullshit romantic jealousy plotline and... UUUUGH I hate HBP so much, and yet with all the bullshit Rowling forced upon Ron's character in that book he still comes out looking better than Harry "guess I'm not gonna help my friends at all cuz I have better stuff to do" Potter and Hermione "physical abuse is okay as long as it's the girl who does it!" Granger.

[idiotlittleme]

I can't sleep so I'm gonna do a long post about Israel's entry to eurovision and other thoughts I have because I live here and why the fuck not

tbh I feel extremely lucky cause two years in a row the candidate I wanted sent

Michael, very much like Eden, is an absulote sweetheart

But more than that - I cannot think about anyone better to deliver the message of self acceptness and self love

The guy honestly worked in a supermarket until he entered the show

He always talks about how he loves his mom & his brothers that he didn't even know that was gonna support him (they did and it was extremly touching)

He is an openly gay person in Israel. I know it seems to some of you not a big deal because you see all the pride tourism in Tel Aviv and such but it's really not like that

A. most of the time

B. outside Tel Aviv

If you want a fine example check out Shira Banki who was murdered in a pride parade in Jerusalem (where I Iive)

The definition of our country is Jewish and democratic. So a lot of religion people can decide how to shape the public space and guess what? They don't really like LGBTQ+ people. I know. Shoking.

Plus there's still buttload of stigma attached to it.

So everytime there's a screentime to LGBTQ+ people on TV here, especially if they are Israeli representative of something, I love it. It fucks up their brain. (I also really likes it when it's someone from one of the lots of deprived ethnic groups living here - like Eden last year who was ethuopian - because apperantly religion people tend to be a bit racist too. Who knew right?)

Add that he was actually was bullied for being extrovert and you get why this message suit him best.

Also he's sassy as fuck and dances like crazy which is always fun (plus has amazing vocal)

I know that marrionette of Inbal was also a very strong option but I felt that it was some what repeatative of Toy (I'm not your toy -> not just a marrionette)

Oh and speaking of Netta, she was his mentor for real. Unlike most of the judges, she was a proper mantor with her group and she seriously worked with him a lot and their bond is super cute.

Fyi - I totally get people who don't wanna vote Israel because of the occupation. I live just near east jerualem, my father is from Marroco, most of the people I talk to in uni are Palestinian, trust me, I get it. I'm just really exited for Michael because honestly it's not his fault that his country is shit.

But please, if you do that don't support countries that their leaders support colonialism/actively trying to take over the middle east like the UK or Russia. (Also the US but they're not on our eurovision so it doesn't matter much)

Fyi2 - I know I said nasty things about religion people. Notice I didn't talk about religious people, that's cause I hate the ones with power (that are also abuses it). Judaism is not against gay people. There are lots of religious + gay people in Israel. Religion is not against people. People are against people. Don't belive people who tell you otherwise.

[painiskomedi]

fellas, please be a better generation

I've been seeing a lot of kids who are of the same age as mine (16) that are being influenced to an extent where it seems that there is no change after the previous generation. Like, okayyy i understand that i can't possibly argue and wreck everything up and fight my parents upon things that they don't want to accept for example mental health, sex-education, early-dating or dating at all, being friends with opposite sex, LGBTQ, gender equality(the proper one) and etc. as i know that i can't change anything in there heads. If i do that i would probably end up wrecking up and spoiling my relationship with my parents and disturbing the household by rage and all, so yeah obviously i don't want that. My cup of tea is BEING BETTER MYSELF AS A SUCCESSOR GENERATION but that does not seem to be the case around myself. I will be honest, as an Asian, this thing becomes even more difficult because you just can't with your Asian brown parents. And mind you i'm not just talking about the parents it's like for mostly elders. But what the hell is wrong with the kids???

Whenever i was with my friends i used to so proudly think that this generation is gonna be better, we're gonna be less stereotypic, it was until i started seeing a lot other kids. Like they post stories against the girls showing their cleavages, they go on ranting 'embrace masculinity, quit modernity' meaning if you are a man you are supposed to be hard, tough, muscular, non-emotional(infinite red flags for this). I'm not saying that you can't be tough or muscular and all but hey!! you can't question any one else's choice as well if someone wants to put nail paint and makeup let him be, if he wants to build muscles let him be why are you forcing your morals on people. They go on debating about religions without even knowing about it. And they think being or called gay or lesbian is an insult(haha so funny). And there's so much(tbh i don't wanna bore you).

Honestly, i'm gonna a give doses of this kind of education to my kids so that they don't post stories like this. If i were a male i would take my kids to the Tv and together with them watch an emotional movie and cry together to show that its okay for males to be emotional. I'll as a mother would not judge my daughter's character for anything. I as a mother would teach my son as well as my daughter to respect each sex of the society.

(i've so much more to say hopefully i'll be breaking those thoughts in segments and posting them as separate ones and please guys a v-v-v-vvvv humble request try to understand stuff, watch a little social channels to help you have a clear understanding. !! not saying that i'm a "guru" of this society but these things anger me so much.)

Thank you for bearing with me ily to all those who literally care about this :))) >>>>>

Your brown friend painiskomedi.

[sizzlingpatrolfox]

Tbh i come from a north african country and no one here cares who's racist/homophobic.. Ofc there are people who have strong opinions about those issues but they're so very few and the general population don't care if the person is racist or not. Because racism is never an issue that touched us as a country. You never see people protesting for black lives matter here but you do see feminist protestations, as it is an important topic here.

I think it's the same for South Korea, they don't care because for them it's just not a big deal. It's always been this way with most idols.. They don't hate black people but they just don't care about their issues.

Controversial opinion here : I believe if BTS weren't getting criticised for not talking about BLM, and if the BLM protestations weren't so big in media at that time, and if a lot of their fanbase weren't african American, they wouldn't have donated. They wouldn't have cared point blank period. There are so many issues they could speak on (I was particularly hurt by them not speaking up on Palestinians getting kicked out of their homes and bombed 24/7) but they don't. Many people also wanted them to speak up on Ukraine but they didn't. And that doesn't mean they're bad people. They're just not activists and not as woke and all about morals like armys make them to 💀.

(I'm really not hating on them when i say this, i still like them and have positive feelings about them but criticism is needed here)

Agreed 100%. Here too there are certain things that are more tolerated than others, like jokes about one's looks or weight, they're common and almost nobody thinks it's rude. I see controversy all the time about idols calling each other "pigs" and stuff and while I have personally never called anyone that and I would never do it, it doesn't shock me as it shocks and bothers other people because culturally, I'm used to it. Maybe someone else would call me problematic or try to cancel me if I ever did a fat joke. But my "people", the people in my culture wouldn't think I did anything wrong. There's no really racism here but the same as you, in January this year a woman was killed every 27 hours. That month, everyday there was a woman murdered by their male partner, their male lover, or father, or brother. So misogyny is less tolerated than body shaming, or racism, because misogyny is an actual, huge issue. And even like that, many people still make rape jokes or want "proof" of a woman being beaten or assaulted. Even as huge of an issue as it is, there's still people, women too, that don't take a definitive stance against it. If I asked around to random people what they think of cultural appropriation they would look at me and say what the fuck is that. I really have no idea how much Jungkook or BTS know about cultural appropriation or about Islam. Sometimes people do wrongful things not out of spite or disrespect or hate, just out of ignorance.

All of this is NOT to defend Jay Park and the things he's said and done. I am also in no way judging people for not liking him or not liking Jungkook for associating with him. I myself think Jungkook knows about the things he's done and said, but JK probably doesn't see anything wrong with it because it's not something that actually crosses him, culturally speaking.

It might sound naive, or like I'm uncaring too but honestly... idols or celebrities in general are not the people we should trust to be activists. I'm sure there are lots of local heroes for all of us to look up to and feel protected and acknowledged by. Feminism and LGBTQ issues matter to me a lot, but I never expected BTS to care about women or gays as much as I care, because they're not women and I don't know if they're queer. I don't think they even do anything at all for those communities tbh. Maybe they donate silently to lgbtq organizations, I don't think they'd say that, but let's say they donate, then that's great. But I can't know if they don't say it, so I'm not gonna be vouching for them as being so supportive of the lgbtq community because, as far as I know, they don't do anything.

I know, I think the same about BLM.

I don't think you're hating and I wouldn't even say it's criticism because I am not even asking anything of them, just acknowledging that they are not activists and they're very gray politics wise too, like most people in the world are tbh unless it's about things that personally hurt them, and that's just the way it is.

[chateautae]

I for duck's sake need help people.....see, I would be very pleased if anyone of you would just help me out....the thing is, I have been in a relationship for like around 3 years and trust me, he is like the most perfect kinda person I have ever met..but now comes the main issue, he has till now, never ever hinted me about doing anything ( the max. we have went is uk till just a little makeout types, ik spoiling my sex life like this sucks but that's why I am going anonymous and I think some of you might have experienced it ig, don't take me wrong, I mean like uk). The good thing is, we both are understanding and extremely working persons (he works as a employee in a business firm and I am a newbie doctor (kinda just started my practice as a doctor)....and even though I am a doctor and that having sex is like a normal thing because we literally studies everything, I still freak out upon thinking about doing it with him....it's not like I am scared or anything but I just want some uk girl tips upon how to actually do it....reading about it is quite, tbh, okay for me, but then doing it is like, a difficult task....i bet you he knows about everything and that's why he hasn't hinted upon anything but like from the past 1 week, he jas been dropping kinda hints ig.....like I won't go into the details, otherwise I would be hella embarrassed, not that I am not right now, I am literally sitting in the washroom typing this ( don't judge me)....while reading about it, it feels so easy to execute everything but then when doing it in real life is like so much like wierd ig....I mean how do I respond to it.....I am nervous and what not.....as 25yo, I sometimes feel wierd that I can't uk do it......can anyone of you just help me please......like some girl tips.....I searched it on Google too, still I don't have the courage.....amd moreover, my friends circle is so wierd amd plus, I am too shy to ask anyone.....ik asking this in such a way and place is way too inappropriate to be even considered normal....it's not like I am not ready for it, it's just I am quite nervous about how to do it.....tbh, he hasn't forced me even once still remained to be sweet and all but internally we noth know, we might wanna step up.....HELP PLZ.....my mom is way too conservative to even have an open conversation about kisses let alone doing it....

Oh hun, you are completely and tOTALLY allowed to come to this blog for any advice and not feel ashamed. This is an 18+ blog and anyone here would be so glad to help you, something like this is totally normal!! I shall leave my words under the cut, though if anyone else would like to help this lovely anon please do not hesitate to drop off a reply or even something in my inbox! I'll answer right away to help anyone wondering the same thing 💓

Alright hun, first and foremost I am so happy your relationship has been so strong! And I'm glad you're with someone who hasn't pushed you or anything into doing anything sexual yet, I'll tell you from experience that can be extremely daunting and uncomfy so I'm super relieved your man has been sweet!!

In terms of real advice, tbh I'm quite the wrong person to go to. I lost my v-card with my first boyfriend when I was 16, literally we were both inexperienced and even the times we did you know, do the deed it was very clumsy and nobody knew what they were doing, and the second person I've been with was a Kiseok situation (if you read maybe I do, yes Kiseok is based on a real person in my life) so fuck that dude. But maybe my own inexperience can also help you out, here are at least some lady tips I can think of:

1. Make sure you're comfortable. I say comfortable instead of ready because I'm quite the believer in if you wait until the moment you're ready, you'll wait your entire life. So my best advice is to make sure you're comfy with the situation and your partner!!

2. Ensure your partner is someone who cares about you. I know everyone's stories are different, and not everyone has sex with someone they've been with for a long time or even love, one night stands are totally okay and I salute you sister. get that dick!!! But even in situations where you're with a stranger, sex is a very intimate thing, and it would make your experience 1000x better if you can at least tell the person cares about you and your body and your wishes during sex. Everyone deserves to be respected during an intimate act like sex and if you feel you're not being respected, whether it's your body, your wishes, your limits, your choices, do not feel obligated to still go through with this person.

3. You have to be wet. Of course not all sexual encounters happen the same way, and every female gets off on different things or turned on by a variety of actions, but essentially you have to be wet for sex. Most men understand this but a lot also don't, basically you gotta get into that juicy foreplay to get wet my girl. Try making out, maybe if you're sitting down swing a leg over his lap and bam you're straddling him. This position is usually optimal because you gain the opportunity to grind against yo man's crotch and my fucking God, does that shit feel hella nice. It's also highkey ego-boosting feeling how much the guy's getting worked up because literally anytime you grind or move over their crotch it immediately spikes to their dick and you can usually feel them against you. If you're standing, try moving to an area that has a wall and keep grabbing at your man's neck, usually men naturally will indicate you to jump and you'll easily be all up against the wall making out, this gets hella fun too cause being carried like that is so 😩

3.2. Okay cool, we're making out, now it's essentially a game of go with the flow. Men usually take the initiative and begin the escalation of things on their own. Maybe he'll start kissing down your neck, his hands are gonna be somewhere at your waist, maybe inching down to your ass or maybe he's an ass guy and he's already palming at yo cheeks. Regardless, I can confidently say you can sit back and relax, let yourself feel, get into the kissing and grinding and if you love the way he's touching you, make some noise and let him know, don't be afraid to be turned on and goddamn horny, dudes love that shit. You however are also allowed to take the wheel, and guys usually search for the greenlight from girls by sensing their movements and how eager they seem for the go-ahead on anything. If maybe you begin tugging at his clothes, they'll usually think "okay, she's okay with this rn" and so on. This part's sincerely just go with the flow, you don't need to rush and honestly the more foreplay the better for getting your puthy wet. Make sure you're comfy and your partner makes sure you're okay with that they're doing to you.

3.3. Whoop dee doo your man's hands are suddenly going, you know, places. Another case of go with the flow, if you're comfortable with your man wanting to do a lil rubby dubby on your kitty then totally let him, this shit feel's god-like I tell you. Maybe I'm just a sensitive ass whore, who knows but something about feeling a man's hands do what your lady fingers can't just HHHHHHHHHHHHHHH. But essentially from here maybe you wanna reciprocate. Get them pesky pants open and feel your man up. Reach inside those boxers and touch that beast he's hiding inside. Make sure to go nice and slow and your hands aren't rough, men's dick are super sensitive and if you go too hard on at least a dry dick it acc hurts them. Men usually leak pre-cum at their tips so try using some of that to slick up your hand.

3.4. That's handjobbing, now if we're getting into oral, very important things to remember. A) retract your teeth, it's hard and it hurts to do it for a long time but teeth will hurt dudes a lot so suck them in and away from their cocks. B) Hollow your cheeks, men like the tightness of a mouth and that's what really gets them going. C) BREATHE THROUGH YOUR NOSE PLEASE DO NOT JUST STOP BREATHING AND TAKE YOUR TIME OKAY BLOWJOBS ARE ACC VERY FUCKING HARD AND FUCK YOU UP especially for someone like me who has a small mouth, yeah that shit sUCKS but nothing is more beautiful than seeing a man fold under your touch. D) Tease yo man a bit, kitten licks and kisses, dragging your tongue over his slit, maybe a pump and then take him out, slick him up with some saliva maybe, anything you feel like doing go ahead girl, that dick is yours for the time being and I promise he'll love it. E) Deep-throating is really when gets guys going cause they only acc feel shit at their tips, so please deep-throat with caution, and take your time if he's a big one, you can acc really hurt yourself especially if you're constantly deep-throating a really big one. F) Go to town girl, get up and bobbing, go down on him like he can't survive without you, go at your own pace and own it. G) Balls usually go neglected and I promise if you even fondle them or grab at them your man will combust.

3.5. Okay so with actual sex, FIRST OF ALL BE SAFE!!!! USE A FUCKING CONDOM, IF YOU DON'T HAVE ONE THEN DON'T FUCK BUT IF YOU'RE STILL HORNY THEN PLEASE RECIEVE SOME MONEY FROM YO MAN FOR PLAN B!!! IT'S NOT ENTIRELY FOOLPROOF THOUGH PLEASE REMEMBER THAT RISK. You can totally go on birth control too but this has its complications, there are also monthly shots you can take and other contraceptives.

3.6. Okay it's sexy times, this is just gonna have to be a thing for you. Everyone's different and has different comfort levels, maybe you can take someone that’s bigger while some women can't and that's fine. Just make sure when he does go in, you feel okay with it. It will hurt if you’re dry and not wet, like hurt a lOT but if you do feel loads of pain just let your partner know to go slower, and let yourself get used to the feeling of something inside. You can always say stop if it hurts too much, seriously it's normal and that's what I did with my first boyfriend. Hell I fucking kicked my ex off me LMAO and he was so sorry and we just ended everything there, and had actual sex the next time I visited him. From here on I've really got no lady tips, essentially it's up to you what you like and what you'll do, get it on!!!

General Tips:

4. Be you, and be confident. I know sex can be really daunting especially when you consider men usually tend to be more experienced, and maybe you become afraid you won't measure up or be as good as his previous partners or you’re not good at sex, but baby girl it ain't about that. This dude is going to have sex with you because he wants to have sex with you, and whether that's his dick speaking for him or his heart, it means he will not be thinking about some other  chick he got it on with a year ago, he will be thinking of you and your pretty mouth and what you're doing, focused on touching your body and thinking he loves the way it feels. The more confident you are, the better. You're sexy and pretty and you are desirable babes, let those noises he makes when you touch him drive your confidence, the way he groans a little when you do something, the way he's tugging your body close to yours cause he wants to feel you, it all means he wants you and that's hot, let it boost your lady ego my love. You're allowed to be shy, I totally understand that, and if your partner really cares about you then they'll easily take your hand and guide you through it. Let them know you're a little nervous, and they'll really try to make things more comfy and easier for you because sex is about both parties, not just one.

5. Orgasming is hard, but it's still achievable. Especially in an open, established relationship, really let your man know what turns you on. Let him feel at your cooch while he's penetrating you and I promise that can usually get you orgasming. Other than that, another huge case of doing what you need to do to get yourself off, and always let your partner know. If you’re really searching for an orgasm in a newer relationship or if you’re too shy to say something, then literally just take your man’s hand and place him over your clit and start rubbing with him, he’ll get the hint and start doing it himself. 

6. Communication is key. This is obvious, but even if it's dirty talk, usually it's still a way to communicate and see if you're okay. You can ask to go slower, faster, softer, harder, stop altogether or entirely wreck your goddamn shit. Your partner should listen and if they don't, get the fuck out of there and leave that man, he don't fucking deserve you at all, especially in situations where you ask to stop or to slow down cause maybe something hurts, if he doesn't listen here then no, he don't deserve shit and LEAVE. Don't be afraid to make noise either or say something, dudes usually love hearing you. If you don’t like something please let your partner know, I’m sure they’re wondering if you do and would love to hear you communicating. 

7. Be clean after you're done woo-hoo-ing. Make sure you're tidy and stuff before putting clothes back on, sex can get messy especially if it's your first time you can bleed. Usually if the dude is a sweetheart enough they'll clean you, which is obviously aftercare uwu.

8. Pee after sex, UTI's are not fun. 

9. Your body may also feel weird or go through changes after you have sex for the first time, but that’s normal. Just you body’s response to feeling something foreign inside you. 

10. Ladies, remembering during sex that you have power, IT’S YOUR BODY!!!! Whether it’s because you’re totally domming or because your man is super duper sweet and will not do anything unless you want it, sex is meant to be fun and for both parties’ enjoyment. It’s not a chore nor is it something you HAVE to do to keep your man around or something, let yourself have fun girl, you deserve it. The flow of sex and any activities as such are usually dictated by you and what you want, so remember you don’t have to go through with something if you don’t want to. It shouldn’t matter if a dude really badly wants to get his dick wet, this is your body and you are to decide what happens to it. If a man makes you believe otherwise, FUCK THAT DUDE!!!! HE DON’T DESERVE YOU!!! YOU DESERVE LOVE AND RESPECT AND TO BE CARED FOR AS A HUMAN BEING!!

[suckishima]

Kindaichi for the character ask, please.

Ooo this is probably gonna be kind of tough to answer a few of these since we don't see a lot of him haha. Plus a few of the major things that influence my opinion on him are spoiler related so I'll try to be vague about those lol

First impression: 😬i think in the beginning i just thought he was super mean to kageyama and i wasn't too into him bc of that. pretty sure i thought he was being overdramatic about kageyama's attitude and i didn't like how he handled the entire situation by basically ostracizing him.

Impression now: well in regards to the kageyama middle school situation, i definitely have come to see more of kindaichi's side. it was tough for both of them, they were just kids and i think they both handled it a little poorly, but also in ways that were to be expected. kageyama was going through some stuff and ofc not talking about it and ended up being way too hard on his team and trying to control things he couldn't control and i can see why kindaichi would not only get angry about it, but also get down on himself from his teammate treating him that way. especially bc it's implied that the two of them and kunimi had been on pretty good terms until kageyama starts to spiral in his third year of middle school. anyway, onto my actual current impression of kindaichi, i think he's interesting. he seems kind, fairly introspective, and like a hard worker. he does a lot of his growth off screen, but i honestly really like how we still see evidence of it throughout the series

Favorite moment: i really like that bit in s4 when he asks hinata how kageyama is doing. you can tell it's a struggle for him to even ask about him, because asking is essentially admitting that 1 he still thinks about what happened and 2 that he does feel some remorse over it. but he asks anyway, bc in the end he does care about kageyama and wants to try and mend their relationship in some way or form, even if for now that's just by figuring out if kageyama is okay.

Idea for a story: i'll be honest, i can't think of anything more than what canon and furudate's extras haven't given us. the extra that came out post-series that features him is one of my favorite pieces of content we've gotten and i love it so much, i would just want more versions of that somehow lol

Unpopular opinion: i guess just that i think he's a good person lol. i mean i've only ever seen a few people say otherwise so maybe it's not that unpopular lmao, but i don't think shunning kageyama in middle school was done out of malice, but was instead done out of hurt. and i think he regrets it for a very very long time and does what he can to try and mend it

Favorite relationship: i've talked enough about kageyama here lmao so let's talk about kunimi! we don't get to see a lot of their actual dynamic tbh, but i appreciate that there does seem to be a genuine bond and understanding between the two of them, but i also like how it doesnt affect how either of them approach volleyball. kunimi is gonna laze about and kindaichi is gonna keep trying. they both seem to know what they want and don't judge each other for having different attitudes about it

Favorite headcanon: i like to think he becomes captain in his third year. i genuinely think he'd be really well rounded as a player and as a pillar of support by then

[nctseren]

HER RELATIONSHIP WITH 127

TAEIL + SEREN

SEREIL

She's his #1 fan, no joke here. Sohee is always praising his vocals and visuals, she had said multiply times that Taeil is indeed her favorite oppa, since the moment he took her under his wing she decided that she will always try to make him happy. He has a big heart so she's always taking care of that.

He also takes care of her, she's his baby after all, and is always mad that SM doesn't let her show her amazing vocals.

Always hugging him and there's a ton of compilations of her and Haechan fighting for his attention. And, of course, always begging for Taeil solo.

JOHNNY + SEREN

SOHNNY

Johnny is the brother she never had. He was the first nct member she met.

He always takes care of her, since the moment she arrived. But also likes to be that annoying big brother (she doesn't mind that much). Gives her a lot of hugs when feeling sad.

AND fun fact lmao she had her first beer with him because "it has to be with family" and HE IS family, her parents love him and will forever be grateful with him. They actually may love him a little more than they love her but it's okay cause his mother does love her more and it's always asking for "that little baby star",,,, sigh they're family!!

TAEYONG + SEREN

TAEREN

He's her leader and like a dad, of course she loves him. Since she's the only female member he tends to worry about her a little more — is she sleeping well? is she eating? how is she doing?

It's something he can't really help, he needs to take care of her. Sohee always goes to him and ask for help whenever she feels like her rapping is not that good (which is a total lie).

Even though he's the dad in the relationship, she tends to take care of him too, specially in nights when he can't sleep or is feeling stressed. She just wants him to feel that he's not alone in this.

Fact: roommates <3

YUTA + SEREN

YUREN

It's crazy, really, and Yuta can't believe it because she is tiny and cute, but sometimes... She may seem a little intimidating and, even though he doesn't want to accept it, sexy on stage. But he knows better, that's just fake because she is indeed a big baby. His big baby? He sure hopes so (even if he has to fight Taeil and maknae line).

Their friendship at the beginning was weird cause during trainee and rookie years Sohee was always stuck with Red Velvet members so they didn't had that much time to interact, or more like they didn't tried. But now they know they were idiots and love each other more than anything, maybe Yuta a little more.

He's the one who holds her hand in airports and hypes her the most when she's doing literally anything.

Yuta likes to sit between her and Mark so he can give his full attention to both, but ends up getting jealous of just those two talking and giggling 😔 pay attention to him pls

DOYOUNG + SEREN

DOHEE

This friendship is kinda cute-funny because at the beginning Sohee was his baby, not doubt.

Doyung would always show her off and talk nonstop about her, whenever she was fighting one of the members he would pick her side, and trust me when I tell you that he would kick 127 asses if they did something to her.

But the last year their relationship became a little more playful to the point that one moment they're ready to throw hands, pulling pranks, insulting each other and the next one they're hugging — he keeps saying it's Haechan's fault she's that way.

(Still picks her side on everything.)

JAEHYUN + SEREN

SOHYUN

Cutest best friends, fans think they're soulmates. Always together, like in interviews they sit together (and judge everything and everyone lmao), sometimes they laugh like the funniest thing happened and that kind of makes the members feel left out (like wth what's so funny???) but it's not on purpose!!!

Used to do vlives on Tuesdays, not every week but they tried, Sohee called it "Tuesyay" (she was drunk okay! besides nctzen liked it so) and it was just them cooking or doing cute domestic things.

But honestly that's nothing compared to how they are when there's no cameras around, they hug even more and watch movies in his (and jungwoo's) room, especially when one of them can't sleep or is feeling down, they really help each other and it's really cute.

They're a pretty big famous ship in the fandom, and even non nctzen know about them. Tbh it doesn't bother them cause they really do love each other but they would like to be known for their talent instead of just fans shipping them, that's why lately they're trying to not be like that in front of cameras.

JUNGWOO + SEREN

SOWOO

He's the prettiest boy she has ever seen, Sohee was so happy he became an nct member and even more when it was announced that he was gonna be in 127.

They're iconic and really flirty with each other which is a surprise for the members (well for yuta and maknae line) cause she! is! not! like! that! with! them! and it's not like they want to, right? but how??? she's a baby she can't do that!!

Always telling that HE! IS! PERFECT! his vocals are amazing and his dancing skills 100/100. Damn she just loves him too much.

Jungwoo loves her so much, too. She can be doing nothing and he's like "YES YOU GO"

MARK + SEREN

MAREN

Precious 99 liners!! They're so cute together, kind of give that puppy love vibe which it may be true but they're also just friends and always have been, even though she used to have a crush on him but you didn't heard it from me okk? That's long gone and tbh she feels like finding a person like him it's weird and hard, he's so unique that ruining that would just kill her so they're precious best friends that tell each other everything and that's it.

Ngl Johnny and Taemin ships them almost as much as half of the fandom, but because they're not that obvious with their skinship they don't push it that much. They're more like longing stares and a lot of smiles when the other is talking, more in the admiring side.

He was soooo shy when they met and she was like ?? but after 2 weeks they became friends.

HAECHAN + SEREN

SOHYUCK

He's just,,, ugh sometimes she wants to punch him so hard but then she remembers he's her Haechanie whom she loves with her whole heart. It's weird really, he's always pulling pranks on her or bothering her but the next moment he doesn't let anyone touch her.

Doesn't call her noona and tbh she doesn't care, that makes them feel close. She always saves his ass from Doyoung and sometimes Renjun, she would do it a thousand times. That's her Haechanie, how could she not save him? Besides she's the only one who can kick his ass.

Expect him to try to give her kisses on every live (he know she can't hit him on camera lmao)

[robin-the-enby]

Hey! I love your matchups and I really want one with on the black butler characters.

I am ISTJ and even though I was born in America I come from a Mexican family. So I am fluent in Spanish and English. Along side of Mandarin Chinese (still learning) and Japanese (still learning)

Appearance wise, I have olive skin, long wavy/curly hair that reaches my tailbone (i like putting it in side braid). I also have long bangs that quite often fall over my glasses. And just too lazy to move them. I also have dimples when I smile. I will bite anyone who try poke them.

Personality: I can get hard to know at first because I have trust issues (my heart has been broken okay) . Not too mention people don't try to get know me because of my major Resting Bitch Face. They think I am judging them or that I am scary. But I am not... I am attentive so I will stand up for myself and anyones else. I am patient. Also, after you get to know me you will realize I am a chaotic crackhead with a melodramatic persona. Like "your star is here!" "The stage is calling for me. Move out of my way" "the spotlight is on me so could you move you crusty face?" I like to tease and flirt with the people I am close to. I zone out or daydream a lot. And in the worst times. It could be a serious meeting and I am chuckling because of something in my head. Which have scared people. It could be during a conversation and I will stop listening. But I will always feel bad and apologize.

I also like to scare people. Like tell them the unsolved cases or horrific cases that I know (I love unsolved cases) . This is also why my little siblings hate me. Turns out talking kids murder cases and disapperinv cases was not appropriate for bed time story... woops.....

I like to pop out of nowhere and either flick or playfully punch my friends and say boo. I do accidentally roast people. I don't think before I say things. And don't realize until hours or days later. And I am like "shit"

I am sarcastic and that has gotten me in trouble before. My friend asked for my advice and I didn't know she was being serious. So I gave her a sarcastic advice and she came back to me mad. I was like "shit you believed me?"

Likes/hobbies: i like my anatomy class and I like to read, write, meditate (because I get stressed a lot). I really like to dance and listen to music. Which my music taste is everywhere: Kpop, classical music, jazz, jpop, Spanish songs, rock, metal. Every music genre except for country. I like to play the violin.

My passion lies in the arts and crafts. I would like to do illustration and photography. More specifically street fashion photography and and event photography. Like weddings and funerals. Yes funeral photography does exist and I will like to do it. Since it is also special event. I draw a lot of portraits and landscapes. I have been told that my art is either scary or mysterious. Though I can get a little caught up with my passion. I practice to get better with no rest.

Flaws/toxic traits: I am not empathetic or sympathetic. People always thought I didn't care about my friend's issues. I do i just don't understand them. My compassion does make up for this and will give advice. My other flaw, is the high walls I build to protect myself. I am there for other people. But people were never there for me. People have manupliated me and that cause me trust issues. I don't know how to handle negative emotions like depression, anxiety, self doubt, procrastination. So I just isolate myself in these moods. They really take a toll on me and make me think I can't do my passions. I am afraid of commitment because of toxic relationships i had before.

Love language: I am not obvious with affection. (Because no one ever gave me it). I show it through my teasing and flirting. My love language is however Act of Service. I will help my s/o with anything they need. Chores, work, advice, etc. Sort of the mom of my friend group. But a Savage mom as I have been told. "Stop crying, here I made you a cookie" "do I need to hurt someone" "don't worry I can get coffin with a lock in it". I am also an aggressive supporter. Like "No YOU are beautiful. YOU are gorgeous!" (This happened when someone gives me affection and time try to turn the attention to them as way to hide my fluster)

I will call my s/o like "stupid" "idiot" but in a endearing way. Okay. Occasionally I will use "beloved" and "Cariño/cariña"

I am not good receiving verbal affection or physical affection. I was never given affection so I am not used to it. I will start blushing and stop working. I will also probably say "idiot" or turn the attention to them like "no.. u" but I think fails because I am terrible at hiding my blush. I get easily flustered with affection okay. But I won't ever admit that I like it. Though it is obvious.

Sexuality: i am bisexual so it doesn't matter what gender I am paired up with.

Funt fact i guess?: I love small plants, plushies, and banana milk. Like I have hundreds of different kinds of plants and they each have their own name. Like GGmo, Lily, Melody, Edward. I love Banana milk as I said. I drink it every evening. It always get me happy so when I am sad or had a bad day. I drink banana milk and I am happy. It is also to make up for my coffee addiction. I am addicted to coffee. My friends said no coffee and I was like fine banana milk then :)

This is getting long now... bye.

I'm glad that you like my matchups, I'm trying my best tbh😅 I match you with:

Sebastian Michaelis

Sebastian is very curious in nature, so he definitely wants to know what you're really like, not the front you put on.

He's also very charming when he wants to, he makes it very easy to open up to him and get comfortable around him.

Sure, he, as a demon, doesn't really care much for humans, so when he doesn't have to play the polite, kind butler, he probably has a RBF as well, however, I think that changes when he's interacting with someone he loves.

His sweet words may have been a mask at first, so he could see the real you, but the closer you two become, the more he means every word of praise, encouragment or comfort he utters.

He would most certainly be amused by your crackhead self once you do get comfortable around him, but it's not really his vibe. He wouldn't scold you for being loud, brash or inapropriate, like he does the other servants.

If he's in a really good mood or when the situation calls for it, he can be dramatic as well. Sometimes he'd do it just to get on Ciel's nerves XD

One big pro of being with Sebastian is that he lets you off the hook a lot. If he was talking to anyone else and they'd space out, oh honey, he would stare them down so hard, it's sending chills down my spine just thinking about it. But if it's you it's like a complete 180, Sebastian can't possibly be mad at you, everyone spaces out sometimes, those things just happen.

The other servants make sure to be on your good side so that you could intercede with him on their behalf.

You can't scare him with your true crime stories, but you sure as hell can scare the others. And you can bet your ass Seb's gonna help! The plan is: You tell the story and then he's gonna pop up out of nowhere behind them, giving them mini heart attacks.

If you try to scare him though, you'll need to be on guard 24/7 until he gets you in return. And even if your on guard all the time, he finds a way to scare the life out of you.

Your humor is practically the same, I mean, Sebastian is great at off handed remarks/roasts and sarcastic comments that you have to look for to really see them. You two could be talking shit about anyone and everybody would be like "Oh yeah, normal conversation, yes"

Sebastian would love to dance with you. And trust me when I say this, he is good at any type of dance. If you two are ever at a ball, prepare your feet, because he's not gonna let go of you the whole night (unless his master is in danger of course).

He would be your #1 supporter, he'd go with you out to take photos, and if you asked him to look at some, he'd take a good long look at each and every one of them and describe in detail how he feels about them. Also would go to any art shows you'd host if it came to it.

When it comes to sympathy and empathy, Sebastian also has a hard time showing these feelings. He's been alive for far longer than any human on Earth and he's a demon. He's never had any of the problems humans have, so naturally he doesn't kniw what it feels like to have them. Plus, before you came into his life, he didn't care much for them either.

However, he's gonna be there for you whenever you need him, emotionally or practically, even though he doesn't get your feelings.

You both have walls put up, you because of bad past experiences, him because as a demon, he has major issues with being vulnerable in any way. And I'm not talking just emotionally here, but demons are almost undestroyable, yet they have very few weaknesses that they just need to hide away.

It's rare Sebastian has a problem, but even if he had, you wouldn't know, because he thinks you, as a human, wouldn't understand and so he won't burden your mind with it. However, he's very perceptive and so if your behaviour changes, be it due to anxiety or a depressive episode, he'll know.

Now, he's not the type of person to try and break down your walls by force, but in situstions like these, where he's not sure how to help, you gotta talk to him and he won't leave you alone until you tell him how he can help.

He's not above carrying you around and doing everything for you until you're embarassed enough to tell him

He is very appreciative of your help around, since the other servants are good at everything but what they're supposed to do.

You with your tough love and Sebastian with his teeth rotting compliments and affection, it'd be honestly really funny to watch. He adores how you show affection, because it's different from most people he's known. But on the other hand, you can't expect him not to spoil you afte all the hard work you do every day?

He would really shower you in love and affection, because you deserve it and because it makes you flustered XD

[mellomanjiro]

Hi! I saw that you were doing matchups and thought it would be super fun to join if its not full yet! Tokyo Revengers matchup pls!

So for personality it changes between people. Like if I am around people I don't know I don't make an effort to talk just because of my low social battery. Since I don't talk or even try sometimes when people talk to me I have been told I have a RBF. Buuutttt when I am around people I like or hang out with I have a lot of energy and am always trying to crack a joke. Only thing is that im super sarcastic to everyone and anyone so sometimes it comes off as rude but honestly Im just 100% joking. I also have the humor of like a 5 year old like literally among us and just videos with blasted audio got me rolling. Also another thing is that I don't start drama but I will say what's on my mind. Like if someone is being rude to a friend of mine im gonna call them out or even if someone has an attitude I will call them out and ask what's there deal. Only thing is I got a super short temper and am not great at talking things out so I get into fights quiet a bit. I'm not scared of getting in fights but its not like I go looking for them and I just mind my own business unless something affects me or someone I care about. But regardless of all that I am just usually quiet and do my own thing and when I am around people I like I just like to mess around and make jokes. Other things is that I am a Taurus and my mbti is ISTJ. Also a huge introvert but will be social if I am really board and got a friend going with me. Last for this is that I am 18, I go by she/her, and I am straight.

Last is my type and honestly anyone that I can just be comfortable with is fine in my eyes. I am not picky with looks and honestly don't really care as long as they can make me laugh. I just want to be with someone where we can have the same energy as best friends but just dating. Like for example if we go out and I want to mess up some nachos I don't wanna feel like i'm getting judged. Another thing is someone who can take my sarcastic remarks without taking it to heart. Also even though I have a hard time showing my feelings or expressing it because I am super stubborn, I want them to be understanding of it and just know I am trying even if I'm slow. Last thing is basically someone who is my ride or die where they can always count on me and I can count on them for anything.

hi thanks for requesting! (I actually didn't use your zodiac or mbti for this one but anyways I hope you still like it <3)

Anyways, I match you with....

Takemichi Hanagaki!

I match you with Takemichi because reading your description just screamed Takemichi's type. (Major Hina vibes)

First this poor boy would take some time to get used to your sarcasm, he might even cry at first thinking you're being serious. But he’d get over it pretty fast and attempt to be just as sarcastic with you. 

He shares that childish sense of humour with you too so you don't have worry about being silly around him or showing him silly memes and making fun of you, he will literally laugh more than you.

He is so grateful you are not into starting drama because he has so much to deal with that he can't handle anymore stress.

Getting into fights you weren’t looking for is something he can relate to. He understands getting into fights about the people you care about. Even though he himself can’t fight, he’d probably join you tbh.

He is always watching over you because of your temper. He makes sure you aren’t doing something you’ll regret later, cuz that’s just the type of person he is.

Takemichi is the the type that will always make you laugh, whether he’s trying or not. He’s just a fun & silly guy in general. He will never judge you ever! He thinks everything you do is cute. Even if you do something weird he either 1. Won’t notice or 2. Or just laugh with you!

Takemichi just wants to have a good time with you!

Don’t worry about being stubborn when it comes to expressing yourself to him, he’d understand that it’s not easy. He would try to get yourself to talk about your feelings though. But if you really do not want to talk about it he would stop pushing you. He doesn’t want you to be uncomfortable, he just really wants to help you and make you feel better :)

Even if you are slow at expressing yourself, he would just be happy you are telling him how you feel. 

Takemichi is very loyal to the ones he cares about. He will always put your needs above his own. He will follow you to the ends of the earth. He won’t be happy unless you are happy & safe. Like look at how he’ll go back to the past as many times he needs to make sure his loved ones are okay. 

In general, Takemichi may be a crybaby but he will be an amazing boyfriend. 

[bisluthq]

Again, Josh is good looking, smart, sporty, funny, into partying, and charming // I can't believe that in 2021 one person (apart from Karlie) defines Josh K as a charming man, a good looking man that many people want , amazing that only in this blog there are anons "thirsty" for him, isn't it enough all of you idolizing Joe A as if this white man were the king of sex and as a panty wrecker?? Stop pushing these basic men, especially Josh K who doesn't even seem to take a shower

I’m like genuinely perplexed by your ask because I deadass called him basic and boring several times. Idk what you want in a man lol but as someone who… um… doesn’t want one… I use rational thoughts about it and assess based on objective criteria, not indictments of people’s taste.

Josh isn’t a male model, but he’s never claimed to be. He’s a (successful and very rich) businessman. He’s better looking than a ton of rich men, Bezos and Zuck and tbh my fellow countryman Elon spring to mind. He’s widely regarded as smart. People who’ve met him say he’s charming and funny. Idk what more to say. He’s a regular fucking tech bro, and a very fucking successful one, and LOTS OF WOMEN JUST WANT A NICE TECH BRO and there is NOTHING wrong with that. You don’t get to be the arbitrator of taste and be like “lmao fuck tech bros” because there’s a queue of women willing to do just that for dudes who are LESS OF A CATCH (family is a whole other story).

I like Joe A’s personality and his movies, and EVERY PERSON WHO EVER MEETS HIM BUT ESPECIALLY WOMEN ATTRACTED TO MEN LOSE IT. That’s just… reality. You don’t have to like it, you’re allowed to be like, “eh smarmy litbois annoy me” but again, you’re not the arbitrator of taste. Lots of people already have and many others would love to fuck him.

Also Taylor Swift has a body count that puts mine to shame tbh and she found this an otherworldly experience so I’m taking her word for that.

YOU CAN LIKE WHOEVER. The Rock is an objectively great looking man, rocking body, great personality, many to most women attracted to men would DIE to get a chance to be in bed with him. Does that mean EVERY BLOG needs to be exalting the values of The Rock?

I would fuck Timmy C. Do I go off about it? Honestly no because his personality is trash, he doesn’t know about safe sex, and he’s kinda weird looking. I would STILL DO IT, and so would many other people. I’m not out here claiming otherwise. I’m also not going to Timmy blogs and trying to tell them “yes I would absolutely love to have this man eat me out and I do find him talented but ffs he’s an annoying twerp why are you running a blog about him?” Because that’d be a bizarre argument to pose to the blogger.

This all applies to women to. There are MANY people, many gay women too, who don’t see the appeal of Taylor Swift and certainly not as a sexual object of desire. Does that… impact empirical reality where weird men on Reddit have whole subs dedicated to her body parts and my anons and I talk about how much we fantasize about her and Lizzo writes self-insert fanfics while drunk about her? No it doesn’t. Is Taylor Swift empirically the sexiest woman alive? Honestly no, she’s pretty weird, but she does it for me.

Thirst is like that.

Stop judging so much, focus on whatever you enjoy wanking off to, and don’t come with a holier than thou attitude explaining to me that a basic boring man is boring. Of course he is, but so WHAT? He’s still probably more interesting than half the dudes you’re gonna suck off in your lifetime so 🤷🏻‍♀️💀