#in sys relationships

[system-hottakes]

System hottake:

In system dating is OKAY!!! I cannot tell you how many online systems we've met that when I tell them I'm poly, dating 3 heatmates, and have crushes on real people, that they just BLOW ME OFF!! Tell me I'm a faker, tell me I'm not *really* polyamorous, and even tell me (because this is relevent/sarc) that I'm faking being non binary bc of it. It's stupid.

nod, nod. I hate people that judge other systems for dating their headmates. Like yes I understand we're not really separate people, but we like to be treated as such since that's how we feel. It is polyamorus if you're dating multiple partners, and in system dating is valid. I am very sorry that happened to you, you aren't faking anything and I agree they are just stupid

[intuspluric-culture-is]

Blog Introduction

Hello! Welcome to our very own "___ culture is" blog. We hadn't seen any for this topic yet, so here it is! In this post, we'll explain what this is all about and the rules we have in place before you can think about sending anything.

So, what is this about?

An intuspluric or intra-system relationship refers to relationships, attractions and connections between headmates of the same system. This is often understood within a romantic context, but can apply to any sort of relationship, be it platonic, queerplatonic, familiar or anything else. Definition adapted from the following Pluralpedia pages:

The purpose of this blog is to share culture (AKA relatable situations, moods or personal anecdotes) by any system who experience those kinds of relationships! If this sounds interesting, be sure to read the following rules before participating:

1. Submissions must be posted in the form of asks.

This is just for uniformity's sake. Instead of sending submissions, select the option to send an ask and share your ideas through there. Additionally, all culture asks must start with "Intuspluric culture is", "In-sys culture is" or any variations that might fit the specified relationship type.

All types of relationships are allowed, and we will try our best to tag accordingly, but we don't have any strict format set in place.

2. This is not a social blog.

While it's fine to send non "culture is" asks, please still keep them on topic. We might occasionally try to answer questions related to being a system, having intuspluric relationships, etc. But don't forget that this is not the focus of our blog and we won't always be able to help you. Please look for specialized blogs, Discord servers, or r/plural for dealing with such matters.

If you want to be friends with the mods, that's great! Go follow us on our main account @kazanfamily and interact us with there!

3. No syscourse allowed.

For the sake of remaining impartial, anyone is welcome to submit an ask to this blog, regardless of their syscourse stance. If that makes you uncomfortable, simply ignore our blog or ask to be blocked. That said, avoid making references to your opinions on the topic, or bringing syscourse to the notes. I don't care which side you're on, this is not the place for it. Just keep it civil and stay in your lane.

(Flag made by us, using the symbol from the Intra-System Relationships page on Pluralpedia. The colours don't mean anything, we just chose them for aesthetic value.)

[hasspartacusdoneanythingwrong]

Day 1107

Kris: gilgamesh- taking the phrase “go fuck yourself” to a whole new level!

Jeanne: *ahem*

Kris: …right. gilgamesh- taking the phrase “go fuck yourself” to a previously existing level, but one that’s impressive for a non-system to reach nonetheless!

[thegardengrows-infrozenrain]

jus a mildly suggestive edit of me n my gf :P

girl is NIBBLING my neck ;3c

og screenshot under cut

this took so much work to get them both into that pose that i honestly wanted to eat my right hand because it would have been less effort T~T

[entropy-sea-system]

Shoutout to systems with in sys relationships!!

[the-cosmic-collective-sys-blog]

🥀We're in a little town that the innerworld connects to. Eddie says that he needs to go somewhere. I follow him out of curiosity and simpage.

🥀He notices that I'm following him and reiterates that he needs to go somewhere. I follow him out of curiosity and simpage.

🥀He notices again, and decides to fly away this time. At first I walked, then I ran. Because I'm a fucking simp-- I MEAN. ERM. I was curious.

🥀And, because he knew damn well what was going on and we were mostly just playing around with each other, he giggles and promises that we'll cuddle once we get back home.

🥀I love him so much <3

[pippuns]

pre-transmigration cumplanes because they are the most divorced guys who never met

[positivitycombopack]

Shout out to those in in-sys relationships!

In-sys relationships are not only incredibly common, but can be incredibly healthy!

Shout out to those who formed loving another part already, or those who formed and came to find love later!

Shout out to those who are navigating relationships IRL while also navigating innerworld relationships!

Shout out to those who have sexual, romantic, queer platonic, and/or simply platonic relationships with some or multiple parts!

Shout out to those who view innerworld relationships as a form of self-love and recovery!

[overmorrowpine]

not romantic not platonic not queerplatonic but a secret fourth thing (pairbonded like shelter cats)

[kamikazeworld-art]

Something I feel a lot of people seem to forget about the relationship between the peak lords and bingqiu is that, at the end, Yue Qingyuan quietly gave Shen Qingqiu his approval and support. He was the one who urged him forward towards Binghe with a smile, letting him know he always had a home there, so he should do what makes him happy right now. He saw the love his shidi and most special person held for Binghe even in the wake of all the pain and destruction, and said in his own way "I support you".

Whatever feelings there are about their past, whatever the shape of his affection for Shen Qingqiu, it is canon that Shen Qingqiu has his FULL unconditional support in his relationship with Luo Binghe. And honestly? I love that so much.

[maypersonne]

Shang Qinghua really does think that he is unlovable huh

He really thinks that he is of no value to anyone if he isn't making himself useful he will be disposed off and that will be it

He genuinely believes no would ever want him so he manipulate and posture as a lesser so to be seen as a necessary annoyance rather than the pest he believes himself to be

He hates all the work he has to do but he prefers exhaustion to the paranoia and anxiety that eat him up when he isn't showcasing his value

He is in a constant battle just to be acceptable rather than loved so he can just be in the presence of those who are dear to him

Like damn like father like son I can see where binghe got all his issues like airplane bro stop unloading it all on your OCs look you gave the poor dear anxiety

[strawberry-graveyard]

i love you in system relationships. i love you in system family dynamics. i love you in system friendships. i love you in system partnerships. i love you in system enemies. i love you in system dynamics that are complicated. i love you in system relationships that are real and dynamic and messy and so so so valid. all of them. i love them so much.

[the-cosmic-collective-sys-blog]

🥀In-sys relationships are hilarious because, I mean. Yes, this is my boyfriend. Oh, he's also my husband. But we're also platonic besties. But he's my boyfriend, though-- our love is so romantic! And by that I mean extremely platonic because we're AroAce-- oh, have you met my girlfriend? Yes, same person, he's my girlboything partner. Oh yes, he's very Non-Binary. Oh, we cuddle all the time! Oh, but not like THAT. But goodness, imagine if it was... that would be terrible actually, nevermind.

[rox-of-iu]

i have found myself with a moment of peace, so I binged the last 4 chapters of cultivate that I missed, blacked out, and woke up with this done so here hhh !spoilers

as usual the fic cultivate is by the ever so talented @neonghostcat

[multiplicity-positivity]

Here’s some positivity for headmates in inside/in-system relationships!

Building trust and relationships is an important part of system life, and it’s normal to foster platonic, romantic, and other kinds of bonds between headmates! This post is for system members who are in close, positive relationships!

💓 Shoutout to headmates who have just started dating, getting to know each other better, or taking the next step in their relationship!

💘 Shoutout to headmates who are married or have been partnered for years!

💗 Shoutout to headmates in inner polycules or queerplatonic relationships!

💕 Shoutout to systems who manage romantic relationships both inside and outside their system!

💖 Shoutout to headmates who set up dates for each other and do little things to make their headmate partners feel cherished and loved!

💝 Shoutout to headmates who struggle to interpret their feelings regarding other system members!

💞 Shoutout to headmates who get shy, bashful, or butterflies when they’re around the system members they love!

💓 Shoutout to headmates and systems with complex, interconnected relationships!

💘 Shoutout to systems whose inner relationships can’t really be understood by singlets!

💗 Shoutout to headmates who are exclusively (whether sexually or romantically) interested in others inside their system!

💖 Shoutout to headmates who have dealt with others attempting to invalidate their relationship, whether inside the system or people outside!

Within the vast spectrum of plurality is a diverse array of relationships and experiences between headmates! There is nothing wrong or weird about pursuing platonic, romantic, or sexual relationships with the other headmates in your system. As long as you are respecting each other’s boundaries, actively communicating, and keeping each other’s best interests at heart, in-system relationships can be a strengthening and rewarding experience!

We hope y’all can continue to learn and grow together, and that your relationships will inspire you to take care of each other! Remember we care about y’all and we wish you the very best in all that you do. Rest assured your in-system relationship is beautiful, worthy of maintenance, and an amazing part of plural life!

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[koipalm]

koi I just saw ur response to my ask :) thank u for the details!!! I can just see the choice conversation going down... but also sy who thinks it's better bc at least here he's alive even if he's ground down to dirt lmao but how do you explain that? that you know the taste of death and that it lingers in your throat? nope, way too deep and inexplicable. but I think that kind of thing would wander in the eyes sometimes, and the hope is always that nobody sees it, but if there's someone who's always looking... sy, stop looking like the devil is touching the back of your neck

ahhh sorry for all that I just really like this au 🥹 I hope I didnt overstep

NO BC YOU ACTUALLY BRING UP SMTH THATS BEEN ON MY MIND.. like one of the big things about this is sy's inner conflict because he despises sqq for having control over his life but at the same time he knows things could have been really worse without sqq's intervention. like if sqq hadn't believed sy then at best he would have sy thrown off the mountain and left to fend for himself, and at worse sqq could have killed him or tried him for an assassination attempt. so its like... its fucked up but sy owes sqq for almost everything, from his position, to the food he eats, to the clothes on his back. sy didnt know there was another transmigrator in this world when he appeared, so up until meeting sqh his survival was due to sqq. and on some fucked up level he feels like he owes sqq for saving him