#psychology things

[ladylucksrogue]

I don't know who needs to see this today, but it's true. Hang in there everyone 🙂

[livelaughlaney]

you guys, im literally graduating college in less than 24 hrs !!! i can't wait to use my degree as an excuse to diagnosis everyone in my life

[rum-and-shattered-dreams]

Just some random thoughts and opinions:

The concept of the inner child in psychology always felt off to me and I could never figure out why it brought up a sort of an eyeroll response (because it’s not like me to feel that way about things like this) but after years of trying to figure it out, now it kind of makes sense.

It’s because I don’t think adults should be treated so differently from children. What I mean by that is that we tend to give a lot more leeway, support, and compassion to children and be harder on adults like they’re somehow supposed to grow out of having emotions. While I do believe it’s fine to give children a bit more patience because they are still learning and developing, I also think it’s fine to give it to an adult who is learning something new (like something they didn’t get to learn as a child) and to also not be so hard on them (or ourselves) even if they’re experienced. As long as you’re actually working on improving, being aware of the impact you may have on others, and taking responsibility for things, I think it should be fine to think of yourself as an adult who is learning and not have to imagine that child version of yourself to validate it. If it helps to imagine it, that’s great but I don’t believe in it being the standard of how to heal because that upholds the idea that adults can’t still be learning or need help or need patience. I don’t believe we should be holding our adult selves to such higher standards of perfection, especially when it comes to emotions because they are an important part of the human experience and connecting with others.

What we do need is communication. We need to be able to freely communicate our struggles, to be able to apologize for our mistakes and feel okay doing so (like it’s not a weakness or proof of some failure), to hear what others feel, and to find what works for us together.

So basically it’s about giving adults some slack like we do for kids - some space to make mistakes, express ourselves, explore our autonomy, find freedom, apologize and forgive and heal.

So now I know that the eye roll reaction is actually to the overarching mindset that adults are held to such strict and controlling standards. The actual practice of inner child work is fine if it’s helpful for some people, especially since the overarching mindset is so ingrained at this time. But can we also address the larger issue and give adults space to learn and have emotions, please?

[saints-who-never-existed]

“In the war film, a soldier can hold his buddy—as long as his buddy is dying on the battlefield. In the western, Butch Cassidy can wash the Sundance Kid’s naked flesh—as long as it is wounded. In the boxing film, a trainer can rub the well-developed torso and sinewy back of his protege—as long as it is bruised. In the crime film, a mob lieutenant can embrace his boss like a lover—as long as he is riddled with bullets. 

Violence makes the homo-eroticism of many “male” genres invisible; it is a structural mechanism of plausible deniability.”

–Tarantino’s Incarnational Theology: Reservoir Dogs, Crucifixions, and Spectacular Violence. Kent L. Brintnall.

[chamerionwrites]

Also, there is so much hand-wringing over the ethics of BDSM and while obviously it is worth taking care about ...sensation seeking is a thing. Many, many people enjoy eating habanero peppers and/or watching movies that make them cry. The conceptual leap from there to the idea that it's possible for sex to hurt good is a very short one, and sometimes it REALLY is as simple as that.

[maybe-an-aspd-angel]

[lucabyte]

siffrin starts the game with oddly empty pockets for a rogue who has a habit of stashing away every little trinket that isn't nailed down

and a hardy pocketwatch is an indispensable tool for oceanic navigation

[uwillbeefoundtonight]

Not to be a psychologist on main, but I think it’s tragic how many times people who are by no means perfect but have good ideas and these ideas get shaped and changed despite this for horrible things. Just the idea that in science as a whole you can find things and put your life’s work into finding things, and it’ll still be used for awful things no matter how you publish it, how you intend it. You could do everything right and your work is still taken and tainted by greed and bigotry, and It's just so sad.

[starry-bi-sky]

this just in: danny fenton is just as much of a mask as Brucie Wayne? - another danyal al ghul au

Turns out, being placed in a civilian family who have no knowledge of your background is actually detrimental to the health and development of a child assassin due to lack of proper support! Surrounded by strangers in a foreign city, Danyal Al Ghul does as assassins do best. He hides. Espionage is one of many teachings one learns in the League, and it only takes half a day for Danyal to construct a new persona to hide behind: Daniel Fenton.

By the time dinner rolls around, Danyal al Ghul is safely and securely tucked behind the face of Danny Fenton; brand new adoptive child of the Fenton family who came from overseas. A shy, quiet little boy with a thick accent and curly hair, with brown skin and blue eyes, and an avid interest in the stars. The best fictions are always cobbled together in a little bit of truth, it's some of the only truth he ever lets through. He apologizes in a meek voice for his behavior early, he didn't mean to be rude, and he watches the three of them eat it up with coos.

Lies roll like silk against his lips, he struggles to meet their eyes and offers them his weakest, shyest smile. It's too easy. It's easy to go from there.

Danny Fenton, adoptive son, shy and awkward and unconfident but friendly. Who struggles in his classes and isn't the brightest, but tries his hardest. He makes bad jokes and has a quick tongue and a sarcastic mouth. He wants to be an astronaut. He's got the best aim in school, and is a terrifying dodgeball player. He's one of the least athletic kids in his grade.

It's like playing two truths and a lie, but there's only one truth, and the rest are lies. It's easy to pretend when he knows it's insincere.

Danyal Al Ghul, grandson to the Demon Head. Deadly, trained assassin. Has spilled blood, has had blood spilt from. Environmentalist, animal activist. He loves the stars. He owns a calligraphy set. A sharp tongue, an even sharper blade. He's clever, quick-witted, he would be top of his grade if he tried harder. He purposely doesn't.

He misses his family. He misses his mother, and he misses his brother. Mother visits a few times a year, so few times that he can count it on both hands. He cherishes every visit, as brief as they are. It helps remind him who he is.

Sam and Tucker are Danny's best friends. They've never met Danyal, but Danyal's met them.

It becomes routine to become Danny Fenton. As familiar and as easy as pulling on a shirt in the morning. Danyal wakes up and is always first to the bathroom in the mornings; stares at himself in the mirror until he can finally see Danny staring back at him. At night, he locks his door and sheds the mask.

Dying throws a wrench in his mask; splits a crack straight through the porcelain. He's able to smooth it over with sandpaper and liquid gold, but it's a little hard keeping his ghost form under wraps. It instinctively wants to shift to show his true self. Danyal can't have that, he's spent four years as Danny Fenton, he'll spend another four as him as well. Even if the feeling of the hazmat suit in his ghost form feels restrictive, like a too-small shirt suctioned to his skin that needs to be peeled off.

He'll live. Er-- well, you know what he means. It's frustrating however, trying to keep his Danny Fenton mask up even as Phantom - fighting in the air is something he needs to get used to, and the sudden propping of powers throws him off. But he is nothing if not adaptive, and he hates that he needs to slow his own skills down in order to keep pretenses up in front of Sam and Tucker.

The first time Danyal summons a sword when he's alone, is one of the few times Danyal gets to grin instead of Danny. He's fighting Skulker, and from an invisible hilt he draws a katana from thin air. It startles them both. Skulker takes a step back at the smile that spreads across his face.

They're both silent as Danyal examines his new sword.

"Do you know what people like me do to people like you, poacher?" Danyal finally asks him, the accent he began to hide a few months in slipping through. He drops all pretense, dragging the flat end of the blade slow and appreciatively against his palm. It's a good make, and when he cuts it through the air, it slices through like butter. He looks up at Skulker with a smile; "are you ready to find out?"

When Sam and Tucker ask about why Skulker seems so skittish around Danny now, Danny shrugs at them and says with a playful smile; "I don't know, I guess I kicked his butt too hard after our last fight." and he watches as Sam rolls her eyes exasperatedly, and Tucker snickers with his own joke.

By the time he reunites with Damian before their 15th birthday, Danyal is buried beneath so many layers of Danny Fenton that his brother will need a shovel to dig him out. He's not sure what he'll find.

[uramitashi]

women really do need better class consciousness.

before you are religious, before you are a citizen of your nation, before you are anything else; you are a woman. your identity is complex but womahood is one of its first pillars. and womanhood is so important because so strictly tied, during her whole existence, to her implications: the ability to reproduce and the relative independence (ie: not having to desperately find another mate to pass on your genes + developing a physiological selectiveness) coming from it. female objectification, sex work, misogyny, female modesty, FGM, everything that hurts women stems from it. males want to control women sexuality because of it. it is therefore natural that womanhood is ontologically more important than any other label - because if you neglect it, others will surely not.

[dawn8080]

Me: Hey Mrs.Stowers, can I redo this assignment through a different site? 10/30 isn’t okay, and this site isn’t working, it’s deleting and reformatting my work.

Mrs.Stowers: yeah that’s fine!

Mrs.Stowers: *closes it out*

Me: WTF?!

[arrimorr]

My ocs, Sir and Ser, aka the eldritch malevolent policemen 😔

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

being nonbinary in a world that refuses to acknowledge more than 2 genders is weird bc like. i've literally found myself thinking "what if i go on hormones so my parents misgender me but in a different way"

[mun-dane]

All About Love, bell hooks

[shy-raccoon]

The damsel in distress slowly starts getting more and more unstable from the unaddressed trauma of being frequently kidnapped. One day they completely snap and the villains start being found mysteriously murdered with increasing brutality.

[canines-crown]

Are you an "I am a wild animal that was raised by humans and longs for freedom" kind of therian or are you an "I am a human who was taken in by wild animals and I have become one of them" kind of therian?

Do you get me?