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[positiveseed]

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[makofox]

[inikumi]

Kita di zona kita masing-masing. Kita sedang tidak berlomba dengan siapa-siapa. Kita hanya sedang berlomba dari kita yang kemarin.

Nyatanya ada seseorang yang terus masih mencari kebahagiaan, padahal sudah banyak yang dicapainya. Capek, bakal capek; Kalau parameternya dilihat dari pencapaian orang lain.

[hxneydreamers]

✨THE ONLY THING YOU NEED TO GET EVERY DESIRE✨

My biggest struggle this year began when my SP and I separated. My focus was all over the place as I had just begun a new job - what was supposed to be my dream job. My mental diet completely slipped because I did not put in the time to identify what was triggering me, and I instead used my free time to desperately affirm for my SP. All my energy was on things external to me, and when I didn't see results, my self-concept got worse and worse until even my job became horrible. I was in the worst place ever and I felt trapped.

I took a break from manifestation and basically fell victim to my 3D until one day I had a breakdown and begged the 'universe' for some sort of sign of what to do. That same weekend I bumped into a friend who started telling me that she saw on Facebook that we were both part of a manifestation group. She proceeded to tell me about how she manifested her SP back with self-concept only - their situation was almost exactly the same as mine. This was the sign I needed.

That same week I decided to just start fresh and approach this with a new perspective. My goal was no longer my SP, but myself. My goal was to be happy again, to be fulfilled, to be the best and most fulfilled version of myself, to be chosen and irreplaceable, and to know that no one compares to me in my reality. Yes, I still wanted my SP, so if he came to my mind I would affirm a few things, but I would always steer my thoughts back to me and my self-concept.

This is what I have manifested so far by focusing only on my self-concept:

My anxiety and depression basically subsided almost overnight

Genuine joy, confidence & fulfillment with or without my specific desires.

More friends in my life, social opportunities, and experiences

My workplace has become so much more tolerable, and even enjoyable.

Opportunities for my career and access to expensive facilities and services for free.

New and amazing friendships at work (one of the biggest factors contributing to work getting better).

I did not feel like I fit in with my old team and didn't like my old desk, and I manifested being moved to a new team in the new year and have moved to the best and brightest desk in my part of the office.

A free trip away.

A random urge to completely change my hair and my look (didn't realize until after I did it that it was inspired action to shift into the new version of me.)

I manifested CRAZY AMOUNTS OF ATTENTION FROM GUYS! All year I had literally 0 action, and suddenly since I started working on my self-concept I have had options appearing out of nowhere.

New romantic options, including ones with similar vibes and similar situations as my SP.

Old crushes, old friends, people from the past & exes coming back!

Repeating numbers EVERYWHERE!!!!!! So many 1111 and 111's.

The craziest of all of this was that in the last 2 weeks I have had 2 guys come into my life:

The first one is a guy from the past who lives in another country on the other side of the world. He has the same name as my SP and is constantly messaging me, trying to organise trips for us to see each other and have a romantic getaway. (I know right, what the hell!?)

The second guy is the most recent in my life. He ALSO has the same name as my SP, but the weirdest part is that he has a similar personality and many similar traits to my SP. It's eerie. This relationship is the one that has progressed the most out of all of the options I've had come around, which makes me think this is all birds before land.

Lastly, my SP has been messaging me on all platforms much more frequently than usual. He even told me he has a gift for me. I have not seen this guy since March this year.

My affirmations:

I am torturously unbeatable, unforgettable, irresistible & irreplaceable

I am always chosen, come back to, and fallen deeply in love with

No one compares to me

No one holds a candle to me

I am the prize, I am the ideal

All the guys I want are deeply in love with me and want me a million times more than I want them

I am the most wanted, confident, magnetic, irresistible & irreplaceable person in the world

Please take this as a sign to:

Not stress about what you are affirming, when it comes to self-concept it doesn't matter how many you have. Just soothe yourself and become who you want to be

Stop stressing about your desires and start focusing on yourself. The rest will just fall into place.

Take your focus off things external from you. You only want them because you think they will make you happy. If you just focus on making yourself happy, then you will naturally manifest the desires that will contribute to that happiness.

I was spiraling and stuck in a cycle of picking new SP affirmations, reacting, back to square 1, and repeating. Since I began just focusing on self-concept, I've genuinely become the most confident, abundant, happy, and chosen version of myself ever.

Do I have moments of doubt and worry? Yes, I am only human. What do I do when this happens? I take a moment to acknowledge how I feel and listen to my body. I meditate when I feel like I need to rest my mind a bit (I like to use Dylan James' self-concept meditations on youtube - highly recommend! I also like to sleep with his meditations), or if I'm feeling up to it, I set a 10-20 minute timer and loop my affirmations confidently in my head.

I am currently feeling random waves of the old story coming up in my mind and dreams, and random triggers coming up in the 3D, trying to bring me back to my old identity, but I know this is just a purge of the old, because I'm certain I am just about to fully shift into this new version of myself.

I will update you on my progress soon, and hope this inspires you to keep going and just focus on YOU! You are the star, after all, no desire outside of you deserves your attention more than you do.

Also, I am finally opening up coaching again! I will be taking people at a much slower pace than before, as I literally get 100's of messages from different people and it can be hard to stay caught up as I do have a full-time job (and 2nd job) outside of this. If you need my help with anything, please reach out and I will do my best to get to you.

Due to the high volume of dm's for coaching that I get, I am considering finding a new way of approaching coaching, so stay tuned for that.

Sending love! 🧡✨

[janlovesquotes]

Nothing will change unless you change

[yimingpurelandacademycenter]

我们的业只有以对治力忏悔才能够消业， Our karma can only be purified by repenting with antidotes.

你不针对性地忏悔，这个业是消不掉的。 If you don't specifically repent the karma, it won't disappear.

你做了恶业，你行其他的善：打比方你杀生，你来布施，你没有忏这个杀业，而只是做一些布施的话，这个善业和恶业是不能互相抵消的。 If you've committed some negative karma but do another positive action: for example, if you've committed killing, and instead of specifically repenting the karma of killing, you give alms, then it can't cancel out the negative karma of killing.

如是因、如是果，它们不互相抵消。 A cause brings a result. One cause can't cancel out another cause.

只有针对这个恶业做忏悔，用智慧来对治。 The only way is to specifically repent the negative karma and apply the antidote of wisdom.

用定和慧来对治这个业，业才能消得最快。 Only with concentration and wisdom, can the karma be eliminated most quickly.

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[in-tenebris-et-in-solitudine]

Even though I feel more lonely today than usual, I know this feeling will pass. The world can seem unfair at times, but good people find each other every day. I believe that my person is out there, seeking me just the same. While I wait, I will focus on the love I have for myself and the world around me. I will fill my time with activities that uplift me and share my gifts with others. Each of us has so much to offer if we look within. This period of reflection is helping me learn what I value most so that I can recognize the right connections when they come. I know with patience and an open heart, I will find the mutually fulfilling love I seek. But for now, I have everything I need within me.

[paula-of-christ]

Why You Should Take Dating Advice Unseriously

I decided to go look and see what a former tumblr user is up to, who was rather infamous so I will not be saying who, and I'm astounded at the relationship advice they were giving out. Someone who has presumably not dated for over a decade, because they are married and have children older than that, giving advice to women that amounts to "radfem" hatred of men. As Catholics we ought to love all of our brothers in Christ, even if they can only afford "cheap" first dates, like coffee or drinks. I'm not sure the poster has been out to have drinks lately, but alcoholic drinks (and the food that generally goes with them) are not cheap. And is a good, casual place to go to so long as you 1) do not drink more than what is appropriate and 2) are in a well populated area. For safety reasons this should be adhered to on the first 5 or 6 dates. But even then, a coffee date which can turn into a walk in the park, is a great first date. Why should a man have to spend an exuberant amount of money on a first date, for someone he may not like, or for someone who may not like him?

The post was just so degrading to men as well as women. Saying women who pay for dating sites were just desperate and asking to be taken advantage of monetarily by men. And that men who cannot afford a subscription to a dating service that allows him to message someone back or allow the other person to see their message right away, are just too poor to date.

It boggles my mind because this is not how dating websites work. By and large, to be able to send and receive messages without waiting to open them, BOTH people must have a subscription. That's just how it works.

And even if for some reason only one person needs a subscription to view the message, you still won't be able to message them back. You might be able to send an emoji or react to their message, but actually having a conversation is impossible. So, how are you meant to meet this person? You don't put contact information into your biography or your profile. And if a man provides his contact information, this poster says that you should not be the first to message as a woman. So you are completely left to look at men whom you have no idea how to contact, and that you may not even be interested in. Since the advice in showing men how you are interested, is simply going to their profile, since dating sites will tell them that you looked at their profile. However, when I was on the market, I could not tell you how many men I wasn't interested in after seeing their profile, because of not having similar hobbies, or they didn't fully agree with Catholic Teaching, or because a different photo made me realize I wasn't attracted to someone. Many men, with the idea that I looked at their profile so I must be interested, messaged me, but I wasn't interested in them, so it was a waste for them to do so. This means it can take many months or even years for someone to find a person to even go on one date with, let alone to marry.

My point being, having a shallow view of men - that is, that they are not worth the time of day if they won't spend hundreds of dollars on a dating site every year, and in fact are stingy or cheap for not doing so - as well as a shallow view of women - that being sure of yourself and what you want and being direct about it - is not what we are meant to do. Yes, a man ought to pursue a woman, and continue doing so even after they have entered a relationship or marriage. But, a woman ought to equally pursue and show her significant other that she is interested in him. It will look different, but it is not wrong to have a crush on someone, and wish to further your relationship with them.

If you have the money and you feel it is worth the money, by all means, pay for that subscription. When I was dating it was not worth it, especially since I found my husband in person, and he is a man who does not use social media. But, there are plenty of good, solid men out there, that will respect you, earn a good living, and will not waste money paying an astronomical amount of money for dating sites, when they do not have a good track record.

[251wpnwrx]

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[teendiary16]

my blog focus

hey guys ! I thought I would make this first post about what my blog will focus on.

As a teenage girl myself I know the struggles life can throw at us and although I still struggle a lot with life I have improved my life so much and thought I could share some advice to help others to the same. I will focus on some popular topics that I think will be helpful but please feel to contact me with any questions or post ideas you have and I will try my hardest to cover them all (don't worry this is a safe space and will be confidential no one will ever know you have contact me or your question).

xoxo

[haeiny]

“Own your mistakes. When you know yourself, you’re a happier person, and when your self esteem is high you can be happy for everyone else."

-Peggy Gou, Vogue's "What's In My Bag" Interview

[makofox]

I nap either way 😜

[inikumi]

Se-sholeh apapun dia, dia tetaplah “manusia”

— yang bisa mematahkan hati atas sebuah ekspektasi yang terlalu tinggi. Jangan. Jangan sesekali menaruh harap.

[niceology]

Niceology Lesson 64

If you're looking to hire someone for a job, you might post that job on Indeed or LinkedIn or some other job site. How about this: post the fucking salary for the job! That's a really nice thing to do! I'm not sure if people are aware of this, but the salary of a job is a crucial aspect to a job. It's important information to have. I just think it would be really a nice thing to do, listing the salary.

A lot of the time they say the salary is "competitive." The fuck? Oh, it's competitive? Lotta things are competitive, doesn't mean they're good. The Detroit Pistons are competitive, and they're made up of competitive players, but they're the worst team in the NBA right now. Maybe the salary for this potential job is competitive, and it goes out there and competes against all the other salaries, and it gets its ass kicked.

Sometimes they put a range, which can be okay. They'll say the salary is 55,000-60,000, and that's fine. I'm grateful for that. That's a nice thing to do. Even a slightly bigger range like 50,000-60,000 is fine by me. But you can't just throw a range on there and pretend that you're being nice. I once saw a range of 60,000-120,000. It wasn't even a sales position where you could have a huge range from commissions. That's not nice, man. What kind of information is that? I hope you realize how different my life would be making 120,000 a year vs. 60,000. That's not an acceptable range. Come on, man.

Just post the salary, man. Just be nice for once.

[firmflexing]

Question of the week.

What would you tell your own younger self?