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[femmefatalevibe]

Femme Fatale Guide: How To Validate Yourself & Stop People Pleasing

A comprehensive guide to learn love & trust yourself and break out of your people-pleasing identity. Hope this helps xx

HOW TO MASTER THE ART OF SELF-VALIDATION:

Remember the longest relationship you have in life is the one with yourself. While we all need an external support system to be well-rounded & healthy individuals, no one else will be with you throughout your entire life except for you. So, acting as your own best friend is the secret to living your happiest and most fulfilling life. You ultimately need to do what's best for you. Otherwise, you're damaging the only relationship you will have to confront in every aspect and stage of your life.

Acknowledge your humanity and fundamental right to have needs, goals, and personal desires. Validate your personhood and individuality. Remember you're only human and are bound to have your own physical/emotional limitations and preferences. If you would be willing to cater to others' schedules, boundaries, and limitations, give yourself this equal level of respect and expect others to do the same.

Know everyone is self-centered to a certain degree. No one cares about your happiness as much or is watching you as closely as you are. They all have themselves and their lives to worry about. People are paying attention to their own self-interests (or want you to accomplish things to boost their own credibility or self-esteem). Being your greatest personal cheerleader is the only way to fully give yourself the praise and spotlight you deserve for your accomplishments.

Self-confidence is magnetic. It is the secret to showing up as your best self in all areas of life. Being secure in yourself makes you a better friend, family member, lover, partner, spouse, professional, conversationalist, etc. Validating yourself will make you feel good, but also radiates into every relationship or interaction in your life.

Discover what you love about yourself. Reflect on the personality traits, skillsets, and behaviors you know to be admirable about yourself. Are you constantly making others laugh? Do you get endless praise for your cooking, drawing, singing, or problem-solving skills? Would people come to you first to manage a crisis like a champion? Are you a master disciplinarian when it comes to going to the gym or reading? Do people regularly compliment your outfits or nails? Think of all of the aspects of your being that make you unique and help you to feel content with your existing, authentic self.

Take control of your life to cultivate your ideal self. While you should consistently praise your naturally admirable qualities, remember that you always can change aspects of your life that will help you feel like your best self. Know that you're in control of your decisions and have the mental freedom to think & act in any way you desire to reach any goals or implement lifestyle changes to feel like the person you feel destined to be.

Block out the noise and negative self-talk. We're (almost always!) our worst critics. Consider every new experience or interaction as a learning opportunity. Mistakes and failures are life lessons that facilitate self-reflection and opportunities for growth. Remember not to beat yourself up for past mistakes: You did the best you could with the information you had at the time. If you weren't embarrassed by your past self, you never gave yourself the chance to evolve and grow. Every success, failure, and new life stage offers its own lessons and teachable moments. Remember that we're all our own unique life paths. Comparing your life to someone else's is like comparing apples and oranges. Both entities may be fruitful but have vastly different flavor profiles, growing seasons, and rates at which they ripen. As Dita Von Tesse shrewdly said: "You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there will always be someone who hates peaches."

HOW TO STOP PEOPLE PLEASING:

Acknowledge that people-pleasing is a form of self-neglect. By prioritizing another person's desires or approval above your own, you're ultimately neglecting your physical, emotional, energetic, or spiritual needs. Consider acting in your best in your own best interest as an act of self-care that safeguards your well-being.

Set boundaries. State your limitations, calmly, clearly, and directly. Understand that boundaries are your response to other people's actions, not a means to control other people's behavior. An expectation would be to ask someone not to call you during the workday. A boundary is stating that you will not pick up the phone during the workday and will only make/return calls in the evening after leaving the office.

Communicate your needs & expectations clearly. While you can't control what others will do, being upfront with your needs and expectations can eliminate unnecessary stress, logistical issues, misplaced hurt feelings, or disappointment in any type of relationship. Direct communication between parties will allow you both to respect each other's boundaries and to prioritize interactions that are mutually more positive, helpful, and emotionally nourishing.

Express your "no" freely (and without over-explaining). Remember that "No" is a complete sentence. You do not owe someone your time or emotional energy simply because they asked or expect you to do something/attend an event out of perceived obligation/guilt or simply to make someone else happy. Making sure you're okay is your first priority. Feel free to say "no" to any requests that would emotionally drain you, make you overextend yourself, or compromise any of your personal values/goals/priorities. You don't need to justify your needs. Just kindly decline, and let it be.

Remain consistent with your boundaries & priorities. People will treat you how you let them treat you. Once you set a boundary or share your priorities will someone, stick to these words through your actions to show you're serious about how you expect to be treated. Teach people how to interact with you in a way that doesn't feel self-sacrificing. No one will respect your boundaries and priorities if you don't and are easily swayed to forgo these self-imposed standards on a day-to-day or case-by-case basis.

Consider the long-term consequences of people-pleasing. While it may appease immediate conflict or anxiety, people-pleasing offers a one-way ticket to resentment and misplaced anger. By ignoring our own needs for the sake of others, we place unspoken expectations on these individuals' obligations to reciprocate our emotional labor – whether it be with their future actions or matching our generosity with unprompted favors or emotional support. We start keeping score as we continuously give ourselves over to others of perceived obligation. When someone doesn't return the favor, we get upset, despite never expressing this expectation of someone else or that we're even self-sacrificing in any way. This can lead to us feeling depleted or guilt-tripping others, and from their perspective, seemingly out of nowhere. It is best to remember we always have a choice whether to give to others and it should be of a genuine desire, love, or support for the other person – not as a way to gain external validation or manipulate a situation to create a false sense of obligation that we keep ourselves or the receiving party beholden to. Think of your energy, time, and personal resources given to others as a gift, not a bargaining chip.

[tearwolfe]

the idol industry

[alilarew23]

my triple top secret surefire way to manifest

is to feel the relief of no longer having to think about manifestation or about my desire specifically. legit, walk around in bliss thinking/feeling/knowing everything worked out for you and you’re immediately in the end state where you already have all your shit in the physical, AND you’re freed up to actually be (embody) who you would be if you DID already have all your shit in the physical, which imo is what the law is really about: who am i when I AM who I AM? a good question to ask yourself. stop waiting. be it now.

love you/believe in you/trust i see you as you already are/only you can choose how you see yourself.

✨🪞

[misstranci]

Always follow your dreams, even if that means becoming a soul-sucking succubus with a heart of gold. 😈💖

[elicathebunny]

MIRROR WORK + AFFIRMATIONS -

BASED ON 21 DAYS TO MASTER AFFIRMATION BY LOUISE HAY.

Mirror Work was a method originally developed by inspirational teacher Louise Hay as a way of getting in touch with the inner self. The primary purpose of mirror work is to develop self-love, self-care, and a more meaningful relationship with others. - Loner wolf

"The mirror reflects back to you the feelings you have about yourself. It makes you immediately aware of where you are resisting and where you are open and flowing. It clearly shows you what thoughts you will need to change if you want to have a joyous, fulfilling life."

The principles of mirror work:

Use affirmations that feel authentic to you

Dedicate at least two minutes every day

Do mirror work in private so that you aren’t disturbed (or feel the need to keep your guard up)

It’s okay to feel emotional – let yourself feel whatever comes up

Keep a journal where you record any notable experiences

"The more you use mirrors for complimenting yourself, approving of yourself, and supporting yourself during difficult times, the deeper and more enjoyable your relationship with yourself will become."

Affirmations

What are they?

The practice of positive thinking and self-empowerment

"Affirmations are anything you say or think. A lot of what people normally say and think is quite negative and doesn’t create good

experiences. You have to retrain your thinking and speaking into positive patterns if you want to heal your life."

Examples of changing negative words from into positive affirmations:

I hate my body. BECOMES I love and appreciate my body.

I’m not creative. BECOMES I am discovering talents I did not know I had.

I’m stuck in a lousy job. BECOMES Wonderful new doors are opening for me all the time.

I’m not good enough. BECOMES I am in the process of positive change, and I deserve the best.

"When you catch a negative thought, just think to yourself: That is an old thought; I no longer choose to think that way. Then find a positive thought to replace it as quickly as you can."

Examples of affirmations to practice for self-love: - aldohappy

I am worthy of love, respect, and compassion.

I am deserving of happiness and success.

I am a strong and capable person.

I love myself

I am able to create the life I want.

I am beautiful, inside and out.

I am free to be myself.

I approve of myself

I am allowed to make mistakes and learn from them

Find affirmations suited to your needs or create your own.

"Do this three or four hundred times a day, at least. No, it’s not too many times. When you are worrying, you go over your problem at least that many times."

"Give negative thoughts no importance. Just see them for what

they are—another way to keep you stuck in the past. Gently say to these thoughts, “I let you go; I approve of myself".

If you become hesitant about affirming affirmations, look within yourself and find the reasons why. Do you know?

Repeat and affirm positive affirmations to yourself with emotion. Don't just say the words for the sake of them. Really feel what you're saying and meditate on it. If you hate yourself and begin to affirm your love for yourself, really feel what that means to love and embrace yourself again.

[tuituipupu]

am i delirious (probably) but i suddenly had a thought - does k actually take selfies? like i mean without a fan holding the camera - just him? i can’t think of many instances am i being goofy rn 😭

(not mirror selfies btw i mean like inner camera selfies, just him. like kpop photocard style sksk)

[wayti-blog]

Shakespeare said that art is a mirror held up to nature. And that's what it is. The nature is your nature, and all of these wonderful poetic images of mythology are referring to something in you. When your mind is trapped by the image out there so that you never make the reference to yourself, you have misread the image. The inner world is the world of your requirements and your energies and your structure and your possibilities that meets the outer world. And the outer world is the field of your incarnation. That's where you are. You've got to keep both going. As Novalis said, 'The seat of the soul is there where the inner and outer worlds meet.

— Joseph Campbell

[blackswaneuroparedux]

Art finds her own perfection within, and not outside of herself. She is not to be judged by any external standard of resemblance. She is a veil, rather than a mirror.

Oscar Wilde, Intentions

[xbraveheartx]

If the Specter is as I believe him to be, that is to say, Carlo's true self before he died, then look how much taller he was and how much longer his hair was. The Infantilization theory ( ❀ & ❀ ) just stands so true for me.

Special thank you to @/flidgetjerome for bringing it up, because it just all seems to point in that very direction, and it makes everything so much more darker

[femmefatalevibe]

Femme Fatale Guide: How To Master The Art of Self-Validation & Stop Caring What Others Think

Remember that you have the longest relationship with yourself in this life. Friends, family, lovers, partners, spouses, mentors, etc. will come and go. Ultimately, though, you have to live with the consequences of your actions for the longest – whether they be positive or negative.

Everyone is self-centered to a certain degree. No one cares about your happiness as much or is watching you as closely as you are. They all have themselves and their lives to worry about. People are paying attention to their own self-interests (or want you to accomplish things to boost their own credibility or self-esteem). Being your greatest personal cheerleader is the only way to fully give yourself the praise and spotlight you deserve for your accomplishments.

Self-confidence is magnetic. It is the secret to showing up as your best self in all areas of life. Being secure in yourself makes you a better friend, family member, lover, partner, spouse, professional, conversationalist, etc. Validating yourself will make you feel good, but also radiates into every relationship or interaction in your life.

Discover what you love about yourself. Reflect on the personality traits, skillsets, and behaviors you know to be admirable about yourself. Are you constantly making others laugh? Do you get endless praise for your cooking, drawing, singing, or problem-solving skills? Would people come to you first to manage a crisis like a champion? Are you a master disciplinarian when it comes to going to the gym or reading? Do people regularly compliment your outfits or nails? Think of all of the aspects of your being that make you unique and help you to feel content with your existing, authentic self.

Take control of your life to cultivate your ideal self. While you should consistently praise your naturally admirable qualities, remember that you always can change aspects of your life that will help you feel like your best self. Know that you're in control of your decisions and have the mental freedom to think & act in any way you desire to reach any goals or implement lifestyle changes to feel like the person you feel destined to be.

Block out the noise and negative self-talk. We're (almost always!) our worst critics. Consider every new experience or interaction as a learning opportunity. Mistakes and failures are life lessons that facilitate self-reflection and opportunities for growth. Remember not to beat yourself up for past mistakes: You did the best you could with the information you had at the time. If you weren't embarrassed by your past self, you never gave yourself the chance to evolve and grow. Every success, failure, and new life stage offers its own lessons and teachable moments. Remember that we're all our own unique life paths. Comparing your life to someone else's is like comparing apples and oranges. Both entities may be fruitful but have vastly different flavor profiles, growing seasons, and rates at which they ripen. As Dita Von Tesse shrewdly said: "You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there will always be someone who hates peaches."

[cycle-hit]

i will utilise my carnal rage at people who mischaracterise kotoko to write her even harder. u can villify her all u want but can u study the inherent complexity of her "villainous" ways and see the pathetic sopping wet malnourished snarling dog underneath,,,,,,

[alilarew23]

manifesting isn’t work

and if it feels like it is, here’s where you’re probably missing the mark:

1. you’re not understanding that imagination is the only reality.

people will affirm til they’re blue in the face and then be like, “why isn’t it working?” the answer is simple: you think you’re changing something. you think you’re getting something. you think there’s something to do. so you do and do and do but let me honestly ask you: have you accepted the fact that your desire is already yours? have you stopped desiring? when you’re affirming or visualizing or having inner conversations are you doing so in attempt, conscious or not, to change the external world? or to remind yourself of what you already have and who you already are? manifestation is instant and effortless, and anything you “do” from the moment you imagine and claim your desire as yours should be done simply to experience and enjoy what is already so. which leads me to…

2. you’re not loving your state. enough, or at all.

the reason you desire is because you want to experience a change in self, which is ultimately a change in feeling. so when you fulfill your desire in imagination and shift states, you INSTANTLY “become” who you are. you instantly are. and if you instantly are who you claim you want to be, why are you working to change or to get anything? why aren’t you enjoying being? really, ask yourself, and answer me. if you want to be loved and you instantly are, shouldn’t you enjoy feeling loved? if you want to be rich and you instantly are, shouldn’t you enjoy feeling rich as fuck? and if you don’t, maybe that isn’t what you truly desire, or maybe you’re still waiting on the supposed-external, physical world to fulfill you. but fulfillment always always always comes from within. as within, so without. no one and nothing to change but self. you know this. so get clear on the change you want, then be it, and let it be enough. let it be more than enough. let it be rapturous. you are. you are. you are. and trust, the mirror will ALWAYS show you what you are.

💕🪞

[wychelm]

[brutalitybunny]

my annual woman. bassist ema skye :) the original bassist for the gavinners before they blewed up. its probably for the best

[the-nysh]

Vash Teef & Fangs: Trimax Volume 5

(previous: Trigun vol1-2, Trimax vol1, vol2-4)

Ch28: 'The City and then the Feast of the Hounds'

Ch30: 'Loss'

Ch31: 'Villain'

Ch32: 'Death Deal'

Ch33: 'Let Us Walk the Path to Redemption'

[j4jml]

“Were I your treasure, you would squander me. Were I your mirror, you would dazzle me.” - Seyh Galib

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