#no it's also the daily microagressions

[itsjustpoopeh]

my hot take is that i think Isaac should have a homophobia issue actually. he should have a bias that he has to think about and overcome. i don’t want the narrative to be “it’s silly for queer people to be hesitant or afraid of coming out to their friends” because that’s condescending and inaccurate. sometimes you lose friends for it! i don’t want that to happen, but the likelihood of a straight man who’s been in professional male athletics for years having some homophobic tendencies he needs to address is very high! just like some of them had to address their misogynistic tendencies in the latest episode! it is not bad writing for that to be shown!

[moirindeclermont]

Daily thread about BridgertonS3 and are we ready to talk about trauma?? A short disclaimer, I'm not a mental health provider nor I want to diagnose them. My following observation is just my theories about them and how about certain things may affect their relationship. Also, this is only based on the show, so if in the books it is different I would not know.

The thing is Colin has obviously a big trauma, which is Edmund's death. That's the biggest one for sure, but he is also a very passionate person and, through the seasons, no one listen to him when it talks about his travels. It's not as big as a parent's d3ath, but it does something to one self esteem to have the people lost close to you brushing aside your passion. And then there is the Marina scheme, which also left a mark. The guy is deeply scared someone is going to fool him again.

Pen, on the other hand, has a life of microagression. Yes, being ignored is part of that. But also the whole behavior of the Ton, her sisters and her mother, Cressida. Feeling that alone all the time leaves a sign. There is an episode of Buffy in which the girl who is feeling alone actually turns invisible... That might have happen to Pen too is Bridgerton was another show.

So, when they enter in their relationship, they are both deeply insecure about the other feeling. Pen asks esplicitly "are you sure?" to Colin's declaration because, for her, that someone stand up to her and declare their love is absolutely impossible, up until that moment. Colin is also insecure, continuously asking if she returns his feelings, that it's okay if she doesn't, because for him that a person might actually listen to him is also out of this world.

They cope in different ways. Pen has learn to do everything on her own, never asking for help, being hyper independent. When you learn that you need to do thing alone because no one will come for your help, trusting people back into your life, asking for help, it seems impossible. You may feel like a burden, a weak person who cat stand up to themselves. Relearning to trust is a process. She needs to learn that she can count on Colin, she is not alone anymore.

Colin copes by trying to feel useful all the time. Also, by trying to appeal to people by changing his persona. He needs to feel like he can do something, like he can't possibly believe that someone might love him for all the things people always judge him for. He also have trust issues, but he copes by trying to make himself indispensable. He needs to learn that Pen loves him because of all the things all the other people made fun of him for.

In that sense, their deep friendship allows them both to get over some of their trauma, at least for a bit. But, after the first real conflict comes on (LW), the both return to their own coping system. The resolution can only happen the moment they both do the work and incorporate into their belief system that theirs is a true partnership. Only then Colin can let go of the envy and the anger and Pen can learn to accept its support and take accountability.

In this sense, this is perhaps the most healthy dynamic on the show, one I'm so grateful to be witness to. And it's healthy not because there is no conflict - that s not what healthy is - but because conflict is used to make the work and grow, that is what makes this healthy.

And I can't help to fall in love with their love a bit more, knowing that now they are both secure in their partnership.

[ktempestbradford]

Jumping off of what I said in this post about having to dismantle certain toxic ideas about myself, I realized that folks might not know how deeply not being a straight, white, cishet, able-bodied, Christianized male (aka the Dominant Paradigm) in the West messes you up mentally. It's a huge mental health problem that isn't always addressed.

When I started up my latest round of therapy I began to acquire labels for some of the ways I acted or reacted to situations. One day in session I was like: Was that a trauma response? It was, wasn't it? And my therapist confirmed. What confused me is that I didn't think I'd experienced trauma.

The idea I had of trauma was some Major Incident in which something Very Bad had happened to me or near me. Or it was about being in abusive situations, usually at home. The kind of ways trauma is depicted in the media.

Then I came across a Twitter thread in which the person said that everyone needs therapy, especially marginalized people, because the way Western society works, anyone who is not the Dominant Paradigm or doesn't hew closely to it is constantly being harmed by society.

Are you BIPOC? Racism is almost everywhere, and where it is, it's constant. It's also not always KKK-level in your face racism; it's more often wave after wave of microagressions on top of whatever challenging condition you're in due to historical racism. In other words: Chronic.

Are you neurodiverse? Good luck not being overstimulated by allegedly benign activities like going to the grocery store. Good luck not being criticized on a daily basis because you can't act "normal". Try holding down a job that expects you to sit at a desk for 8 hours yet you can't even sit in a quiet environment because the asshole CEO read that open office plans make employees more productive.

Are you anywhere under the LGBTQIA+ umbrella? Welcome to the constant barrage of invasive questions from strangers, invasive laws, invasive religiosity... Once again, an allegedly benign activity (going to the bathroom in public) can be a damn crucible if you don't look like the "right" kind of woman or man. Have fun navigating the medical system when you want affirming health care.

I could go on. Disabled people, poor or working class people, fat people, any people who have been historically marginalized and oppressed all experience this. It is trauma. It is harm. It does affect us. But it's Chronic and Systemic. That's the crux.

Because we have to keep on going even with all this. It's every day and it's not easy to escape. So we "deal with it." Some of us have good coping strategies and or supportive family (bio or found) and that really helps. It doesn't alleviate the overall problem. Thus, we all need therapy (so the OP of that Twitter thread concluded).

I don't know that we ALL need it. And I for sure know that some mental health practitioners and therapy frameworks are quite harmful to marginalized people. I'm very lucky in that I have a great therapist and the treatment I'm getting is informed by my identity and background, not ignorant of it. Not everyone has that or has access to it.

What I do know is that we all need Community. True community offers true support, which is necessary for healing.

We also all need to know that our mental health struggles and our trauma are real and valid, even if they don't look or manifest the way we've been conditioned to recognize them. Don't let anyone invalidate your experience or mental health struggles because you don't fit into a specific, wrongly-labeled box.

And don't let anyone tell you that this society isn't out here traumatizing you, because it is. Society doesn't need to be this way. But here in The (European Colonizer Created) West, that's what those with more power have chosen for the rest of us. And it sucks.

I have nothing but hugs and empathy for all the other people out there experiencing this. The only piece of advice I have is: Find community, hold on tight to each other, be that oasis of Okay that others need and they'll be that same oasis for you. <3

[rhaegang]

I been thinking a lot about Felix with repressed anger issues(?)(English is not my first language, sorry if you don't understand) you have any idea with that?

HMM. I mean, first and foremost, I do think he has repressed anger. Everyone in his family does. And repressed anger is so likely to wind up being expressed in ways that do not direct that anger at its source.

[meta to follow, no fic this time!]

Sir James expresses his repressed anger against Outsiders. He can be angry at anyone outside his nuclear family. He also has the most privilege to express his anger directly instead of repressing it. He just chooses to repress it for appearances and because he doesn’t want to upset his fantasy of a happy home.

Elspeth directs her anger at Venetia. Venetia was her first child; after Venetia, Elspeth’s body was forever changed. And she had the gall not to be a boy, forcing Elspeth to go through it all again. So all of the things that make Elspeth tremble with rage have become embodied in Venetia, and bullying her with a thousand daily microaggressions is Elspeth’s expression of that rage.

Venetia I think is the most likely to have tried to express her anger directly, to cause a fuss, but has been ignored. She learned very young that whether she screamed at the top of her lungs or stewed in silence, the outcome never changed. So all her anger is expressed inward, toward herself. She self harms because she has no other way to feel like she has any impact on anything or anyone. Being destructive to her own body through risky hookups and B/P and drinking too much is how she expresses her repressed anger.

Farleigh, even with his bloody american feelings, also has repressed his anger. Mainly because he cannot afford to be angry about any of the microagressions and the slights and the disdain he receives. And redirecting his anger to people perceived as more vulnerable than him both affirms to him his own status and to others that he is a part of the In group.

Now!! At long last, we arrive at Felix. The amicable one. The smiling, soft eyed, barefoot, sweet-toothed golden son. Trusting and agreeable, “kind about everyone.”

As the younger sibling, he would have seen that Venetia’s attempts to act out never worked in her favor, and maybe he even tried to compensate for her behavior by being extra specially sweet.

Now he’s grown, though. And so long as he plays by all the rules and fulfills everyone’s expectations of him, he can do basically whatever he wants. Have whatever he wants. So long as it is among the things he is implicitly allowed to do and want. And if there are things he doesn’t want, but he is implicitly required to do or have? He needs to accept those with his wide, toothy smile too.

His parents liked him more than his sister, which he obviously knows. Maybe sometimes he finds that a bit fucked up. And maybe he can laugh about the worst things that ever happened to him (almost all at school) because…what choice does he have?

Unlike everyone else in his family, Felix represses, then represses more. Because there are no acceptable avenues for him to express anything negative. And he can’t rebel for real — he cannot let himself do those unacceptable things. He needs to be perfect. He needs to be kind and polite and sweet and friendly and fun and agreeable. If he isn’t those things, who is he? What is he good for? Will his future be in question? And on and on.

So. No expressing the bad things, ever. Best to do not thinking of the bad things, too.

But he’s careless. He lets things around him fall into disarray and come apart. He leaves things where they fall. Leaves them to rot.

He lets his clothes get holes in them, and his car go to rust. He lets his hair tangle.

This is destructive behavior. This is expressing repressed anger. But importantly, it is passive behavior. He is excused from culpability for the ruin of things around him because, technically, he didn’t do anything wrong. He didn’t do anything at all. His lack of doing, his refusal to engage, is why things have wound up in this state. But he didn’t do anything.

We have no idea what his falling out with Eddie was really like, but we can infer from how he responded with Oliver that he most likely fumed to himself, said nothing to Eddie, said nothing to Venetia, and let it continue. Perhaps until it reached the boiling point and someone else caught wise (maybe the maids found the rubber in Venetia’s wastebin or a pair of her underwear in Eddie’s laundry).

Like a pan on the stove that’s left on the heat after all the oil has burned and charred black, and eventually catches fire, and burns the whole damn kitchen down — not his fault. He didn’t put the pan there or turn on the heat. He simply neglected to move the pan, or turn off the heat, or grab the fire extinguisher—he neglected to act or respond, and now everything is ruined, but he did not DO it.

Felix doesn’t explode. He doesn’t yell or scream or lash out or turn violent or destructive. He just…doesn’t do anything. He lets his absence and his silence be a punishment and a message to express his anger, because he knows how that can hurt when you love him. And then, he lets entropy do the rest.

However things end up after that, at least he can say, “I never did anything wrong.”

I don’t know what it would take to get him to express his anger in some other way. It would take more than what Oliver did. More than what Eddie did. I think maybe he would have to be cornered, completely without the chance to run and avoid, and faced with extreme circumstances like “move or die.” The consequences of passivity, of doing nothing, would have to be made worse than the consequences of breaking the social contract. Of being bad.

That type of extreme scenario is usually not something I explore in my writing, but maybe y’all have some suggestions?

[wild-wombytch]

Ok, I'll pin this before shits go insane. The TL;DR is that I'll be temporarily uninstalling social medias so I have no idea whether I'll reply to about everything or when. All the following posts on this blog are queued. I'm probably not leaving radblr, just going on hiatus.

Putting the rest under the cut because I feel the best thing to do is being open-hearted and honest. I want to explain the reasoning nobody cares about behind it and I don't want to spam everyone's dash about this : (TW negativity, mental health, trauma dumping?, personal, pretty lengthy, blah)

I'm definitely overdramatic due to my own mental shits, but I'm getting SERIOUS anxiety from my reply to this post about poverty and middle class.

I don't regret it per se. I almost chose to ignore it because this is a painful topic and those who never experienced it wouldn't believe the amount of spits in the face you get from the middle-class as someone poor in the form of about daily microagressions and what trash you interiorize from it (you don't get much from billionaires because they don't even know we exist and they clearly don't frequent us, they fuck with us as a class but not on an individual level). As everything engaged with emotionally, it can quickly become a bomb. Yet, radblr has made (and still makes, we're all WIP after all) me someone less passive and more inclined to speak up. I'll never be grateful enough for that. So I chose to "woman-up" and make my voice heard. As insignificant as it seems. Because no one can talk for me better than myself.

Maybe it's absolutely nothing for a lot of people (and I guess it objectively IS nothing) but it is ENORMOUS for someone battling crippling anxiety (and I'm not choosing the word "crippling" lightly. My mental health literally gives me such tangible physical pains, gluing themselves to my already existing back issues/arthrodesis that I am physically disabled. I am heavily medicated. I am in a day hospital. I recently genuinely considered asking for a full-time internment in a mental hospital for maybe a month or two because I am becoming dangerous for myself and a burden). I used to be so passive, shy and anxious that I wouldn't voice my opinion at all in fear, that's how I got into the TRA movement so obediently. Exactly the example of Solanas about women completely conditioned out of their female power and inner worlds by their fathers, then becoming the emotional rags and handmaiden of every other men. I'm slowly unlearning that. Participating in something like that was part of the process. I don't know if I dose well. If I should dose and not be too "spicy" at all. Probably not. Radfems showed me the key to my shackles and I'm just starting to understand how it works. Yet, now I'm projecting all of my past experiences on this and fear I'm from one hand encouraged in a direction and going to get my neck broken for it from the other as a punishment. I shouldn't care, yet I still do at this point of my journey.

Again, I'm a mental mess. All is a bit blurry and unreasonable when we talk about anxiety/ptsd. I fear I'm going to get terfed out the terves and cancelled, do to speak. And it is oddly terrifying due to the mess I internalized and how highly and gratefully I look at radfems, with my tendency to idealize.

So when I was about 70% of my reply and I rechecked the whole thread to see it was Tepkunset out of all the Tumblr users I was "siding with"...fuck, did I stutter a nervous laugh. When I made this blog, I made a point to avoid interacting with hers, because I also used (and still do, to some degrees) highly look up to her. Like radfems, she is smart, brave and outspoken and I was all starry-eyed for her. She doesn't know of me and would probably block me on sight now (and probably will if that's not already done by seeing my reply), but she had genuinely been a model to me and got me in social justice and to think deeply about a lot of things, including myself as someone existing within bigger systems. I'm not making shits up when I say she changed the course of my life and I wouldn't be here in my journey if it wasn't for her. It was a process for me to actually embrace "heresy" and accept that I disagreed with her, my icon, about gender issues (which is a shame, because I think if cancel culture wasn't such a thing, she would genuinely be an amazing person to debate with). I've never been into celebs cult but that definitely was a close one. That's why I didn't interact with her blog, other than sometimes paying a visit and reblogging through other blogs as to not be blocked by her. Because I genuinely still respect her and want to hear about her thoughts even if I don't necessarily agree with them anymore, and want to see if she's okay and sometimes I rake my drawers to send money her way when life gets Bad™.

So that's some bullshit irony there that I feel torn in my "loyalties" among people I deeply admire yet disagree with and who themselves probably only intereacted with me anecdotally and know of me as much as they know of the flies in their kitchens. So essentially all that noise is in my head only yet what if I told you my back pains that almost miraculously vanished after seeing an osteopath yesterday just came back and now I can't lay on my back at all, no matter how many painkillers I take? Yes, I'm stressing out that bad over a Tumblr post no one cares about. If it was a telenovela it would be one of these scenes where a character is caught between a fight between their current crush and ex and has to pick a side and gets rightfully dumped by both.

So yeah, it also stirred a lot of things I haven't processed yet about my TRA days and even shittier moments of my life. I definitely wasn't ready for that.

I also genuinely internalized that I shine in society by not being very smart or useful or assertive like the women I admire so much. I'm not even sure about what I write, because I have no inner voice, my thoughts happen as I voice them, my brain is barren cotton, a perpetual state of dream. I don't know which of my memories are exact and which are dreams and past thoughts. I have amnesia of full discussions I had and consents I gave and I am completely stunned when people prove me I said something, because, in all good faith, I have not a shred of memory. Maybe a drop of a hazy memory you'd have in a dream. My past self and my current self both seem unreal, like other people. So I stick to ideas I have of my identity, shards of it, labels. I fiercely defend them because they are the only sense of self I perceive at all. Because I don't even feel human outside of thel. So I still have the same fear as during my TRA days that a breeze can make everything crumble. Most women here are very bright, it would take nothing to unmask the lack of ability I have to counter, to emotionally rein myself in, to construct a consistent data-based retort. That's why I was afraid of radfems in my TRA days already.

Anyway, that plus my irl social life being toxic currently makes me cope by going on social medias, which I know are awful for my mental health, yet I persist inflicting that on myself. There are several medical leaves at the day hospital so I'm ~aLoNe~ with my shits. Then you know the shit circle of life it is : not sleeping, not eating, being more anxious, sleeping less, being more anxious, eating less, reflecting too deeply on which way of sabotaging myself is the most reasonable...

So radical times call for radical measures. I'm deleting temporarily all of my apps instead of seeing notifications all the time and obsessively checking if everyone hates me yet or if nobody cares and pondering which is worse by looking at a wall for a whole day trying to not think about SH. That's stupid, and cowardly and pathetic and unfair towards people who reads me and puts thoughts in their replies and it's many other ugly things probably. But if I don't I'll implode. I just want to break the circle of feeling like shit and back pains that ruin my life so I can get back on my legs and maybe tackle one thing at a time. And I quite literally need to touch grass, even if I don't want to see anyone in my irl circles for now.

I don't know if any of this made sense. I'd probably also regret dumping all that tomorrow. Sedation is finally starting to work, so I guess that's why I m so talkative so I'll surf on it, post this, delete everything and pray I'll also forget about this until it randomly pops into my mind and gives me an existential crisis 20y from now. Should I even be given a right to vote and access to internet until I'm fixed? Are those rights part of the reconstruction process and of creating a sense of self?

Idk, I'm just tired. I wish you all well during this time. Radblr is wonderful despite occasional disagreements. I hope we can still be sisters after that and hope you won't think less of me. If you do, well, you're probably right, I also think less of myself every time I dare to exist and open the mouth. I am also the daughter of my father, after all, so I have plenty of reasons to think I deserve my own hatred and other people's.

I said I needed to be honest and open hearted so I've been. That's also why it's the over sharing website I guess? Here's a random gif to conclude this because I don't know what else to say and this is all fairly embarrassing:

[dojae-huh]

Do you think when it comes to foreign members sm treat them equally with k members??

Yes.

Naturally, there are ought to be xenophobic staff members, who are probably mean and microagressive in daily life, however, the company itself gives the same opportunities.

Don't listen to the buzz fans produce. Look at the history and the facts.

Yuta was the first Japanese trainee. He was debuted as a Rookie earlier and he was pushed alongside Jaehyun and Taeyong. He was a pannelist on a TV show, he was a guest MC, he had cameos prior to debut. Here he is in an EXO's MV together with Jae. Yuta is allowed to make his own image (the hairstyles, the rock vibe of recent). And let's not pretend it was Yuta's idea to launch himself in Japan with "the Japanese with most IG subscribers". Or that he personally contacted all Japanese magazines to get a pictorial.

Shotaro was debuted after a few months in the company and got a lot of brand deals, magazine covers, was established as a dancer (ConNextion), films a lot of pre-debut promotional material for the Japanese market (the roadshow with Yuta, what is NCT with Sungchan).

Ten debuted in t7s, got 2 solo songs before Taeyong, is in SuperM. Is getting a solo album ahead of all 127 vocalists this year. Together with Jisung he attended tap-dance classes in SM.

Xiaojun is pushed as a vocalist a lot. A song with SM's DJ, covers, guesting on Korean TV shows where he sings live, KunXiao duo, now he is a music show MC. He also acted in a Chinese tv-series.

WinWin never put much effort in learning Korean or hip-hop based idol dances, and yet noone mistreated him for it.

LSM first took Lay who was exiled for bad behaviour from SM back and later gave Lay a whole company in China. NingNing gets a lot of spotlight in aespa's MVs.

Chenle, Renjun, Kun - all were hosts of a Chinese language radio show. Yuta got a radio show in Japanese as well. Renjun will soon have more covers on YT than Doyoung put out.

It's Koreans who hate on foreign members, and Korean TV companies that don't have enough opportunities to offer (although it seems to change).

Yuta doesn't get many lines because he is not the strongest vocalist in 127. On the other hand, Renjun gets a lot of highlight moments in Dream songs because he is a lead vocal.

"Zoo" got its own stage for SMtown. And 3 out of 5 unit members are non-Koreans (Giselle is half-Korean, half-Japanese, but Korean public doesn't accept her easily).

It's an idol's responsibility to have NingNing's (and Xiaojun's) attitude and better oneself constantly to trample all "company's attempts" at getting in their way.

Ask yourself, why both Hendery and Xiaojun are Chinese, and yet it is the "more hateful" mainlander who is on Korean TV.

[taryn-phillips]

Ch.5 Fieldwork

White Supremacy

White supremacy is beliefs and ideas emphasizing that the white human races is superior over other racial groups. This is largely shown and viewed in American culture (our country). For example, our formal president Donald trump was a white supremacist who's slogan was to "make America great again" meaning to gain power and benefits for only white people. Additionally, a riot perpetrated against the capitol by Donald trump supporters that was enforced by Donald trump himself. Our country is viewed as white people can get away with things that black people or any other person of color can't. The system has been like this since the beginning and it all roots from white supremacy.

American culture

in 2018, Childish Gambino an American rapper/singer released a song called "This is America" where the song focuses on a side how the world views America and then the other side what America is hiding (that is not shown). The side that is portrayed to the world is the American dream where every family is living behind a white picket fence, in a beautiful home with great jobs. The side that is not shown is the struggle minorities go through in this country on a daily basis. The music video targets black life in America and American culture by including secret messages and symbolism throughout the video like black people fighting the police etc. We can say that our culture the (American culture) is portrayed to other culture as fast food, sports, and privileged.

Genetics

In the human we race we distribute ourselves into groups based off of race. According to chapter 5, based on variations of skin color and other visible features associated with race are shaped by less than 0.1% of genetic code. For example, a person from Western Africa who starts walking east will have more in common genetically with someone in Russia compared to their neighbor at home.

Stereotypes

Stereotypes are widely held fixed ideas of a particular race or group. A popular stereotype among the black race is that we have large noses/ large lips. As the first humans evolved from Africa, your features came from where you are in the world and the climate of that location. According to the article sciencelet, an advantage with having a larger nose facilitates breathing in more air thereby supplying the body with more oxygen especially in warm climates. Physical activity in a hotter environment is more demanding because your body requires more oxygen rather than in cooler climates. So

The show blackish also portrays black culture stereotypes. It shows how a typical black family lives in America and the struggles that come with it. In the show, it shows how black culture is viewed from an inside and outside perspective.

Microaggression in American society

Microagression is common for POC in America and it is simply a term for everyday insults, snubs, or negative attitude to target someone solely on their race or culture. We have a common with microagression in many places such as the workplace, hospitals, and unfortunately schools. Many black children are judged right when they walk in the door that they are either disruptive or will slack off. This judgement roots from racism and has turned into a microagression in schools. For example, the award winning movie The great debaters portrays a group of kids from an HBCU that challenge white kids in debating during the 1935 era. In the movie, actor Denzel Washington starts a debate team at a hbcu which was highly unheard of during that time. In the movie, nobody expected anything great from this all black debate team. They were viewed inner American culture as dense and unintelligent. Surely, these kids made a good name for themselves and ended up winning the debate contest. Although they won, they were judged on their knowledge just because they are black which gave them the disadvantage.

Racial genocide

Racial genocide is the systematic destruction of a group of people because of their race, ethnicity, or religion. In the us, too many black people have died for crimes they did not do. We call this a racial genocide as many of them from the same race was killed. For example, according to the article Black Agenda Report, the Martinsville seven were seven black men who died in the state of Virgnia's electric chair for a rape they never committed. Black genocide still occurs under color of law.

Sources:

[ndellasall]

6 Key Concepts Regarding Race/Racism.

White Supremacy

Pictured above is Jeffery Dahmer. Dahmer is a white male serial killer who ate, violated, and brutally murdered his victims. His victims were mainly young brown and black men. His youngest victim was a 14 year old boy of Asian descent, in fact his victim managed to escape into Dahmer’s apartment hallway where his neighbor Glenda Cleveland a black woman and her daughter saw the young boy, drugged, stumbling and clearly needing help, so she called the police. When the police arrived Jeffery had told them the young naked boy was his “19 year old boyfriend”, after this with no further questioning or investigation toward the boy they allowed Jeffery to take him back into his apartment where he later strangled the boy immediately after.This shows how white cops automatically believed Jeffery over Glenda because he was a white man.

Hypodescent

Jussie Smollet, pictured and tagged above is biracial. His father is a white Jewish man and his mother is black (also pictured on the right), yet his classification is simply “black”. This portrays how being a “Hypo-descent” is still a modern issue. It could be a drop of African American in his blood and yet just like that, he is no longer regarded as even “half white” to racists.

Microagression

Most people may not realize when they are performing an act of microagression. This is why it is important to be cultured and respectful. Racial aggressions are not stereotypes, they are racist statements in a form of a backhanded question or compliment. The photo above references some every day sayings you may want to reflect on before you say aloud.

Institutional Racism

Institutional racism is by far the best example of modern day segregation. In the video above you will see how it is exactly broken down. An example, would be HBCU’s and PWI’s. HBCU’s are historically black colleges and universities, where majority of the students are black, on the other hand PWI’s are predominantly white institutions. Both teach the same things yet HBCU’s receive a drastic funding difference then PWI’s and it is not a upgrade.

Racial Ideology

Today, some common ideological forms of racism include the belief that Black women are loud and ghetto, that Latina women are “spicy” or “hot-tempered,” and that black men and boys are criminally inclined. This form of racism has a negative impact on people of color as a whole because it works to deny them access to and/or success within the educational and the professional world, and subjects them to heightened police surveillance, harassment, and violence, among other negative outcomes we see daily. (Source linked)

Colonialism

In the GIF above the words “bloody” are portrayed as we see the Europeans putting up the British flag at what seems to be newly found land. This however was done in real life in real time. The British army still till this day is one of the strongest army’s in the world. They enslaved and sold many slaves, goods, and land. They swept the world of its riches vastly and while they did it they ran the rivers with blood. This is colonialism, in turn stealing a world that isn’t yours and saying you found it and it is now “yours”.

[selamat-linting]

my friend offered me to accompany them on their friend group outing thing. theyre all having a jam session in a proper music studio. i dont know any of their friend group guys (one of them was an old acquaintance in middle school), but i dont have anything better to do that night so i just say yes. after the short jamming session, we watched a horror movie in my friend's house. the movie was satan's slaves : communion. a sequel of a remake of a local horror movie.

god, the movie made me realize how much watching english speaking horror movies had turn me into a softie. i cant believe i turned away from the gory elevator murder scene. i even hugged my friend in fear! oh this is so unbecoming of me. oh god that was not fun at all. that was scary! but it was also awesome. like, fuck that was great. its been a while i got properly spooked and its super fun. i need to watch intense horror movies again, not just because its fun, but because i need to up my tolerance to gory shit again.

overall, this outing has been a mixed bag. the movie was fun, but im suspecting that one of the guys from that friend group is a crypto-fascist. and he's already rubbing off on them. i dont know them well, like this is the first time i actually work on remembering their names and faces, so i might be wrong but. yeah, the warning signs are there. what kind of weirdo would point out some random racial minority on the street to their friends like its some kind of spectacle? my friend and their partner are way too spineless they might as well be just like them if they let behaviors like that slide on a daily basis. i almost got into a nasty argument several times that night. geez.

i'll meet up with them one more time just in case one of them actually has a chance to be radicalized in a more revolutionary manner. but i dont have my hopes up. it was a friend group that had stood the test of time and i was only an intruder who just met them all together. oh man, they all might have crossed through the fascist line already. why did my friend hang out with them? sigh, this is the worst part of organizing. making sure if your new acquaintances are just folks who need to unlearn reactionary junk using theory and praxis or if theyre full blown fascists who already set up their irl environment and online spaces to reinfornce that belief. if i have my friend backing me up i could try to mitigate the damage even if i found out two out of three of them are professed fash, but i dont have that kind of support or social capital. also, i still have self respect. im not befriending a man who would throw microagressions at me, even if my nonbinary bestie thinks he's tolerable. im afraid you need to be more assertive, buddy.

god, those guys are probably cowards anyway. my friend say they all hung out at their house and they all bond over tiktok memes and video games like genshit midpact. i know i say shit about friend groups who made shopping and drinking coffee as their main bonding activity, but thats a lot better than getting cooped up on the online space. i dont even see any of them smoking or vaping. the way the shittiest of them crumple into 'heyy im joking' once i started to speak about how fucked up what theyre saying is? yeah, they wont survive a police questioning. literally the basic skill of all leftists, keeping your head cool when the pigs try to talk to you. and he dont seem to have the backbone necessary to learn. look, if you cant even be defensive in the proper way when a stranger intrude on your friend group and say that they think your words are creepy, you dont have it. even if youre some kind of wisecracking gigachad.

funny how fascists tend to be relatively inexperienced with fighting brutality when theyre the ones boasting over strength and power. like, whatever man, i dont see them actively ramming down a police brigade or throwing back tear gas. its always someone walking alone with no backup. if there's any win with a mass of people, they do it with surprise tactics and more funding, not raw strength or ingenuity. not to glorify fighting and martyrdom, but fascists already lost at the things theyre bragging over.

[sciencetynan]

Hey fellow enby! I saw your latest post and as someone who came out 11 years ago at the age of 16 (as a trans man at first, nb later) I don't have the lived experience you have, but I do have a few things I'd always wanted to tell my younger self and so I feel they could be valuable to others.

(I apologize for the length, I'm bipolar and currently manic. Feel free to skim or just totally ignore, it's quite long, I'm sorry. TLDR: it gets better - for real.)

First things first, it absolutely will get better and easier. I came out as a minor in a conservative town after wearing pretty dresses and having long hair. To myself. My parents had already accepted my bisexuality (mom's bi so it was literally nbd) so I expected them to accept me being trans. Nnnnnno. They absolutely relentlessly mocked me for it at every opportunity.

But one day, it completely changed. I needed a new laptop. (2011, so we went to a physical store.) The salesman used he/him toward me, which almost got my father to "correct" him, but he realized in that moment, it absolutely could put me in danger. Just a few moments earlier, the salesman had made a slightly racist comment/microagression toward my native mother, asking if she had a tax-exempt card before he even addressed me so he could get the manager if needed. A biiiiit of a nothingburger but it's her Button, cuz she doesn't, because she has a criminal record, and that pulls your TA card and that's fuckin racist ass bullshit but she can't explain that concisely which frustrates her a lot. In that moment, I visibly saw my extremely abusive father realize that, as a trans person, I faced these precarious situations daily. And sometimes, it doesn't matter what's the truth (I'm biologically female) and what's relevant (I'm otherwise male). From then on, publicly, he used he/him or Sam, despite continuing to call me a lesbian at home until it stopped being relevant. I'm lucky to have received a full beard after 8m of T.

Sometimes it happens naturally that your loved ones come to accept you and use the correct pronouns. It took almost 5 years for my mother to say "son" without hesitation. 3 for her to even bother to correct it when she said "daughter" first. But I've found, in my limited experience with maybe 5 other trans people I know, there's often a moment when it clicks for people.

There's another caveat I want to make: in 2011, non-binary reaaaalllly wasn't.... widely known. And to me, having always deeply wanted to be viewed as male, that's what I went with. Today I'd say I'm just "non-binary", not genderfluid, just.... not on the binary. And ideally, I'd prefer they/them.

But I was a man for 8y before being non-binary because I didn't want to jeopardize my being perceived as male. I was 16 when I came out and had just started wearing makeup, which I love. Took me 11y to finally put it back on. I've had long hair for maybe 6y? It's kind of a "fuck you" response to being told that my Algonquin grandfather had to cut his hair at the Residential School at his funeral. But I only grew it out once "man-buns" were a bit more common and I had a full beard because I just do not wish to be perceived as female at all, and I'm extremely pale so I don't get read as native. So I guess I'm not on the binary, but I'm close to male, so I can live being he/him. So another caveat there, that I'm lucky that I can feel valid without having to correct. I won't say I can relate to that. I'm also lucky to be stealth, always perceived as male.

I can, for ages, explain my identity. Because I've had 11 years to think about it. 11 years to see the way society has changed and grown to respect me more. I'm not quite as afraid of being outted anymore.

I know you know that it takes time. But the amount of time for specific things to take varies. I thought it would take years and years and years to ever be seen as male. Only 2-3ish. Now it's not a thought I have at all. (Again, a privileges, I acknowledge.) I actually thought I'd stop misgendering myself in my head instantly, but that's taken nearly 10 years for me to stop actively thinking about.

I'm so sorry for the novel. Here's my last bit of advice regarding clothing/gender presentation: it takes the longest, but it won't always be hard or upsetting. When I first came out, I rebelled against the female form hard. Baggy jeans, t-shirts, buzz cut.

After a few years I let my hair grow back and went back to my preferred skinny jeans.

After a few years I started painting my nails again.

After a few years I did some fun makeup for Halloween.

After a few years I wore makeup to work once. Wasn't for me, but actually got a few compliments. Now I do it for the artistry.

Over time, what you're comfortable with - and what you're comfortable showing the world - will evolve and change. Things that seem uncomfortable, daunting or impossible today could totally change in a year, even a month. It takes work - especially if you have social anxiety. Practice. Being uncomfortable at times. But it's worth it. I promise you that.

I'm again so sorry for the length. But to wrap up, I've dodged the age part because I simply can't relate 1:1. I'm almost 30, but been 'male' for almost half my life. And I truly am not coming at this from "oh poor me". I know it feels like the younger the better, but I'm 27. You're 3y older than me, we would've been in high school together. And if you'd gone to my high school, you would've endured so much trauma that it would take years of therapy to undo.

Obviously not all schools, lives, stories are the same. But I was the first trans person at my school. I was president of the GSA. One day we had a cupcake drive to raise money. 2 were thrown at me. I was called a faggot by a freshman and the seniors, a few I'd considered almost friends just a year earlier, laughed along. I was never once correctly gendered. By anyone. For 2 solid years. When I asked my guidance councilor, I was advised by this professional to "maybe just use the bathroom in the Tim's across the street at lunch" to "avoid causing problems for myself".

Again, I've come to peace with it in therapy - but it cost me thousands. My parents, my peers, nobody understood. I have one ride-or-die best friend from 1st grade but besides him, for the first 2 years, I was mocked by almost every single person I came into contact with.

And now that I'm almost 30, I know so much more than I did 11 years ago. While I'm glad I did come out, I actually wish I'd waited one year. It would've been very hard, but save me a lot of bullshit. (I came out one week before a French exchange student came to live with us and then went to France myself and had to use the girl's rooms and would be corrected if I used male adjectives for myself). You've got a lot of life left, and a lot of experience in the world. While I won't invalidate your wish to have come out earlier, there's never a perfect time, a perfect age. We'll all face struggles. Not all of mine are yours and yours mine. But we're all in it together.

One last thing, I promise - keep writing/journalling/documenting your journey. It helps, and one day you'll be able to look back and really see how far you've come and realize that it's been worth it.

Have a good night my gender-nonconforming sibling.

Thank you. I just hope it all becomes easier with time.

Sorry for the length if it bothers anyone.

[enbynextdoor]

Justifying monel being a slave owner by saying that he was raised among a family where slavery was okay is bullshit.

We have M'gann who came from a place where the entire community loathed the green martians. Yet we saw her not sharing that hatred and has been trying constantly to even get her people to become allies with the green martians.

We have Lena, growing up with her brother who has an unhealthy obsession with ruining Superman, and a genocidal mother....do i even want to talk about CADMUS.

Lena is now working with Supergirl, paragon of hope, to save the world going against the Luthors. May I also remind that L-corp released the image inducers that have helped a lot of the aliens to cope in their daily life without being wary &threatened by constant attacks from xenophobes like Agent Liberty

Mon-el is just a trash character who did nothing but standby because he was too comfortable in his privilages and luxury.

I also don't believe monel changed for the better in the future. We literally heard brainy say how microagressive he has been.

[ivyglow]

see me? i'd be hell as a hockey girlfriend because i dont give a FUCK! 🗣☝🏽 no one would be able to talk to me a certain way. i'm well versed in microagressive de-escalation from spending 18yrs on this earth. and we all know that's just ~professionally~ putting bitches in their place. so either the women are nice to me or we won't talk idccccc how that looks. everyone in the hockey community KNOWS being racist has been a part of the "culture" so facing that transparency head on would be so easy for me 😭 i think that's also why theres so little WOC as partners because ppl know in this day and age were not dealin' with bullshit. that prolly has PR shaking in their uggs so they advise to "stay away from us" 🙄🤦🏽‍♀️

while I see where you're coming from, I don't 100% agree with your point (but yes you would be a hell of a hockey girlfriend <3). I think that it doesn’t matter if we ‘give a fuck’ or not, it takes energy to deal with it on a daily basis, so yes maybe people wouldn’t treat you bad because they know you would do it back, but this environment is not healthy at all, it makes us sick and it messes up with our heads. and there are always people who are gonna be violent without the ‘intent ‘ to do so, and we need to deal w them too and it’s just as stressful. the NHL is not even a healthful environment for white people, let alone poc :/ 

[savnofilter]

answering all hawks asks

i choose to answer this separately simply because i think it's important to me and not promote the stigma of “sounding black” or any other stereotypes like that. while there are most common ways such as AAVE (formerly known as ebonics), not everyone from one race will sound and act the same. while i will not ignore that yes, race does sometimes play in how you act or talk, but no one does it the same as another person. to lump us altogether and give us a “look” is degrading and disgusting. black people are not just one person, and if you think a foreign group or culture is lower than yours because it’s not the same, you need to reevaluate yourself. the asks on the topic i will be answering are the ones in regard to this screenshot.

if you guys didnt read in the post, some people made some distasteful ignorant comments about important black community topics. as someone from the black community, many things in and outside of our community has bothered me. whether it be racism, colorism, police brutality etc. i am the biggest believer and supporter of uniting the black community no matter what hair texture, what their kids will look like or how dark their skin is -- and it doesnt just stop there.  

-> on the topic of the black community, here are some BLM petitions 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8.

+ protest safely 1, 2!

-> Zeno Robinson is such an amazing man, and not to mention he also went to the premiere dressed as hawks. his adoration for the characters he plays always shines through, no matter what role you put him in. you may have seen him in young justice as victor stone (cyborg), kimetsu’s no yaiba genya shinazugawa and many more! the way he embodies the characters he plays should never EVER be shadowed because of his skin color. this is for every black voice actor too. if anyone wants to make poor “jokes” about him not “sounding black” then you go fuck a fork. zeno did not show up to sound black, he showed up to play a character (which he does sUPERBLY at, and this is coming from someone who doesnt like hawks). if you think any type or form of stereotyping is okay, then i ask you kindly to escort yourself from my blog and never look back. i dont want your support. 

-> i have heard about the Miruko (with her v.a Anairis Quinones) situation, so i will be touching on that too since both of “doesnt sound black” and “sounds white” has been tossed around. theres a BIG difference between not liking someone’s voice, and relating it back to their skin color. i can see the point of we were expecting more of a more punchier tone (saying this because of the relation and excitement like we’ve seen in her interactions with bakugo) but if youre saying she sounds white, you can go eat a spoon. again, Zeno and Anairis didnt show up to “act” their race. they showed up for the job, and were hired for it. i love both of their voices so much and i love them, they dont deserve this.

i love my people, and i will stand for them because it's the right thing to do. i want my followers to see and understand why it's important to be aware of the different communities around them. without further adieu, i will get started. everything is under the cut (answered from oldest to the newest)!

TW: pseudo racism (microaggression), fandom discourse.

*Hawks’ English V.A (Zeno Robinson) & Hawks for reference. 

*Miruko’s English V.A (Anairis Quinones) & Miruko for reference.

~ Asks I’ve answered that I think are insightful on the Hawks situation (1, 2) ~

Anonymous said:

I would like to add onto the Hawks situation if that's ok? For those who don't know, Zeno Robinson is a black man and voices Hawks. When his English voice was revealed in trailers A LOT of fans commented how PERFECT his voice was. So Zeno literally embodies what makes Hawks' Hawks for some people. Also fans have also compared and drew Hawks as Egyptianesque gods. So to sit down and say/accept someone saying things like 'he doesn't sound black' and 'George [FLOYD] is a regular dude' is not only

A microagression and a blantant show of lack of compassion/support for a character that is a part of your safe space if you come home and thirst about hawks, but don't want to make your safe space 'political' by posting about police brutality. I'm not trying to make this explanation too 'political' but fans have to think what it's like for Hawk's VA to see someone like him getting murdered almost everyday in media for no acceptable reason and then have fans that choose to turn the other way.

- this is exactly the right point. people will not open their eyes to see what is wrong here. whether it be mocking a black actor’s voice acting, an ignorant comment about George Floyd, or ignoring black petitions to help the community. its subtle shit like that gives us and let’s us know that there is still ignorance and that these people dont hide it. it's disrespectful and disgusting. 

the writer’s who said the George Floyd comment has since now apologized, but god that makes me so angry. people actively make a safe space that is supposed to be for EVERYONE not welcome by promoting stuff like that. its gross, it's disgusting, and people need to see that theyre actions are wrong. furthermore, if anyone thinks inappropriate race “jokes” are somehow funny, i will not be associating. i will not waste me energy on people who refuses to get the point.

Anonymous said:

Bro Zeno is an angel and hawks voice is fucking phenomenal, it's the only dubbed voice I've ever liked tbh. They don't deserve him. and WHAT THE FUCK WAS THAT I'M SORRY HUH

- I FUCKING KNOW! letting that shit slide is beyond fucking disrespectful. i dont fucking like hawks but i will absolutely fight for zeno. that disrespectful isnt “not important” -- these people are actively ruining safe spaces for fucking everyone! let me be fucking damned if thats not “important enough” for you. 🙄

Anonymous said: 

If you like Hawks at all, The LEAST you can do is not say or stand for things like 'George [FLOYD!!] is just a regular dude' and 'his voice doesn't sound black'. Don't be a part of the reason that makes Zeno's daily life and experiences harder than what they should be. 3/3 This goes for the amazing Mirko as well but I'll stop for now.

THIS!

seeing stuff that is hurtful, and it is damaging. people need to wake up and realize that anything can trigger anyone for any reason. people need to wake up and realize that “it’s not important” BECAUSE IT IS VERY IMPORTANT TO MANY PEOPLE! considering everything that is happening, this type of stuff will be deep rooted into someone who comes across it. i know what it's like to be blind about color until one situation flips your thinking on a switch.

for the Miruko situation, i remember seeing stuff about it. people need to understand that people are their own out of their skin color. we are people are people out of our skin color. let that sink in. if you dont like their voices outside of expecting them to sound “black” then that is completely fine. if its racially charged there is no excuse.

[coolgirltactics]

It’s actually really insane to think just because you’ve been watching something for years you know more than the person born in the situation like? He’s a literal prince ofc he knows more than some random biddies I swear they’re so wieeerrrdd

This though. It’s one thing to point out Harry doesn’t care about the royal rules or traditions, but it’s another to say he doesn’t know how it works, but you, a completely & total outsider, think you know more?! 😂😂😂 It was like the voting thing.

People really acted like they were teaching Harry he could have voted the entire time but was too stupid to know. 🙄 this is what happens when you read daily mail/Richard Palmer/Dan Wootton & the like for three years straight to find reasons to hate the Sussex. Their stupidity, antiblackness, and ignorance becomes your own.

The entire Get Out Crew is a great example of what happens when white people become allies to Black people, to the point they’ll leave behind their racist friends and family to protect a black person, and grow. They turn against them. Suddenly their reactions towards them are 10x louder and more aggressive than they ever were before when they didn’t have white guilt. They become obsessive, they desperately cling to their anti blackness or excuses like - I have a black friend, or I’m Latina or Hispanic, I can’t be racist. Or recognizing the brutal antiblackness, but passing off the consistent anti-black microagressions as peoples reasonable dislike- which is because they depend on those microagressions to express their hate without hopefully being caught up.

These dumbasses also think the BRF should not talk about BLM because they should prioritize their comfort (like these racist do there’s) over speaking up for equality because of the same traditions they gaslighted Meghan with.

[m0th-rambles]

How the lupin members would treat me if i came out to them as non beanie cause i thought about it in the shower

Lupin: Would be really cool about it i feel like 👉👈

I feel like id tell him my preferred pronouns and preferred name and he’d be like “ok!! Good to know :3”

10/10 very sweet

Jigen: I feel like jigen would also jusy he cool about it. He’d probably crack a joke and be like “one less women on the team’s always a plus”

Goemon: Goemon just nods and starts using my preferred named and pronouns.

Fujiko: Purposely misgenders me and commits microagressions on the daily jkjk she’s not that mean. She’d probably misgender me a few times though which is understandable

[mysticalcoffeequeen]

MY 2¢ :SNEAKO

I just got done watching this video and IDK guys it just seemed very off to me.

Also he keeps taking this comment down on his YouTube so ima post it here.

https://youtu.be/qXdPN8SVuN0

Some people have never truly listened to “Chocolate Rain” and it shows.

Its wild how you have white/non-black people who not only say but act on racist stuff to/against black people ON A REGULAR BASIS across the globe most often escalating to points of actual hate crimes and murder which in most cases the result of the law being on their side. This stuff has been happening for centuries and is still happening today. Its in the news, White supremacist groups are alive and well still on their shit all over social media and in political groups, it’s in history books, Media, Anti-Blackness is global and oppressive, they fuck up our self esteem by calling us ugly or seeing us as undesirable (especially on dating apps) and then copy our features, Italians assaulted Africans back when Ebola was around, black people (&Hispanics) are incarcerated for petty crimes that their white counterparts wouldn’t pay that high of a price for in America and often twice as longer, YouTube has extensive videos on anti-black racism from black people living in a non-black dominant country, to their own experiences in the LGBTQIA community to “PRANKS” that are basically white dudes assaulting/harassing black people in their own neighborhoods minding their own business, to recent criminals, celebrities & famous content creators acting out on their racism only to give shit apologies. Even FUCKING TIKTOK has white/non-black 9 y/o & teens recording themselves saying N*gger on TRENDING (which gives you a glimpse into their upbringing) and hardly nothing is done about any of this! This kind of toxic stuff are very real things that have a direct effect on black people’s lives!

But, according to this guy, black people venting their frustrations ON TWITTER, from living with this stuff, to their toxic personal experiences starting from a ridiculously young age, to institutionalized racism, profiling, microagressions, assaults, unlawful arrests and incarcerations, harassments, laws and rules set by systemic racism rooted in white supremacy, and GLOBAL anti-black discrimination that they face as a whole, (like they deal with so fucking much DAILY, ESPECIALLY if they live in AMERICA) by saying, “ I hate white/non-black people” making jokes, memes, & having a good laugh at their ignorance, and literally nothing more....

Is a DEFINITE ISSUE OF TOXIC RACISM that is just as horrible must be addressed.........???

Yes Black people can be Racist towards other POC and it’s wrong, do not misunderstand me, and feel how you want about this video, but to me this in itself appears to be a self-inflated out of touch display, especially coming from a half-black person, to directly point the finger & criticize black people (and only black people in this case for some reason 🤔) on their particular “RACISM” towards white people, making them appear just as bad if not worse with a lack of any basic understanding or careful look into what ‘Racism’ in itself means (for Black people or POC in general) beyond Webster’s, black peoples experiences and frustrations from it that they see and face from white/non-black people & at least try to understand where they come from or why they vent their frustrations in such a way, even if he doesn’t agree.

Instead it’s just another video of an egoist who like to hear himself talk about something he doesn’t completely know about or understand (nor does he care to), simplifying a very real social issue by downplaying or just straight up ignoring the deeper more branching aspects of it or how it disproportionately affects black people/POC, by dumbing it down to “Racism affects everyone the same way / All Lives Matter”.