#me. a gay mexican trans man

[hardrockshrimp]

I love clerks 3 so much, even if the worst guy ever flaked out on our plans to go see it in theaters last year

[kelpiemomma]

God, I had one (1) candid conversation with my mother and now she keeps telling everyone that I have no filter. Not my brother, who never watches his language and talks about going off on park rangers and road raging and how he was gonna punch the guy dropping a package off at our house for almost running into him. Not my brother who mutters shit under his breath in front of my parents, who throws fits when he gets scolded even though he's 31. Not my brother who barely has a filter at work by his own admission.

Me. Who doesn't curse in front of my parents. Who always watches what I say so I don't start a fight. Who admitted to my parents there are things I'd like to tell my brother but don't so I don't come off sounding like another parent to him.

I am the one who doesn't have a filter.

[molsno]

I've already written about why male socialization is a myth that needs to be discarded, but in the responses to those posts, I sometimes find tme trans people who concede that yes, the concept of male socialization should be rejected, but refuse to let go of their own supposed female socialization. this always makes me quite reasonably angry, for two reasons:

I dislike it when people hijack my posts about transmisogyny to talk about things that aren't transmisogyny.

rejecting male socialization but embracing female socialization is still innately transmisogynistic.

you might find yourself wondering how that second point could possibly be true. it's true for a lot of reasons, and I'll explain to the best of my ability.

"female socialization" is the idea that people who were assigned female at birth undergo a universal experience of girlhood that stays with them the rest of their lives.

right off the bat, this concept raises alarm bells. first, it is a bold (and horribly incorrect) assertion to claim that there is any universal experience of girlhood that is shared by all people who were afab. what exactly constitutes girlhood varies greatly based on culture, time period, race, class, sexual orientation, and many, many other factors. disregarding transness for a moment, can you really say that, for example, white women and black women in modern day america, even with all else being equal, are socialized in the same way? the differences in "socialization" only become more stark the fewer commonalities two given people have. to give another example, a white gay trans man born in 2001 to an upper middle class family in a progressive city in the north is going to have a very different life than a cis straight mexican woman born in 1952 to an impoverished family and risked her life immigrating to the us in the deep south. can you really say anything meaningful about the "female socialization" that these two supposedly have in common? I think that b. binaohan said it best in "decolonizing trans/gender 101":

Then in a singular sense we most certainly cannot talk about 'male socialization' or 'female socialization' as things that exist. We can only talk about 'male socialization**s**' and 'female socialization**s**'. For if we take the multiplicity of identity seriously, as we must, then we are socialized as a whole person based on the nexus of the parts of our identity and our axes of oppression. ... Indeed, it gets complex enough that we could assert, easily, that each individual is socialized in unique ways that cannot be assumed true of any other person, since no one else shares our **exact** context. Not even my sister was socialized in the same way that I was.

and while I could just leave it at that and tell you to read the rest of their book (which you should), it wouldn't sit right with me if I just debunked the concept without explaining exactly why it's transmisogynistic at its core.

now, I should preface this by saying that I believe trans people have a right to identify however they want, and I think that trans people deserve the space to talk about their lives before transition without facing judgment. there are tme trans people who consider themselves women and there are trans men who don't consider themselves women at all but nonetheless have a lot of negative experiences with being expected to conform to womanhood. I don't want to deprive these people of the ability to talk about their life experiences. however, I do want them to keep in mind a few things.

first of all, "female socialization" is terf rhetoric. terfs talk all the time about how womanhood is inherently traumatic, which they regularly use as a talking point to convince trans men to detransition and join their side. when your whole ideology hinges on the belief that having been afab predestines you to a life of suffering, who is a better target to indoctrinate than trans people for whom being expected to conform to womanhood was a major source of trauma and dysphoria? the myth of female socialization is precisely why there are detransitioners in the terf movement who vehemently oppose trans rights.

that's why when tme trans people talk about having undergone female socialization, it's almost always steeped in the underlying implication that womanhood is an innately negative experience. even if they don't buy into the biological determinism central to radical feminism, that implication is still present. because, you see, womanhood can still be innately negative because the result of being viewed as and expected to be a woman is that you are inundated with misogyny.

that right there is why clinging to the notion of female socialization is transmisogynistic. it allows tme trans people, many of whom don't even consider themselves women, to position themselves as experts who understand womanhood and misogyny better than any trans woman ever could. that's why I find it disingenuous when a tme trans person claims to reject male socialization but still considers themself as having undergone female socialization; how could they possibly benefit from doing so, other than by claiming to be more oppressed than trans women, by virtue of supposedly experiencing more misogyny?

by being viewed as more oppressed than trans women on the basis of female socialization, they gain access to "women's only" spaces that trans women are denied access to. their voices are given priority in discussions about gendered oppression. people more readily view them as the victims when they come into interpersonal conflict with trans women. they become incapable of perpetrating transmisogyny on the basis of being the "more oppressed" category of trans people.

how exactly could such a person not be transmisogynistic, though? if they believe that gendered socialization is a valid and universal truth that one can never escape from, then what does it even mean for them to reject the concept of male socialization? if they were to actually, vehemently reject it, then they would no longer be able to leverage their own "female socialization" to imply that trans women aren't real, genuine women on account of not having experienced it. and make no mistake - there are very few tme trans people who subscribe to the myth of gendered socialization that even claim to reject male socialization. most of the time, they're very clear about their beliefs that trans women have some "masculine energy" that we can never truly get rid of after having undergone a lifetime of being expected to conform to manhood. and as a result, they continue to treat trans women as dangerous oppressors.

that's why gendered socialization as a concept needs to be abandoned wholesale. there's nothing wrong with talking about your experiences as a trans person, but giving any validity to this vile terf rhetoric always harms trans women, just like it was intended to do from its very inception.

[lizardsfromspace]

Stumbling across that weird fanatically anti-transmasc cult again and this tweet really sums it up better than anything

Trans women are defined entirely by misery and tragedy. Historical trans women all died in asylums. That's why Christine Jorgensen, the first trans woman to get gender-affirming surgery in the US, tragically *squints* spent decades as a in-demand public speaker and headlining entertainer. Because trans women literally can't experience anything other than misery

I have a book from the 70s with an ad for a speaker's agency that lists her alongside Rod Serling and Cicely Tyson. And underneath Erich von Daniken, which is irrelevant to my point but really weird. She was not wasting away in an asylum. Many trans women led tragic lives; but many is not all, and there are historic examples, even really famous ones, of trans women who were happy

Why would they erase that to tell people trans women all suffer tragic fates and must suspect everyone oh yeah bc they're a cult preying on the vulnerable and trying to convince them they need protection (but oddly enough from other trans people more than anyone else?)

The trans man thing is a reference to Victor Barker, who was, indeed, a trans man and a fascist in the 1920s. But I think another key point is, uh, that was one fuckin' guy. Why are they tacking that on, except if they're trying to imply trans men are secretly fascists? But that'd be an absurd thing to belieTHEY BELIEVE THAT. That is a real thing these creeps believe now and are seriously implying on the reg

"You must be suspicious that trans men are fascists" is now part of their ever-evolving litany of apparently endless evil from transmascs who...called a internet famous trans woman an asshole? Made a bad tweet once? Literally anything a trans man ever does (or doesn't do) transforms into a collective action on the part of all trans men in their minds. Trans men aren't just not allies in their mind, but are comically evil Saturday morning cartoon villains

Also, of course, the insistence that trans men had it much easier than trans women. If all trans women's lives weren't misery, all trans men's lives weren't happy, either. This insistence they had it "easy" is giving James Somerton on Radclyffe Hall

This is, again, A Single Guy. You have proved two white trans men are fascists, one in the 1920s and one now. Maybe. Maybe some other factor is at play, some other identity shared, by these two men, and the majority of fascists. "Why do people think I hate trans men?" says a group with a list of trans men they hate they can trot out instantly

I think people are just primed to think evidence of one member of a marginalized group doing a shitty thing is proof they all do it, or to go "that's just one guy?". In another life this jabroni wouldn't be posting about how Mao would be a Baeddel (???), they'd be sharing Fox News stories about crimes to declare we need to deport all Muslims and Mexicans. It's the same psychology, just rotted by internet discourse instead of a more traditional reactionary ideology

Also you may wonder "wait, I'm a trans woman, and trans men calling me a Nazi happens quite rarely, actually". I'm a trans woman on the internet and trans men calling me a Nazi has happened a grand zero times. So you may then wonder why, precisely, this sweet, innocent bean who's never done anything wrong is called a Nazi so regularly they think it's a universal problem.

Anyway they tweeted out the Fourteen Words, but they said gay women instead of white children. Truly, how could anyone ever get the idea they're a Nazi

[paperstorm]

In my big brother Judd feelings sorry. This big teddy bear of a man who was so hurt when he briefly thought Owen was trying to replace the family he lost in the explosion but the second he realized Owen wasn’t and had put up the memorial so they’d never be forgotten, he looked at a gay Jewish kid and a Muslim woman and a black trans man and a Mexican boy with a learning disability and said MINE. These are mine now, my sister and brothers, anyone who wants to harm them is gonna have to go through me.

[vacantvisage]

My portrait at Mi Vida Trans

A project featuring portraits of Chicano trans mascs put on doors with our stories taped to the side, red carnations left at our doorsteps

I did my story as a poem:

MI VIDA TRANS

I had thought about my gender at an early age. About 5 or 6. Kindergarten.

I wasn’t like the girls.

I wanted to be like the boys, but they told me I was gross, that boys don’t play with girls.

I never really felt “like a girl” even when I knew a “girl” could be a lot of things.

I didn’t feel at home in my body.

.

When I told myself I was going to be a boy, I was 10 years old.

In the small, rural towns full of white folks, I was the Weird Kid and the Mexican.

Eventually I became the Queer Kid, too.

I told my friends I wanted to be a boy.

They told a teacher. That teacher told the principal.

The principal called me. He said “we don’t talk about that here.”

I was given detention.

I looked up “girl becomes boy” and “how to become a boy” and so much more until I found a website with a big, ugly gray background and giant red letters that said “ TRANSEXUAL”

It talked about people who had surgery and lived lives as a different sex.

Girls that became boys. Boys that became girls. Neutrois who did what they wanted.

I printed it, 25 pages, front and back, a hundred times until the library ran out of ink.

I passed out the packets.

I was given detention.

I was called a tranny-fag-dyke. I was 15.

Girls were afraid of me in the locker room, boys spat on me, my teachers gave me failing grades.

Everyone and everything was trying to confine me, trap me, I wasn’t allowed to explore my identity without being pushed from all directions. It made me realize I will always be a pariah to my peers. I had to own it or die trying.

I came out to everyone, everywhere, all the time. I was given detention, kept after school, my parents yelled and screamed at me when they found out. It was a monsoon of rage and sorrow, I was trapped trying to be free.  

Alternative subculture became a new home to me. I could find peace exploring different standards of beauty, masculinity, and femininity. Goth and metal subculturas helped me stealth both as a trans man and a Latino, where white people think celebrating the dead is evil, morbid, and grotesque.

My mother said if I was “really” a boy I should get rid of all my clothes and makeup and live like one for a year. I put everything in boxes. She called me a rat.

My father said if I was “really” a boy I should cut my hair. I cried, but I did. I cut all my hair, 5ft of it. And I cried. And cried. Our hair means so much, it carries our soul. And he called me a cunt.

I told my best friend. She said she could never see me as a man. We’re no longer friends.

I told my teacher. She told me to tell another teacher. They both told me to tell the nurse.

The nurse told me I was brave and if I ever needed help I could ask her.

They fired her.

I heard all the words for what I was, good and bad and everything between. Transexual, Transgender, Tranny, Fag, Dyke — Patlache.

I hunted for more, more knowledge of these secret lives that people lived, and even more of the open lives that people lived – people like me who found peace in their souls and friends among peers.

I started college.

Without my parents looking over my shoulder I could finally play with the names I wanted. 

I made friends with a trans girl who showed me how to be a boy, and I showed her how to be a girl.

I did her makeup, she tied my tie.

I gave her my dresses, she gave me her vests.

And I finally started to feel at home in my body.

.

I have long hair again.

I say “dear” and “darling” and all the things I heard from gay men growing up.

As a girl I was taught to be loud, to have my voice heard.

As a girl, it’s encouraged, to fight against oppression.

As a new-man I’m told to shut up and sit down.

No one wants to hear more men speak up, even when we’re drowning.

But I’m feminine for a man, so people call me a girl.

And I’m masculine for a girl, so people call me disgusting.

It doesn’t matter anymore.

I will never win this silly game of life. I can only live it the best I can.

And I’m so close to feeling at home in my body.

But still — not yet.

[itsokjunii]

intro post thing

my name's junii, or juju. whatever u want (do not call me by my username. that actually annoys me). minor, mexican, asexual, trans and gay (he/him) miiblogger. just a dude that loves drawing dudes loving dudes

special intrests

Miis (especially CPU miis), Nick RPS, Robot Jones, The Oldest View web series, Toddworld, ispy (the HBO show), the BKKC, Zoog Disney (specifically the robots but Pepper Ann counts too i think?), Apple and Onion, Dorbees (specifically Mr Poe und Yogul), Spongebob Squarepants, 90s- early 00s Nick Jr shows, The Archie Show and Howard and Nester Comics

byi

*english is not my initial language so some stuff may come out kind of off

*i draw. if you wanna art trade with me or something, i'm more than willing to do so. dont be scared to hmu on my inbox. i swear i dont bite

*im an introvert. so if you dm me, i may not respond right away. im either busy with school, sleeping or doing whatever

*you may absolutely get inspiration from my spreads, just please do not reupload or get extremely heavy inspiration. this has happened numerous times and none of which were good experiences.

*yes you may draw my miis. just dont be weird with any of them. im usually a pretty chill person but it makes me really freaked out easily. i cant believe i hafta say that on tumblr soil man.

*my crusty ass art is in the #junk i made tag, if u even care

*this is an important one. please for the love of sin city do not bring up the mii blogger(s) @/IsaactheMii and/or @/Zorrpu around me. they dont want anything to do with me as much as i dont want anything to do with them. (if any of your posts/reblogs contains one or both of them, please tag #junii dont look. thanks.)

thank you, and good night/ref

with that, i'll leave u with my mii juju in the undercut

dni rules still aply. pro shits, racists, cpu mii hate artists, homophobes/transphobes, hazbin hotel fans, age players, dni. you will be blocked on sight. no exceptions.

[psi0nics]

Spider-Gwen is Very Likely Trans in Across the Spider-Verse, says One More Person

But this shit matters.

I've rewatched Across the Spider-Verse for probably the eighth time recently, and it continues to be blaringly obvious to me that Gwen is most likely a trans girl. I'm most certainly not the only one to have pointed this out, and I don't really think I'm adding anything new. But we need as many voices to speak up, I feel, and I might as well share what I think of it. Now, this little essay is going to focus mainly from the movie's material alone since I'm not much of a comic reader, and it'll be limited to my own experience as a Filipino trans girl who really wants to express some thoughts.

Spoilers ahead!

Across the Spider-Verse explores the journey of Miles Morales after the first film, Into the Spider-Verse, where he rises up to the mantle of Spider-Man. Now, we follow him as he fights to be recognized as Spider-Man by the rest of Spider-Society, who reject him for factors out of his control—and yet he made the best of them, took pride in them, and rose up to become Spider-Man in all the ways that matter. Unfortunately, the exact circumstances, Spider-Society doesn't like—represented by Miguel O'Hara. From all that I've heard and read, a lot of Miles's story strongly being a very Black story, drawing from Miles being Afro-Latino, and though the story itself never shows racism nor do the different universes explicitly show systemic discrimination and whatnot, his story still clearly draws from that. Miguel O'Hara isn't some racist white dude excluding Miles because he's Afro-Latino, Miguel is an Irish-Mexican man and the entire theme of the Spider-Society is that it is extremely diverse and open. But that doesn't mean that the institution that it represents in the context of literally everything Rio Morales, Miles's Mother, tells him. To remember where he's from, to not let those big institutions tell Miles that he doesn't belong there, and all these things that are brimming with subtext.

The subtext is there, and it's all intentional.

Then there's Gwen Stacy. Who, for her entire arc of the film, hinges on a relationship setup from the beginning—her father, George Stacy. Now, for a lot of trans people, including me, we found it striking that that arc felt pretty queer-coded. Now, by itself, there's nothing much to be gleaned, just Gwen struggling with the fact that she's forced to reveal her superhero identity to her dad in a tense moment, ripping them apart, and later reconciling. Now, I'm quite young for a queer person, but I'm aware of the history of all these subtle things or narratives about identity being all that queer people had in the mainstream for a very, very long time.

But these days, we celebrate every win, for every explicitly queer character, for every confirmation from creators where they couldn't explicitly show anything in the material (except for Rowling bullshit, fuck that fake shit), and every hold that we're constantly fighting for. I know I'm speaking for a lot of people when I say we are so happy to see so many gay and bi characters see the mainstream's spotlights, be left unquestioned, that I, someone on the other side of the world, am left in positive awe whenever I see some middle-aged white dudes casually say, "My daughter's girlfriend." But of course, it's always a fight. We can't be complacent, because for every win, people will always try to tear it down, and I know I just happen to be in pretty inclusive online communities to see what I see in the west. There, people queer sexualities still fight. Here, people still fight. Queer identities will never stop fighting.

All this to say, what of Gwen? Well, one of the moments that made me think about her this way was when I was putting the little hints together. Because her arc does not stand in isolation. Her arc is literally colored by transness. From the big trans flag above her door, the trans colors that literally paint her and her world, the reflections that show her other identity, her reconciliation with her father hitting us with "They can only know half of who I am," the acceptance, and even the tiniest bit of Mary Jane's voice over talking about raising a child that's different than everyone else and learning to learn as a parent, and all these details. Hell, she even hangs out with Hobie Brown, whose entire thing is anarchism, the rejection of what society has considered the norm for bullshit reasons, to hang out with a radical leftist—and as one of those, there's not any other group (or at least from my experience) quite as intersectional with solidarity with marginalized groups as radlefts. To those who say, "Maybe she's just an ally," I challenge you: why would the film stop there?

Why does the film that goes out of its way to casually show more people of color as normal, to show people with disabilities playing basketball, to show an entire arc about Miles striving to fight the institutions that want to keep him down, to drive with progress, to drive the narrative that anyone can be behind the mask, why would it stop at making Gwen Stacy a trans girl?

And very similar to Miles, of course there's no one explicitly transphobic nor are any groups shown to be that. It's a more personal story, and is more subtle about it. And it's crazy how much this reminds of when I grew up watching The Legend of Korra, when Korra and Asami's relationship was only some endgame thing and hinted at with a "vacation." Gay people didn't have that much there. Not much in other places in the mainstream either. They started making their own, of course. Through fan-fiction, through art, making their own stories. But fortunately (I say with as much dripping sarcasm as I can) capitalism now sees it as a big enough market for billionaires to profit off of. (Which is, in a very dystopian way, a win.) And now, it's eerily familiar to see trans people get the same treatment now, stuck in a limbo of infrequent and rare representation in the mainstream if we aren't clawing for every inch.

So, while Miguel O'Hara isn't a racist authoritarian, George Stacy isn't a transphobe—not when he goes out of his way to wear trans flags (and no, it's not a trick of the light; nothing is a trick of the light, it's all intentional in animation). But the conflicts they represent aren't any less meaningful in the subtext. And that means a lot for people who are fighting tooth and nail to be recognized.

And all of this, too, is representative of one of the first and second film's main themes. It's not that it doesn't matter who's behind the mask, it's that it can be anyone behind the mask, carrying with them all the richness of their experiences, bringing forth a Spider-Person unlike any other. And in the second film, to defy the patterns and labels set by the institutions that govern our lives, doing things like using fear and preserving an order for some grand picture.

So, I'm pretty sure Gwen Stacy is trans. What does it add to the story? Nothing. Being cis never added much to the story.

But for someone like me, it's doing a lot. It gives me hope.

[beansprean]

Some old doodles from a Monster Of The Week campaign! Starring Víctor Osorio-Beltrán, my out-of-time gay 1860s cowboy and legacy monster hunter; Mari, a documentary podcasting Jewish Yankee and baby-werewolf; Bea, a trans e-girl conspiracy theorist and probable monsterfucker; and John Johnson, A Guy Who Likes Mushrooms.

(ID in alt and under cut)

[ID 1: Bust of Víctor, a Mexican man in his 30s with brown skin and dark curly hair, overgrown at the neck and forehead. He is wearing a stetson-style hat, teal cotton shirt, faded red kerchief, and brown leather duster coat. He is holding up a Colt revolver with one hand and gazing at it with interest.

2a: Mari, a 20-something woman-going-on-werewolf with pale skin, curly brown hair, and large red glasses over golden eyes, lays on her back in what looks like the hollow trunk of a tree. She is gazing up past the viewer in absolute horror, eyes wide, fanged mouth gaping open as if preparing to scream.

2b: What Mari was looking at in such horror. The face of a young boy frozen in a mask of fear, fashioned by the bark of the tree, mouth wide open in a silent scream as sap tears flow from his wide wooden eyes down his cheeks.

3: Waist up of Bea, a stout almost-20 white girl with shoulder length pink hair and bangs, blue eyes, a nose stud, freckles, black nails, rouge around her eyes, and big round glasses, wearing a tee shirt showing bigfoot in the tractor beam of a UFO under a denim jacket. She is cupping her chin thoughtfully between the forefinger and thumb of one hand, mouth curled in a mischievous little smile. "Yup. Definitely aliens," she declares.

4: Víctor stands next to John, a 30-something white man with close-shaved brown hair, grey eyes, a sparse goatee, and thick square glasses. John is holding a smartphone and is wearing a blue zip up hoodie over a tee shirt with a cartoon floppy disk declaring "I am your father" to a USB stick that replies "Nooo!". Víctor points uncertainly to the phone and says "Yeah, send him a, uh, telegram." John squints skeptically back at him and replies "Sure, 'time travel guy'," clearly believing it's all an act.

5a: Back in the 1860s. A Navajo man with long back hair, dimples, and a scar on his chin smiles softly at the viewer. He is wearing a flat-brimmed hat with a beaded band, patterned scarf, tan cotton shirt, and denim coat. His hair is pulled back in a tsiiyeel with white thread, two long beaded braids in front. 5b: The Navajo man sits at a bar with Víctor, smirking slightly as he says "Well right now, I'm a mite curious about the man sitting next to me." Smiling back, Víctor responds flirtatiously, "Oh?"

6: John, standing next to Mari in a white dress shirt and orange tie, frowns and fiddles nervously with his fingers. "I personally would like to not get eaten." Mari, lifting her upper lip to display an impassive fang, replies "I will do my best, man."

7a: A shadowy figure in a hoodie runs in fear, pursued by Mari, claws out and face in deep shadow other than the bright hungry yellow glow of her eyes. 7b: Close up of Mari as she snaps out of it suddenly, looking frightened of herself as her claws freeze mid-attack.

8a: Víctor and Bea sit together in the backseat of a car. Víctor is explaining something about vampires, his speech bubbles containing drawings of first a animalistic naked half-bat creature with stone-gray skin and wings and then a purplish humanoid in a waistcoat hissing as his skin smokes in the sun. Bea listens with rapt excitement, leaning forward with a giant grin. 8b: John in the driver's seat looking nervous and uncomfortable, hands at ten and two as he stares pointedly out the front windshield. He says, "Crazy day today, huh guys?" Looming behind him is the "are ya winning, son?" meme. /end ID]

[nicosraf]

hey! i just finished reading Angels Before Man about an hour ago and I’m so delighted to find that you have a tumblr, most cause I wanted to compliment you on such a gorgeous book. The last 50 pages, my heart was in my throat.

Are you Mexican Catholic (or ex Catholic) ? I am and I found so much of my reality a gay trans man reflected back to me. Thank you for writing what is truly my favorite book ever rn!

Hello! Thank you for reading!! I'm really happy you liked it and it made you feel something! That's what matters the most to me :')

Also yes I was raised very very Mexican Catholic, that's why Im so crazy. It means the world to me that you saw some of yourself in it. I'm glad!!! I know how lonely it can feel.

Sending u love and hope for good things :) <3

[brain-stewz]

A rant.

There's nothing that I hate more than prejudiced people. People who hate others just because of their skin colour, ethnicity, gender, or sexuality. Or even if they're neurodivergent. Like what the fuck is that about. Let people be people. Like what do you mean you think women belong in the kitchen? Also that people under the Trans umbrella are born something and they should stick with it. As well as how people of the LGBTQIA+ community shouldn't love who they love and that people of colour don't deserve rights because they're different than you, a straight cis white boy. Not a man. A boy. Because a man wouldn't be biased because somebody is different from them. I just don't get how some people are just so hateful. It's sickening to me really. How dare you, a person who didn't have to fight for your rights and freedom, hate someone who did. You should be honoring them. Because their people who they stand for, worked hard in to getting where they are now. But you still decide to make fun of and berate them. I don't get it. We should be celebrating each other. Not hating each other. Hate is the worst thing this world created. Hate is strong, but love is stronger. We should love each other. We should be equal. World Peace. I want a world where people love and celebrate each other. Not one where we hate and berate each other. All of my love goes to the POC community, the LGBTQIA+ community, All religions, and all of the women out there. Blacks, Asians, Mexicans, Whites, Indians, Mixed, Albinos, Natives, anyone indigenous. I love you. Gays, Straights, Trans, Cis, anyone in the LGBTQIA+ community. I love you. Muslims, Jews, Christians, Atheists, Satanists, Agnostics, Hindus, and religion. I love you. And to every single woman out there, I love you. I love every single person out there. Even despite their differences. I love you. And other people should love you too.

[dear-indies]

hi cat, hi mouse! i hope your day has been lovely! i'm working on a mw queue for my rp, and i need more non binary fc's with resources! could you help me out? <3 thank you so much in advance!

Sara Ramírez (1975) Mexican and some Irish - non-binary, queer and bisexual (they/them) - has spoken up for Palestine!

Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha (1975) Tamil Sri Lankan, Burgher Sri Lankan / Romani, Irish - is non-binary transfeminine and autistic (they/she).

Ser Anzoategui (1979) Argentinian, Paraguayan - is non-binary (them/him/she).

Andrew Gurza (1984/1985) Jewish - is non-binary (they/them) and has cerebral palsy.

Asia Kate Dillon (1984) Ashkenazi Jewish / Unspecified - non-binary and pansexual (they/them) - has spoken up for Palestine!

Pidgeon Pagonis (1986) Mexican and Greek - is intersex and non-binary (they/them) - has spoken up for Palestine!

Janelle Monáe (1985) African-American - is non-binary (has said "pronouns are free-ass motherfucker—and they/them, her/she.")

Elliot Page (1987) - is trans non-binary (he/they).

Jonathan van Ness (1987) is non-binary (they/she/he) - has spoken up for Palestine!

Poppy Liu (1990) Chinese - is non-binary (she/they) - has spoken up for Palestine!

Olly Alexander (1990) - is non-binary and gay (he/him) - has spoken up for Palestine!

Vico Ortiz (1991) Puerto Rican - non-binary (they/them) - has spoken up for Palestine!

Jacob Tobia (1991) Syrian - is non-binary (they/them).

Alok Vaid-Menon (1991) Malayali and Punjabi from Malaysia and India - is gender non-conforming and transfeminine (singular they) - has spoken up for Palestine!

E.R. Fightmaster (1992) - is non-binary (they/them).

Alex Newell (1992) African-American - is non-binary and gay (he/she/they/all pronouns).

Emma D’Arcy (1992) - is non-binary (they/them) - has spoken up for Palestine!

Theo Germaine (1992) - is non-binary (they/them).

Jesse James Keitel (1993) - is a non-binary trans woman (she/her).

Olive Gray (1994) Zambian / White - is non-binary and queer (they/them) also has ADHD dyspraxia and dyslexia.

Dua Saleh (1994) Tunjur Sudanese - is non-binary (they/xe).

Bilal Baig (1995) Pakistani - non-binary, queer trans-feminine (they/them).

Mason Alexander Park (1995) Spanish and Mexican - is non-binary (they/them).

Emma Corrin (1995) - is non-binary (they/them).

Kehlani (1995) African-American, Blackfoot, Cherokee, Mexican, Filipino, Choctaw, and White - non-binary womxn, lesbian and polyamorous (she/they) - has spoken up for Palestine!

James Majoos (1996) Black South African - is non-binary (they/them).

Aida Osman (1996) Eritrean - is non-binary and queer (she/they).

Quintessa Swindell (1997) African-American / White - is non-binary (they/he) - has spoken up for Palestine!

Blu del Barrio (1997) Argentinian - is non-binary (they/them) - has spoken up for Palestine!

Misha Osherovich (1997) Russian Jewish - is non-binary (they/them).

Celeste O'Connor (1998) Kenyan - is non-binary (they/them) - has spoken up for Palestine!

Ryan Simpkins (1998) - is non-binary (they/she).

Chella Man (1998) Hongkonger and Jewish - is deaf, trans genderqueer and pansexual (he/they) - has spoken up for Palestine!

Sabrina Wu (1998) Chinese - is nonbinary (they/them).

Alin Szewczyk (1999) - is non-binary (they/them).

Pedro Vinícius (1999) Brazilian - is non-binary (she/her).

Sivan Alyra Rose (1999) Chiricahua Apache / Afro-Puerto Rican, Creole - is genderfluid and pansexual (they/them).

Lizeth Selene (1999) Mexican [Black and Unspecified Indigenous] - is genderfluid (they/she).

Zoe Terakes (2000) Greek - is a trans-masc non-binary guy (they/he) - has spoken up for Palestine!

Ari Notartomaso (2001) - is non-binary (they/he) - has spoken up for Palestine!

Lachlan Watson (2001) - is non-binary (they/them).

CG / Queer as Folk (?) African-American - is non-binary (they/them).

Hey anon! I have a masterlist of non-binary faceclaims here too but I've copied them here for ease.

[duckielover151]

Some Thoughts on 911 Lone Star (Episode One)

I'm not planning to write up something for every single episode... just the ones that I feel really leave me with something to say. But definitely, to kick this rewatch off...

This is the type of show that smacks you in the face with its diversity agenda by the time the first episode is half over. And it's great. It just got me thinking how-- after Buck being announced as bi in the original 911 went viral, I saw people who were otherwise unfamiliar with these series starting to refer it as the 'gay firefighter show.'

Maybe this first episode blurb is more me trying to sell it to new fans than anything else, but honestly: both 911s were always 'gay firefighter' shows. If you're looking for a new series that's heavy on the diversity, look no further.

Just... to give you a little bit of a run-down on this spin-off's premise and these characters:

We open in New York City with Captain Owen Strand being approached by the fire chief from Austin, Texas about relocating there to help rebuild and repopulate a firehouse that recently lost all but one of its members in an accident on a call. Specifically, they're looking to diversify the force. They kind of skirt around coming right out and saying they got into legal trouble for not being inclusive enough but... you get the picture. Owen, fairly tactfully, points out that they're not exactly off to the best start, going to a straight white guy for the job, but they want him to lead this effort for one big reason: Owen once had to rebuild his own firehouse from scratch, after he lost his entire crew during 9/11. Something that has longer-reaching effects for him, as he's recently been diagnosed with cancer.

This opening episode does kind of give him a white savior type of vibe but... I didn't think it was too obnoxious. This time around, I have 4 seasons' worth of hindsight to be able to share that there is quite a bit more to his character: Owen's a good leader. But on a personal level, he can be almost childishly competitive and stubborn to the point of self-destruction. He is occasionally frustrating to watch... but generally a really likable character. As for the rest of the team:

TK Strand, Owen's gay, recovering addict son, Marjan, a Muslim woman, Paul, a black trans man, Mateo, a dyslexic Mexican American and Judd, who was the sole survivor from the accident and is dealing with PTSD at least in this first season.

And it doesn't stop there, but I think the point has been made for an initial rundown.

I think it's important to note that-- while a pretty big deal is made of their differences in this first episode-- literally being part of the premise of the pilot-- none of these characters feel diverse in a token sort of way. They've all got strong personalities and character quirks... Even when those differences are the focus of one of their plot points, who they are always takes precedence over what they are.

I actually went and rewatched this one first... so I haven't seen the pilot for the original 911 in several years, but I remember that one getting off to kind of a rough start. I love them both but I definitely feel like Lone Star is stronger from the beginning. It started, like, 3 seasons into the original's run, so the showrunners had some time to test out what worked, get a feel for the writing, etc. (I actually totally forgot that the Tarlos romance started right in with episode one. I saw Carlos eyeing up TK after the car accident call and then later in the bar... I feel like maybe the fandom has rewritten my memory a bit, because I definitely remembered TK being the bolder one.)

Anyway, I've fallen deep down this hole and am really looking forward to reliving it.

[theres-bugs-in-my-brain]

Dude

I’m so fucking close

In like two months I’ll be done

I’ll be out of this fucking hell hole of a high school

And I hope I can get out of this house

I want to leave and never look back

But god

Oh god dude I wish

I wish my entire high school experience wasn’t wasted on this fucking cult

Growing up in the Mormon church as been living hell

I missed out on so much just having to survive

I still remember shit of having to constantly be afraid of my own well being because I didn’t know if my family was safe, the people at church where safe, if my own friends where safe

Dude my parents OH MY FUCKING GOD dude they home schooled me for middle school then signed me up for a fucking Mormon private school taking their online course

I was so fucking isolated from anyone outside the fucking church

It was wake up, go to seminary at 5 FUCKING 30 AM, than listen to your classes talking about Jesus and how you can find him in every subject there is, after that go to a church activity, still have some time? How about we invite the MISSIONARIES over for a small FUCKING DINNER PARTY.

THIS WAS MY LIFE FOR YEARS

Im an atheist

I’m gay

I’m trans

I’m half Mexican

The treatment I’ve mostly gotten has been micro aggressions at best and physical/sexual assault at worst

I will never know what it’s like to just be a normal kid because of the people that preach they want “kids to just be kids” 

IF YOU FUCKING WANTED THAT THEN YOU COULDVE JUST LEFT ME ALONE

It’s so fucking shitty

Ever since I was outed at the age of 12 or 11 it’s been hell

At first I was fine because I still had my best friend that supported me

It was funny even

You’d be minding your business, then someone would try to talk you out of being gay, try to argue why it’s wrong, get mad at you for being gay. You’d fight back

Laugh at them with ur friends. Poke the bear with a stick

Then the tide would shift

Suddenly they didn’t try to pray the gay away, they weren’t trying to argue you out of it

Now they saw you as a threat

A threat to their friends’ sexuality, a threat to their kids’ sexuality, a threat to their own sexuality.

They where more aggressive

Often yelling at out, picking on you, singling you out, even threats that they love to call jokes

But that’s okay,

You’ll hold your head high

Stand your ground

you won’t swallow your pride

so you’ll fight with your words

And if they decided they didn’t want to play with words

Then you’d fight with every tooth and nail you have

You’d be very really win a fight

Like ever

They usually get broken up by adults or they’d get the upper hand and stop when they’re bored

A rare occurrence actually having to fight

But it changes you

Before you where creepy

Now you try to be off putting, to appear as batshit crazy as you can

But it’s okay because when it gets too much you go to your friends

Then

The tide shifts again

Your friends are closer to other friends than before

They stop hanging out

Then the excuses come

“My dad thinks you might be making me gay. Sorry. Yeah I’m going to have to block you.”

“My mom said if your mom weren’t friends with her, that she wouldn’t let me hang out with you, can we maybe stop hugging?”

“Being gay is one thing, but being trans is a bit much. You’ve always been a girl and i can’t see you any other way.”

“Are you just trying to be a guy so girls can like you more? That’s really creepy.”

And the worst of all you best friend

“I just think marriage should stay between a man and a woman.”

“But you said that you’d support gay marriage despite what your parents say. Your aunt is gay, and you’re a witch.”

“changed my mind.”

Now it’s harder to hold your head high

To stand your ground

You start to retreat

You cant appear normal for the life of you

But now you laugh at their jokes

You play along with them

Make yourself small

You’ll expire soon

It doesn’t matter

You promised

You took away life now it’s your turn

But you can never actually mange to do it

Then your friend finds out

He makes you stay

You decided to brake that promise but now it’s too late

Now your sister knows

You make another promise

Before you know it there’s too many promises to brake

They watch you like a hawk

Make sure you get better

But it doesn’t erase the fact that they pushed to here

You’re at this point because of them

And now it’s less than three months from graduation

You’ll never have a real high school experience

You’ll never be able to be a real teenager

You’ll never be able to be a real teen boy

What are you going to do about it

You graduate in less than three months

Can you make it to crawl out of this hell hole?

Or will you lay there in the grime you’re so well acquainted with?

[osias-twstcorner]

My headcanons

I said I liked other dorms too and this is me trying to prove it

literally just the basics like where I think they’re from in our world equivalent and gender/sexuality type stuff unless I get inspired

also yay I finally worked out formatting

Heartslaybul:

Riddle: either a trans man or a trans woman I don’t make the rules. I feel like Riddle wouldn’t care much about gender so long as he loved someone but doesn’t know how labels work (sheltered childhood does that to you) definitely British. Ace: Either cis and supportive but will tease you or somewhere nonbinary and masc leaning. I headcanon him as biromantic (no preference) and Demi or grey sexual He’s Latinx but like specifically from Spain Deuce: Genderfluid. But is way too nice to correct anyone. Bisexual with a slight male preference (he likes big muscles) Latinx as well but specifically from Mexico Him and Ace 1000% argue in Spanish in front of their dorm to pretty much everyone’s confusion. It’s heightened by the fact that Ace is using Spain Spanish and Deuce is using Mexican Spanish Trey: Trans male in my brain but really he’s a token cis. Very supportive, though. Doesn’t really care what pronouns you use on him. Sometimes him and Cater will test pronouns for Cater by using them for each other so Cater doesn’t feel alone or like a burden for wanting “weird” pronouns. Identifies as bisexual. For some reason my brain sees Trey one of two ways- as pasty as canon and British like Riddle or black and German Cater: they/them nonbinary. They want to distance themself from the feminine cute but also don’t want to be a macho masculine man so when they discovered the label nonbinary they were beyond delighted. Online they probably go by neos but with schoolmates they are generally referred to be he/him and are too scared to correct anyone. I see Cater as French. Why? I don’t know.

Savanaclaw:

Leona: Cis man but also doesn’t care what pronouns you use. Identifies as gay but if he fell for a woman he would just kinda shrug and change it. Somewhere on the ace spectrum as well but is too lazy to find a name for it. can you tell I’m asexual from this- From around Namibia Ruggie: trans man. If asked what his sexuality is he would say something along the lines of “I’m attracted to a comfortable life and good food” He’s really demisexual. South African Jack: Gonna be upfront, Jack is my least favorite character so I don’t have much to say. This is a cis Good Boy who loves his partners (the first years) very much. Polyamorous and pansexual. From Russia’s area it’s 3 am I can’t remember the name of that area but that

Octavinelle:

Gonna preface this one by saying that since under the ocean gender, sexuality, and number of partners don’t matter much, the whole of Octavinelle don’t care much. In fact, when Floyd first heard about gender he asked if it was edible. If they absolutely had to put a label, this is what they’d go with in my mind Azul: Genderfluid but defaults to she/her. Pansexual and polyamorous. Italian/Spanish I mean look at his name Jade: Trans female. Bisexual with a female preference and polyamorous. Italian Floyd: Refuses to label himself at all for gender because he thinks it’s utterly stupid but goes by he/him. Can’t see a difference between platonic and romantic relationships so he just sort of. Loves everyone? He calls it romantic because what do you mean humans don’t just kiss each other for love? And snuggle? Only one person? Preposterous. Literally doesn’t understand that some people aren’t polyamorous and keeps flirting with everyone, much to the horror of Riddle and Ace when Riddle caught Floyd kissing Ace on the cheek while Riddle was dating Floyd. Floyd explained it and Riddle was a bit confused at first but realized he was also polyamorous upon looking into it. They are both dating Ace now. oh he’s also Italian.

Scarabia:

Kalim: trans female to the horror of her parents. She accidentally came out at a huge family gathering. Bisexual with a heavy female preference. Also has a very hard time distinguishing between platonic and romantic attraction so she just sort of treats everyone like a lover. Jamil is suffering. Jamil: Another definitely trans but I can’t say which. Bisexual and traumatized away from relationships. Also on the ace spectrum and probably the aro spectrum, though he’s not sure.

Pomefiore:

Vil: trans fem but goes by she/he. Really doesn’t like they because she feels it’s dehumanizing. A lesbian. Polyamorous but only in closed circles. German obviously, again look at the name Rook: also trans fem but is just she/her. Also like Kalim and Floyd has a hard time distinguishing and acts like how she is- a little in love with everyone. Though she’s not always the best about flirting and loves Vil and Epel just a bit more than the rest From Northern Africa Epel: yes I know it’s somewhat against canon but I headcanon Epel as nonbinary she/he in order of preference. Okay okay, hear me out. While Epel is super sick of just being seen as feminine and wants to be seen as masculine, seeing Vil makes her realize that being feminine doesn’t have to mean she’s weak and in fact can make her stronger. With that, he realizes he doesn’t have to reject femininity but also doesn’t have to be hyper masculine so people won’t just see him as a girl. Vil calling him a pretty boy AND a pretty may have also had a hand in it /j Norwegian

Ignihyde:

oh my god Ignihyde I have way to many headcanons for them keep it simple yes post crazy amount of headcanons later be warned I have feelings about Ortho Idia: Yet another character I can’t decide if I see as trans male or trans female but he’s one of these (though I tend to go for trans male) He is very bisexual with a female preference. He doesn’t mean to seem creepy in front of people, but he’s too shy to talk to anyone so when he does he comes off as a creep because he’ll shout something like “YOUR CHEST LOOKS GOOD IN THAT!” And run away. He meant it as a compliment but nope most people won’t see it that way Greek Idia is my passion. I will not be taking arguments. He definitely swears in an older form of Greek that STYX uses while gaming so people can’t get mad at him because there’s no way they know it. One time Lilia responded and oh boy panic lead to a deeper friendship OG Ortho: knew he was trans from a very young age, this carried over to the AI and later the combined Ortho soul thingy (post ch 6 ortho) POST CHAPTER 6 Ortho: asexual spectrum and unlabeled romantically. Definitely got a bit of a crush on Vil, though whether that’s aesthetic, romantic, or sexual, Ortho doesn’t know. Greek as well, duh

Diasomnia:

same drill as octavinelle Malleus: A literal dragon. Doesn’t care what you call him so long as you call him. Also doesn’t understand that oh my god Malleus you can’t just kiss (insert partner) on the cheek in plain daylight. Irish Lilia: Genderfluid and uses this to prank people. Has been with every gender and loves all equally Originally from the German area, but moved around a lot to the center of Briar Valley and now lives in Ireland Silver: Goes by he/him for others convince but when Kalim came out and started crying on him in fear after that dinner he immediately switched to she around Kalim and Jamil in support of Kalim. Views love the same way as Kalim, loving a bit of everyone. Born in Serbia but now lives with Lilia and Malleus in the equivalent of Ireland Sebek: cis male but doesn’t mind any pronouns. Polyamorous and unlabeled Half German half Irish

enjoy my sleep deprived fueled bullshit and have a nice morning/day/evening

[le-trash-prince]

I told myself when I was younger that I’d only come out to my family as queer if I started dating someone because I didn’t like the idea of causing a fuss over something that would otherwise have nothing to do with them. But then I ended up coming out to them after the Pulse shooting, when it occurred to me that I didn’t want them to have to find out someday on the news, if something like that ever happened to me.

They weren’t 100% surprised, but they weren’t 100% prepared to process it either. Ironically, I ended up dating someone almost exactly a year later.

But I didn’t come out to them as genderfluid because being gay was already a lot, and because again it felt like I would be causing a big ruckus just over my identity. I think it would be different if I were a trans guy or had a stronger need to physically transition, but my gender is kind of just a private, me thing. And also I think at that time it would have been a very difficult conversation with a lot of explaining on my part, endless questions from my mom, and a lot of my dad being dismissive and emotionally repressed.

But then Trump won the election later that year, which had a very deep impact on my family, as my dad is Mexican American, and we live in Texas, and it was a constant daily stress factor for us. Obviously things are still shit, but every single day of those four years was awful in a way that I am still unpacking.

It changed a lot of things for my parents. They were both Republican in 2016, but my dad truly, honestly believed we lived in a country where a man like that would never be elected president. He wore black every single day for two years after the election, until he decided he was ready to let hope in again.

I don’t think my parents will ever vote for the GOP again. They weren’t bigots before, and they certainly were never radical conservatives, but they were very complacent and very ignorant to the nature of our country and our society and the oppression that so many people experience. I think they just believed what they’d always been told. And after Trump was elected, they finally started questioning those things and working to educate themselves on the reality of our country.

I used to never open my mouth about US politics around my parents because I felt like I wouldn’t be listened to. And now it’s like, not only can I talk about things that upset me about our country, but they’re always either emphatically agreeing with me, or they’re the ones who started complaining first.

Like last night, my mom and I were once again ranting about anti-trans legislation and my dad was just nodding along in agreement. And my mom was very clear about trans kids needing affirmative counseling and support, and we also talked about intersex kids and the things the medical system puts them through.

And I got home later, and I realized, like, I can just openly talk about trans rights with my parents without being afraid of what they would think of me being trans. Like I haven’t come out to them, and I’m not particularly itching to do so, but I realized that not only could I come out to them, but it would be an extremely easy conversation. Like it would just be part of a normal conversation where I talk about the way I experience gender. And that is a very strange feeling.

Anyways, that’s all I wanted to say. My family supports trans rights without me even telling them I’m trans, and I’m still getting used to that.