#insincere

[in-tenebris-et-in-solitudine]

Don't apologize to me if you can't change what you apologized for..

[mafaldaknows]

What happened now? What is everyone reacting to? Would be grateful for some info.

Hello, Anon:

Not sure about anyone else, but it’s honestly too stupid for words so here’s a link to what I’m reacting to, so I don’t have to look at it again. X

Too stupid for words, so here’s some Effin Birds:

Instagram: effinbirds

FWIW, had they just gone about this like normal people, without the fakery and manipulation, they would’ve gotten a much warmer reception than they’re getting of their budding romance, the timeline of which some fans are apparently hoping to accelerate because they’re most likely still children who don’t yet understand the complexities and ramifications of such an event on all the parties involved.

Dishonesty is not a good foundation upon which to build and maintain relationships, but they did it anyway, probably with the notion somehow that it was “cute” and that (her) fans would love it. If they’re miffed about the fact that many people still don’t buy what they’re selling, perhaps a review of the shady PR strategy on the rollout of this romance would be an excellent place to start troubleshooting.

Whoever wrote that article either had middle schoolers in mind or writes at that level. My sincerest apologies for any brain cells you might have lost from reading it, Anon.

Thanks for your questions. 🤡🎪🤡🫣🥴

[trenhanced]

Jon Andersen. Insincerity personified.

[aizyat]

[silveragelovechild]

This doesn’t surprise me. I’ve always thought Jimmy Falcon’s style was insincere and saccharine.

[howifeltabouthim]

But, having so long unlearned the habit of sincerity, I simply said, You're welcome.

Renata Adler, from Pitch Dark

[dougielombax]

Oh dear, oh dear, oh DEAR!!!

Speaking of insincere apologies.

Id say the only thing worse than a corporate nonpology is a corporate nonpology written by an AI program.

Oh DEAR!!!

This is ghastly!

[elegantzombielite]

"The most exhausting thing in life is being insincere."

Anne Morrow Lindbergh, writer (22 June 1906-2001)

[pointman74250]

“I’m sorry for enjoying my life. I apologize.”

—— Joseph Lewis Szabo III (Apologizing for Whatever The Fuck I Laughed At, At Any Fucking Given Moment, At Any Fucking Given Time.)

[eaglesnick]

101 Things You Should Know About the UK Tory Government

Thing 10

Michael Gove has been appointed Levelling-Up, Housing and Communities Secretary. He has been described by one Downing Street source as a “snake”.

Another critic described him as "slick but insincere”. But perhaps the worst criticism came from someone in the Boris Johnson camp who said Mr Gove

‘…has just always been treacherous, disloyal, self-obsessed, untrustworthy – pick whichever you like’. (Metro 10.07.22)

Maybe this is why Sunak choose Gove to be his Levelling-Up Secretary. After all, Gove’s Parliamentary voting record suggests he will do the exact opposite of levelling up, as so far, he has done his level best to keep people “in their place".

He has consistently voted FOR ending financial support for 16–19-year-olds in training or further education. He has consistently voted FOR raising university tuition fees while voting AGAINST a banker's bonus tax. He has consistently voted AGAINST a mansion tax, while voting FOR reducing capital gains tax.

 Don’t expect levelling-up any time soon

[arfff-draws]

My Insincerest Apologies! by arfff

We've all had a boss like this, yeah? https://www.redbubble.com/shop/ap/113581252?asc=u

[cynthiabaileyrug]

How To Identify Fake Apologies And Genuine Apologies

Have you ever been on the receiving end of an apology that felt insincere & fell flat?  It might have been someone repeating the words “I’m sorry,” but with an entirely different intention.  Fake apologies are unfortunately all too common, especially with narcissists & they can leave the recipient feeling more hurt & confused than before. It’s important to be able to recognize the difference…

[ghostwriter-kin]

What Good Is Sorry?

Word count: 971

Apology

Definition: a regretful acknowledgement of an offence or failure.

Key word being, regretful.

As children we are taught to apologize.

However, people fail to grasp one simple fact;

if you force a child to apologize, they don't genuinely mean it.

In doing so we are reinforcing something very dark and cruel. The belief that, as long as we've apologized, it’s okay.

In an ideal world we wouldn't have to apologize, because we wouldn't hurt people.

But values don't always align, and boundaries are trampled.

This is natural.

What isn't natural, is the normalized response to hurting someone.

We may feel sorry for harming someone and give a genuine apology, but the reality is,

we don't always.

When we don't, we do something even more unforgivable than whatever pain we inflicted;

We effectively devalue the other person's emotions. Their hurt and pain. Their anger and frustration.

If we don't mean our “sorries” or our “forgive me's”, why do we apologize?

We apologize for one of two reasons.

1) It is what’s expected of us; this is pride.

2) We do not want to take responsibility for our wrongs and wish things would return to how they used to be; this is ego.

Regardless of which two paths of ingenuity you find yourself stumbling down, understand this: both of these come from yourself.

They are about you and for you.

Pride: we apologize because we don't want to look bad in front of another person.

We have appearances to keep up and a reputation to maintain. If we make a mistake we know is damaging to either one, or both, we apologize, to clear the air.

“Look how great I am, I've apologized”.

We take attention away from our blunder and twist the situation to favour us.

The path of pride also stems from disrespect. Both for yourself and others.

We are willing to lie to ourselves and everybody else, all to clear our name.

We may forget. In time others may forget. But do not underestimate for how long the soul will remember.

If we lie our way through an apology, we are breaking our own trust.

It's hard to trust a liar, isn't it? And the more they lie, the less inclined we are to trust them.

This remains true for our own selves. We lose faith in ourselves, and deep down we will no longer depend on ourselves.

It damages self-confidence.

Ego: we apologize because we do not want to deal with the consequences of our mistakes.

We take advantage of the guilt and the shame people are conditioned to feel if they reject our apology.

We use apology, not as an act of repentance and humbling, but as a tool, to force the other person passed their anger and hurt, to push them into moving on, so our lives can return to the cushy state it was in before we messed up.

This is manipulation.

If we apologize with no remorse in mind and we do it with only our own self-interest at heart, specifically to better the outcome and suit ourselves, we are manipulating the people we've hurt.

From a manipulative standpoint then, what is actually hiding behind the words “I'm sorry”?:

“I've apologized, you can't be mad at me.” You are devaluing someone’s full right to be upset with you. >>> “Your pain doesn't matter to me.”

“I've apologized, now you have to forgive and forget.” You don't want to deal with the full weight of someone's righteous anger, so you use “I'm sorry” as a shield, to protect yourself until theyhopefully forget. >>> “I'm not willing to take responsibility for what I've done to you so let's just forget it.”

“I've apologized, you have to be happy with me now.” You treat a person’s forgiveness as if it's something they owe you automatically, once you've apologized. >>> “I deserve your forgiveness because I've said these two words, I need to do nothing else.”

It's about intention.

“I'm sorry” should not be an apology.

“I'm sorry”, should be a promise.

Once we've apologized, it indicates something to the other person;

not only have we chosen to acknowledge how we treated them, but we also intend to work on this part of our selves, and better it, so we don't hurt them the same way again.

If someone hears the words “I'm sorry”, it’s the promise they hear and they feel reassured.

And so they wait. And they wait. And they're still waiting.

Right up until the moment we commit our next fault. Then, they forget about our old offense, and fixate on the current one.

We apologize, and the cycle continues.

Our loved ones becomes trapped in a constant downhill tuck and roll.

They trust less and less, and their love wanes.

But not for us, that's the irony of it.

It’s their trust and love for themselves, that’s affected.

As they allow us to continue our toxic, manipulative behaviour, bad treatment followed by a pretty bow-tied apology, internally they lose respect for themselves, and they slowly arrive at a place where they no longer value themselves at all.

When we notice they’ve arrived at this place, we will blame them.

They've changed, they're the cause.

The problem.

But if we ceased lying to ourselves for a single solitary second and looked back, we'd notice, actually it was us.

We changed them. We destroyed them.

And we alone, are responsible for this broken thing they've become.

A heartless, soulless and mindless apology will do a person very little harm.

But administer it again and again and again, and it will kill the person we once claimed to love.

All this darkness and pain, simply because as children we were taught;

it’s all right to be insincere in your apology, as long as you’ve said;

“I'm sorry”.

Kin🐌

[howifeltabouthim]

Our meeting had seemed to be more like theater than like life, which bothered me . . .

Catherine Lacey, from Biography of X

[dougielombax]

If you’re unironically siding with European and American far right groups and actual Neo-Nazis to get back at other bigots and political groups who have wronged you, then you’re a fucking idiot.

The very same kind of idiot as those aforementioned Neo-Nazis and European or American far right types.