#lpt

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[memewhore]

That's why you gotta have an emergency supply of these $1.97 bad boys on hand at all times...

[zajquor]

Everyone hates the whole "I CANT HEAR YOU SPEAK LOUDER STOP MUMBLING" and so on bullshit. There is an easy solution to not be that person. Just say "wait a minute", take the person to a quieter/more isolated location or wait until it has quieted down a little and then say "okay, now again, I couldn't understand you with all that noise".

- tells them that it is not their fault

- tells them that you are actually interested in what they have to say

- makes them feel safer to maybe even speak louder

[auroras-void]

Can't believe I haven't shared this here sooner, but life pro tip for all y'all tryna flirt with people:

Saying "hello I am flirting with you, you are being flirted with" with is actually unironically an irl cheat code.

I highly recommend you try it, especially for y'all out there flirting with your Tumblr mutuals.

Like it works unreasonably well. Has had a 100% success rate for me personally (Granted this is a single digit sample size composed entirely from people I met here on the Autism and ADHD gay flirting website, (I actually didn't even really get my current gf by doing this, but that's bc we met on a dating app so the expectations are a lot clearer from the getgo I feel like, though the more generalized ideas here do still apply))

Fr tho. Being explicit about your intentions makes the rest wayy easier to do. There are actual studies on this, most people, *including neurotypical people*, are extremely bad at being able to tell when someone is flirting with them. By skipping the guessing games and uncertainty, you get to be on the same page with the person you're talking to right away, you're not confusing each other, you're not wasting each other's time or bothering them, and you immediately get to operate under the assumption that you can now read any future interactions flirtatiously.

Additionally if someone reacts negatively and dislikes that you're communicating honestly and openly, they probably aren't a great person to be in a relationship with! So figuring that out is also a win!

You don't have to be as blunt as my example, (like you can drop a "to be clear I mean that flirtatiously" to the end of your dialogue and that feels relatively seamless, or you can open with a compliment followed by asking if they're willing to be flirted with at the moment, which also gives them the opportunity to turn you down right away, (Which helps even if they don't want to! People like having their consent requested and their boundaries respected!). Obv, also pay attention to social cues and context, be in a space where it is not unusual to be flirted with, don't jump out at people from nowhere, etc. Use your best judgement.

[prototypesteve]

Dreams vs. Plans

I have a half dozen friends all in the middle of massive changes of plans in order to achieve their dreams. Career dreams. Family dreams. Fitness dreams. Wellness dreams. None of them are following their original plans as a path to those dreams, but they’re all joyful.

Not always “happy.” But happiness flits in and out. Happiness is the emotional weather, joy is the emotional climate and landscape. We can cover that in a future post.

Nothing goes to plan. I hadn’t planned on coming out, this year. It was scary. It hurt. It opened every old emotional wound. There were lots and lots of dark moments to push through. On top of that—in my case—it meant closing down all my old social media accounts and coming back slightly anonymous, but genuinely myself. Change of scale. Change of scope. Change of tone. But all to get myself back on track to become the person I want to be.l: Genuine, complete, and free. Travelling, building, storytelling, learning, and exploring.

[Image description: Chalk calligraphy that reads, “The only joyful people I know had to ditch their plans on order to keep their dreams.”]

[astraltrickster]

I wish I could tell my 9-year old self that no, growing up and getting excited about "boring" things like kitchen appliances isn't sad, because contrary to what people would have you think it DOESN'T tend to totally change who you are as a person and replace everything else you love - they add to what makes you happy, they don't replace a damned thing, and the excitement is VERY genuine

But since I can't do that I'll just put it out here for any younger people who need it

You grow to love "boring" things because they improve your life, not because it's the only thing you're "allowed" to get excited about once you reach a certain age

Also! That stage in life has nothing to do with numerical age; you can fall in love with something "boring" at any time and it feels exactly the same! Loving the new kitchen appliance as an adult is no different from loving the Easy-Bake oven or the first thing you learned to make your own recipes with as a kid! It's not "turning into your parents" (scary), it's bringing out new joy in YOU! It's fucking awesome!

[seasonallydefective]

If you can’t say anything nice …

I find that the Bob Belcher “Hm.” works pretty well to get people to take their polarizing conversation elsewhere.

[newgirljade]

Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly

[vanitastalk]

awesamponk??? in this economy???!! more likely than you think!!

well awesamponk by proxy, but eh, details

closeups under cut

anyway, looks like someone's jelly... don't feel bad for him though, it's his own fault

this is (of course) fanart for my fic Living Past Tomorrow of a scene that hasn't even happened yet so kinda spoilers?? but I listened to 'I Found' got inspired and had to draw them so here

Foolish, sweety, I'm so sorry but you're getting caught up in their divorce arc!!

[momoguido]

You want to know a surefire way to get good at something? Make it a coping strategy. Make it the thing you do to forget about your troubles, to stop thinking or feeling anything.

Not only will you put all of your attention onto what you're doing, you'll also be doing it a lot. Because life is stressful, and we all need healthy coping strategies.

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[221bluescarf]

Facing being homeless Life Pro Tip that might help someone

"The gym is a place that you can use to get back on your feet. In addition to getting regular exercise and meeting people, you can bathe there, store your valuables in a locker, wash your clothes in the shower and dry them in the sauna, you can also forage for new clothes from the lost and found bins. It also allows you to retain your dignity, as you have a regular way of being clean and fresh. Most gyms have long hours and unlimited use, so on days of bad weather you can take a free class or do laps in the pool. Most gyms have monthly cash options that are less than $50. You also will have a source of clean water and free energy to charge your devices. I used this method to free myself from homelessness years ago. I hope this helps someone."

[linyuey]

This is my first time using tumblr :> my favourite LPT animatic was Rocket Ships

[mrminority]

LPT sketch dump

[auroras-void]

ADHD tip for y'all that I've discovered:

First of all, use floss picks, it's less steps than floss and it's less work and less sensory bad

Second of all, get a *lot* and carry some in your purse, or another container you take with you everywhere. And just, floss your teeth whenever you feel like it? Like, there's no reason you need to floss in front of the bathroom sink. You can do it anywhere. I'll just be walking around the hardware store with a floss pick in my mouth now. Or like I have a snack and realize I got something stuck in my teeth and I realize I can get it out like instantly with a pick.

It's just like a fidget toy that cleans my teeth??? And bonus I get something I'm allowed to chew on afterwards when I feel bitey.

It has done wonders for my dental hygiene, like the dentist was *not* lying, your gums actually *do* stop bleeding if you floss regularly. I now floss more regularly than I brush my teeth it's amazing.

The one downside is you start to build up a lot of used floss picks on your person, so I keep a seperate bag for discards and I always break the string when I'm done so as to not confuse them, also also I have biodegredable ones made of like wheat something, so in the event I drop one (or rather forget I was holding one and walk away), it's at least not the *worst* thing I could be littering, especially chewed up with a broken string and a worn off point.

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i spent way too much time on this